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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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A lady I'm playing with is becoming increasingly curious about anal sex, however she's never tried it before and neither have I.
In fact the furthest she's gone in that respect is getting rimmed, which she enjoys, though only when she's extremely horny.
I'm thinking the best way to ensure she enjoys her first time is to start (following extensive douching!) with a lengthy full body massage with warm oil, to relax her..eventually focussing on her bottom. Oral to get her as horny as can be...before massaging her arse even more...particularly her hole....perhaps inserting a finger inside, gently and not at all deeply. After further massage of the bum cheeks and hole, gently mounting her and slowly easing inside, though not the entire length..gyrating slowly..but not going in all the way...listening to her and feeling how she reacts to my movements.
Sounds good in theory, but since I'm by no means an expert, any useful advice would be most appreciated.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Well for a start don't use anything oil based on her bum as it won't do the condom any good when you get to that point. "
Ah!!! Hadn't considered that...need some water based lube for that then... Lovehoney it is!! |
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"Water based lube drys very quickly. U can get oil based and silicone based which r better. I personally use a silicone as it wont dry up as easily"
Got it..silicone it is. Will check out the reviews on LH to see what's most effective...
I'm thinking, once I enter, should I stay still and continue massaging...or are gentle small thrusts advisable?
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Firstly use lots and lots of lube, play with her ass with your finger gently and slowly pushing it in and out.
Eventually when she feels ready for your cock, rub it up and down her hole, gently and slowly ease the head in and out, be careful not to push in too deep in beginning until she gets used to it. Gradually ease it further until she can take her limit. Keep massaging and rubbing her ass. Always keep her well lubed.
Be warned If you do force it in or do too much too soon, it'll put her off. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Firstly use lots and lots of lube, play with her ass with your finger gently and slowly pushing it in and out.
Eventually when she feels ready for your cock, rub it up and down her hole, gently and slowly ease the head in and out, be careful not to push in too deep in beginning until she gets used to it. Gradually ease it further until she can take her limit. Keep massaging and rubbing her ass. Always keep her well lubed.
Be warned If you do force it in or do too much too soon, it'll put her off."
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Perfect, thank you! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ask her what she wants and how she wants it.. lol.. "
She wants anal sex, I just want to ensure she's absolutely ready...and i think I would rather be cautious and prepare her for it a few times without penetrating her with my cock at all.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Think this is the perfect approach, have fun, take your time and go with the reaction you get from the lady concerned. xx "
Thank you.. Learning new things and pitfalls ...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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From a purely mechanical perspective massaging etc won't do a lot tbh (maybe make you both horny etc do good)
We only use baby oil (no condoms needed)
Loads of it and, being a little graphic, my cock goes nowhere near Untill at least 2 fingers are comfortable
Remember the bum doesn't get 'wet' (well at least it shouldn't and if it does stay well clear)
Lube lube lube and use fingers or a toy first
We have a few glass dildos that do the trick
Oh and it's only fair to try it yourself
Obviously DON'T put your cock in the love tunnel straight after....repeat DONT
You know that I guess, sorry
Hath a bit
Have fun n relax
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Ps anal in a shower is good too |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"From a purely mechanical perspective massaging etc won't do a lot tbh (maybe make you both horny etc do good)
We only use baby oil (no condoms needed)
Loads of it and, being a little graphic, my cock goes nowhere near Untill at least 2 fingers are comfortable
Remember the bum doesn't get 'wet' (well at least it shouldn't and if it does stay well clear)
Lube lube lube and use fingers or a toy first
We have a few glass dildos that do the trick
Oh and it's only fair to try it yourself
Obviously DON'T put your cock in the love tunnel straight after....repeat DONT
You know that I guess, sorry
Hath a bit
Have fun n relax
X
Ps anal in a shower is good too"
The massage is just to relax her in general and get her to she'd the stresses of the day. Your advice is very interesting!
I wonder if glass butt plugs exist... Something small...
Thanks, once again! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"From a purely mechanical perspective massaging etc won't do a lot tbh (maybe make you both horny etc do good)
We only use baby oil (no condoms needed)
Loads of it and, being a little graphic, my cock goes nowhere near Untill at least 2 fingers are comfortable
Remember the bum doesn't get 'wet' (well at least it shouldn't and if it does stay well clear)
Lube lube lube and use fingers or a toy first
We have a few glass dildos that do the trick
Oh and it's only fair to try it yourself
Obviously DON'T put your cock in the love tunnel straight after....repeat DONT
You know that I guess, sorry
Hath a bit
Have fun n relax
X
Ps anal in a shower is good too
The massage is just to relax her in general and get her to she'd the stresses of the day. Your advice is very interesting!
