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verifications: a blessing or a curse?

By *ohnjones3210 OP Man over a year ago

Chester

Hey everyone,

So, I've got my veris and all that which is great. Most leave veris but not all.

But... I've noticed that I don't find it as easy to get replies as I used to. Ofcourse, most women blatantly ignore messages but I used to have such a high reply rate. That seems to have diminished somewhat!

So I'm thinking, what have I changed? Maybe I'm acting differently. But then I noticed that my veris show and that list has got bigger.

Ladies, does the amount of veris a guy has influence your _iew of him in a negative way?

I know that in some circumstances, women hate to think they are one of many. In other circumstances, women love to have a man who has socialised and been accepted by other people, etc.

What's your opinion on this matter?

Cheers!! Xxx

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By *histler21Man over a year ago

Ipswich

Verifications are a double-edged sword. Too many and it looks like you are a serial shagger. Too few - and you are unreliable. Cam verifications are worthless IMHO (I never trust them).

I leave mine for public _iewing because I hope it give an impression of what someone will find if they decided to meet me. I may not be the best lover ever - but I hope people see that I'm a genuine and quite nice person.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I get a lot of messages about my veris... telling me I am a slut cos there are so many .... you can't win either way .....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In answer to your question, yes, if a guy has tons of verifications it puts me off a bit

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By *histler21Man over a year ago

Ipswich

"I get a lot of messages about my veris... telling me I am a slut cos there are so many .... you can't win either way .....

Hope you block them...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Personally, a large amount tended to put me off when I was meeting but I wouldn't say 11 in over a year is off putting. Some I've seen have over 50 but over a year could be many years on here for them. Each to their own I suppose.

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

They don't put me off. I only read the first few anyway to get a flavour of what the person is like.

Would you rather meet someone who doesn't judge you for the amount of meets you've had, or someone who you have to hide some of your profile from?

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

I love them. I have them printed off and I wear them as an adornment on my jacket..

passes the time at the checkout if there is a Q, telling the woman behind me that I was taking the anal virginity of big busty bertha of barnstable... and fuck was her hole tight, oh how we both laughed and before we knew it, my groceries were being scanned.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Verifications are a double-edged sword. Too many and it looks like you are a serial shagger. Too few - and you are unreliable.

We leave ours for public _iewing because we hope it give an impression of what someone will find if they decided to meet us. We may not be the best lovers ever - but we hope people see that we're genuine and quite nice people."

Well said that man!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If they're all webcam and social then yes we avoid.

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By *ohohoWoman over a year ago

Up North

When I first joined. Yes it bothered me. Now just logically thinking about it, I don't care at all, how many or few a man has.

The verifications soon start to add up.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't honestly think the amount of varies would put me off but I know I would be a little bit put off if they had lots close together, say more than 8 in a month.

I'm more interested in what is or is not written in them and that they have some so I can make a slightly more informed decision.

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By *haunMan over a year ago

Halton

"They don't put me off. I only read the first few anyway to get a flavour of what the person is like.

Would you rather meet someone who doesn't judge you for the amount of meets you've had, or someone who you have to hide some of your profile from?"

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Completely agree, always good to use as a guide.

And I know a lot of people visit social events so end up 'collecting' a lot from that evening.

What I also find funny (as I like to go to clubs)

If during the social part of being in a club I end up 'clicking' with the lady or couple...

I am not going to ask them how many verifications they have on Fab before I decide if I will go any further.

You tend to judge a person / couple for who they are if you bump into them in a club, but will be more judgemental if you see their verifications first on Fab.

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By *histler21Man over a year ago

Ipswich

"I don't honestly think the amount of varies would put me off but I know I would be a little bit put off if they had lots close together, say more than 8 in a month.

I'm more interested in what is or is not written in them and that they have some so I can make a slightly more informed decision."

Use verifications as a guide. But do you own research (by chatting to someone either via PMs or in one of the chat rooms).

After all, your opinion of someone may vary wildly from what others have said. Or it may support their veris.

