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Hey..
Im wondering if anyone has done this before?
Where the F of the couple spends the night with another guy?
We are currently chatting with a single guy & considering it...
in a situation where it's 'me watching her' initially, but, with the possibility of her spending the night with him afterwards...
But, from the 'guys perspective' id like to get a good idea of whats likely to happen..
Purely out of concern for her wellbeing and safety etc...
However the other guy we are talking to, isn't really answering questions. Or when he does, its just 'basic information' which is repeated in various forms....
kinda evading the questions like a Labour Party Politician 
Im just wondering... how other guys would approach this,
What questions would you be asking?
How would you take it if they didn't answer the question properly? I.e. just a few words, or 'yes or no' answers...
Just want her to be safe & enjoy herself...
Or am I over-thinking and worrying over something trivial?
Appreciate people's comments & thoughts on the subject.. |
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"Hey..
Im wondering if anyone has done this before?
Where the F of the couple spends the night with another guy?
We are currently chatting with a single guy & considering it...
in a situation where it's 'me watching her' initially, but, with the possibility of her spending the night with him afterwards...
But, from the 'guys perspective' id like to get a good idea of whats likely to happen..
Purely out of concern for her wellbeing and safety etc...
However the other guy we are talking to, isn't really answering questions. Or when he does, its just 'basic information' which is repeated in various forms....
kinda evading the questions like a Labour Party Politician
Im just wondering... how other guys would approach this,
What questions would you be asking?
How would you take it if they didn't answer the question properly? I.e. just a few words, or 'yes or no' answers...
Just want her to be safe & enjoy herself...
Or am I over-thinking and worrying over something trivial?
Appreciate people's comments & thoughts on the subject.. "
I have done this with couples before but only after we have got to know each other, have met and played etc. You’re going to want to be confident that he’s a straight up guy in any event, and if he’s being evasive in the conversation that would make me uncomfortable tbh.
I wouldn’t rush into this. It’s a great experience for everyone but like most things in this game only if the connection is right. |
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"Hey..
Im wondering if anyone has done this before?
Where the F of the couple spends the night with another guy?
We are currently chatting with a single guy & considering it...
in a situation where it's 'me watching her' initially, but, with the possibility of her spending the night with him afterwards...
But, from the 'guys perspective' id like to get a good idea of whats likely to happen..
Purely out of concern for her wellbeing and safety etc...
However the other guy we are talking to, isn't really answering questions. Or when he does, its just 'basic information' which is repeated in various forms....
kinda evading the questions like a Labour Party Politician
Im just wondering... how other guys would approach this,
What questions would you be asking?
How would you take it if they didn't answer the question properly? I.e. just a few words, or 'yes or no' answers...
Just want her to be safe & enjoy herself...
Or am I over-thinking and worrying over something trivial?
Appreciate people's comments & thoughts on the subject..
I have done this with couples before but only after we have got to know each other, have met and played etc. You’re going to want to be confident that he’s a straight up guy in any event, and if he’s being evasive in the conversation that would make me uncomfortable tbh.
I wouldn’t rush into this. It’s a great experience for everyone but like most things in this game only if the connection is right. "
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My wife and I have done this both ways.
In my experience, I stayed in a hotel with another man's wife for a night.
First off, we had sex and was sending pictures to both spouse's for all to be involved.
After the dynamic changed somewhat!
it became more intimate and we had sex a good 3 times in the night and again in the morning.
My wife did something similar and she said exactly the same.
Her and her playmate did lots of things not originally agreed as alot of things happen in the moment.
In short, what we learned from it, don't be so rigid with expectations of what's going to happen. Just let it happen and enjoy it.
You'll love hearing the stories when she returns.
Mac x
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By *idanMan 10 weeks ago
borehamwood |
I would not proceed with this guy at all if you're not getting satisfactory responses from him.
When I was bull to a couple the wife and I had nights away together but not until the cuck had watched a few times and was satisfied all would be well.
What you could do, depending on your circumstances, is have the guy stay overnight at yours with you sleeping in another room or book a hotel with adjacent rooms.
Whatever you do have fun, it's a most exciting dynamic. |
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Overnights are our preferred set up but only after a decent amount of chat, social and being as confident as can be that everyone's on same page.
If we were to feel that something was 'off' when chatting then we would just leave it at that.
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By *uy445Man 10 weeks ago
braintree |
At the end of the day it’s all about safety and being comfortable. If he isn’t answering many questions he may not be the one for you. Personally I would answer any questions really and be very up front about what may or may not happen |
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"Not answering questions signals low interest, which pretty much guarantees disappointment.
Move on, find someone more suitable."
Assuming that not responding instantaneously to a private message signals lack of interest is a gross mistake which many couples, cuckold or otherwise make.
