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why is this site not working for me
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"can some one help me to see why i am not having much fun on here "
You're a single male, in a pond filled with thousands upon thousands - even if you have good pics, a good profile and good verifications, its always an uphill battle for any single male on here simply due to the sheer oversaturation of them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"can some one help me to see why i am not having much fun on here
Two verifications less than a month apart. Not too bad is it? "
I HAVE NOOOO VERIFICATIONS AND I DONT CARE AND IM HAVING A GREAT TIME "CHILL MAN" UR DOING OK BY THE SOUNDS OF IT |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"can some one help me to see why i am not having much fun on here "
Certainly. It's simple.
Did you think you'd get fucked on here every night? You won't. Learn to deal with it. I'd say 3 meets in 6 months is realistic. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi
Your 1 in 10'000s of guys...
You need to expand on your profile...
Add a few more pics...
Don't expect nothing and you won't be disappointed....
Contribute to forums so people know you exist and can work out your personality......
And........ That's it.... The rest is outside of your control.... |
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"can some one help me to see why i am not having much fun on here "
A) it's Croydon mate, you have no references to Ikea in your profile
B) you've had meets so I don't suppose those people would be impressed by your 'lack of fun'
C) put more effort in, eg. More information in your profile then potential meets can make a decision on whether to meet you or not, if there's not much info, they will move on to someone else
D) chill, bill and relax and enjoy the social side as well as the sex. |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
The site can t do anything by itself, it provides you with tools, how you utilise the tools is upto you, if you re not finding the way you use the sites tools is working use more of the tools or use them differently, 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I agree with above. We wouldn't go with anyone who has been with someone that craves bareback - good luck!"
I didn't notice this when I read his profile. Epic fail on my part. Would put me off if I was looking for younger guys |
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"can some one help me to see why i am not having much fun on here "
Why does everyone pander to people who obviously are using spurious posts as a way of "bumping" their profile?
So so tired of these "woe is me" posts.......and yes I know to simply pass them by - still gets on my tits however... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To be honest if you read the post it clearly says we just spoke , so I don't really see how that says I'm promoting bare back fun "
Can i just say unfortunately when you write a thread asking for help,your profile will be discussed and people will point out Everything,you had a verification from a woman who wants bb,you now have removed it and replaced it with a earlier verification and are denying the earlier verification
Now you could have had safe sex with that woman or maybe not,people were advising that they wouldnt meet you because they read that verification
Some people including me do follow verifications its a way to find out whether we would like to meet you,bb meets are off putting,we all want to be safe,alot of people were pointing out why you may of been having problems
So all i say is enjoy and be safe,also get s.t.i tested,alot of us test regulary and dont do bb,often we dont know who does,so be safe as you can |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To be honest if you read the post it clearly says we just spoke , so I don't really see how that says I'm promoting bare back fun
Can i just say unfortunately when you write a thread asking for help,your profile will be discussed and people will point out Everything,you had a verification from a woman who wants bb,you now have removed it and replaced it with a earlier verification and are denying the earlier verification
Now you could have had safe sex with that woman or maybe not,people were advising that they wouldnt meet you because they read that verification
Some people including me do follow verifications its a way to find out whether we would like to meet you,bb meets are off putting,we all want to be safe,alot of people were pointing out why you may of been having problems
So all i say is enjoy and be safe,also get s.t.i tested,alot of us test regulary and dont do bb,often we dont know who does,so be safe as you can "
 Well said. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To be honest if you read the post it clearly says we just spoke , so I don't really see how that says I'm promoting bare back fun
Can i just say unfortunately when you write a thread asking for help,your profile will be discussed and people will point out Everything,you had a verification from a woman who wants bb,you now have removed it and replaced it with a earlier verification and are denying the earlier verification
Now you could have had safe sex with that woman or maybe not,people were advising that they wouldnt meet you because they read that verification
Some people including me do follow verifications its a way to find out whether we would like to meet you,bb meets are off putting,we all want to be safe,alot of people were pointing out why you may of been having problems
So all i say is enjoy and be safe,also get s.t.i tested,alot of us test regulary and dont do bb,often we dont know who does,so be safe as you can "
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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.................. and this is the reason I never tell people specifics...
there will be some people who will go back, and do some backreading... will find out what he did, or removed
and there will now be people who will be now none the wiser....
he changed the profile to improve his "look"..... but now it deprives people of information they may well have used to make informed decisions.....
so maybe the other moral to the story is to give people the answer "basic common sense" in future..... and let people figure it out, or string themselves up, for themselves.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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".................. and this is the reason I never tell people specifics...
there will be some people who will go back, and do some backreading... will find out what he did, or removed
and there will now be people who will be now none the wiser....
he changed the profile to improve his "look"..... but now it deprives people of information they may well have used to make informed decisions.....
so maybe the other moral to the story is to give people the answer "basic common sense" in future..... and let people figure it out, or string themselves up, for themselves...."
I try not to give away too much about what I do and don't want as find guys will just tailor their message/profile to suit me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In all seriousness though, pretty much what other people have said.
1 single guy against thousands*, and a profile I've read, that personally needs to be more in depth as to what you'd like to get out of this site and of course, what you can give. State favourite sexual fantasies etc.
I'm hardly a guru, but the forums have helped me make my way around the site as well as scene. |
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".................. and this is the reason I never tell people specifics...
there will be some people who will go back, and do some backreading... will find out what he did, or removed
and there will now be people who will be now none the wiser....
he changed the profile to improve his "look"..... but now it deprives people of information they may well have used to make informed decisions.....
so maybe the other moral to the story is to give people the answer "basic common sense" in future..... and let people figure it out, or string themselves up, for themselves...."
+1 |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When i come accross threads like this people point out the bb issue,i never do for the reason i would prefer to avoid,and to know WHO does it,off course the op will change it as its been pointed out
I only pointed it out after people had said,and he changed profile writing removed verification,to explain why he may have not been meeting
The trouble with the threads people are taking it off profiles and hiding it,and it is going underground,that shouldnt happen,but it is happening more and more. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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just want to say thank you for all your comments i respect what you all say , specially the guys that took the time to really look into what was said . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have only got 2 veris in a year and only had sex with 1 and im a girl just be you and dont hav sex with peple you dont fancy have fun and make frends and go from there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"can some one help me to see why i am not having much fun on here
Certainly. It's simple.
Did you think you'd get fucked on here every night? You won't. Learn to deal with it. I'd say 3 meets in 6 months is realistic. "
Nah 3 in 6 months is pretty poor. I've not really met anyone new since mid January because I stopped meeting people but in the 3 months before that I think I got about 13 meets with fantastic people and met quite a few of them more than once.
OP add some detail to your profile and just be honest about what you like don't try to bullshit and please everyone because it comes across as well bullshit.
If you say what you're really into and accept that yeah its gonna cut down the percentage that may choose to meet you it will greatly increase your chances with the people you're actually compatible with and get you meets that you can really enjoy and hopefully becomes regular things because you'll actually click.
When messaging read the profile an if they actually sound right for you reply with relevant stuff be sure to ask some decent questions (not how are you) so they've got some nice ice breaker material to reply to (hate messages with out anything you can actually use to reply an start a Convo about).
Treat people like you would if you net them in real life. |
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