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"Does it need to be cuckhold? It sounds like a Herero-flexible stag/vixen dynamic might be a better fit? Agree both of your wants and boundaries so that you both enjoy it." Could you explain the practical difference there? I presumed it fit more into the Cuckold category | |||
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"Does it need to be cuckhold? It sounds like a Herero-flexible stag/vixen dynamic might be a better fit? Agree both of your wants and boundaries so that you both enjoy it. Could you explain the practical difference there? I presumed it fit more into the Cuckold category" Cuckold seems to have morphed into what was staged/vixen in some cases. Stag /vixen has no power dynamic or shame elements. Mr revels in Ms’ enjoyment of other men. Can join in as he wishes / can watch without intentional interference exclusion. It’s about mutual enjoyment and engagement. Cuckold is (was)a F/m power dynamics where women’s pleasure comes before men’s (if men have any at all). There are shame elements such a small penis humiliation/ineptitude/inferiority. I appreciate that language changes over time. But I always make sure there is clear communication before scenes/engagement to ensure everyone is agreed on the parameters/boundaries away from the labels as there are connotations and assumptions with both sets of labels. | |||
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"For me it’s simple. Being a bull doesn’t mean being an arrogant sod, dominating for the sake of it. If any guys on fab give this vibe, they aren’t a bull. I like to have a long term set up, where I agree with the couple how it works. Sometimes the wife is in control, sometimes the cuck arranges things. My role is to adapt to what is comfortable for them and fill whatever gaps (no pun intended!) that they need. Respect is more important than anything. Saying that, I do love winding up a cuck! Happy fabbing everyone! " I organise all our meets (I work from home and get bored between teams calls). I love it when a guy assumes, regardless of the fact I say that Mr isn’t a cuck and that we’re a S/V couple, that the guys assumes he is. He’s slight and a perfect gentleman. They get their swagger on and try it on, then he unzips and flops it out with a massive *thunk* and joins in. There’s always a moment of terror/surprise. Those that stay/keep it up while keeping their ego in check are always great fun and get repeat meets. | |||
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"Why not just enjoy what you've done and continue to do that? You don't need to be aiming for another level up " This | |||
"Hey everyone, first post here. Mainly just looking to chat and maybe get some advice from those of you with a bit more experience, especially any other cuckold guys. So, me and my wife have swung before (same room, full swap with couples), but we took a long break… until very recently. We treat this as a bit of a hobby between us, something that’s just ours. We’ve almost nailed being completely open with each other before, during and after meets, and the aftercare side of things is a big part of why this works so well for us. We always check in with each other, and that’s what keeps it fun and safe. We struck gold almost straight away when we started looking again. Found a guy who’s completely on our wavelength. He’s bi, which works great for us (I’m orally bi), he respects boundaries, and honestly he’s just a solid guy. He’s also slightly more well-endowed… and as it turns out, an absolute beast in the bedroom. After about a week of chatting, we met for the first time and it was incredible. The chemistry between him and my wife was spot on. Plenty of passion, lots of kissing (which we’d discussed beforehand), and it all felt really natural. I was involved too, probably about 65% him / 35% me. We had no idea about his stamina, and after about 3.5 hours she had to call it, and he still didn’t finish. The whole thing was wild. The connection, the energy, everything. It left us both on a bit of a dopamine high for days. It massively improved our own sex life and just left us wanting more. Even now I’ll randomly think back to certain moments or things that were said, and it hits in a really intense, good way. A few days later we arranged a second meet (this past Thursday). This time I said I wanted to try a bit of a cuckold dynamic, even if just briefly, just to see how it felt. So the plan was for him to take her upstairs for 15 minutes while I stayed downstairs. He also knew I wanted to try a cleanup. Other than that, no real structure. That 15 minutes… honestly one of the most intense feelings I’ve ever had. I lasted about 9 minutes before giving in and going upstairs, and they were very much enjoying their time together. We were there about 4 hours in total, and in that time I only briefly had sex with her twice. There was a fair bit of bi play (me with him), and even the parts I wasn’t sure I’d enjoy, like the cleanup, turned out to be something I was really into. After that, when it was my turn again, I didn’t last long at all. So, if you’ve made it this far, here’s what I’d really like some input on: When I first walked in, it was clear I wasn’t needed straight away, and I was okay with that. But for about half an hour I tried to get more involved with her, almost like I was looking for a turn… and they didn’t stop. I felt a twinge of jealousy and it caught me off guard. I pushed through it, and I’m really glad I did, because it passed and I realised they were just giving me exactly what I’d asked for. Has anyone got advice on how to handle that in the moment, or what mindset to keep during it? Also, where do we go from here? Any suggestions on things to try, or scenarios