I have found myself blocked forever simply for reading a message and having the audacity to have other priorities in my life than getting straight back to heir irresistable offer! |
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"Not answering questions signals low interest, which pretty much guarantees disappointment.
Move on, find someone more suitable.
Assuming that not responding instantaneously to a private message signals lack of interest is a gross mistake which many couples, cuckold or otherwise make.
I have found myself blocked forever simply for reading a message and having the audacity to have other priorities in my life than getting straight back to heir irresistable offer!"
Assuming that was anything close to what I was talking about is a gross mistake |
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By (user no longer on site) 10 weeks ago
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Would love the opportunity to experience this with a couple, as many have said if you’re not 100% satisfied/comfortable, it’s worth moving on and waiting just a little longer for the right opportunity to present itself |
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Should only be done with someone you have met a few times and built up trust. Maybe try a couple of hours on your own first, an all nighter is a long time. I tried this with someone I met a few times, the hub got extremely jealous and caused big problems. Seemed a good idea at the time. |
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By *omRachCouple 10 weeks ago
Wirral |
Your ladys safety is paramount here, you simply do not put her in a situation with somebody you are not totally 150% sure of yourself.
Maybe suggest a few 'date nights' out of the area for her and him so that she can learn to 'bond' with him. She will get a better idea then of whether she wants to spend a night with him.
Another option could be to rent a 2 bedroom apartment - where you sleep in the spare room. |
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By *l3sumCouple 10 weeks ago
Dartford |
We’ve done this now a few times. It wasn’t straight to this.
We met a guy for mfm in a hotel a couple of times. Then we met at his. Then at ours.
We built the trust of what each of us wanted, enjoyed and boundaries.
Then I sent her to his for a couple of hours.
At this point all were confident and comfortable.
Only then did I suggest she spend the night at his. Explaining my requests for contact through the night, photos and vids included!
This happened three times in between the three of us meeting up for mfm. Then he suggested a mfm with a guy he’d met from “the scene”. Him and I discussed it, and with the trust we’d built, trusted that he’d have someone that ticked every box for us (similar to him). So gave him permission to surprise her at their next overnight meet. All went well, in fact it was perfect. The smile on her face when she returned.
My advice, build up slowly!! It’s worth the wait! |
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"We’ve done this now a few times. It wasn’t straight to this.
We met a guy for mfm in a hotel a couple of times. Then we met at his. Then at ours.
We built the trust of what each of us wanted, enjoyed and boundaries.
Then I sent her to his for a couple of hours.
At this point all were confident and comfortable.
Only then did I suggest she spend the night at his. Explaining my requests for contact through the night, photos and vids included!
This happened three times in between the three of us meeting up for mfm. Then he suggested a mfm with a guy he’d met from “the scene”. Him and I discussed it, and with the trust we’d built, trusted that he’d have someone that ticked every box for us (similar to him). So gave him permission to surprise her at their next overnight meet. All went well, in fact it was perfect. The smile on her face when she returned.
My advice, build up slowly!! It’s worth the wait!"
This is exactly what I would suggest. |
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Hey, we have done this but in a slightly different scenario where we booked an apartment, Mr slept in the spare room while Mrs spent the night with her FWB in the other bedroom. So, lots of hot and intense experiences from the night while also providing some assurances with everyone being in the same place. Although a solo overnight stay is something we have talked about trying next. |
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"Hey..
Im wondering if anyone has done this before?
Where the F of the couple spends the night with another guy?
We are currently chatting with a single guy & considering it...
in a situation where it's 'me watching her' initially, but, with the possibility of her spending the night with him afterwards...
But, from the 'guys perspective' id like to get a good idea of whats likely to happen..
Purely out of concern for her wellbeing and safety etc...
However the other guy we are talking to, isn't really answering questions. Or when he does, its just 'basic information' which is repeated in various forms....
kinda evading the questions like a Labour Party Politician
Im just wondering... how other guys would approach this,
What questions would you be asking?
How would you take it if they didn't answer the question properly? I.e. just a few words, or 'yes or no' answers...
Just want her to be safe & enjoy herself...
Or am I over-thinking and worrying over something trivial?
Appreciate people's comments & thoughts on the subject.. "
You’re not overthinking at all. If you’re chatting to someone with a view to meeting & they’re just re-hashing the same old lines I’d move on. Chances are you’re chatting to a fantasist. There are guys who are far more into this than he is so I wouldn’t waste your time.
However whenever it does happen, and with whom, you should have met him more than once & be entirely happy with the person. Or even use a hotel first.
Just my thoughts from experience. |
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By *en_kMan 10 weeks ago
North West |
If he’s avoiding answering then I wouldn’t proceed.
