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By *leasures4 OP Couple
over a year ago
East midlands |
Hi all... 
As much as I LOVE sex and enjoy every minute of getting down and dirty, I have never achieved an orgasm on a meet. Gush, squirt? Yep... but never a full orgasm.
Its not a major issue but I do sometimes worry why I'm not "normal".
Does anyone else have the same happen to them? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Fem x |
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over a year ago
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I have experienced similar. I think to some extent meeting with brand new partners is always a challenge in terms of hitting those elusive clit Os: the manipulations needed can be very fine and particular to each woman - factor in a bit of nerves, new/unknown surroundings and distractions etc and you can see how these can go hit&miss.
But what about your partner, doesn't he lend a hand to hit the target? Also sometimes things can go too fast in meetings (ie. not enough foreplay), so slowing down, more touching and generally working you over can help. Lastly, crank up the directions - whatever works for you in terms of physical or mental stimulation, request it or at least let it be known! |
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By *leasures4 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"I have experienced similar. I think to some extent meeting with brand new partners is always a challenge in terms of hitting those elusive clit Os: the manipulations needed can be very fine and particular to each woman - factor in a bit of nerves, new/unknown surroundings and distractions etc and you can see how these can go hit&miss.
But what about your partner, doesn't he lend a hand to hit the target? Also sometimes things can go too fast in meetings (ie. not enough foreplay), so slowing down, more touching and generally working you over can help. Lastly, crank up the directions - whatever works for you in terms of physical or mental stimulation, request it or at least let it be known!"
Thank you for your reply. 
I can relate to what you are saying in regards to new surroundings etc. Even with regular meets I don't achieve but on reflection, maybe I'm trying too hard to be the "player". Being the one giving more so than receiving (but I do love to give).
I do need to relax more, that's for sure. Maybe thats why my fantasy of being taken by several men exists! He he! 
My orgasms are usually triggered by combined g-spot and clitoral stimulation so that makes it more difficult.
My fella does try to give a helping hand but when there are others pleasure to consider, I do steer him back to them as not to leave them without the attention.
I think I have just answered my own question haven't I?! 
It isn't until I have talked about it on here that I I'm realising I need to relax, lay back and enjoy more!  |
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By *leasures4 OP Couple
over a year ago
East midlands |
"would say don't worry about it, have fun and then when you go home with each other then have more fun..
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I think the worrying about it has been a factor too. Like I say, I have a great time and love having fun with others. It would never stop us from swinging but it would be fantastic to be able to orgasm.
We always go home and have fun with each other too.
Maybe I'm paranoid about being thought of as a bit weird. |
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By *leasures4 OP Couple
over a year ago
East midlands |
"Does it bother you? If not then don't worry. Doesn't matter what anyone else thinks as long as you're happy. "
It does slightly bother me, yes. Although it shouldn't. I always have a great time and leave happy so maybe I just need a slap. Lol!  |
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By *leasures4 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"I don't orgasm with meets. I don't want to, I don't fake and I don't care if it bothers them. I'm happy and I have lots of fun. "
I would never fake either. I don't see the point. I do care if it bothers them though as I don't want to give anyone a complex that they wasn't good enough.
I don't want to be faced with giving the "its not you, its me" speech all the time... Lol! |
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over a year ago
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"I don't orgasm with meets. I don't want to, I don't fake and I don't care if it bothers them. I'm happy and I have lots of fun.
I would never fake either. I don't see the point. I do care if it bothers them though as I don't want to give anyone a complex that they wasn't good enough.
I don't want to be faced with giving the "its not you, its me" speech all the time... Lol! "
I've never had anyone ask if I wasn't happy/ fulfilled/ whatever after a meet. I'm a smiley kind of chick, maybe they just understand I enjoyed it from my big grin. x |
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By *D40Couple
over a year ago
Wolverhampton |
I've orgasm'd once whilst playing... Totally unexpected as it was my second one of the night, which rarely happens.