I wonder if glass butt plugs exist... Something small...
Thanks, once again! "
Yes they do exist but can be expensive and be careful they don't break, wouldn't want a trip to a+e lol
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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I wonder if glass butt plugs exist... Something small...
Thanks, once again!
Yes they do exist but can be expensive and be careful they don't break, wouldn't want a trip to a+e lol
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Lol, the metal ones expensive too, and the weight may be off putting x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"From a purely mechanical perspective massaging etc won't do a lot tbh (maybe make you both horny etc do good)
We only use baby oil (no condoms needed)
Loads of it and, being a little graphic, my cock goes nowhere near Untill at least 2 fingers are comfortable
Remember the bum doesn't get 'wet' (well at least it shouldn't and if it does stay well clear)
Lube lube lube and use fingers or a toy first
We have a few glass dildos that do the trick
Oh and it's only fair to try it yourself
Obviously DON'T put your cock in the love tunnel straight after....repeat DONT
You know that I guess, sorry
Hath a bit
Have fun n relax
X
Ps anal in a shower is good too
The massage is just to relax her in general and get her to she'd the stresses of the day. Your advice is very interesting!
I wonder if glass butt plugs exist... Something small...
Thanks, once again! "
They do...we have a beautiful one...feels amazing and not that expensive from an online retailer...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I wonder if glass butt plugs exist... Something small...
Thanks, once again!
Yes they do exist but can be expensive and be careful they don't break, wouldn't want a trip to a+e lol
Lol, the metal ones expensive too, and the weight may be off putting x"
I don't think I'd like to use something that's cold and heavy lol x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Stainless steel ones on eBay for about £15
Oops...im talking about plugs
I would say don't get too hung up on it too
It will happen when it happens...just have fun enjoying each other...
Tesco disposable under sheets plus baby oil plus wrestling = fun...go with the flow
Winner gets to 'own' loser x
Have fun out there kids |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Stainless steel ones on eBay for about £15
Oops...im talking about plugs
I would say don't get too hung up on it too
It will happen when it happens...just have fun enjoying each other...
Tesco disposable under sheets plus baby oil plus wrestling = fun...go with the flow
Winner gets to 'own' loser x
Have fun out there kids"
Aha!! Sheets!! This takes both patience and planning!!! I'll just look for the tiniest plug I can find...x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Lol, the metal ones expensive too, and the weight may be off putting x
I don't think I'd like to use something that's cold and heavy lol x"
Lol...um me neither   |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
I have a rubber anal dildo which can be worn as a cock ring for dp but can be used solo. It's nicely tapered and good for warming up I use Liquid Silk lube. Never had a problem with it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have a rubber anal dildo which can be worn as a cock ring for dp but can be used solo. It's nicely tapered and good for warming up I use Liquid Silk lube. Never had a problem with it."
And liquid silk is okay with condoms?
I'm sure I've already got some ...for..creaky doors..and stuff ... |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"I have a rubber anal dildo which can be worn as a cock ring for dp but can be used solo. It's nicely tapered and good for warming up I use Liquid Silk lube. Never had a problem with it.
And liquid silk is okay with condoms?
I'm sure I've already got some ...for..creaky doors..and stuff ... "
Yes it's perfectly safe. Used it just this morning in fact. Doesn't dry out or get sticky like some. Durex and KY come to mind - awful lubes. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have a rubber anal dildo which can be worn as a cock ring for dp but can be used solo. It's nicely tapered and good for warming up I use Liquid Silk lube. Never had a problem with it.
And liquid silk is okay with condoms?
I'm sure I've already got some ...for..creaky doors..and stuff ...
Yes it's perfectly safe. Used it just this morning in fact. Doesn't dry out or get sticky like some. Durex and KY come to mind - awful lubes. "
Ah, I've just checked. It's called Maximus and has a similar looking bottle to liquid silk. I've never tried silicone lubes, though if I'm using a toy, it'd get ruined I imagine x |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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"I have a rubber anal dildo which can be worn as a cock ring for dp but can be used solo. It's nicely tapered and good for warming up I use Liquid Silk lube. Never had a problem with it.
And liquid silk is okay with condoms?
I'm sure I've already got some ...for..creaky doors..and stuff ...
