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23 year old male. Can I meet single females in a club?
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23 year old male here and looking to try out a club as not getting much luck on here.
Is there a realistic chance of meeting a single female in a club or is it typically filled with couples and single males?
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Yes, it is possible to meet single ladies in a club. It's not easy though, you'd have to be able to behave like a normal human being there and talk to people. Nothing may happen on the first visit, or second, or you may hit the jackpot straight away. However, you are very young, there aren't that many younger people in clubs. I'm sure there are easier ways to find a hook up. |
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Yes
It's necessary here to have realistic expectations. As you've only been here a few days, it does usually take a few months to get established here, so take that on board, when setting your expectations.
Choose your club and events wisely - single men can have restrictions on openings/days.
You'll find lots of help here in the forum, for single men tough challenges here.
Good luck!
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Many men think swinging is the answer to fulfilling their needs. Sadly if you struggle in the real world it will be even harder here. There are ten times more men than the demand for them. So only the best are going to shine. |
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Is there a realistic chance of meeting a single female in a club or is it typically filled with couples and single males?
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There are always far less single women in a club than couples or single males |
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Can you walk into a bar / coffee shop / supermarket and strike up a conversation with a women who’s a total stranger; if you can and won’t feel crushed / embarrassed / rejected if you’re completely ignored or rebuffed then so far, so good.
Now imagine striking up the same conversation, but with half a dozen other guys all vying for attention; some of whom you’ll perceive as stronger / more attractive / more confident than you feel at that moment; again, you can’t be crushed / embarrassed / rejected when she ignores you to concentrate on someone else.
Still feel up for the challenge? Take a deep breath when you feel your bank balance take a solid hit for the entry fee and (depending upon the club), be prepared to get your kit off down to a towel or shorts and enter a space filled with entire strangers!
Laws of averages and attraction suggest the local Spoons is a superior option than a single guy at a swingers club; but hey, people can and do win the jackpot and it could be you sir 
Over the years I’ve seen single guys on a first visit have more options than they could dream of, I’ve also seen a guy rejected when he was the only dude in the place filled with half a dozen female swingers who all usually played; simply none of them found him attractive; he came back the next evening and pulled within minutes!
Good luck  |
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"23 year old male here and looking to try out a club as not getting much luck on here.
Is there a realistic chance of meeting a single female in a club or is it typically filled with couples and single males?
Thanks "
Think of swinger clubs as ‘Fab under one roof for the night’, and you won’t be far wrong…… 
I’ve met more ladies at my local Parkrun recently, than I did after 20 visits spread across 10 swinger clubs.
Anyone telling you swinger clubs are great places to meet single ladies, will be a club host…..😂
Enjoy Fab as a break from ‘normal life’, but if you’re looking to actually meet women, stick to the well-known contact/hook up apps 😎👍 |
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"I'm going to a club today and will hopefully find some attractive single men to play with. "
Ask all the single ladies there today, to leave the club a review in here, so the OP can get an idea of the potential for a club meets 😁👍 |
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"23 year old male here and looking to try out a club as not getting much luck on here.
Is there a realistic chance of meeting a single female in a club or is it typically filled with couples and single males?
Thanks "
Only one way to find out. Good luck. |
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"Many men think swinging is the answer to fulfilling their needs. Sadly if you struggle in the real world it will be even harder here. There are ten times more men than the demand for them. So only the best are going to shine. "
And I am quite sure many women on here, think swinging is their answer to fulfilling their needs... |
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I guess alot depends on the club and the entrance criteria. The club we are members at strictly controls the number of single males attending nights to ensure a correct balance is maintained. Every night we have been the number of single females has been far higher than single guys. Obviously couples make up the biggest demographic.
But despite guys being in the minority there is still no guarantee of anything.
The best way is to go to socials and singles nights, don't be a dick, get trusted and get a good name for yourself. |
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It's also best to assume that your first several visits will just be about getting to know people, rather than having sex if you are a single man.
It's very possible to meet and have sex with single women if you are a male alone. But get to know the wherewithal of clubs and swinging first |
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I would echo what the above posters say - go with zero expectations, talk to folk, smile and don’t be a dick.
However I would say if you are early 20s, tall and tattooed then you will certainly tick a lot of boxes for some ladies 🤷♂️.. can I ask are you looking specifically for single fems out would you play with the female half of a couple? |
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"23 year old male here and looking to try out a club as not getting much luck on here.
Is there a realistic chance of meeting a single female in a club or is it typically filled with couples and single males?
Thanks "
Depending on the night they are indeed mostly couples and single males, with a handful of single women. Being chatty and handsome give men an advantage, many go home disappointed. Realistically you may be more likely to hook up on the dance floor at a normal nightclub/bar. |
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"I guess alot depends on the club and the entrance criteria. The club we are members at strictly controls the number of single males attending nights to ensure a correct balance is maintained. Every night we have been the number of single females has been far higher than single guys. Obviously couples make up the biggest demographic.
But despite guys being in the minority there is still no guarantee of anything.
The best way is to go to socials and singles nights, don't be a dick, get trusted and get a good name for yourself."