If he’s answering but only in basic form then it’s not an immediate red flag. I’m guessing that your wife won’t be writing sonnets with him, so the lack of vocabulary shouldn’t be an issue.
Definitely meet with him first and sound him out. Any reservations after this meeting would certainly be amplified when you’re waiting at home.
I had many years in a relationship with a cuckold dynamic. |
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By *asiskoCouple 10 weeks ago
EXETER |
First I would say jog him right on .
There is plenty guys would love this situation. We have done this a few times now and more to come with a few different guys and it’s been a amazing cuckold journey that just keeps on given. Outside the house my husband is a man’s man but when it comes down to it he is a cuckold and now we’re in this life style I love it .
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"First I would say jog him right on .
There is plenty guys would love this situation. We have done this a few times now and more to come with a few different guys and it’s been a amazing cuckold journey that just keeps on given. Outside the house my husband is a man’s man but when it comes down to it he is a cuckold and now we’re in this life style I love it .
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It's fantastic you both enjoy it so much. |
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I'm no expert and lack experience in this field, however it is something I like to think about, encouraging my wife
That been the case I would be looking to establish the point of contact, building that confidence and trust, questions would be part of that process, simple yes no and lack of conversation wouldn't cut it |
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"Not answering questions signals low interest, which pretty much guarantees disappointment.
Move on, find someone more suitable.
Assuming that not responding instantaneously to a private message signals lack of interest is a gross mistake which many couples, cuckold or otherwise make.
I have found myself blocked forever simply for reading a message and having the audacity to have other priorities in my life than getting straight back to heir irresistable offer!
Assuming that was anything close to what I was talking about is a gross mistake"
Don't worry, I was just using your post as a lead in to make my point! |
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By *ike341Man 10 weeks ago
Leamington Spa |
This is one of the hottest scenarios on the hotwife scene, getting the privilege of spending the night with another man's woman. I like it when the hotwife video calls her husband while we fuck and she let's him watch for a while. It's not just the evening of sex after all the build up though, it's the waking up in the middle of the night sex, which is incredibly hot, and the downright horny morning sex. Then knowing she's going to go back to her man and relive it all again telling him. |
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By *69meMan 10 weeks ago
Cambridgeshire |
My wife sometimes has "overnight visitors". They are together in our spare room. They play whenever the mood takes them, as many times as they like, and for as long as they like. (If my wife is asleep and her visitor wants to start - they just start! She wakes up). I'm not allowed in the room unless specifically called in. I normally clean her up after each fuck so her pussy is ready for the next time they play. |
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By *amsoonMan 10 weeks ago
Stornoway |
My wife stays most Friday nights with her regular lover. That developed naturally from our initial 3sums after a year or so meeting. Not something we rushed into but very rewarding when it happened. |
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I would suggest you all meet up for a drink have a good discussion, get to know the guy. Maybe try something with the three of you first (or you watching) and then when you built up trust and you are both comfortable..... then is the time to consider an overnighter. |
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"Hey..
Im wondering if anyone has done this before?
Where the F of the couple spends the night with another guy?
We are currently chatting with a single guy & considering it...
in a situation where it's 'me watching her' initially, but, with the possibility of her spending the night with him afterwards...
But, from the 'guys perspective' id like to get a good idea of whats likely to happen..
Purely out of concern for her wellbeing and safety etc...
However the other guy we are talking to, isn't really answering questions. Or when he does, its just 'basic information' which is repeated in various forms....
kinda evading the questions like a Labour Party Politician
Im just wondering... how other guys would approach this,
What questions would you be asking?
How would you take it if they didn't answer the question properly? I.e. just a few words, or 'yes or no' answers...
Just want her to be safe & enjoy herself...
Or am I over-thinking and worrying over something trivial?
Appreciate people's comments & thoughts on the subject.. "
A lot of red flags there. Ruth would never stay or meet a new guy on her own until she knew and could trust the guy. She has an established fwb whom she spends the night or weekends with but we have known him for years. |
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"Hey, we have done this but in a slightly different scenario where we booked an apartment, Mr slept in the spare room while Mrs spent the night with her FWB in the other bedroom. So, lots of hot and intense experiences from the night while also providing some assurances with everyone being in the same place. Although a solo overnight stay is something we have talked about trying next. "
Love this! |
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I’ve found that when first meeting a cuckold couple it is best the cuck is there to watch, or whatever his agreed role is. After that him sending his wife or her telling him she is going to see her lover alone can be very rewarding for all. When this happens I like to send cuck photos of me enjoying his wife or have her call him. All depends on what works for them.