to explore next? Suggestions VERY welcome! I don’t think I’m quite ready for her to see him on her own yet, but it’s definitely a fantasy in the back of my mind. If anyone’s been there, I’d appreciate any advice on how to approach that step when the time feels right. Overall, we’re both really happy and comfortable with everything we’ve done so far. Honestly, we haven’t had this much sex or felt this connected in a long time, if ever, and meeting him has taken things to another level for us." Wow! There are so many things you’ve have said that I feel exactly the same about!! The dynamic between us is almost the same! The “I wasn’t needed” was a real turn on and a dynamic I am keen to repeat. I’m kinda responding on this thread hoping Mrs will know what you’ve had is exactly what I’d like! I know my ‘limitations’ and love her need and want for ‘extra’ but lack the confidence to let her go for it, it’s not the humiliation of the cuckold scene, it’s the acknowledgement of sexual fulfilment and the kink of knowing she’s being fulfilled that I like. The reclaim sex’ doesn’t need to be full on, just a ‘what we did’ talk in full, is what I like. As for scenarios - let her go out and come home sticky and knickerless and tell you all about it while looking you in the eyes then clean her up | |||
"Hey everyone, first post here. Mainly just looking to chat and maybe get some advice from those of you with a bit more experience, especially any other cuckold guys. So, me and my wife have swung before (same room, full swap with couples), but we took a long break… until very recently. We treat this as a bit of a hobby between us, something that’s just ours. We’ve almost nailed being completely open with each other before, during and after meets, and the aftercare side of things is a big part of why this works so well for us. We always check in with each other, and that’s what keeps it fun and safe. We struck gold almost straight away when we started looking again. Found a guy who’s completely on our wavelength. He’s bi, which works great for us (I’m orally bi), he respects boundaries, and honestly he’s just a solid guy. He’s also slightly more well-endowed… and as it turns out, an absolute beast in the bedroom. After about a week of chatting, we met for the first time and it was incredible. The chemistry between him and my wife was spot on. Plenty of passion, lots of kissing (which we’d discussed beforehand), and it all felt really natural. I was involved too, probably about 65% him / 35% me. We had no idea about his stamina, and after about 3.5 hours she had to call it, and he still didn’t finish. The whole thing was wild. The connection, the energy, everything. It left us both on a bit of a dopamine high for days. It massively improved our own sex life and just left us wanting more. Even now I’ll randomly think back to certain moments or things that were said, and it hits in a really intense, good way. A few days later we arranged a second meet (this past Thursday). This time I said I wanted to try a bit of a cuckold dynamic, even if just briefly, just to see how it felt. So the plan was for him to take her upstairs for 15 minutes while I stayed downstairs. He also knew I wanted to try a cleanup. Other than that, no real structure. That 15 minutes… honestly one of the most intense feelings I’ve ever had. I lasted about 9 minutes before giving in and going upstairs, and they were very much enjoying their time together. We were there about 4 hours in total, and in that time I only briefly had sex with her twice. There was a fair bit of bi play (me with him), and even the parts I wasn’t sure I’d enjoy, like the cleanup, turned out to be something I was really into. After that, when it was my turn again, I didn’t last long at all. So, if you’ve made it this far, here’s what I’d really like some input on: When I first walked in, it was clear I wasn’t needed straight away, and I was okay with that. But for about half an hour I tried to get more involved with her, almost like I was looking for a turn… and they didn’t stop. I felt a twinge of jealousy and it caught me off guard. I pushed through it, and I’m really glad I did, because it passed and I realised they were just giving me exactly what I’d asked for. Has anyone got advice on how to handle that in the moment, or what mindset to keep during it? Also, where do we go from here? Any suggestions on things to try, or scenarios to explore next? Suggestions VERY welcome! I don’t think I’m quite ready for her to see him on her own yet, but it’s definitely a fantasy in the back of my mind. If anyone’s been there, I’d appreciate any advice on how to approach that step when the time feels right. Overall, we’re both really happy and comfortable with everything we’ve done so far. Honestly, we haven’t had this much sex or felt this connected in a long time, if ever, and meeting him has taken things to another level for us." Wow! There are so many things you’ve have said that I feel exactly the same about!! The dynamic between us is almost the same! The “I wasn’t needed” was a real turn on and a dynamic I am keen to repeat. I’m kinda responding on this thread hoping Mrs will know what you’ve had is exactly what I’d like! I know my ‘limitations’ and love her need and want for ‘extra’ but lack the confidence to let her go for it, it’s not the humiliation of the cuckold scene, it’s the acknowledgement of sexual fulfilment and the kink of knowing she’s being fulfilled that I like. The reclaim sex’ doesn’t need to be full on, just a ‘what we did’ talk in full, is what I like. As for scenarios - let her go out and come home sticky and knickerless and tell you all about it while looking you in the eyes then clean her up | |||
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