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By *inktherapyCouple over a year ago

Gloucester

Be selective about which ones you show, maybe? We don't show all of ours - some are repeat meets (albeit a year apart), some are too detailed as to what went on (who needs to read a blow by blow account lol) and some are now from a few years ago and not necessarily relevant. We also don't show the verification summary because we've been on here for several years and the summary doesn't take that into account - nor split between social and play meets - and some people would just _iew the numbers on there

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you're finding it an issue, hide your veri summary and only show 3 or 4 of your very, very best ones

If you're still getting no replies, you might have just lost your touch

haha x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Verifications as said previously are a double edged sword... Yes great way of showing your genuine but from personal experience I use them to look if the person has a certain type.

We get messages of people who meet couples/ladies who are completely in a different league to us and sit thinking wtf are they doing messaging us..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

its good if men have lots of verifications, it shows they do meet people on here. it can put me off when i read some of them though, because of the type of women they meet maybe or what the verifications say, mostly what the ones say they have left other people.

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By *histler21Man over a year ago

Ipswich

"Verifications as said previously are a double edged sword... Yes great way of showing your genuine but from personal experience I use them to look if the person has a certain type.

We get messages of people who meet couples/ladies who are completely in a different league to us and sit thinking wtf are they doing messaging us..

I'm no Adonis. Nor am I a Quasimodo. I have my own personal qualities but don't think I am better or worse than anyone else (that's for others to judge).

Who knows what might come of such a meeting?

And remember: A stranger is just a friend you don't know that well.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If a woman is put off by a man having too many veri's then she's on the wrong site!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So many good points on this thread .

Meeting folk purely through fab is often a waste of time for us , so we only meet in clubs .

Unless we have chatted on here first to arrange to meet at a club , the people we play with haven't a clue how many we have .

If people avoid us because we have too many , we won't lose any sleep over their choice .

Often they are the same whingers who complain about not being able to find a single bi female to play with

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i have had men comment on other women on here who meet lots of different men, that does put me off because i think maybe they are jealous, either ways its not realy any of their buisness.

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

It's all swings and roundabouts I'm afraid.....And a bit of both

I can be wary of a guy with too many, but it does depend on how long he has been on site, a bit like myself I suppose x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes too many make us think you shag anything

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For me verifications give great insight into a person, and lots would tell me that person was fun, sociable and worth meeting, providing they were good ones and not the generic don't pass him by type and/or cam and phone ones x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For me verifications give great insight into a person, and lots would tell me that person was fun, sociable and worth meeting, providing they were good ones and not the generic don't pass him by type and/or cam and phone ones x"

Veri's only tell you about the person that left them. Even if they say "don't pass them by" someone else wrote it, not the person with the profile.

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By *ark CharmerMan over a year ago

Horsham

I just want verification that people are real and actually meet, not really bothered about the numbers. You would also expect people who have been on fab longer might have more verifications.

I attend socials and get an average of 12 verifications every social cos I actually go and chat to pple, if you look at the numbers without the content one might just assume.

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By *londeCazWoman over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

Short answer from me is a big, fat no...I personally have lots and show them all...like View, I have them printed off but I don't wear them, I have had them made into wallpaper and decorated my house with them...my Mam loves reading them when she comes in to feed the cats whilst I'm off shagging...

Seriously though I'm not the greatest fan of the "Oooh, this guy made me gush and squirt like the Trevi Fountain" or "This gal has the sweetest pussy that was wetter than a Bank Holiday weekend in Cumbria" type veri. I've met folk with loads and folk with none and will keep on doing so

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By *ohnjones3210 OP Man over a year ago

Chester

Thanks everyone...

I think I know what I've got to do.

Love you all... Cheers!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hey everyone,

So, I've got my veris and all that which is great. Most leave veris but not all.

So I'm thinking, what have I changed? Maybe I'm acting differently. But then I noticed that my veris show and that list has got bigger.

Ladies, does the amount of veris a guy has influence your _iew of him in a negative way?

I know that in some circumstances, women hate to think they are one of many. In other circumstances, women love to have a man who has socialised and been accepted by other people, etc.

What's your opinion on this matter?

Cheers!! Xxx"

I rarely read them but if a guy has met some really unattractive people I would be unlikely to meet him.

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By *histler21Man over a year ago

Ipswich

"Hey everyone,

So, I've got my veris and all that which is great. Most leave veris but not all.

