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By *rdnezz OP Man 1 day ago
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Over the past four days, I’d been having a really good conversation with someone. It flowed naturally—I was polite, a bit flirty, but always respectful. She told me she was attracted to me and genuinely interested, and since we live fairly close to each other, it all felt quite realistic.
We’d already exchanged face pictures and the attraction seemed mutual. Things became a bit more playful, and we shared some more intimate photos, which she said she enjoyed. Overall, it felt like we were building a good rapport and there was potential for something there.
Then, completely out of the blue today, I found I’d been blocked with no explanation.
I understand that’s entirely her prerogative, and I can accept rejection—but it’s the lack of any reason that’s hard to make sense of. Part of me wonders if it was accidental, though I’m not holding out much hope for that. I’d really appreciate hearing a woman’s perspective on this. |
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Speaking as a woman especially a married woman there can be lots of reasons.
But I think the most common reason is simply 'It got too real' and she got scared.
I think a lot of sexually frustrated women come on to Fabswingers and think it will just be a online flirting and they won't take it any further than that.
But when they realise that we are all (for the most part) nice normal people and meeting someone for sex or a social is a real thing that can easily be arranged.
They get scared.. I certainly did, at first.
I don't know the woman you were talking too. But it sounds like your the first man she talked too online that was polite and civil.
She might unblock you and get in contact again.
Xxx
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By *rdnezz OP Man 1 day ago
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"Speaking as a woman especially a married woman there can be lots of reasons.
But I think the most common reason is simply 'It got too real' and she got scared.
I think a lot of sexually frustrated women come on to Fabswingers and think it will just be a online flirting and they won't take it any further than that.
But when they realise that we are all (for the most part) nice normal people and meeting someone for sex or a social is a real thing that can easily be arranged.
They get scared.. I certainly did, at first.
I don't know the woman you were talking too. But it sounds like your the first man she talked too online that was polite and civil.
She might unblock you and get in contact again.
Xxx
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I hope it’s that she maybe just got cold feet and possibly a bit overwhelmed by the reality, but she had told me that it was something that she had done previously. |
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By *rdnezz OP Man 1 day ago
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"Possibly she felt she shared too much and regretted it"
That is a possibility, but I didn’t and never would put pressure on someone to share personal information or pictures, it was something that she did willingly, but I guess maybe she regretted it after. |
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As has been said on your other forum post, it was probably a man,but the fact you have posted this twice in different forms makes me think you're just trying too get noticed, so iam guessing it never actually happened! |
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By *rdnezz OP Man 1 day ago
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"As has been said on your other forum post, it was probably a man,but the fact you have posted this twice in different forms makes me think you're just trying too get noticed, so iam guessing it never actually happened!"
Looks as if it is you that is trying to get noticed, your guess was wrong, best you go back to bed and attempt to get out the other side with a nicer attitude |
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It could be anything. At the end of the day, you never know who your actually talking to until you meet in person. AI is advancing so much, that it's hard to keep up with it.
There will always be someone out there who are creating profiles and sending messages for kicks.
Or it may simply be, that she got cold feet.
If you same anything about it, your thr asshole. Just move on and hppe for the best |
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By *rdnezz OP Man 1 day ago
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"As has been said on your other forum post, it was probably a man,but the fact you have posted this twice in different forms makes me think you're just trying too get noticed, so iam guessing it never actually happened!"
You appear a little bit obsessed, sorry to disappoint you but you are not really my type, so will you stop messaging me |
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By *rdnezz OP Man 1 day ago
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"Your the one who threatened me,then blocked me!! "
I called you a troll because you kept messaging me, and then you continued so I told you to “jog on you melt” hardly threatening you, you buffoon
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OP, if the woman in question is the one from your status update, I wouldn't keep much hope. She didn't even bother to photo verify her profile (ok, it's not a requirement) and being a site supporter doesn't mean anything these days. It is all screaming that's not the person they claim to be, but I might just be too suspicious and cynical.
Another option is, if they are who they say they are, it did get too real (as another poster mentioned). Block back and move on? |
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OP you have created two threads about this, plus your status. It’s a bit strong tbh and makes me wonder if you were coming on too strong with her (you might not feel you did and of course it’s vet subjective).
She had her reasons, you likely won’t find out what they are. Move on. |
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By *rdnezz OP Man 1 day ago
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"OP you have created two threads about this, plus your status. It’s a bit strong tbh and makes me wonder if you were coming on too strong with her (you might not feel you did and of course it’s vet subjective).
She had her reasons, you likely won’t find out what they are. Move on."
In hindsight creating 2 separate threads about the same subject was probably not a great idea, and I have already been trolled by someone who was clearly triggered by this!
But we always want to try to better ourselves, and if I had done something wrong or offended her in someway, I would have wanted to know.
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"OP you have created two threads about this, plus your status. It’s a bit strong tbh and makes me wonder if you were coming on too strong with her (you might not feel you did and of course it’s vet subjective).
She had her reasons, you likely won’t find out what they are. Move on.
In hindsight creating 2 separate threads about the same subject was probably not a great idea, and I have already been trolled by someone who was clearly triggered by this!
But we always want to try to better ourselves, and if I had done something wrong or offended her in someway, I would have wanted to know.
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I understand, I’d feel the same way. But unless she tells you you’ll never know, and no smiling of conjecture will help you. What you’ll get is a roster of conjecture which comes up every time such as it was a man etc. In done cases that’s what it is, but it’s not too useful. All I’m saying is spend your every elsewhere. If she wants to talk again it’s on her now to get in contact.
