Your profile, obviously after you've re-written it, does seem to include things that others have included.
I'd add some info about your traveling - you state you'll travel, I think, about 40 miles. As your location is listed as your county, which is a huge county, without the town name, then others won't be able to calculate whether they're close enough for you. I understand that many of us live in rural spots, so village names may not mean much to others who aren't local though.
If you don't feel it appropriate to list a specific home spot, then I'd recommend that you list suggested places that you would travel to - it does not have to be exhaustive, so make it obvious that these are suggestions only, and this will help to potentially captivate those who would be within your travel zone.
As others may have pointed out, many have age restrictions, especially on younger people. If you respect their preferences, you'll save wasted effort on your part. We can't change others' preferences, but their ideas may alter, if you ever get to know them, via socials, clubs etc. But don't message anyone where your age is outside of their limits.
You've worked on your profile, and I would ensure you don't start it with anything that's possibly a distraction or a negative. It needs to have massive impact and be positive. Any conditions, such as safe sex, sexual stuff you won't do etc, can be added further down, if it's needed.
Whilst you're not interested in guys sexually, search for a few of them, and read their profiles, if they're not blocking single guys from viewing - some do, some don't. What you need is to develop an understanding of which profiles may seem to have more impact than the rest. Then, whilst you're not copying in a any way, incorporate the essence of what it is that has made the other profiles seem bold and great. You are certainly a different individual to them, but this is a style thing, not about the personal details of who they and you are, that you're learning from.
Next - how do people learn about you. Phone lines don't ring, unless someone has the number to call. So you have to put yourself about a bit. Messages that you send to people have to be 1. appropriate 2. interesting and 3. create desire within the recipient to want to look at your profile.
Other ways for you to get known are to use the forums - if nothing else, you may start to become familiar with others, some of whom may be local to you. Otherwise, you may feel more included, as part of this community. As a single person, it's not fun for you if you feel excluded, so take the onus onto you to include yourself, however you can.
Swinging doesn't happen on the internet, it's a physically interactive pursuit, of course. Pick how you can get to meet people, even if just for a chat. Many meets will want social interaction first, as you are aware, so get looking for how you could meet some others. This may mean that you travel further sometimes than your optimum distance, but would be good for you.
Also consider which boundaries that you have, if any, you'd be willing to cross. Never cross any that are important to you at all!! Say you met some people who were outside of your age range - worst case is that you've spent some time and possibly some money on doing so. You may learn something, or someone you've met may be an introduction to people that you could get to play with, who knows?
Overall, never, ever post negative comments into the forums, as it is the kiss of death. You haven't done so, but as a newcomer, you will see others doing - but please do not copy that yourself.
If you'd like any help, on anything, then please feel free to message me. Good luck!
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