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So many questions...
Is your wife aware you're on here?
Is she aware of your fantasy around cuckolding?
Also, saying this very gently, you cannot persuade anyone to agree to anything if they don't want to. |
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Have been both cuck and regular bull and also a couple of one offs as extra man. Only works if both totally on and not doing just to please the other. Cuck needs to be strong generally despite being feeble when being cucked. Had a very good situation with a hot wife and cuck but he was weak and it got messy. When I was the cuck in a very solid relationship it was fucking amazing, the pangs of jealousy and watching your wife being filthy was incredible |
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We’ve been a cuckold couple for most of our long and happy marriage. We believe it to be an ideal lifestyle for many couples who might otherwise either separate or ‘live lives of quiet desperation’ .
But as already said , both have to be comfortable with it. And there need to be rules and lines which both adhere to. These are as important as most people regard fidelity itself within a conventional marriage, but probably much easier to stick to! |
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I have met and played with several cuckold couples both long and short term and in differing scenarios. OP seems far too interested in his own pleasure and prowess to be a true cuckold. I’m sure the stag/vixen setup would suit better. |
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I was a cuck for 7 years, the first time was a spontaneous thing, I had no idea she was going to suck our mate off in the back of the car while I was driving home, they were supposed to be watching a film lol |
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Communication is key. It only works if both of you are comfortable with it. If she isn’t into it, it’s a shit experience. But she is, and you realise it’s not all that fun watching her, not just fucking but getting ready for him, kissing him, and afterwards, etc. then you need to talk about it. It’s a bit of a genie in the bottle moment. You can’t go back once it’s happened.
But fuck me, it’s hot if you’re both into it and it can strengthen your relationship. |
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Always makes me laugh when guys on her say they've been a cuck and also a "bull" absolute nonsense in my opinion. Any true cuckold couldn't possibly switch to the roll as a bull.Once a cuck always a cuck .. |
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I've lived the cuck lifestyle for over 8 years now, we have a mixed race son due to my wife's infidelity.
We separated at the time but I found I can't live without her.
I have always struggled to maintain erections and as years go on erectile disfunction sets in too.
We both love each other but my wife is 14 years younger and has a much higher sex drive of which I cannot satisfy.
We have agreement where she can see others for sex but always returns home to me at end of the night.
Marriage is not just sex, it's friendship, commitment and being able to talk and love each other.
My wife only uses other men for sex and she openly tells me about them comparing one against the other, I guess we are close friends rather than husband and wife?
Very difficult to explain at times but once you get over the jealousy life becomes easier.
And before you say there won't be jealousy trust me, you will wonder how big the other men are, how much deeper they can reach and how long they can last, it all goes through your head.
But if you realise you're wife always returns to you, always tells you that she loves you more than ever for letting her fuck other men and when she says its just sex, and it's me she loves then a cuckold lifestyle can really work.
8 years now and she always comes home to me.
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If you love someone, set them Free, if they always return to you then you know that you have something special |
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"Always makes me laugh when guys on her say they've been a cuck and also a "bull" absolute nonsense in my opinion. Any true cuckold couldn't possibly switch to the roll as a bull.Once a cuck always a cuck .."
Yep. I agree. When I read stuff like this, I just think “you just wanna get laid, mate. Pick a side.” |
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"Always makes me laugh when guys on her say they've been a cuck and also a "bull" absolute nonsense in my opinion. Any true cuckold couldn't possibly switch to the roll as a bull.Once a cuck always a cuck .."