So I'm thinking, what have I changed? Maybe I'm acting differently. But then I noticed that my veris show and that list has got bigger.

Ladies, does the amount of veris a guy has influence your _iew of him in a negative way?

I know that in some circumstances, women hate to think they are one of many. In other circumstances, women love to have a man who has socialised and been accepted by other people, etc.

What's your opinion on this matter?

Cheers!! Xxx

I rarely read them but if a guy has met some really unattractive people I would be unlikely to meet him. "

Why should the fact that 'he' has met some people 'you' find unattractive make any difference? If you like him - isn't that what matters?

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By *ohnjones3210 OP Man over a year ago

Chester

"Hey everyone,

So, I've got my veris and all that which is great. Most leave veris but not all.

So I'm thinking, what have I changed? Maybe I'm acting differently. But then I noticed that my veris show and that list has got bigger.

Ladies, does the amount of veris a guy has influence your _iew of him in a negative way?

I know that in some circumstances, women hate to think they are one of many. In other circumstances, women love to have a man who has socialised and been accepted by other people, etc.

What's your opinion on this matter?

Cheers!! Xxx

I rarely read them but if a guy has met some really unattractive people I would be unlikely to meet him.

Why should the fact that 'he' has met some people 'you' find unattractive make any difference? If you like him - isn't that what matters?"

Lol!!!

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By *uthTVDerbysTV/TS over a year ago

Derby

"It's all swings and roundabouts I'm afraid.....And a bit of both

I can be wary of a guy with too many, but it does depend on how long he has been on site, a bit like myself I suppose x"

Minnie. Can I just say at this juncture ..."Fit like, quinie?"

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hey everyone,

So, I've got my veris and all that which is great. Most leave veris but not all.

So I'm thinking, what have I changed? Maybe I'm acting differently. But then I noticed that my veris show and that list has got bigger.

Ladies, does the amount of veris a guy has influence your _iew of him in a negative way?

I know that in some circumstances, women hate to think they are one of many. In other circumstances, women love to have a man who has socialised and been accepted by other people, etc.

What's your opinion on this matter?

Cheers!! Xxx

I rarely read them but if a guy has met some really unattractive people I would be unlikely to meet him.

Why should the fact that 'he' has met some people 'you' find unattractive make any difference? If you like him - isn't that what matters?

Lol!!!"

The mind boggles.

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By *ohnjones3210 OP Man over a year ago

Chester

Ok, I cut the veris right down and for rid of the summary!

Let's see how it goes. Xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

if I think I like the person enough to meet shag and have a laugh with..I dont care who they have met or how frequent they meet

I never check out the 'competition'(I dont see any competitiveness being advantageous) or message about what a meet went like etc etc

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman over a year ago

Deviant City

I'm a social whore, so collect veri's from attending large socials and just chatting to people in clubs.

I like to display mine, as it shows the sort of person I am.

As Steel Heels says above me, if a woman is put off by the amount of veri's you have, she's on the wrong site. What if you have been on here 5+ years? Of course your gonna have a few veri's, even if you only do play meets.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

I dont show my veris but had no problems if anyone wishes me to show a few to prove im genuine .

I have choosen not to show my verification summary because it shows over 300 verifications but about 90% of them come from arranging many social events in Scotland but for many people who dont know me wouldnt know that and may assume they have come from play meets lol

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By *ikkixxWoman over a year ago

northampton

Yep loads if veri's would put me off.

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By *ikkixxWoman over a year ago

northampton

Yep loads if veri's would put me off.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

It doesn't put me off. If anything, experience is a good thing usually!

I don't care who else a guy fucks, or how often as long as he shows up for any meet arranged with me as agreed and is focused on being with me during that meet.

Who and what he does before and after are his business, not mine.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They can be good and bad for me I was glad to have them until someone who thought I was only "theirs" noticed I had 2 meets without "telling" them and decided they wanted to contacts the people who verified me

then I had to contact them myslef and explain things to them they craziness lol it could have ruined future meets with them! Then I hid/chose not to display them. Like we often say some people ruin things for others!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Evetyone _iew about veris is different. Some check them for what they were intended to, others use them for a nosy and opssession about other competitors and to compare themselves. Others use them for drama and bitching (jealousy). I had the same issue with the OP... When I started off I had 3 meets in one month and had no veris but was doing better than now that I know the ins and outs of fab. after I had few veris from some attractive ladies. At the begining some wanted to meet me cause they wanted the man that hot woman had! (a competition thing). Others didnt want to meet cause they felt intimidated by the thought of comparing themselves as a less attractive ...