Having cuck sleep in the spare room and just be used for clean up is also very erotic. |
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Hi when we were playing together wife stayed over with a regular guy she enjoyed a close relationship with , and for me it was so erotic knowing she was being treated as his gf when they went out where he lived . |
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Communication is key. Set up specific questions and have your answers confirmed with your partner so that the better guy is chosen. I often encourage partners to do this as well with a social to ensure the communication on fab , tg etc matches the in person social convos. Then you know for sure you'll be OK |
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By *auradCouple 10 weeks ago
glasgow |
We’ve done this before but only with trusted guys that we have met many times and built a relationship with.
One option that I (mr) enjoys is the hotel rooms that have two beds, either two doubles or a double and a single, with Laura and her partner sleeping together and me alone in the other bed.
Wakening to the sound of your wife and her partner playing in the middle of the night or early in the morning is what this cuck adores. |
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As a single guy, I definitely be walking away from someone who is avoiding the questions you are asking, especially if they are just giving yes\no answers as that to me isn't caring about why you are asking those things and understanding your concerns.
I wouldn't engage with anyone who was giving me any types of doubts.
I'd trust your instincts on this and find someone else, as to me thats demonstrating they are being rude and disrespectful to you both.
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I'd avoid, I've done this with the wife, but she has had plenty of contact with guy's beforehand with socials and at times with us all have some mutual enjoyment. It's never been a straight off hotel overnight meet. |
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I have only done this with my hotwife friend of over 9 years. We have also visited Chams Darlaston as a couple on 3 occasions, which also resulted in overnight hotel stays for us, with cuck hubby 250 miles away.
It’s a sign of our threeway trust which allows all this to happen, and at the same time, feel perfectly natural….. 
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"We’ve done this before but only with trusted guys that we have met many times and built a relationship with.
One option that I (mr) enjoys is the hotel rooms that have two beds, either two doubles or a double and a single, with Laura and her partner sleeping together and me alone in the other bed.
Wakening to the sound of your wife and her partner playing in the middle of the night or early in the morning is what this cuck adores. "
That's a very hot scenario |
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"Hey..
Im wondering if anyone has done this before?
Where the F of the couple spends the night with another guy?
We are currently chatting with a single guy & considering it...
in a situation where it's 'me watching her' initially, but, with the possibility of her spending the night with him afterwards...
But, from the 'guys perspective' id like to get a good idea of whats likely to happen..
Purely out of concern for her wellbeing and safety etc...
However the other guy we are talking to, isn't really answering questions. Or when he does, its just 'basic information' which is repeated in various forms....
kinda evading the questions like a Labour Party Politician
Im just wondering... how other guys would approach this,
What questions would you be asking?
How would you take it if they didn't answer the question properly? I.e. just a few words, or 'yes or no' answers...
Just want her to be safe & enjoy herself...
Or am I over-thinking and worrying over something trivial?
Appreciate people's comments & thoughts on the subject.. "
Personally we are not a cuck dynamic so I suppose it’s hard to comment. If we were in that situation I don’t think I’d be comfortable letting her stay away unless it was someone we had played with previously and known for a period of time and trusted as her safety would always be my primary concern.
The fact you’re already flagging he isn’t responding on the manner you want would be enough for me to think he wasn’t the the right person.
That’s just me though and I don’t have your dynamic |
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try small steps first you in the next room ect . I had a cuck sleep in a dogs cage at the foot of the bed once his wishes not mine .
but if he's not forthcoming with the information you require then move on he's not for you all the best for your future opportunities 👍 |
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By *alo10Man 9 weeks ago
oxford |
I did that few times. Initialy we always had a social. Chat. Then started party together. And at some point, I stayed alone with a woman overnight. Usualy taking pictures and vids while having sex. And those been sent to the guy. Never had any problems. If you encounter dodgy person. And have any red flags on.... Avoid. Thats my advice |
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I’ve done it plenty of times as it’s often part of the hotwife’s / cuckold’s kink, sometimes the wives come and stay overnight with me leaving the cuck at home or the cuck will be relegated to a spare room or sleeping on the couch whilst his wife can be heard fucking her lover, with them both sleeping in the marital bed. The cuckold bringing the lovers a cup of tea in bed in the morning is very much appreciated. |
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"Hey..
Im wondering if anyone has done this before?
Where the F of the couple spends the night with another guy?
We are currently chatting with a single guy & considering it...
in a situation where it's 'me watching her' initially, but, with the possibility of her spending the night with him afterwards...
But, from the 'guys perspective' id like to get a good idea of whats likely to happen..
Purely out of concern for her wellbeing and safety etc...
However the other guy we are talking to, isn't really answering questions. Or when he does, its just 'basic information' which is repeated in various forms....
kinda evading the questions like a Labour Party Politician
Im just wondering... how other guys would approach this,
What questions would you be asking?
