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By *hrishope OP Man 1 week ago
Southwick, Brighton |
Almost every time we are intimate, we both talk about the idea of another guy fucking her or her sucking him off, even DP. Which really turns us both on. However when I suggest we actually try it she is worried things will change and standard sex will no longer be enough for me.
Have others been here? Any advice? |
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"Almost every time we are intimate, we both talk about the idea of another guy fucking her or her sucking him off, even DP. Which really turns us both on. However when I suggest we actually try it she is worried things will change and standard sex will no longer be enough for me.
Have others been here? Any advice?"
Have you considered your wifes concern and do you think she may have a point?
Perhaps address that with her and have a conversation; how will you both feel after another man has been with her? Fantasy and reality don't always align. Best of luck. |
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By *hrishope OP Man 1 week ago
Southwick, Brighton |
Oh yeah completely, and I do understand her concerns... But where do we go from there?
I did think maybe we meet a guy in a public place for a drink and see how she feels. Or an adult spa just to see what we feel just being there. |
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You could just roleplay for a night out, imagine meeting a guy and talk about it and see if that stirs any thing positive or negative... bring that energy home and see if its hot, or not, then after that if youre both happt to, maybe then see about meeting a guy.
In our relationship we always go at the pace of the slower partner, either until comfortable or until we've had chance to talk and course correct. |
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Does she know about you on fab? I ask this because it swinging require complete openness and trust.
If you understand her concerns focus on addressing those before anything else and let her know it is absolutely ok if she says No.
Because before you can take the next step also be absolutely sure she is enthusiastically consenting and not just doing it to please you. |
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Lots of honest open communication.
We started by just sharing pics and chatting.
We found someone that allowed us to take our time and get to know him before we invited him round.
Shared her a few times now 😁 |
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"Almost every time we are intimate, we both talk about the idea of another guy fucking her or her sucking him off, even DP. Which really turns us both on. However when I suggest we actually try it she is worried things will change and standard sex will no longer be enough for me.
Have others been here? Any advice?"
Not every fantasy has to become a reality, I also think there is a huge difference talking about it and actually doing it. I think her reservations are perfectly normal and understandable.
You should talk about it and why you want to try it, what is it that you want to get out of the experience. Before we come a full swap couple we spoke and fantasied about it for about 18 months and then started of with soft swing and then talked about it again and it happened organically.
If I were you I’d listen to her concerns and work through them and don’t rush it, let it happen naturally.
I’d also suggest try going to clubs, it makes it so much easier |
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"Almost every time we are intimate, we both talk about the idea of another guy fucking her or her sucking him off, even DP. Which really turns us both on. However when I suggest we actually try it she is worried things will change and standard sex will no longer be enough for me.
Have others been here? Any advice?"
My honest opinion is that I believe her concerns are founded.
Is she aware you've started without her? |
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Being honest, it has to be something that you BOTH absolutely want. No middle ground just because you may want to more than she does. If there's trepidation on her part, but she perhaps wants to explore things further at a slower pace, then that's what you do.
With the greatest of respect, discuss it with your partner implicitly. There is no magic advice anyone can give you here to make it happen. |
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Every time we have sex , the subject of her being shared arises . However I now know its because she knows the idea really turns me on,in fact it really turns her on .
However the reality is that is a fantasy, and a very erotic one that we have been sharing for nearly 25 years and its never gone further.
I have broached the subject when we are not about to have sex and she is very dismissive and reiterates that its just a fantasy. So I accept that.... annoyingly |
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By *j188Couple 7 days ago
aberdeenshire |
"Being honest, it has to be something that you BOTH absolutely want. No middle ground just because you may want to more than she does. If there's trepidation on her part, but she perhaps wants to explore things further at a slower pace, then that's what you do.
With the greatest of respect, discuss it with your partner implicitly. There is no magic advice anyone can give you here to make it happen. "
This is probably the best advice anyone can give. |
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This is something that we are going through as well . I'm just sitting back and letting her take her time. She's very self conscious and also unsure how it will effect the relationship. I do hope we get to live it out but if not I'm happy to enjya naughty life with just her and I. |
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By *aandLoCouple 6 days ago
Southampton |
Have you told her you've set up a profile?
If you've set up the profile to cheat on her, why on earth would you consider swinging with her? You're starting from a position of disrespect and deception.
If the profile was so you could have a nose at the scene then you should do that together. It's what we did.
Our profile was hidden for about 6 months while we browsed profiles read forum posts, read club reviews and talked, and talked some more. We found a point in time that was right for us both, and an approach that we agreed on.
For us there has to be 100% open, honest conversation.
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Hi there, this isnt for everyone but works for me and my other half.
We had a couples profile on here a year or so ago and she didnt like all the cock pics and vulgar messages from certain individuals.
We started by talking about her past sexploits and she soon was enjoying telling me about them with how I was when we shagged and the orgasms I gave her.
She then told me about her old neighbour and that she had shagged him quite a few times over the years and he got back in touch a few months back.
This is where the trust and honesty come in, I feel she told me everything there was to know about their dynamic as a more FWB thing rather than an ex in a traditional sense, that it was a fun thing with no emotions attached.
They began texting and have met a couple of times for a drink and some fun at hers and she then tells me all about it when we meet up.
The sex is amazing between us and our connection has deepened since we took the plunge |
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By *uvs2snogMan 4 days ago
Now living in Spain |
I agree with most here and say fantasy and reality are very different- she may happily fantasise with you during sex as she knows how much it turns you on - knowing and seeing this hence turns her on - result is great sex !
My Mrs is the same- she’ll fantasise during sex of another woman ( normally someone we know ) joining her first with me watching and then joining in as she knows how much of a turn on it is. She has even snogged her in real life ( after a few vinos) as they know it turns me on
The reality here is that she has always said she could never share me and hence i have to accept that as I wouldn’t want to push it and spoil what we have
So other than the already mentioned suggestions I’d settle for the horny fantasies |
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"Almost every time we are intimate, we both talk about the idea of another guy fucking her or her sucking him off, even DP. Which really turns us both on. However when I suggest we actually try it she is worried things will change and standard sex will no longer be enough for me.
Have others been here? Any advice?"
Ditch her mate
Before you you ruin her perception of men forever |
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