So yes veris are a double edged sword. Hense why I only show one veri. Most girls I met have left the site anyway.! I must be a lucky charm !

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By *lade19752Man over a year ago

London

"I just want verification that people are real and actually meet, not really bothered about the numbers. You would also expect people who have been on fab longer might have more verifications.

I attend socials and get an average of 12 verifications every social cos I actually go and chat to pple, if you look at the numbers without the content one might just assume."

Very true , at socials you are just being very friendly and chatting to others .

They then verify you for being just that and genuine .

If you have been on here for roughly 8 weeks and you have (playing/penetrative sex) verifications totally around 15 upwards then that could be a big problem to many people .

That said if you have been on here for 2 years and more the same verifications are much more acceptable but people just do the number counting game , judge you before taking time to figure out the length of time you have been on .

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By *ENDAROOSCouple over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"They don't put me off. I only read the first few anyway to get a flavour of what the person is like.

Would you rather meet someone who doesn't judge you for the amount of meets you've had, or someone who you have to hide some of your profile from?"

If someone doesn't like who we have met or how many verifications we have...tough, really! We are not here to please the masses and be popular, we meet who we like,when we like.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"They don't put me off. I only read the first few anyway to get a flavour of what the person is like.

Would you rather meet someone who doesn't judge you for the amount of meets you've had, or someone who you have to hide some of your profile from?

If someone doesn't like who we have met or how many verifications we have...tough, really! We are not here to please the masses and be popular, we meet who we like,when we like.

well I've ignored what everyone else says about u bendaroo's...now lets fuck!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So, I've got my veris and all that which is great. Most leave veris but not all.

So I'm thinking, what have I changed? Maybe I'm acting differently. But then I noticed that my veris show and that list has got bigger."

You slag!

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By *empting Devil.Woman over a year ago

Sheffield

I'm not put off by number of veris but I do steer clear of people who have repeat veris from the same person.

Two from the same person is fine but once you have four, five or even as many as fifteen (seen that) it smacks of territory marking and ownership and potential trouble!

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By *ark CharmerMan over a year ago

Horsham

"I'm not put off by number of veris but I do steer clear of people who have repeat veris from the same person.

Two from the same person is fine but once you have four, five or even as many as fifteen (seen that) it smacks of territory marking and ownership and potential trouble!

- or back off he/she is mine.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hey everyone,

So, I've got my veris and all that which is great. Most leave veris but not all.

So I'm thinking, what have I changed? Maybe I'm acting differently. But then I noticed that my veris show and that list has got bigger.

Ladies, does the amount of veris a guy has influence your _iew of him in a negative way?

I know that in some circumstances, women hate to think they are one of many. In other circumstances, women love to have a man who has socialised and been accepted by other people, etc.

What's your opinion on this matter?

Cheers!! Xxx

I rarely read them but if a guy has met some really unattractive people I would be unlikely to meet him. "

I dont mind if he has met less attractive, or plain looking women, it shows he isnt shallow or judging people by the way they look and they might be nice women too as you cant know for sure till you have met someone.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I love them. I have them printed off and I wear them as an adornment on my jacket..

Brilliant post

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"if I think I like the person enough to meet shag and have a laugh with..I dont care who they have met or how frequent they meet

I never check out the 'competition'(I dont see any competitiveness being advantageous) or message about what a meet went like etc etc"
And thats exactly how swinging should be.

This isnt a compotition and i for one never feel im competing against anyone.

I always take veris as a guide line only and that the person is genuine and meets,im not in the least bit intrested in who they are meet ,how he shagged her or how good she sucked his cock because at the end of the day what was someones best meet could turn out to be your worst nightmare .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Still think it's about time that profile states how long you have been a member - then the number of veris can be put in perspective

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Still think it's about time that profile states how long you have been a member - then the number of veris can be put in perspective

"
yeah great idea xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't understand this to many verifications bit... If I saw someone with loads I wouldn't care if it was in a day, week, month or over years...