How would you take it if they didn't answer the question properly? I.e. just a few words, or 'yes or no' answers...
Just want her to be safe & enjoy herself...
Or am I over-thinking and worrying over something trivial?
Appreciate people's comments & thoughts on the subject.. "
we have done this a few times but it’s been with a guy we have known a while we wouldn’t consider doing this with someone we just met |
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I have done this with a woman whose husband was on nights and I stayed in their bed. We had met previously both in a social setting and in an MMF. It's safe to say we were friends as well and I think this dynamic works. You need to know your wife/partner is safe with someone and that will put your mind at ease. Good luck! |
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At then end of the day it's about a guy who you both feel really comfortable and relaxed with. Your partner is the most important woman in the world to you. Not only do you want her to have an amazing time you want her to be in safe respectful hands. So anyone who doesn't feel completely open with you or doesn't gives you both that warm fuzzy feeling with his reply is a red flag. You want her back the next morning totally seen to, totally cared for and with a huge smile on her face. This is not the job for any old guy. Take your time, vet carefully and find that special gent who will treat her with the sense of duty she deserves. |
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By *laric-PrimalMan 9 weeks ago
central Scotland - working all over |
From experience ive done this before. I met the couple for a drink first .. a lot of flirting in front of him in the bar ( her sat on my knee and all over me)
He asked if I wanted a nightcap ..
He drove back with his wife in the back seat with me..
We got back to theirs, the nightcap in their bedroom , he sat in the cuck chair in the corner as he watched.. until she told him to get out and sleep on the couch and handed him a baby monitor and told him to keep it on and listen all night..
I stayed all night with no sleep and in the morning as he drove me back to my hotel I told him that if he wanted his wife to spend the night at my hotel alone , that he had to go home and lick my cum from everywhere id cum and send a video of him telling her that she was spending the night with me ...
He did this and took her out lingerie shopping...
She arrived at my hotel in a knee length coat and her lingerie .
He got the spare room key to let himself in at 730am to watch us in the shower..
In essence the first night built the trust for allowing the second night which was far wilder ... |
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This is something we would be interested in doing but it wouldn’t be on a first meet with someone. We would have to have had a few meets to make sure we were all totally comfortable and on the same page. |
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"Hey..
Im wondering if anyone has done this before?
Where the F of the couple spends the night with another guy?
We are currently chatting with a single guy & considering it...
in a situation where it's 'me watching her' initially, but, with the possibility of her spending the night with him afterwards...
But, from the 'guys perspective' id like to get a good idea of whats likely to happen..
Purely out of concern for her wellbeing and safety etc...
However the other guy we are talking to, isn't really answering questions. Or when he does, its just 'basic information' which is repeated in various forms....
kinda evading the questions like a Labour Party Politician
Im just wondering... how other guys would approach this,
What questions would you be asking?
How would you take it if they didn't answer the question properly? I.e. just a few words, or 'yes or no' answers...
Just want her to be safe & enjoy herself...
Or am I over-thinking and worrying over something trivial?
Appreciate people's comments & thoughts on the subject.. "
Wouldn’t risk this unless the guy is tried and well tested .. trust is earned …speaking from experience |
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"My wife and I have done this both ways.
In my experience, I stayed in a hotel with another man's wife for a night.
First off, we had sex and was sending pictures to both spouse's for all to be involved.
After the dynamic changed somewhat!
it became more intimate and we had sex a good 3 times in the night and again in the morning.
My wife did something similar and she said exactly the same.
Her and her playmate did lots of things not originally agreed as alot of things happen in the moment.
In short, what we learned from it, don't be so rigid with expectations of what's going to happen. Just let it happen and enjoy it.
You'll love hearing the stories when she returns.
Mac x
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Same for us, when Dee has had hotels meets, early on we agreed on quite vanilla meets but in the heat of the moment a lot more ‘dirtier’ things happened.
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I’ve been very fortunate to be a part of this dynamic with a few regular couples. My thoughts:
- everyone has to be comfortable. If you’re not getting the right vibe then it doesn’t happen. Relationship comes first and the guy is a nice add on. Not the main event
- it isn’t difficult to be honest and open. If you’re not getting that. Then can’t happen
- Boundaries are important. Make sure any guy has demonstrated they understand and can follow them.
- ask the questions that concern you most. And maintain your standards
- not over thinking - you’re thinking.
