Hi. New here, not sure if there is already a thread for this but wanted somewhere for tips to keeping safe when planning and meeting
I am pretty cautious, maybe too much, but I see and read things here that make me wince and worry for others..
I'll start with meeting in a public place first, letting someone know times etc.
Not sharing workplace/ address/ social media details etc.
I know we are all adults and don't want to preach but stay safe people! |
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Listen to the conversation, if you express a boundary, something as simple as "I don't want to exchange numbers now" or " won't go back to yours on a first date" and that person doesn't accept a no and tried to convince you.
Run. That is them, they will push and are less likely to accept no in a intimate sense. |
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I only meet in a public place for the first meet. No-one knows im on here, but if it progresses to another meet somewhere less public, I leave a note stuck to my fridge so if I disappear they know where to find the body 🤣 |
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I always insist on the lady answering the door if meeting a couple at their place. A few years ago was meeting a couple mf. Was met by the man who invited me upstairs to meet his wife who was actually another man. Sharp exit |
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I tend to move to WA fairly quickly and then have a phone call. Meet somewhere busy for a social or 2. If we want to progress, I’m happy to host but ask for a photo of their driving license - if I’m giving them my address, I want theirs too. I tell them I’m passing it on to a trusted friend who will do nothing with it unless I disappear!! |
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By *istr3ssWoman 13 weeks ago
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"I always insist on the lady answering the door if meeting a couple at their place. A few years ago was meeting a couple mf. Was met by the man who invited me upstairs to meet his wife who was actually another man. Sharp exit"
Wow! That's scary!
My first meet is always in public, normally a local coffee shop. |
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I think there is a tendency to assume that everyone on fab is a raving lunatic. Yes, there are a few, but equally, there are loads of really nice normal people.
I think chatting to someone a bit gives you a good idea of what they are about. Do they respect the fact you don't want to give your phone number out? Are they accepting of the fact you want to meet in public and it will be a social only? Do they not push you on questions like where do you work or live? Little things like that are good indicators.
When meeting meeting socially for the very first time, I always park my car out of sight so they don't know my registration number. And when we leave, I make sure they drive away first so I know if they can't follow me.
After that initial meeting meet up you definitely get a feeling as to whether they are 'normal'. If you are still concerned about safety, I highly recommend DayUse. There are some really nice hotels on it and it is affordable. That way youre only a scream away from help 
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I think we have to assume raving lunacy because there's no way of knowing until we see the signs.
I would say never drink alcohol, never allow your meet to buy you a drink unless you're standing right by them or leave one unattended with them, ensure you have a means of getting home and don't give too many personal details.
I do agree that like the rest of the population 90% of fab members are decent people. It's just that the other 10% are concentrated in one area and you're more likely to come into contact with them. Hence the need for precautions which on reflection if I were to be on the dating scene now I'd take in my ordinary life too. |
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