They are meeting and obviously social and good at what they do... X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

better too have a lot of verifications than just a couple, at least you know they like meeting people and are experienced. i can be put off if i think someone is a bit shy or a ditherer.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I use veris to confirm that those who I am meeting are real and reliable. They are a useful indicator, nothing more nothing less

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't understand this to many verifications bit... If I saw someone with loads I wouldn't care if it was in a day, week, month or over years...

They are meeting and obviously social and good at what they do... X"

I personally prefer to meet a potential regular friend with benefit instead of endless one off's. So When I see a profile with 50 meets in 4 months periodes and she is looking to meet everyday i.e. Status and meets ads then I avoid.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't understand this to many verifications bit... If I saw someone with loads I wouldn't care if it was in a day, week, month or over years...

They are meeting and obviously social and good at what they do... X

I can get 10 in a night yet not played with one of them.. I do however rarely put up ads to meet. I just am very social and often introduced new people to the clubs.

Well that and I'm a shameless slut at times too

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By *issmekate xxxWoman over a year ago

Non Vanilla Land

I love verifs .... giving AND receiving !!!

As someone said earlier I am very wary if someone has only a few, more so than if they had loads ... in my opinion they are as a back up to profile information and not only show that the person is genuine and reliable ... that's me included ... but also give an insight into their particular skills and also them as a person ... it works for me anyway !!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Find it bizzare how people could be put off by to many verifications. You could easily go to a social or a club and gain many verifications from one night, doesn't mean you've shagged every single one of them.

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By *renchbambi xWoman over a year ago

Need to know basis

"Hey everyone,

So, I've got my veris and all that which is great. Most leave veris but not all.

So I'm thinking, what have I changed? Maybe I'm acting differently. But then I noticed that my veris show and that list has got bigger.

Ladies, does the amount of veris a guy has influence your _iew of him in a negative way?

I know that in some circumstances, women hate to think they are one of many. In other circumstances, women love to have a man who has socialised and been accepted by other people, etc.

What's your opinion on this matter?

Cheers!! Xxx"

How can anyone make a judgment on amount of veris? I have loads but 99% are from meeting in Fab socials. Also, a person may have been on site for 4/5/6 years...that does not mean they are serial shaggers...just that they have been on here a long time and it therefore makes sense they have a lot of veris.

I am one of those really annoying people who reads profiles and reads veris because there is still NO option to choose 'Meet by social' when giving a verification and how else will I separate the actual meets from the social ones?

To answer the OP...Maybe you've shagged all the girls in your area and there is just nobody else available he he

(tongue firmly in cheek)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Veris can often mean absolutely nothing.

I've seen absolute nutcases with verifications like 'lovely girl very gen'

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By *rinterestingMan over a year ago

London

Tbh I got my first verification and it hasn't changed anything much. If a girl likes you I dont think it matters.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Veris can often mean absolutely nothing.

I've seen absolute nutcases with verifications like 'lovely girl very gen'

So true. I'm a prime example of that x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hey everyone,

So, I've got my veris and all that which is great. Most leave veris but not all.

So I'm thinking, what have I changed? Maybe I'm acting differently. But then I noticed that my veris show and that list has got bigger.

Ladies, does the amount of veris a guy has influence your _iew of him in a negative way?

I know that in some circumstances, women hate to think they are one of many. In other circumstances, women love to have a man who has socialised and been accepted by other people, etc.

What's your opinion on this matter?

Cheers!! Xxx"

You only have six veris; can't see that putting anyone off. Perhaps you've just messaged everyone already ....

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By *ohnjones3210 OP Man over a year ago

Chester

"Hey everyone,

So, I've got my veris and all that which is great. Most leave veris but not all.

So I'm thinking, what have I changed? Maybe I'm acting differently. But then I noticed that my veris show and that list has got bigger.

Ladies, does the amount of veris a guy has influence your _iew of him in a negative way?

I know that in some circumstances, women hate to think they are one of many. In other circumstances, women love to have a man who has socialised and been accepted by other people, etc.