100% agree |
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first off op there are 2 kinds of cuckold one is real lifestyle the other is roleplay both very very different,
ive be cuck to my wife from our first dare basically we told each other everything from both being bi to my sexual ''problems'' on that night i vasicall shot my load before i entered her so long story short she called in the guy she was fucking for awhile to get what she wanted.
see ive a small cock use to struggle with erections and a long tiome ago became completely full time limp add in to that mix im a pre jac too so i was never going to light a womans fire as i knew with girlfriends be fore mrs and on the bi side erections did not matter as i was ,ostly limp,
i met mrs 1988 thats how long ive been cuck we are a strong together loving couple and yes she gets her sex fun with others and i get my kicks too.
i would guess at least 80% of cuckold couples are roleplay 20% real |
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"she knows i am here and aware ablut my fantasy"
If she knows you're on here and knows you want to be fucked then you just need to have a good conversation about it.
Either she'll be into it or she won't be. If she's not then you need to decide if you want it more than you want her.
We discuss and fantasise about every meet before AND after. The conversations and the excited sex that comes after it are actually more fun than most of the nets and will often go on for weeks or months.
I hope she's interested x |
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" When I was the cuck in a very solid relationship it was fucking amazing, the pangs of jealousy and watching your wife being filthy was incredible "
Absolutely correct. The Cuckold must be strong and confident, and his relationship with his wife, solid. |
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" When I was the cuck in a very solid relationship it was fucking amazing, the pangs of jealousy and watching your wife being filthy was incredible
Absolutely correct. The Cuckold must be strong and confident, and his relationship with his wife, solid."
100% agree real cuckold couples are solid together loving couples  |
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alot who think they are cuckold are not alot are just hot-wife couples ...wanting to see your wife with other men on its own is not cuckolding its much much more than that ..unless its roleplay and with roleplay you do as you wish i guess |
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"Would love to try our first cockuld scene with my wife but I'm not sure how I'm going to agree her to it."
once you’re both sure you want a cuckold lifestyle , find yourself a good understanding that also fits in with what you want , most men will say they’re a bull just to get your wife in bed , I’ve been a bull for several couples on here and will always meet first socially to find out exactly how they both react and feel
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By *aandLoCouple 1 week ago
Southampton |
"alot who think they are cuckold are not alot are just hot-wife couples ...wanting to see your wife with other men on its own is not cuckolding its much much more than that ..unless its roleplay and with roleplay you do as you wish i guess "
This was what I thought as I was reading the thread.
People interpret labels differently. And too be fair most of us have elements of different dynamics while not being fully invested.
We've had guys infer Ja is cuckold simply because we like MFM and I will meet a guy solo once we all know one another. Hence, the need to put it explicitly in our profile: he is not at all.
It shouldn't really matter to anyone though unless they are connecting with that individual 🤷 |
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Amanda and I had cuckolding as a shared fantasy for many years. We go a lot further in the fantasy cuckolding than we have, or plan to, in real life. Fantasy is a good place to try it out without any major risks to you as a couple. If you can get to this stage with your wife or partner, you have already got a lot. Don't ruin it by pushing to far or too fast to make it real; it took us probably 5 years. |
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"Amanda and I had cuckolding as a shared fantasy for many years. We go a lot further in the fantasy cuckolding than we have, or plan to, in real life. Fantasy is a good place to try it out without any major risks to you as a couple. If you can get to this stage with your wife or partner, you have already got a lot. Don't ruin it by pushing to far or too fast to make it real; it took us probably 5 years."
How far is too far? |
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Okay, before you even think about cuckolding, I’m guessing that your wife doesn’t know about Fab (hence the single profile), ergo, she doesn’t know you’re shagging other people (if the women in your photos aren’t your wife).
If that woman *is* your wife, however, and she doesn’t know about Fab, you’ve uploaded photos of her, without her consent, which is illegal.
My advice would be to get that all sorted before even having that cuckolding conversation with your wife. |
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"So many questions...
Is your wife aware you're on here?
Is she aware of your fantasy around cuckolding?