The club you are members at, is it called ‘Valhalla’, by any chance? 🤭
I’ve walked out of so many clubs, because there were no ladies in. I remember leaving Atlantis, in Stoke, and there were two guys sat parked up in a car just outside. The driver asked me as I walked past “Any women in mate?” I replied “Why do you think I’m leaving at this time of night? Know any pubs with some life in them?” Same as when I visited La Chambre, in Sheffield. Something like 25 guys in, and 3 couples. I left at midnight, and there was an Asian lad parked up in a BMW outside. Same question to me, any women in? I said no, that’s why I’m leaving. “Oh right” he says. “There’s a brothel just down the road, wanna go with me?” 🫣
There are times, when I feel ashamed, to be a single guy, and most of my clubs experiences have left me feeling very low indeed…. |
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You didn't mention the ethnicity of the two men outside Atlantis, so why was it necessary to do so with the man outside La Chambre ? This must have happened years ago. When did La Chambre close down ? |
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"You didn't mention the ethnicity of the two men outside Atlantis, so why was it necessary to do so with the man outside La Chambre ? This must have happened years ago. When did La Chambre close down ?"
It’s just part of my memory, nothing other than that? 🤷♂️
It was probably in about 2017, yes. Does the date matter? A less than positive clubs experience, is still a less than positive clubs experience, whenever it happened, and to remain OT for the OP; as a 23 year old guy, I would take the other advice above, and stick to normal pubs and bars to meet single ladies.
Not one review from a single lady from your visit to Quest last week I noted……? |
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"23 year old male here and looking to try out a club as not getting much luck on here.
Is there a realistic chance of meeting a single female in a club or is it typically filled with couples and single males?
Thanks "
I count myself lucky to have met a lot of couples and single ladies, never assume that if getting a good vibe from chatting to say in your instance that anything will happen.
As others mention get to know people over time build up a friendship while it does not guarantee sex.
Word of mouth in swinging generally is best way if you come across genuine and never try to be someone you are not in day to day life, women generally will suss you out.
Familarity is important.
Good luck and persevere never take a rejection to heart.
Good luck |
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Some of the club nights we go to there are a lot of single females, however they are often looking to play with groups of guys rather than 1 on 1s. Thats not always the case though obviously. If your not willing to play with other men around then that will limit your chances significantly. |
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"Some of the club nights we go to there are a lot of single females, however they are often looking to play with groups of guys rather than 1 on 1s. Thats not always the case though obviously. If your not willing to play with other men around then that will limit your chances significantly. "
I have a visit to a greedy girl event with a lady friend planned soon. My first time at a gg event, her first time in a swinger club. Last night, as we chatted about what might happen, she asked me “How many ladies are you planning on fucking?” I replied; “Let’s just see who is there on the day, shall we? I am quite prepared for you to be the only female….” 🤭 |
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"Is your friend planning on being a greedy girl ?
Absolutely! That’s the whole point of the visit to that event 😁
It's very brave of her on a first club visit  "
She is in control, she will only play with people she fancies, and I will make sure nobody takes any liberties. I have another lady friend wanting to go along at some point too, so hopefully a good time awaits 😎👍 |
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"I guess alot depends on the club and the entrance criteria. The club we are members at strictly controls the number of single males attending nights to ensure a correct balance is maintained. Every night we have been the number of single females has been far higher than single guys. Obviously couples make up the biggest demographic.
But despite guys being in the minority there is still no guarantee of anything.
The best way is to go to socials and singles nights, don't be a dick, get trusted and get a good name for yourself.
The club you are members at, is it called ‘Valhalla’, by any chance? 🤭
I’ve walked out of so many clubs, because there were no ladies in. I remember leaving Atlantis, in Stoke, and there were two guys sat parked up in a car just outside. The driver asked me as I walked past “Any women in mate?” I replied “Why do you think I’m leaving at this time of night? Know any pubs with some life in them?” Same as when I visited La Chambre, in Sheffield. Something like 25 guys in, and 3 couples. I left at midnight, and there was an Asian lad parked up in a BMW outside. Same question to me, any women in? I said no, that’s why I’m leaving. “Oh right” he says. “There’s a brothel just down the road, wanna go with me?” 🫣
There are times, when I feel ashamed, to be a single guy, and most of my clubs experiences have left me feeling very low indeed…."
Nope: it's called The Mirage 🤣 |
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"23 year old male here and looking to try out a club as not getting much luck on here.
Is there a realistic chance of meeting a single female in a club or is it typically filled with couples and single males?
Thanks "
'Females' they're women |
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Obviously ratio's are far more weighted towards couples and guys in general. However in our experience some clubs attract more single ladies and others. Some clubs actually seem to atteact good numbers of single ladies. So selection of club is really important, do your research.
I don't think age is a barrier. At our local club a few weeks ago we have a new lad come in. He was around your age, a little younger I think. He was freindly, respectful and just had a great vibe about him. He also had confidence to just introduce himself to everyone. And from what I remember he went down very well and had a great night.
Age isn't really something people ask or get too hung up on in clubs. People generally just take people as they find them.
Also some clubs do host specific parties aimed at younger swingers that also be of advantage if age is a concern or you're specifically looking for women of a similar age. |
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