- someone said here that overnights once a trust and comfort has been built. As someone who looks for regular dalliances rather than offs that would be my best advice. |
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Personally, if he is not going out of his way to make you feel comfortable then he doesn’t deserve the meet, everyone should be able to feel 100% safe and comfortable, the basics come first if he can’t even answer that then I’d find your self another single male……plenty of them |
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"I’ve been very fortunate to be a part of this dynamic with a few regular couples. My thoughts:
- everyone has to be comfortable. If you’re not getting the right vibe then it doesn’t happen. Relationship comes first and the guy is a nice add on. Not the main event
- it isn’t difficult to be honest and open. If you’re not getting that. Then can’t happen
- Boundaries are important. Make sure any guy has demonstrated they understand and can follow them.
- ask the questions that concern you most. And maintain your standards
- not over thinking - you’re thinking.
- someone said here that overnights once a trust and comfort has been built. As someone who looks for regular dalliances rather than offs that would be my best advice."
I'd agree with this.
As the person meeting the hotwife, I want to make sure that both her and her husband are comfortable with the plans, The boundries etc. Having only done this with someone i have met numerous times before and the trust has been established between the 3 of us, it makes it easier and hopefully, more likely to happen repeatedly.
The person you are chatting too OP, if they are not filling you with confidence and excitment, then they are not the overnight hotwife meet for you.
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"Hey..
Im wondering if anyone has done this before?
Where the F of the couple spends the night with another guy?
We are currently chatting with a single guy & considering it...
in a situation where it's 'me watching her' initially, but, with the possibility of her spending the night with him afterwards...
But, from the 'guys perspective' id like to get a good idea of whats likely to happen..
Purely out of concern for her wellbeing and safety etc...
However the other guy we are talking to, isn't really answering questions. Or when he does, its just 'basic information' which is repeated in various forms....
kinda evading the questions like a Labour Party Politician
Im just wondering... how other guys would approach this,
What questions would you be asking?
How would you take it if they didn't answer the question properly? I.e. just a few words, or 'yes or no' answers...
Just want her to be safe & enjoy herself...
Or am I over-thinking and worrying over something trivial?
Appreciate people's comments & thoughts on the subject.. "
I've had a few wives and gfs come over mine for the night or the weekend (Fri-Sun) then he comes to pick her up on the last night or following night.
Prefer this set up
Even had a bride to be come mine, 24hrs before the wedding, wanted BBC breeding before being a good wife |
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Took a lady out in the Village hubby trailing n id chat to guys n tell them she's out for fun cs hubies small n premature n then have her do they guys either out back in.loos of car n hubbie cant quite see |
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The best kind of meet, the wife’s usually a lot more relaxed without hubby being there and then we can send him plenty of videos or videocall him to watch while the wife feels no pressure to perform for him!  |
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We’ve not done overnight but we had a male friend come to us and Fiona and him went upstairs for an hour while I kept guard downstairs in case one of our family came home early. It was so hot hearing them having fun and the little moans and the bed squeaking.
We do want to meet and make friends with a local man to do this on a regular basis. |
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My ex did this a lot she would have her lovers over and stay the night in the main bedroom I was in the spare room. Other times she would go and if she met one of her lovers she would stay at his place and I would pick her up the next day from his house |
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Yes I’ve absolutely done this before, but with a couple where trust was established before hand. An amazing experience, we all net for a drink in the hotel bar , hubby left us, we sent him pics through the night, and he picked her up in the morning! Perfect !
From your point of view if the guy is being evasive, that would be red flag for me ….. treat with caution! But good luck x
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Not done the overnight but when we had a regular guy before joining this site my wife would have an afternoon with him while I was at work she would txt me to say when he had arived and when he left it was such a turn on i couldn't wait to get home and her telling me all about it but there was a lot of trust between us as we had been seeing him for yrs wouldn't do it with someone we had just been chatting to or just met though |
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By *evlishduncMan 3 weeks ago
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It’s all about trust and gut instinct. Trust yours and don’t give out your trust freely.
I’ve done overnights with a couple in the past and it only followed in as a natural development of the relationship we had built up.
Hotel was booked in hubby’s name so he could easily get a ‘new’ key if he felt the need to get into the room. We agreed on plenty of pics, video clips too. Neither of us turned of our phones so we were always contactable too. |
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We did it once as an overnight swap with both wife’s, it was with a couple that we had met a few times and had been to each others houses a few times for social drinks and stuff. It certainly wouldn’t be something we would consider doing with someone we had never met or had to trust with. It was an exciting experience and very horny telling each about the night we had.
If the guy you’re chatting to isn’t someone you have met before and you’re already getting a strange vibe, then I’d say avoid it at all costs. |
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By *oufouCouple 3 weeks ago
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In our experience here, evasive responses are usually very bad news. Much like a lack of eye contact, it is usually indicative of a lack of transparency. And the most likely explanation is that they were never free to meet. |
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My wife is spending the night tonight with a guy she has known for nearly forty years.