Also, saying this very gently, you cannot persuade anyone to agree to anything if they don't want to. "
I agree am doubting about wife knowing, he could be a new jeremy kyle show😀 |
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You need to be open and honest with her. You need to understand if she is interested in playing and with cuckold. It would help if you have a couples profile and then look together. Your wife needs to be involved, I understand it a strong feeling and you have cuckold to fantasies , by they may have to stay as those frustrating erotic thoughts, if she doesn't share the same curious side to playing with others. |
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I’m seeing such an uptick in these kinds of posts but as a Vixen, and from my perspective.
Sex with guys is rarely good the first time. It takes time to learn a body.
Guys think, just because a woman can get lots of sex, that they want it. But the training and nudging and potential fallout from weak egos and guys who are not great is just not worth the time, effort or cost quite frankly. If you have steak at home, why go out for luncheon meat? (I only do group and clubs because the odds of finding a good one is far higher. It’s a numbers game).
Equally if you have a weak ego/luncheon meat at home, and they don’t know that they are and you find steak and have the best time it’s a double edged sword as now they know and it can mess with the stable home life. It’s a zero sum game for many women.
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Wow, all the replies on this subject I’m finding very interesting. I’m looking for keywords so I could say something to my wife, but I’m sure there’s a lot of husbands out. There are looking for the same thing. We’re always looking for the magic word without losing faith if you know what I mean thank you all for sharing your perspective on this my favorite subject. Xx |
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"Perhaps chat about it first and join Fab as a couple, so you can explore the scene together and see how you both feel."
Good advice, always adventure together.
Our journey happened pretty much by accident but we did that journey together.
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"Communication is key. It only works if both of you are comfortable with it. If she isn’t into it, it’s a shit experience. But she is, and you realise it’s not all that fun watching her, not just fucking but getting ready for him, kissing him, and afterwards, etc. then you need to talk about it. It’s a bit of a genie in the bottle moment. You can’t go back once it’s happened.
But fuck me, it’s hot if you’re both into it and it can strengthen your relationship. "
Oh yes definitely agree and once the genie out of the bottle certainly progresses to much more cuckold type activities |
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From a cuck prospective it's something that you both have to be comfortable doing it's very intimate and very personal
Experienced cuck sub to serve a bull and those couples & clean up
I wanna be made to lick a clit while you fuck it .. pull out now and then make me taste that pussy off your cock |
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Oh yes definitely agree and once the genie out of the bottle certainly progresses to much more cuckold type activities "
I think it's as much about confidence and a couple feeling safe to explore more ideas which have been confined to fantasy to that point. |
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Oh yes definitely agree and once the genie out of the bottle certainly progresses to much more cuckold type activities
I think it's as much about confidence and a couple feeling safe to explore more ideas which have been confined to fantasy to that point."
Absolutely, the couple have to be very solid and comfortable with each other and what they have agreed to try.  |
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Looking for the way forward (How did we become a cuckold couple)
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"Rachel and I are a very close married couple that share everything together, our love is strong and cuckolding had given us something we both needed. We don't live the fantasy type of cuckolding that you see in cuckold movies, we are doing it to help us have a good sexlife when we have age related problems such as Erectile Dysfunction.”
So for years now I have wondered where I'm heading with my sexual desires and needs, so I'm going to try and write some of my thoughts and realities of life with Rachel my wife down to see what sense I can make of it. So let's start off to where Rachel and I are at right now. We are currently a cuckold couple as to my understanding of the term cuckold, Rachel has a regular boyfriend we see about once a month and also sees the odd other guy from time to time when ever her mood takes her. We came about doing this for a number of reasons, it was a joint decision at every step of the way, we would talk about it and table our ideas of what we would like to try and for what we would like to see happen with each other. What was pushing us down this route was as I was getting older I started to loose my power of getting good erections which was having an effect me, myself confidence was draining away because of it. However I didn't want to stop Rachel from have fun with men just because I'm not able to give her what she wants, Rachel has a good sex drive and I'm learning that she is a very multi orgasmic wife nowadays more so then when we were younger. But I need to be involved in some way that fits the criteria I don't want to be left out I think that would hurt me. We have agreed that it will always be a 3way dynamic and I will always play a role one way or the other even if that means they will frustrate me. But then there is cuckolding and there is cuckolding so which is the one that would suit us the best. Rachel likes the loving tender side of sex with kissing and good communication, not a wham bam thank you man, she also wants one on one time with her Bull, I'm getting used to that idea after all I need to see it all as a replacement to me and what I can't give her nowadays myself. We have been cuckolding now for a a number of years so we are getting some idea of what works and what don't work. We found out early on that if I get over involved with what happens then I tend to take over which puts people off including Rachel, I'm a strong minded successful guy who found it hard to keep out of it at first but I'm getting better now. So we needed a set of rules that we both keep to which gives Rachel the freedom to have the men she wants at the same time as having to keep me somehow involved but under some sort of control. You could say we have formed a D/s form of cuckolding, which I think is what cuckolding is anyway.
