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By *agE97 OP Couple 14 weeks ago
Gwynedd |
Hi xx
We've noticed that a lot of couples we chat to (probably 90%) is done by the male half of the couple.
Is this the norm?
When we ask (after the chat hits off) if the female half chats on here and that it would be nice to hear from "her", it gets a bit cagy and defensive!
We know there's a lot of fake couple profiles out there but surely not that much??
Both of us like to chat and allways identify as either myself or hubby at the end of the chat. xxx |
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We both chat on here in equal measure. We like to try and keep everything as 50/50 as possible as we're both in this together. We come as a couple so we like to communicate as a couple. But if anyone asks to speak to one of us in particular then we'd see that as a red flag and pretty disrespectful, and would ultimately end in them being blocked. There's nothing that can be said to one of us that can't be said as a couple. |
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By *agE97 OP Couple 14 weeks ago
Gwynedd |
Aww we're exactly the same as you guys. As we are in this together and like (or would like) to chat to coules in equal measures to build that four way connection.
But most of the couples we chat to it's the Mr that does all the chat and when we ask if Mrs does any chatting it's usually "she's to shy" or "No but she reads all messages" or we get ghosted??!??
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By *aandLoCouple 14 weeks ago
Southampton |
I (Mrs,) do the Fabmin. Mr might add a comment occasionally to a conversation, but generally just waits to see if it progresses to a social.
If I start a chat with a couple I ask Mr early on if he likes what he sees with regard to the lady of the couple, otherwise there's no point taking the chat further.
With single guys, it's entirely down to the connection I feel. If I think a guy is someone I want to meet for a social Mr is happy to go along with my feelings, and rock up with me. 😁 |
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As the male I do the vast majority of the fabmin because Lulah said when we opened our couple profile, that she had to suffer the chaos as a single female on here on her single profile, so I can deal with messages, which is fair enough. It also plays in to our dynamic that I pick and choose who we are in contact with.
Sometimes Lulah will respond to some messages but that’s rare. When we start talking to a perspective playmate, she will read all the messages and join in the conversation, but 90% of the time it’s me on inbox duty. |
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We want to talk to both parties too and would to speak to the woman too if it was only the guy chatting. If she didnt talk or he just did all the fab stuff, we'd just leave the conversation there. |
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"Hi xx
We've noticed that a lot of couples we chat to (probably 90%) is done by the male half of the couple.
Is this the norm?
When we ask (after the chat hits off) if the female half chats on here and that it would be nice to hear from "her", it gets a bit cagy and defensive!
We know there's a lot of fake couple profiles out there but surely not that much??
Both of us like to chat and allways identify as either myself or hubby at the end of the chat. xxx "
How could you be sure if it's the female half chatting on messages? Even some women's profiles are run by men. Our way of being sure is chatting face to face in person. |
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When we were looking for meets, I'd leave Mr to do most of the chatting as I have the attention span of a goldfish when it comes to chat. I don't want to chat or flirt just arrange a time and date to be at a club and see what happens.
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I would say we're typical of this statistic. I'm mainly in charge of the fabmin. We aren't together most nights so I can't just roll over in bed and tap Mrs Misfit on the shoulder to reply.
However its totally right you get a feel for people before you invest time and energy on a meet. I would suggest pre arranging a phone/video chat prior to a physical meet. That doesn't have to be now. You can say let's pick a time when we're all free and have a call. |
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By *CExeCouple 14 weeks ago
Hong-Kong/Exeter |
I (male) do all the messaging here. Chels had a single profile on here before we met and lasted about 2 days because of the amount of vile abuse she received from men who couldn't take no for an answer. It works for us and we make it clear in our profile that that's the case. Have the verifications displayed so folks can see we're real. It can be a massive red flag though on unverified profiles or ones with no recent verifications. |
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Mr here does most Fabmin, once connections are established we both get involved because as you know, 97% goes to nothing, Mr has the patience lol
If more serious we usually head to telegram or sometimes WhatsApp once met in person. |
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She replies sometimes or might join the conversation at some point. Mainly because we have a young family and is busy with every day to day.
She's more of a browser and I'm the one that replies and then we talk about it.
I also have more time at work to have a browse as I work alone and she works in an office environment. The last thing she wants is for someone to see her on the site replying at work. |
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By *eyeYCouple 14 weeks ago
Nr Leicester |
"We're both here equally, if we plan to meet we tend to arrange a group chat as it's difficult here.
Mrs "
True, how often does it go very quickly silent after you suggest that 🤔😉😂
D mostly here, as I hate fabs message system and he's far better than I with his words than I ☺️ |
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"We're both here equally, if we plan to meet we tend to arrange a group chat as it's difficult here.
Mrs
True, how often does it go very quickly silent after you suggest that 🤔😉😂
D mostly here, as I hate fabs message system and he's far better than I with his words than I ☺️"
It never has gone silent tbh, maybe we've been lucky 😂 but there's been plenty of chat before moving away.
Mrs |
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By *eyeYCouple 14 weeks ago
Nr Leicester |
"We're both here equally, if we plan to meet we tend to arrange a group chat as it's difficult here.
Mrs
True, how often does it go very quickly silent after you suggest that 🤔😉😂
D mostly here, as I hate fabs message system and he's far better than I with his words than I ☺️
It never has gone silent tbh, maybe we've been lucky 😂 but there's been plenty of chat before moving away.
Mrs "
Wow, evidently quite good at this then! 😉😘
We'll just give you our log in details and you can manage our account.. 🤷🤭 x |
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"We're both here equally, if we plan to meet we tend to arrange a group chat as it's difficult here.
Mrs
True, how often does it go very quickly silent after you suggest that 🤔😉😂
D mostly here, as I hate fabs message system and he's far better than I with his words than I ☺️
It never has gone silent tbh, maybe we've been lucky 😂 but there's been plenty of chat before moving away.
Mrs
Wow, evidently quite good at this then! 😉😘
We'll just give you our log in details and you can manage our account.. 🤷🤭 x"
I wouldn't say good at this, I hardly speak to anyone 😂
Mrs |
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By *CExeCouple 14 weeks ago
Hong-Kong/Exeter |
"Another reason I suspect it's mostly the male side who answer messages on here is that it cuts down people trying to start sexting  "
You'd think so! Sadly a large portion of the single lads on here are seemingly incapable of reading a profile and seeing who deals with the messages 🤣 |
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It is quite common for the male half to run the account as in our case.Always willing to confirm genuine by a quick chat on phone with the female half. Find this sorts out the non genuine or fantasist. If yhey are not willing to chat on the phone then they are definately not going to meet. |
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By *rodigal funCouple 14 weeks ago
Antrim Down Derry Tyrone Armagh |
"If I'm chatting to a couples profile..I like to do either a video call, or a voice note pretty early busy to verify that's it is a male and a female. "
We do the same here after a bit of a chat. We'll suggest a video call with all four. That message is then unread and communication stops.
So it quickly becomes apparent that it's a fake couple account 🙄
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It’s why we take chats off here as it’s usually just one person and generally the guy.
On telegram we can have a 4 way chat and then see how invested both of them are. If the guy only chats on telegram then we know it’s more driven by him.
K |
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"As the male I do the vast majority of the fabmin because Lulah said when we opened our couple profile, that she had to suffer the chaos as a single female on here on her single profile, so I can deal with messages, which is fair enough. It also plays in to our dynamic that I pick and choose who we are in contact with.
Sometimes Lulah will respond to some messages but that’s rare. When we start talking to a perspective playmate, she will read all the messages and join in the conversation, but 90% of the time it’s me on inbox duty. "
This for us too. |
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