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Bringing wife to the lifestyle
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"If wife doesn't want to hear anything about swinging or group sex. How do I bring her to the lifestyle? "
Is that your wife in the pics on your profile? Considering she wants nothing to do with the lifestyle, it seems odd that she's happy to have her pics there. |
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If someone not interested there's nothing you can do.
Works both ways I was chatting one day a vanilla friend that knows what me and ex did . She tried to suggest it to man she was living with. He was very very against it Ie no gf of his going with anyone else.
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By *amsoonMan 3 weeks ago
Stornoway |
"You respect her wishes and don't. Of course that is the morally correct answer. I say get on your knees and beg and grovel. Totally humiliate yourself. Then fuck her and cum within 30 seconds proving yourself as a totally inadequate lover.
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"If wife doesn't want to hear anything about swinging or group sex. How do I bring her to the lifestyle? "
Its all about bringing her along in the journey and explaining what you want and woul like..sometimes people put up the walls too quick without looking at what you really want against the perceived reality
My wife was the most prudish women u could meet and then introduced her to my best mate and she became a cock slut literally!!!
Not always black and white |
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When me and ex wife first got into it.
We very much thought soft swing watch others maybe in time we let other watch
We talked about things turned us on etc. We read adds together joking looking at others adds and pics, then having good sex together.
We first put a add to see if even got a reply just for fun of that,but all was done at her speed ,same as first time did meet a couple it was very much we just see how far we go no guarantees we will do anything. I think sometimes suggesting swinging can sound like I want fuck others not I want us to have fun together. |
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"If wife doesn't want to hear anything about swinging or group sex. How do I bring her to the lifestyle?
Its all about bringing her along in the journey and explaining what you want and woul like..sometimes people put up the walls too quick without looking at what you really want against the perceived reality
My wife was the most prudish women u could meet and then introduced her to my best mate and she became a cock slut literally!!!
Not always black and white"
I think not wanting to hear anything about it is pretty black and white.
What is it with some men who can't accept their partner's how they are, always trying to change them 🤷♀️ |
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By *irsSubCouple 3 weeks ago
Stockton |
Let her know your feelings and respect hers. Her saying she isn't interested can mean two things 1, it's never going to happen or 2, it's not got happen now but she needs to process it. Either way respect her decision.
If it's number 2, pushing and nagging will make it less likely to happen and probably make your monogamous sex life worse. So just enjoy her |
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we eased into the lifestyle after playing with an older couple we met on holiday when we were younger. it was very social and we became friends quickly then one thing lead to another. this is why we enjoy the social element of the lifestyle a lot x |
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You don’t I was in the lifestyle before I met my wife she has known interest at all in it so I still play solo when I can and yes it with under the radar from her, I wish it wasn’t but that’s life and I have to be 😔 |
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"If wife doesn't want to hear anything about swinging or group sex. How do I bring her to the lifestyle? "
Simply dont. This game is like a partnership. Both parties have to enjoy and be at ease, otherwise it will not ever work. Leave it be.
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If she has made it very clear it’s not for her then you just have to accept it.
I gather when you first met and fell in love it was just you two so you were happy with that then. I’ve always said to my partner what happens if I don’t want to do it anymore and he simply said we would just stop as your my number one. That’s the kind of energy a relationship should have. Embrace your wife that you love. |
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Show her your profile and pic's I'm sure she'll let you know exactly how she feels.
Good luck with the divorce 
Respect is everything as is consent, expect the consequences if you don't follow these rules. |
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guys on here need to understand that the amount of women who will have zero interest in these lifestyles is extremely low not even in the 1% more like 0.01% its very very low...just see how few women are online and then bare in mind half are men pretending to be women and then many are not here to meet just use the online social side .
couples are very very close relationships that develop with opem minded views these are again rare not as rare as single women but far and few in between ...
men look and see couples and then just think they are doing so shuld we.. not only that you guys marry these women uou should know them inside out but few do ... push her into the lifestyle and she will 100% break the marriage up seen it so many times people get into swinging for the wrong reasons = break up |
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"If wife doesn't want to hear anything about swinging or group sex. How do I bring her to the lifestyle? "
You respect her wishes and don’t try to pressure her into it.
It always amazes me what men think sounds acceptable to say out loud. You asked, she said no.
Either accept it and move on together. Or let her find someone who respects her and be with them |
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"Mine used to swing then stopped when that happens its hard to get her to start again"
I can absolutely see why this is the case. It is rare to have good sex on a first encounter. It takes time to learn a body and so many guys don’t respond well to guidance/gentle encouragement. It doesn’t take many poor interactions to put one off, especially when it’s great with your actual partner. It’s just not worth the effort/mental load. |
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"If wife doesn't want to hear anything about swinging or group sex. How do I bring her to the lifestyle? "
The answer to your question is kind of in your question. How likely do think someone who wants nothing to do with a thing will do said thing?
Sounds like you've approached this conversation with her? Sometimes how you go about that can make all the difference. How does she feel about your participation in this lifestyle? |
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By *aandLoCouple 2 days ago
Southampton |
"I am being pressurised into it
But I think it's just an excuse for him to fuck others "
That sounds awful for you. Don't let yourself be pressured. It's likely to end in disaster for you both.
It's just sex at the end of the day, and should not be the defining factor of your relationship. Xx |
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