Then strangely I found that when Rachel started to order me to do something I found it exciting. The one time Rachel her Bull and I went to chameleons swingers club They went into the couples only room where I the husband was told by Rachel I was not allowed to go in, I was made to
watch them through the dark window. When they came out they told me to tell people who walked past that Rachel was my wife and she was getting fucked by her Bull, I would never of dreamt in a million years that would have excited me but it did. Its the fact that they are controlling me that excited me not so much of what they are telling me to do I think.
People talk about the humiliation side of cuckolding, Rachel is not really interested in humiliating me and her boyfriend is too nice a guy to want to risk any sort of fallout. but as time goes on one thing is starting to become clear, these elements have a purpose and need to be tried, its a form of control and helps turn it into a game or role-play, I feel I need to be pushed and to be made to try new things I like a challenge. So thats where we are now, trying new things.
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"I've lived the cuck lifestyle for over 8 years now, we have a mixed race son due to my wife's infidelity.
We separated at the time but I found I can't live without her.
I have always struggled to maintain erections and as years go on erectile disfunction sets in too.
We both love each other but my wife is 14 years younger and has a much higher sex drive of which I cannot satisfy.
We have agreement where she can see others for sex but always returns home to me at end of the night.
Marriage is not just sex, it's friendship, commitment and being able to talk and love each other.
My wife only uses other men for sex and she openly tells me about them comparing one against the other, I guess we are close friends rather than husband and wife?
Very difficult to explain at times but once you get over the jealousy life becomes easier.
And before you say there won't be jealousy trust me, you will wonder how big the other men are, how much deeper they can reach and how long they can last, it all goes through your head.
But if you realise you're wife always returns to you, always tells you that she loves you more than ever for letting her fuck other men and when she says its just sex, and it's me she loves then a cuckold lifestyle can really work.
8 years now and she always comes home to me.
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If you love someone, set them Free, if they always return to you then you know that you have something special "
My wife saw her lover yesterday and hopefully that's her satisfied for another few weeks |
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"We always play stag vixen but we would love to try cuckold stag hotwife although never found a “genuine” bull who can pull it off."
This is exactly why we've created this event, we have previously struggled to find decent single guys with the right amount of understanding of the lifestyle to play with.
I've since been hosting events at Liberty Elite and have been building some good contacts which I can now bring to this event for you all! |
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"first off op there are 2 kinds of cuckold one is real lifestyle the other is roleplay both very very different,
ive be cuck to my wife from our first dare basically we told each other everything from both being bi to my sexual ''problems'' on that night i vasicall shot my load before i entered her so long story short she called in the guy she was fucking for awhile to get what she wanted.
see ive a small cock use to struggle with erections and a long tiome ago became completely full time limp add in to that mix im a pre jac too so i was never going to light a womans fire as i knew with girlfriends be fore mrs and on the bi side erections did not matter as i was ,ostly limp,
i met mrs 1988 thats how long ive been cuck we are a strong together loving couple and yes she gets her sex fun with others and i get my kicks too.
i would guess at least 80% of cuckold couples are roleplay 20% real"
We have become the same at you and agree, lifestyle cuckolding has its place in some marriages. We understand your problems and applaud your actions. |
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"I've lived the cuck lifestyle for over 8 years now, we have a mixed race son due to my wife's infidelity.