I love the sex, love the giving of pleasure, an orgasm is a bonus but not the be all & end all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't orgasm with meets. I don't want to"
I'd be curious to know why? Sometimes I don't care for it either, as it involves a level of surrender and on occasion I prefer to keep my faculties to the full. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi all...
As much as I LOVE sex and enjoy every minute of getting down and dirty, I have never achieved an orgasm on a meet. Gush, squirt? Yep... but never a full orgasm.
Its not a major issue but I do sometimes worry why I'm not "normal".
Does anyone else have the same happen to them? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Fem x"
I don't orgasm either. who says it's our (the females) fault? |
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By *leasures4 OP Couple
over a year ago
East midlands |
"I don't orgasm with meets. I don't want to, I don't fake and I don't care if it bothers them. I'm happy and I have lots of fun.
I would never fake either. I don't see the point. I do care if it bothers them though as I don't want to give anyone a complex that they wasn't good enough.
I don't want to be faced with giving the "its not you, its me" speech all the time... Lol!
I've never had anyone ask if I wasn't happy/ fulfilled/ whatever after a meet. I'm a smiley kind of chick, maybe they just understand I enjoyed it from my big grin. x"
And the moans... |
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By *leasures4 OP Couple
over a year ago
East midlands |
"I've orgasm'd once whilst playing... Totally unexpected as it was my second one of the night, which rarely happens.
I love the sex, love the giving of pleasure, an orgasm is a bonus but not the be all & end all"
Anything is a bonus in play. I don't expect an orgasm but have been surprised its not happened. Especially in such a horny environment. I have orgasms when fantasising about some past meets |
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By *leasures4 OP Couple
over a year ago
East midlands |
"Hi all...
As much as I LOVE sex and enjoy every minute of getting down and dirty, I have never achieved an orgasm on a meet. Gush, squirt? Yep... but never a full orgasm.
Its not a major issue but I do sometimes worry why I'm not "normal".
Does anyone else have the same happen to them? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Fem x
I don't orgasm either. who says it's our (the females) fault? "
Its not anyone's fault. We are all built and wired up differently. That's my thoughts and I'm sticking to it. 
I think it randomly happens we aren't looking for it. Right time...right place etc etc...x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't orgasm with meets. I don't want to
I'd be curious to know why? Sometimes I don't care for it either, as it involves a level of surrender and on occasion I prefer to keep my faculties to the full."
No particular reason. I enjoy the whole thing, just not interested in a big 'finale' if that makes sense. |
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By *leasures4 OP Couple
over a year ago
East midlands |
"If you have had a good time, is an orgasm that important.
Pressured sex to achieve one, could leave you and the other person stressed.
Her"
No it isn't. We have had some fantastic times and wouldn't change a thing.
I have had those stressful times you mention, in the past. Due to the man thinking its a goal, then questioning if its them. Also making me feel inadequate because I haven't orgasmed. x |
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By *leasures4 OP Couple
over a year ago
East midlands |
"When my x husband and I did clubs I never climaxed as I don't like being touched after I cum bigtime, but I sometimes gushed so I know what u talking about "
Touched on your ladybits or anywhere? x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have you thought about taking a small toy with you to aid things along a bit? Something you know works for you. You could stash it in a locker until fun time |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you have had a good time, is an orgasm that important.
Pressured sex to achieve one, could leave you and the other person stressed.
Her
No it isn't. We have had some fantastic times and wouldn't change a thing.
I have had those stressful times you mention, in the past. Due to the man thinking its a goal, then questioning if its them. Also making me feel inadequate because I haven't orgasmed. x"
That's horrible.  Don't ever let anyone make you feel inadequate. x |
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By *leasures4 OP Couple
over a year ago
East midlands |
"Have you thought about taking a small toy with you to aid things along a bit? Something you know works for you. You could stash it in a locker until fun time"
Hiya!