It didn't take much prompting. All I said was "Isn't it about time you fucked him?". They've spent at least one night a month together since July.
He's not her first lover in our marriage. I couldn't be happier for her. |
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I’ve done this with couples before. First time the hotwife and I went out for drinks before cuck picked us up and drove us back to their house, cuck then spent the night in the spare room while I fucked his wife in their marital bed |
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WALK AWAY
DONT LET HIM NEAR YOUR WIFE.
For this to happen you really need to be friends and know each other well, you need to have chatted for well over a year and have met a number of times with full trust and discretion.
I suspect this is more fantasy as no one would take a chance like this with someone who doesn't chat and answer questions |
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Agreed, seems a bit sketchy. If it was in a hotel where it's a directly adjoining door that you can enter, maybe.
But you said he is sketchy on thr replies. This is something tat8really needs to be discussed in detail with safety on mind |
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Ive done this as a single male. We started off just regular meets, led to me staying over theirs for weekends to the advancing to me and the wife going out by ourselves.
If you can't build the trust it isn't going to work, you need to both be relaxed to know it's going to work and both enjoy yourself fully |
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"My wife is spending the night tonight with a guy she has known for nearly forty years.
It didn't take much prompting. All I said was "Isn't it about time you fucked him?". They've spent at least one night a month together since July.
He's not her first lover in our marriage. I couldn't be happier for her."
I believe this proves the point that there would be far fewer divorces and separations if more couples experimented in the lifestyle.
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By *hed_twoCouple 3 weeks ago
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"My wife is spending the night tonight with a guy she has known for nearly forty years.
It didn't take much prompting. All I said was "Isn't it about time you fucked him?". They've spent at least one night a month together since July.
He's not her first lover in our marriage. I couldn't be happier for her."
Emz had an overnight stay with her BF last weekend, amazing experience from dropping her off at the hotel, receiving updates, photos, videos and of course the reconnection once he dropped her home safely.
Communication is very important, building the trust with the right guy also which takes time but when you find the right guy it is worth it.
Got to remember you are trusting him with your Wife. |
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"My wife is spending the night tonight with a guy she has known for nearly forty years.
It didn't take much prompting. All I said was "Isn't it about time you fucked him?". They've spent at least one night a month together since July.
He's not her first lover in our marriage. I couldn't be happier for her.
Emz had an overnight stay with her BF last weekend, amazing experience from dropping her off at the hotel, receiving updates, photos, videos and of course the reconnection once he dropped her home safely.
Communication is very important, building the trust with the right guy also which takes time but when you find the right guy it is worth it.
Got to remember you are trusting him with your Wife. "
Exactly right
The whole build up tension and teasing is so much hotter when that rapport and trust is there |
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By *T2022Man 3 weeks ago
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i suggest you dont leave her alone on the first meet with this guy .
maybe aftet a couple of meets and your both happy with what has happened both sexually and compatibility then maybe of trust then a stsy over . but i would want that even after being single male for my safety and trust , when sleep comes into it
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I would love to do this with my wife but its Yet to happen even with me present. I would not be going ahead and handing my wife over to a man who cant answer simple questions with more than a few words. You are handing over the most precious thing you have and although its a very very sexy thought and I would love my Mrs to spend the night with someone and come home to me the next day used and full up ! I wouldn't be doing it unless I could trust he will look after her x |
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"My wife is spending the night tonight with a guy she has known for nearly forty years.
It didn't take much prompting. All I said was "Isn't it about time you fucked him?". They've spent at least one night a month together since July.
He's not her first lover in our marriage. I couldn't be happier for her.
Emz had an overnight stay with her BF last weekend, amazing experience from dropping her off at the hotel, receiving updates, photos, videos and of course the reconnection once he dropped her home safely.
Communication is very important, building the trust with the right guy also which takes time but when you find the right guy it is worth it.
Got to remember you are trusting him with your Wife.
Exactly right
The whole build up tension and teasing is so much hotter when that rapport and trust is there "
I might add that the quality of the sex was of the highest standard and he managed to satisfy himself four times. Legend! |
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Going back to the Op and his concerns, you dont appear to be a jealous man so if you dont feel comfortable with his responses I would say you have every reason to trust your gut and dont go near this guy. His duty before taking your wife for a night away is to convince you that she will be safe in his care. If he is not willing to do this then he is not the man you are looking for. People who avoid answering questions usually have something to hide. For the sake of the safety of your wife do not take a chance on a shady character. |
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Not something we would do. Hubby either watches or waits in the hotel bar. We like to spend a whole evening with a lover (I never use the term bull) I enjoy being around vanillas with 2 men. That is part of the fun for me, not just what happens in the bedroom. |
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The dynamic I have experience off is with my OH. She prefers 1 on 1 fun and said she had an old neighbour where she has had a FWB kind of thing with for over 20 years, meeting quite randomly and with no strings attached, over that period.
