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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ok i have a few questions but i will start by explaning the type of people i would like a responce from.
I would like to hear from regular club members from clubs in the north west.
Also single men who have been to a few clubs in the north west.
Responce from single women to give me advice on what they look for when at clubs, in a man.
Couples are also welcome.
Club owners could also help me out alot.
Ok i have been swinging for a while now whenever i get free time. But only ever privatly. I have been involved in a group session only once and enjoyed this.
I am now thinking of joining a few clubs around the north west but i have a few worries i wish to ease my mind on first.
I do understand some clubs cater very well for new members however i find i do not wish to gain membership until i have visited a club a few times to be sure it is "worth the money".
by that i am not talking as much sex as i can get.. no no. i do enjoy socialising with other like minded swingers men women and couples.
my main questions are..
1. which club is most welcoming for a young single man like me?
2. also the regulars, i know im no brad pitt. but i dint want to face abusive or stuck up people at a club. so who has friendly regulars?
3. what should a single man wear? not only for a good first impression but dress code/sexy practicality.
4. I am a bit shy on the phone, but not in person. i dont want a club that you have to phone up and book. i would rather turn up. but i understand some clubs dont allow this due to the odd d*unk guy stumbling out of a local pub thinking he can join a gangbang. which clubs could be best suited to me?
5. i understand many clubs have shower facilities... dose this mean when i go swinging i am going to look like i am going to a posh gym with a sports bag full of towels, wash gear etc? if so what would you reccomend in this swinging pack?
6. is it accepted by some clubs if i were to arrange a regular from that club to "escort" me in my first experiance, and maybe showing this maturaty offer a discounted rate to the single man/ non member fee?
i really want to try my first experiance and really hope to enjoy it and not feel like a tool while i am there. this will sure make me a full member if i were to have the experiance i am wishing for.
thanks so much for replys everyone.
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Use the search forums button to read other's people's questions, asking exactly what you're asking.
Read the 'Swinging club discussion' forum for answers to your question.
You said' and maybe showing this maturity offer a discounted rate to the single man/ non member fee?'
Firstly, be mature and find answers yourself rather than wanting other to do the work for you.
Second, I doubt it very much, how would clubs know who was really new just to get in cheap. I think when you see single mens' rates you will be in for a shock. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I would look at the club section, and also read the individual websites, which usually cover things like dress codes etc. And I would probably think of a club like a night club - you need to take the chance of what's behind the door. On any night there may or may not be people you connect with, and the exact opposite the next. If you think of it in those terms then 'value for money' is just a risk you'll have to take, and the less expectation you go with, the better |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Use the search forums button to read other's people's questions, asking exactly what you're asking.
Read the 'Swinging club discussion' forum for answers to your question.
You said' and maybe showing this maturity offer a discounted rate to the single man/ non member fee?'
Firstly, be mature and find answers yourself rather than wanting other to do the work for you.
Second, I doubt it very much, how would clubs know who was really new just to get in cheap. I think when you see single mens' rates you will be in for a shock. "
wow i wasnt expecting that for a reply. Just the sort of people i dont want to meet in a club. i respect your views and i was sure i explaned my self clearly. Obvioulsy not enough for you. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I would look at the club section, and also read the individual websites, which usually cover things like dress codes etc. And I would probably think of a club like a night club - you need to take the chance of what's behind the door. On any night there may or may not be people you connect with, and the exact opposite the next. If you think of it in those terms then 'value for money' is just a risk you'll have to take, and the less expectation you go with, the better"
Thankyou i think you have given me some good advice.
would you reccomend the "swinging pack" kinda thing?
i have looked on a few sites and most of the time its the usual. smartly dressed...really? it would be more helpful to say what they dont allow. but maybe thats just me.
they also say showers available etc. bit nothing about bring your own towels etc. |
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The best advise I can tell you is what I did.
Checked out the club websites and read the club reviews. I also chatted via message to a few of the reviewers.
As for membership you will find different clubs over the north west offer different things.
I personally prefer the gatehouse in Bolton as there is no membership, they only charge an entrance fee depending on day and time.
Hope this is helpful |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Use the search forums button to read other's people's questions, asking exactly what you're asking.
Read the 'Swinging club discussion' forum for answers to your question.
You said' and maybe showing this maturity offer a discounted rate to the single man/ non member fee?'
Firstly, be mature and find answers yourself rather than wanting other to do the work for you.
Second, I doubt it very much, how would clubs know who was really new just to get in cheap. I think when you see single mens' rates you will be in for a shock.
wow i wasnt expecting that for a reply. Just the sort of people i dont want to meet in a club. i respect your views and i was sure i explaned my self clearly. Obvioulsy not enough for you."
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Can't see you getting much different advice/replies off anyone else. You meet allsorts of people in a club. I shall await the replies from others with anticipation 
Carter
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Ok, so you cannot say someting like. Yes martin we take along a bag with us. with towels and soaps etc. of course a few toys to use while were there. OH and dont forget your tooth brush???
Is there something wrong with helpful advice that are not put on club websites? |
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By *utumnWoman
over a year ago
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Most swinging clubs, by law are for registered members only, therefore you will have to become a member before being allowed to enter. (some clubs have open days which allow you to look round when there is no play going on)
Some clubs have a dress code usually smart casual but also require a single male to dress down to shorts or a towel before entering the play areas.
Those with a wet area usually have towels for hire, the regulars usually take their own. Some but not all have lockers.
It would be the height of bad manners to ask someone to accompany you into a club as a guest just to enable you to get a cheaper fee. Most ladies have free or very minimal entry costs to clubs so is unlikely to want to pay to get in just to make it cheaper for you!
As a single female who goes to a club I look for friendly chat, an ability to accept no as an answer and not have the attitude of thinking that having paid in they are entitled to play.
As for what a single lady looks for in a possibly play partner is up to the individual, you may be someones type at the club you visit you may not be, rather like this site, women go for their own pleasure and not with an open leg policy. If you float someones boat and are able to communicate and act maturely you may be in with a chance. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Use the search forums button to read other's people's questions, asking exactly what you're asking.
Read the 'Swinging club discussion' forum for answers to your question.
You said' and maybe showing this maturity offer a discounted rate to the single man/ non member fee?'
Firstly, be mature and find answers yourself rather than wanting other to do the work for you.
Second, I doubt it very much, how would clubs know who was really new just to get in cheap. I think when you see single mens' rates you will be in for a shock. "
Club websites and forums on here have lots of info ... Or call the club and ask. You'll find staff very helpful and friendly.
I'm not sure how finding an escort for the night shows maturity?
As for taking stuff with you, all clubs are different. Again, the club is the vest pout of contact to find out whether towels and toiletries are supplied. Many do, some don't, you may prefer your own stuff. Likewise with contraceptives etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Ring the club mate it's what we did when we had a few questions.
Have a careful look on the club page and good luck.
We love clubs once you know what goes on and the layout etc the rest comes natural. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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thankyou so much for the past replys. i have found them very helpful.
i do apologise for not explaining the "escort" bit correctly.
what i ment from this was if i could find a club regular from this site, willing to meet me before going to the club and well being a friend inside the club on my first time. Not to fee dodge in any way. i just ment that by someone on the door knowing the woman but not myself and well maybe having a problem with it in someway.
thanks again for the advice x |
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