Hi everyone!
We're a long-married couple, but complete beginners when it comes to swinging. To be honest, we've hit a bit of a dead end because we simply don't know where or how to start.
At first, we thought about trying an MMF threesome, but more recently we've been talking about meeting another couple too. The problem is that we know almost nothing about this world, and we're feeling more nervous than we'd like to admit.
We'd really appreciate any advice you can offer. Where do people usually meet? What's the best environment for first social meets? What do you normally talk about during that first meeting? Should you already discuss the possibility of playing together, fantasies, kinks, and boundaries, or is that something to leave until later?
For those of you with more experience, what do you pay the most attention to when deciding whether you're compatible with another person or couple? What topics are absolutely worth discussing beforehand, and how would you recommend organising everything so both sides feel comfortable?
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"Hi everyone!
We're a long-married couple, but complete beginners when it comes to swinging. To be honest, we've hit a bit of a dead end because we simply don't know where or how to start.
At first, we thought about trying an MMF threesome, but more recently we've been talking about meeting another couple too. The problem is that we know almost nothing about this world, and we're feeling more nervous than we'd like to admit.
We'd really appreciate any advice you can offer. Where do people usually meet? What's the best environment for first social meets? What do you normally talk about during that first meeting? Should you already discuss the possibility of playing together, fantasies, kinks, and boundaries, or is that something to leave until later?
For those of you with more experience, what do you pay the most attention to when deciding whether you're compatible with another person or couple? What topics are absolutely worth discussing beforehand, and how would you recommend organising everything so both sides feel comfortable?
Thanks in advance for any advice you can share!"
Hi welcome to the world of swinging
First you inbox has probably got 1000s messages already ,
A lot of people on here are dreaming and fake
Check out their verifications
Look out for blank profiles
You could start by clubs or nudist spas
Second don’t be forced in to anything your not comfortable with
Lastly if you get any of abuse on here ( there are the odd twats on here) report them
Happy fabbing you will love it x |
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Not had loads of experience with this but usually just meet for a coffee or a walk in the park. It often starts as polite small talk but if it goes well we often start talking about what we like and why we like it. It’s quite liberating actually talking openly with other people about it instead of keeping it a secret
Don’t do what we did once, met a couple at a hotel and had drinks and dinner together. Got steadily more pissed and did it realise how loud we were discussing what we liked and why we liked swinging  |
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It's nerve wracking isn't it.
What is say is discuss things between yourself and get boundaries in place.
People meet in a variety of places, their home, the other persons home, an hotel or a club.
We met for socials in a bar, pub or coffee shop. We didn't talk to obviously about sex stuff because we didn't want to embarrass other people. It was more to establish if we got along and were attracted to each other. The other stuff could be sorted via message or if you can go somewhere more private but boundaries are best established as soon as you agree to meet for sex.
You'll just know if you're compatible or not, you don't need a tick list. We always said if one of us said no we both did.
The topics worth discussing are boundaries, boundaries, boundaries.
I think organising for everyone's comfort really depends on the people involved.
Two things I can't emphasise enough are
Never take one for the team
Anyone can say no at any point and everyone stops.
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Check the forums for organised socials. Not sure about where you are but near us there are lots of pubs and clubs socials - you can chat to like minded people with no pressure and see if you click. |
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I would say go to a social meet and see that we are normal people and nothing to be scared or worried about. No pressure to play and who knows you may enjoy yourselves too.
A club visit would be a good step but this is a huge step for the less confident.
Tiny steps to begin with. |
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