Yes I've thought about it but always forget to put one in our play bag! Must remember next time....x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Have you thought about taking a small toy with you to aid things along a bit? Something you know works for you. You could stash it in a locker until fun time
Hiya!
Yes I've thought about it but always forget to put one in our play bag! Must remember next time....x"
Very personal question. If its just you and the mr playing at the club, can you orgasm? Just trying to ascertain if its the location that's hindering you or the people.
Or you're just too excited to focus enough to orgasm |
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By *leasures4 OP Couple
over a year ago
East midlands |
"If you have had a good time, is an orgasm that important.
Pressured sex to achieve one, could leave you and the other person stressed.
Her
No it isn't. We have had some fantastic times and wouldn't change a thing.
I have had those stressful times you mention, in the past. Due to the man thinking its a goal, then questioning if its them. Also making me feel inadequate because I haven't orgasmed. x
That's horrible. Don't ever let anyone make you feel inadequate. x"
I've toughened up a lot since then and my fella wouldn't ever do or say anything to upset me but maybe its still in the back of my mind from before? It was a guy I was seeing for a few months and when we split he mentioned that he wasn't keen anyway as I didn't orgasm for him. His loss eh? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi all...
As much as I LOVE sex and enjoy every minute of getting down and dirty, I have never achieved an orgasm on a meet. Gush, squirt? Yep... but never a full orgasm.
Its not a major issue but I do sometimes worry why I'm not "normal".
Does anyone else have the same happen to them? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Fem x"
your not the only one. Im not able to ejaculate most times when im having a meet or 2 if I do I have to save it up for a few days. Ive never cum off a bj as well even tho I love them its depressing some times and ive even lost gfs because of it. Thas why I stay single. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you have had a good time, is an orgasm that important.
Pressured sex to achieve one, could leave you and the other person stressed.
Her
No it isn't. We have had some fantastic times and wouldn't change a thing.
I have had those stressful times you mention, in the past. Due to the man thinking its a goal, then questioning if its them. Also making me feel inadequate because I haven't orgasmed. x"
Well that attitude from them, shows me a boy not a man
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By *leasures4 OP Couple
over a year ago
East midlands |
"Have you thought about taking a small toy with you to aid things along a bit? Something you know works for you. You could stash it in a locker until fun time
Hiya!
Yes I've thought about it but always forget to put one in our play bag! Must remember next time....x
Very personal question. If its just you and the mr playing at the club, can you orgasm? Just trying to ascertain if its the location that's hindering you or the people.
Or you're just too excited to focus enough to orgasm "
Haha! Its very easy to lose focus in there...
I've never orgasmed at the club full stop. We only usually have a little play now and again on our own there.
I've been extremely close at someone's home before...x
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"Have you thought about taking a small toy with you to aid things along a bit? Something you know works for you. You could stash it in a locker until fun time
Hiya!
Yes I've thought about it but always forget to put one in our play bag! Must remember next time....x
Very personal question. If its just you and the mr playing at the club, can you orgasm? Just trying to ascertain if its the location that's hindering you or the people.
Or you're just too excited to focus enough to orgasm
Haha! Its very easy to lose focus in there...
I've never orgasmed at the club full stop. We only usually have a little play now and again on our own there.
I've been extremely close at someone's home before...x
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I get the impression that once you've broken whatever barrier this is there'll literally be no stopping you. |
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By *leasures4 OP Couple
over a year ago
East midlands |
"Have you thought about taking a small toy with you to aid things along a bit? Something you know works for you. You could stash it in a locker until fun time
Hiya!
Yes I've thought about it but always forget to put one in our play bag! Must remember next time....x
Very personal question. If its just you and the mr playing at the club, can you orgasm? Just trying to ascertain if its the location that's hindering you or the people.
Or you're just too excited to focus enough to orgasm
Haha! Its very easy to lose focus in there...
I've never orgasmed at the club full stop. We only usually have a little play now and again on our own there.