I trust her implicitly about the past stories and dynamic (or lack of in this case) and they meet at hotels for some adult fun, stay over and then I reclaim her the day after.
I dont really know much about the guy apart from he is obsessed with shagging her arse. He makes her climax, gives her a good time, she loves his kissing and his massages so I know she is having some amazing sex too.
Both like the casual nature of their hook ups which suits our relationship fine.
Everyone is happy. |
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"I would love to do this with my wife but its Yet to happen even with me present. I would not be going ahead and handing my wife over to a man who cant answer simple questions with more than a few words. You are handing over the most precious thing you have and although its a very very sexy thought and I would love my Mrs to spend the night with someone and come home to me the next day used and full up ! I wouldn't be doing it unless I could trust he will look after her x"
. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this subject. I would certainly love this situation for my wife, especially seeing her walk through the door with a big smile on her face, knowing she’s been satisfied for the first time in a long time.  |
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Trust your instincts, you don’t know what this guy is hiding but you sense it. Probably nothing more sinister than a wife and kids.
Lucy looks smoking hot in her lingerie, you will have no problem replacing him in a heartbeat. |
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Personally I think leaving your wife with a man that you have only chatted with on here and then very stilted probably means he has no experience as a Bull and should be discarded.
I would only leave Mrs N with a guy after at least a couple of meets, There would need to be chemistry between us all and a good bull involves cucky too.
I should give it a wide berth if I was you. |
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I know it's every cucks dream to have his hotwife stay the night and him waiting thru a sleepless night thinking about what she's doing.But sometimes you have to take a deep long breath and let reality sink in.
No way too dangerous.
First try your own house and sleep in spare room whilst she spends night with guy in your bed. |
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Hi all, experienced respectful bull here with over 15yrs meeting cuckold and hotwife couples. I'm always happy to chat with GENUINE couples and hotwives, use my experience to help you explore your fantasies.
I've met several wives at mine and at hotels for overnight adventures, it's always lots of fun and very erotic.
You do have to take your time, get to know each other and fully vet each other. As the mutual trust grows between you all, that's when things shift gear and get very very interesting.
Any GENUINE couples or hotwives interested in meeting a reliable guy for regular fun, feel free to get in touch. |
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Not over thinking it, I would say if there is any avoidance of answering specific questions then it’s an easy one to say no to, safety wise and everything else if he’s not being truthful at this stage then it’s obvs a red flag.
I have been lucky enough to have done this with meeting a couple staring as hubby watching his wife and I to eventually a solo overnight meet. Lots of safety built in so that she can walk any time she feels like it. But tbh it’s the small things you notice, if you even suspect someone isn’t straight then it’s walk away, cuckold fantasy shouldn’t ever endanger your other half. |
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Done it, loved it. Maintained communication whenever messaged. Wasn't pushy and went at their pace. HW checked in routinely throughout the night, 1. For her cucks reassurance and 2. It was part of the meet requirements.
I booked the hotel and met her at the carpark to walk her back to the hotel. I would say if there's any red flags at all or you feel uncomfortable then pull the plug. Plenty of options on here and it's not worth risking anyone's safety for a potential meet. Especially if the alarm bells were already ringing. |
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By *erdyguy45Man 2 days ago
Solihull/milton keynes & other |
"Hey..
Im wondering if anyone has done this before?
Where the F of the couple spends the night with another guy?
We are currently chatting with a single guy & considering it...
in a situation where it's 'me watching her' initially, but, with the possibility of her spending the night with him afterwards...
But, from the 'guys perspective' id like to get a good idea of whats likely to happen..
Purely out of concern for her wellbeing and safety etc...
However the other guy we are talking to, isn't really answering questions. Or when he does, its just 'basic information' which is repeated in various forms....
kinda evading the questions like a Labour Party Politician
Im just wondering... how other guys would approach this,
What questions would you be asking?
How would you take it if they didn't answer the question properly? I.e. just a few words, or 'yes or no' answers...
Just want her to be safe & enjoy herself...
Or am I over-thinking and worrying over something trivial?
Appreciate people's comments & thoughts on the subject.. "
I'd say if your getting an untrustworthy vibe your probably right
I'd say your best trying to arrange a social with someone first and get to know them before diving in.
I'm sure there are plenty of guys out there who would like this scenario.
It's something I'm looking to potentially explore however it's with a couple I've met a few times and get on with .
I think trust plays a big part in it |
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