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From our experience of this it is always people who ended up being fakers or those that simply bottled it and block to avoid the outcomes of that
It’s a part of being in here that even the best interactions can end up nowhere |
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No-one can answer the question except the person concerned.
The gamut of reasons has already been covered but as has been pointed out above, it's all conjecture.
Chalk it down to experience and move on.
We all approach Fab differently but there's no way on God's green earth I'd be sending intimate photos or having more explicit exchanges of messages within four days and certainly not without having met in person. Even if it was my thing - and it's not - I find a cautious and measured approach gives a certain protection.
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By *rdnezz OP Man 24 hours ago
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"From our experience of this it is always people who ended up being fakers or those that simply bottled it and block to avoid the outcomes of that
It’s a part of being in here that even the best interactions can end up nowhere "
I still don’t believe that they are fake, and I know they are still active on here, I’m guessing they just had a change of heart, it’s just trying to understand why |
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Well, if she is still on here, she is welcome to message me to explain what really happened.
I'm always up for a good laugh or some juicy gossip or, maybe, the true story.
I promise to keep it to myself! |
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By *rdnezz OP Man 24 hours ago
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"No-one can answer the question except the person concerned.
The gamut of reasons has already been covered but as has been pointed out above, it's all conjecture.
Chalk it down to experience and move on.
We all approach Fab differently but there's no way on God's green earth I'd be sending intimate photos or having more explicit exchanges of messages within four days and certainly not without having met in person. Even if it was my thing - and it's not - I find a cautious and measured approach gives a certain protection.
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I guess it depends on your definition of intimate pictures, the majority of profiles contain multiple pictures that people would never show on their social media profiles |
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We should expect not to know, with most of the promising starts that suddenly change or stop. It's the nature of no strings sex, that people are not psychologically engaged, in the ways that we're more used to doing.
There's no expectation that others get anything other than 'no', usually by inference, from being blocked or communication stopping.
It's a potentially hard jolt. |
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"No-one can answer the question except the person concerned.
The gamut of reasons has already been covered but as has been pointed out above, it's all conjecture.
Chalk it down to experience and move on.
We all approach Fab differently but there's no way on God's green earth I'd be sending intimate photos or having more explicit exchanges of messages within four days and certainly not without having met in person. Even if it was my thing - and it's not - I find a cautious and measured approach gives a certain protection.
I guess it depends on your definition of intimate pictures, the majority of profiles contain multiple pictures that people would never show on their social media profiles "
Again I can only speak for myself, and to clarify, I meant anything beyond what I've already deemed enough to share on my profile.
The point I was making though was about caution and not being so quick to move to more with a total stranger.
Maybe since she was reasonably local a social meet up would have been a safer option. |
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By *rdnezz OP Man 24 hours ago
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"No-one can answer the question except the person concerned.
The gamut of reasons has already been covered but as has been pointed out above, it's all conjecture.
Chalk it down to experience and move on.
We all approach Fab differently but there's no way on God's green earth I'd be sending intimate photos or having more explicit exchanges of messages within four days and certainly not without having met in person. Even if it was my thing - and it's not - I find a cautious and measured approach gives a certain protection.
I guess it depends on your definition of intimate pictures, the majority of profiles contain multiple pictures that people would never show on their social media profiles
Again I can only speak for myself, and to clarify, I meant anything beyond what I've already deemed enough to share on my profile.
The point I was making though was about caution and not being so quick to move to more with a total stranger.
Maybe since she was reasonably local a social meet up would have been a safer option."
I had suggested that it would be best to meet socially and see if we both felt that we had a connection, prior to anything happening |
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"No-one can answer the question except the person concerned.
The gamut of reasons has already been covered but as has been pointed out above, it's all conjecture.
Chalk it down to experience and move on.
We all approach Fab differently but there's no way on God's green earth I'd be sending intimate photos or having more explicit exchanges of messages within four days and certainly not without having met in person. Even if it was my thing - and it's not - I find a cautious and measured approach gives a certain protection.
I guess it depends on your definition of intimate pictures, the majority of profiles contain multiple pictures that people would never show on their social media profiles
Again I can only speak for myself, and to clarify, I meant anything beyond what I've already deemed enough to share on my profile.
The point I was making though was about caution and not being so quick to move to more with a total stranger.
Maybe since she was reasonably local a social meet up would have been a safer option.
I had suggested that it would be best to meet socially and see if we both felt that we had a connection, prior to anything happening "
How was that received?
Perhaps it might be useful to hold off and kept the chat neutral until that?
I kinda feel like you just want to hear that she got cold feet and that she'll realise that was a mistake and get back in touch. The likelihood, harsh as it might seem, is that whoever it was - man or woman - got what they wanted from the more intimate exchanges and moved on to the next person, or there was a misstep that immediately put them off. And you can either learn from that or continue as you were risking the same thing happening over and over again.
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Hi op,
It sounds like she got what she wanted from the pics, chats.
Maybe she wasnt who she claimed to be too so wouldn't have been able to meet you in reality.
Try not to drive yourself crazy thinking of all the reasons. It happens on here.
She could have just changed her mind.
I don't do intimate chats /pic swaps unless I've met someone, as its what many on here want, to just get themselves off. |
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Hey I'd been chatting to someone for 2 months. They had a family emergency for a week I stayed in gentle emotional support contact and the day they arrived home they asked for a photo I didnt send one and I got blocked.. They weren't photo verified either.
Is what it is. Is what it was. |
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