What's your opinion on this matter?

Cheers!! Xxx

You only have six veris; can't see that putting anyone off. Perhaps you've just messaged everyone already ...."

That's after cutting them down!

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By *nne CallanWoman over a year ago

Nothing to see here. Please move along.

"Verifications are a double-edged sword. Too many and it looks like you are a serial shagger. Too few - and you are unreliable. Cam verifications are worthless IMHO (I never trust them).

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By *uby0000Woman over a year ago

hertfordshire

too many do put me off

also don't like all the gory details

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By *udistnorthantsMan over a year ago

Desborough

Mine have been a blessing so far ....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've been called a whore before now, just for having plenty of male verifications but refusing to meet at the drop of a hat?

There's plenty of people who judge on here, which is rather odd when you look at it.lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've been called a whore before now, just for having plenty of male verifications but refusing to meet at the drop of a hat?

There's plenty of people who judge on here, which is rather odd when you look at it.lol"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hey everyone,

So, I've got my veris and all that which is great. Most leave veris but not all.

So I'm thinking, what have I changed? Maybe I'm acting differently. But then I noticed that my veris show and that list has got bigger.

Ladies, does the amount of veris a guy has influence your _iew of him in a negative way?

I know that in some circumstances, women hate to think they are one of many. In other circumstances, women love to have a man who has socialised and been accepted by other people, etc.

What's your opinion on this matter?

Cheers!! Xxx

I rarely read them but if a guy has met some really unattractive people I would be unlikely to meet him.

Why should the fact that 'he' has met some people 'you' find unattractive make any difference? If you like him - isn't that what matters?"

Poor taste, to knowledge people play without protection and many others. Lets face it there is so much choice on here why not.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think verifications are a like a map into people's preferences and whether or not they will make the effort to meet...as a guy who will and does travel to meets surely this is an indication of the person

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This might sound odd but my veris are memories to me of fun with great people.

On another note though ive been told they degrade me.I have been on fab eight months and lost a lot when i deleted my first account but to me the object of fab is fun so if u judge wholly on veris maybe u should be on a nice dating site and not fab.Iwas with the same man 41 yrs so deff no serial shagger but im damn well going to have fun before i pop off

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hey everyone,

So, I've got my veris and all that which is great. Most leave veris but not all.

So I'm thinking, what have I changed? Maybe I'm acting differently. But then I noticed that my veris show and that list has got bigger.

Ladies, does the amount of veris a guy has influence your _iew of him in a negative way?

I know that in some circumstances, women hate to think they are one of many. In other circumstances, women love to have a man who has socialised and been accepted by other people, etc.

What's your opinion on this matter?

Cheers!! Xxx"

Not sure, don't have any veris.

Give us one, and I'll let you know.

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By *B9 QueenWoman over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

Good lord this obsession with veris.

Too many, not enough, too explicit, too many from the same people.

Veris show that people meet regularly and are less likely to let you down. Simple as.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I avoid the webcam ones, as we can all do that all day, so it means nothing to me.

I can pretty much see a fake ones too now.

I like the type of person they are ones.

The amount of veris doesn't matter, some have been on here years.

Her

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Good lord this obsession with veris.

Too many, not enough, too explicit, too many from the same people.

Veris show that people meet regularly and are less likely to let you down. Simple as. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"In answer to your question, yes, if a guy has tons of verifications it puts me off a bit "

That makes me laugh seriously do you girls want a guy that has what it takes to have sex with beautiful women or one that can never get laid even as a charity shag

Then you get accused. Of being a serial shagger surely the whole idea of a sex site is to have sex with people that you fancy

As a guy I have had sex with girls for silly reasons the most common one being boots and mini skirt just to see if I like it and If I do I go there again and again till I don't like it or they don't like it anymore

Either you want a guy that has the ability to have sex with girls or you don't

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

someone accused me of writing my last verie??? then gave me a load of abuse because i woulnt meet them!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"someone accused me of writing my last verie??? then gave me a load of abuse because i woulnt meet them!"

Lol your last veri was from me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

One from respected people I would say are good but equal if you have one from someone lots dislike its not going to do you any favours.

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