Yes it's perfectly safe. Used it just this morning in fact. Doesn't dry out or get sticky like some. Durex and KY come to mind - awful lubes.
Ah, I've just checked. It's called Maximus and has a similar looking bottle to liquid silk. I've never tried silicone lubes, though if I'm using a toy, it'd get ruined I imagine x"
It never affects mine. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Best thing is to talk to her while you try, she may not like certain sensations that you have planned so just let her guide you on what she likes as you explore |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Best thing is to talk to her while you try, she may not like certain sensations that you have planned so just let her guide you on what she likes as you explore "
I'm well chuffed that she wants to try - and recognise that if we are to do it again, it's gotta be exactly how she wants it...not how I think she wants it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The first time a guy successfully managed this with me he played with my pussy loads before and while inserting his cock in my ass... it kinda distracted me from the pain!! A few guys had tried before him and I couldnt take the pain... now I LOVE it!! |
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Liquid silk is by far the best lube to use for anal so I hope you ordered that. I have tried a few and I love it. Remember to stimulate her clit while you penatrate her as that will give the pain of anal a much more pleasurable feeling
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By (user no longer on site)
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For me it's always a water based lube, I've found one on LH that doesn't dry I always prepare myself gently & once I can get 3 fingers in I know I'm good to go. I usually do this fiddling whilst the guy is busy with the oral etc. I've no idea how big you are but I found being on top & controlling the entry was better in the early days than doggy x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'd try the rubber finger style anal vibe too. I'm not much of an expert with anal. Hubby does it with me but apparently not correctly (he doesn't know I'm on here). He tends to just 'dig' himself in and I can't always take the pain. In fact I'm only up for it when using poppers!
I've only tried it doggy and my two bits of advice based on my limited experience is once your 'tip' is in, let the woman press back onto you so she is in control of how deep you go. And secondly if you do come out accidentally, don't just shove back straight away, be gentle. Try and stay in til you're finished. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My fb and I always purge with a water enema the night before anal too. Ive got the artsana enema kit from amazon which I can recommend. You don't want to bang yourself or your toys into anyone's bowels. That will really put you off x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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don't need a butt plug or anything like that. I've always found doggy style easiest as long as you're very slow with plenty of lube. let her push against you rather than the other way around. It'll take a good few minutes for her arse to relax before you can get it all in. Just don't start pumping away till she's ready. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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I order a lube called maximus, which I have used before..for 'manual' purposes... I've never tried a silicone lube yet.
Seems patience and gentle stimulation of a woman's body is the key. I've been told, to begin with, spooning may be the best position...but it'll take a few sessions of preparation before I dive in... I am planning on being meticulous so in the end, the pleasure she feels is most exquisite |
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"I personally don't like anal in doggy position, the angle is all wrong. I much prefer it with me on top, then I can control what is going on. "
I find its best also for the woman to be on top and take it at her pace. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I order a lube called maximus, which I have used before..for 'manual' purposes... I've never tried a silicone lube yet.
Seems patience and gentle stimulation of a woman's body is the key. I've been told, to begin with, spooning may be the best position...but it'll take a few sessions of preparation before I dive in... I am planning on being meticulous so in the end, the pleasure she feels is most exquisite "
Don't assume she'll enjoy it, some don't. I've had it done to me and found it bloody uncomfortable lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I order a lube called maximus, which I have used before..for 'manual' purposes... I've never tried a silicone lube yet.
Seems patience and gentle stimulation of a woman's body is the key. I've been told, to begin with, spooning may be the best position...but it'll take a few sessions of preparation before I dive in... I am planning on being meticulous so in the end, the pleasure she feels is most exquisite "
Try ID backslide lube its silicon and contains ingredients that loosen and relax the anal muscles. Some anal lube just numbs the area which can be dangerous. |
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"If you don't want to dive straight in with your cock...maybe try a buttplug??
Just keep hold of it or you may loose the bugger. Believe me I know  "
Oh lord... How did you get it out?? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I order a lube called maximus, which I have used before..for 'manual' purposes... I've never tried a silicone lube yet.
Seems patience and gentle stimulation of a woman's body is the key. I've been told, to begin with, spooning may be the best position...but it'll take a few sessions of preparation before I dive in... I am planning on being meticulous so in the end, the pleasure she feels is most exquisite
Try ID backslide lube its silicon and contains ingredients that loosen and relax the anal muscles. Some anal lube just numbs the area which can be dangerous."