We separated at the time but I found I can't live without her.
I have always struggled to maintain erections and as years go on erectile disfunction sets in too.
We both love each other but my wife is 14 years younger and has a much higher sex drive of which I cannot satisfy.
We have agreement where she can see others for sex but always returns home to me at end of the night.
Marriage is not just sex, it's friendship, commitment and being able to talk and love each other.
My wife only uses other men for sex and she openly tells me about them comparing one against the other, I guess we are close friends rather than husband and wife?
Very difficult to explain at times but once you get over the jealousy life becomes easier.
And before you say there won't be jealousy trust me, you will wonder how big the other men are, how much deeper they can reach and how long they can last, it all goes through your head.
But if you realise you're wife always returns to you, always tells you that she loves you more than ever for letting her fuck other men and when she says its just sex, and it's me she loves then a cuckold lifestyle can really work.
8 years now and she always comes home to me.
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If you love someone, set them Free, if they always return to you then you know that you have something special "
A good cuckold couple should be full of love for eachother, Rachel and I have been lifestyle cuckold now for more years than I can remember and it's only made us closure to eachother. |
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"Would love to try our first cockuld scene with my wife but I'm not sure how I'm going to agree her to it. once you’re both sure you want a cuckold lifestyle , find yourself a good understanding that also fits in with what you want , most men will say they’re a bull just to get your wife in bed , I’ve been a bull for several couples on here and will always meet first socially to find out exactly how they both react and feel "
It would be true to say the so called 'Bull' will say anything to get into bed with a wife and not want to understand why this happens. In lifestyle cuckolding in most cases there is an under lying sexual problem with the husband, where he may feel quilty that he can not satisfy his wives needs, in my case its for a medical reasons. A true "Bull" will want to know how he can help the husband as much as he can satisfy the wife.
Comunication is key! |
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i think it is about what suits yourselves, your needs, desires etc.
perhaps there isnt a description that fits everyone at all. maybe that is the point.
what you think, feel and want is what is important.
find people to fit in with that and you will be happy with it. |
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"i think it is about what suits yourselves, your needs, desires etc.
perhaps there isnt a description that fits everyone at all. maybe that is the point.
what you think, feel and want is what is important.
find people to fit in with that and you will be happy with it."
Yes it is about what you are looking for but when it's 3 people you all must have a say. Sometimes it feels like a mix and match relationship. |
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By *rGenMan 19 hours ago
Nottingham |
I never really knew cuckold was a thing but many years ago my ex after a girls night confessed that a much younger lad she had close dance with had pressed his erection against her which had excited her and made her horny and wet...her d*unkenly telling me later that night really excited me and we fucked nearly all night whilst talking about what she wanted to do with him and I said fine as long as could watch and I encouraged her to flirt more with men and tell me about it.
That was the start of our adventures...eventually I was watching her with other men and loving the excitement but I wasn't allowed to be with other ladies when we went to clubs and that was the start of our problems...divorced now! |
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"I never really knew cuckold was a thing but many years ago my ex after a girls night confessed that a much younger lad she had close dance with had pressed his erection against her which had excited her and made her horny and wet...her d*unkenly telling me later that night really excited me and we fucked nearly all night whilst talking about what she wanted to do with him and I said fine as long as could watch and I encouraged her to flirt more with men and tell me about it.
That was the start of our adventures...eventually I was watching her with other men and loving the excitement but I wasn't allowed to be with other ladies when we went to clubs and that was the start of our problems...divorced now!"
Similar start with my wife getting into it but we also survived through it on and off over the years |
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