Sounds really good... I've had a look, it's not cheap...but has loads of good reviews. Thank you!! X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Can I just say .....
I always said it was a no entry area but over the last 5 months we have been using butt plugs, put one in then put your cock in pussy... Fantastic pleasure!
We use ky gel and lots of it, the best Xmas present I gave to my partner was letting him push his cock in my backside, we did not go full speed cos although it's was a nice feeling it was uncomfortable ... She is a very brave lady just letting you go in before using anything to prep, ie stretching ... Good luck hope it all goes well for you both |
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By (user no longer on site)
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A lady I'm playing with is becoming increasingly curious about anal sex, however she's never tried it before and neither have I.
In fact the furthest she's gone in that respect is getting rimmed, which she enjoys, though only when she's extremely horny.
I'm thinking the best way to ensure she enjoys her first time is to start (following extensive douching!) with a lengthy full body massage with warm oil, to relax her..eventually focussing on her bottom. Oral to get her as horny as can be...before massaging her arse even more...particularly her hole....perhaps inserting a finger inside, gently and not at all deeply. After further massage of the bum cheeks and hole, gently mounting her and slowly easing inside, though not the entire length..gyrating slowly..but not going in all the way...listening to her and feeling how she reacts to my movements.
Sounds good in theory, but since I'm by no means an expert, any useful advice would be most appreciated.
Apologies for duplicate thread "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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I can't wait!!
Me neither...it's not easy as they make it look in the films!
Their probably used to doing it god knows how many times a day! "
Lol, so true. A case of having too much of a good thing... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I can't wait!!
Me neither...it's not easy as they make it look in the films!
Their probably used to doing it god knows how many times a day!
Lol, so true. A case of having too much of a good thing..."
Depends who it's with |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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I can't wait!!
Me neither...it's not easy as they make it look in the films!
Their probably used to doing it god knows how many times a day!
Lol, so true. A case of having too much of a good thing...
Depends who it's with"
With a lovely bottom like yours, only someone special would suffice |
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I can't wait!!
Me neither...it's not easy as they make it look in the films!
Their probably used to doing it god knows how many times a day!
Lol, so true. A case of having too much of a good thing...
Depends who it's with
With a lovely bottom like yours, only someone special would suffice "
Bury you're face in it first |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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I can't wait!!
Me neither...it's not easy as they make it look in the films!
Their probably used to doing it god knows how many times a day!
Lol, so true. A case of having too much of a good thing...
Depends who it's with
With a lovely bottom like yours, only someone special would suffice
Bury you're face in it first "
*licks lips, takes a deep breath, holds, and dives in.... Yum! |
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Tried and tested is Superdrug's own pump action water based lube. Totally different to other brands in that doesn't dry up and is excellent value for money! As good as any online brands for long-lasting lubed up for! |
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"Tried and tested is Superdrug's own pump action water based lube. Totally different to other brands in that doesn't dry up and is excellent value for money! As good as any online brands for long-lasting lubed up for!"
Gonna spend a fortune on lubricants at this rate!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'm eager to know the details of how it goes when you play. Must be the filthy pervert in me ; 0)
Keep us posted
T x"
No worries Will endeavour to. Thank you for your advice x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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all i can say is dont use vanilla fudge lube from ann summers lol it got everywhere everything was sticky and smelt like a sweet factory but on the plus side the anal was good |
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"all i can say is dont use vanilla fudge lube from ann summers lol it got everywhere everything was sticky and smelt like a sweet factory but on the plus side the anal was good "
Lol, did it taste like vanilla fudge? |
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"all i can say is dont use vanilla fudge lube from ann summers lol it got everywhere everything was sticky and smelt like a sweet factory but on the plus side the anal was good
Lol, did it taste like vanilla fudge? "
yes it did lol but i dont recommend it unless you have a real sweet tooth lol |
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"all i can say is dont use vanilla fudge lube from ann summers lol it got everywhere everything was sticky and smelt like a sweet factory but on the plus side the anal was good
Lol, did it taste like vanilla fudge? yes it did lol but i dont recommend it unless you have a real sweet tooth lol"
Lol, New Years resolutions: no to desserts and more anal naughtiness |
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"So refreshing to see a guy thinking of a lady and preparing properly so she doesn't feel uncomfortable!!!
You are a very rare breed lol a very lucky lady indeed"
I must confess to the reasons being partially selfish.. The more comfortable she is the more fun we can have.
Though, ultimately, treat others as you wish to be treated is the over riding factor in the choices I try to make x |
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