I've been extremely close at someone's home before...x
I get the impression that once you've broken whatever barrier this is there'll literally be no stopping you. "
Ooh I do hope so. But if not then I will have had fun trying |
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The best you can do is simply be yourself and enjoy the fun that comes by chance, just go with the flow and you will reach different horizons you did not know they even existed lol
This is a general rule for everybody including guys, the more they worry about their performance the worse it gets, Viagra or not Viagra
I know it's not as easy as said but this is the only way |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I sometimes have similar issues too, even with my regular partner. Cumming isn't always 'be all and end all'. Try not to think that's the main aim of the meet. Just lay back, relax and enjoy it.
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By *leasures4 OP Couple
over a year ago
East midlands |
"The best you can do is simply be yourself and enjoy the fun that comes by chance, just go with the flow and you will reach different horizons you did not know they even existed lol
This is a general rule for everybody including guys, the more they worry about their performance the worse it gets, Viagra or not Viagra
I know it's not as easy as said but this is the only way "
Thanks for the advice. I think once I relax more, more intense pleasure will take over.
Fantastic pics by the way. Very sexy. x  |
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By *leasures4 OP Couple
over a year ago
East midlands |
"I sometimes have similar issues too, even with my regular partner. Cumming isn't always 'be all and end all'. Try not to think that's the main aim of the meet. Just lay back, relax and enjoy it.
P"
Thanks. Its a relief to know I'm not alone. This thread is obviously highlighting the fact I struggle with orgasm but at meets its not under the limelight in any respect. Its at the back of my mind whilst enjoying any fun we have. It is something I wonder about generally though. Thanks again x |
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By *leasures4 OP Couple
over a year ago
East midlands |
"Hi all...
As much as I LOVE sex and enjoy every minute of getting down and dirty, I have never achieved an orgasm on a meet. Gush, squirt? Yep... but never a full orgasm.
Its not a major issue but I do sometimes worry why I'm not "normal".
Does anyone else have the same happen to them? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Fem x your not the only one. Im not able to ejaculate most times when im having a meet or 2 if I do I have to save it up for a few days. Ive never cum off a bj as well even tho I love them its depressing some times and ive even lost gfs because of it. Thas why I stay single. "
Hi.
I presumed it was just us ladies. I have had guys say that I haven't had a real man etc and that they would be sure to get me orgasming. Lol! I bet you've had the same regarding bj's.
Don't stay single because of it though. Be single because you are happy to be on your own. x |
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"I don't orgasm with meets. I don't want to, I don't fake and I don't care if it bothers them. I'm happy and I have lots of fun. "
I completely agree - I don't ever have orgasms on meets, and very specifically don't want to.
Orgasms are something that I treasure on my own, or only share within a relationship.
If anybody has a problem over where my limits lie (and some have!) then it's their problem to deal with, not mine, sorry!
I've given up being nice about it and apologising because I felt that I should - now, it's just the way things are, and isn't going to change anytime soon!!!
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By *leasures4 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"I sometimes struggle to orgasm but it's not a big deal for me. It doesn't mean I haven't enjoyed myself and had a bloody good time...
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Exactly. We can still have a fantastic time regardless. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Have you thought about taking a small toy with you to aid things along a bit? Something you know works for you. You could stash it in a locker until fun time"
I take my little bullet with me to clubs. Fits neatly in my handbag so is alway handy.
I don't mind not cumming every now and then, but not to cum all the time would bother me big time. |
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It's refreshing to hear that I am not the only woman on here who does not orgasm on meets. My hubby has known me and my body and can make me orgasm in minutes orally.
I guess like alot of you ladies say it's the atmosphere, surroundings and sometimes feeling the pressure to orgasm and it just doesn't happen. Thanks ladies nice to know I'm not weird lol, especially going to clubs and hearing ladies screaming hee hee is it all put on lol x |
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'Orgasms are something that I treasure on my own, or only share within a relationship.'
I like this sentiment....isn't an orgasm the most intimate experience to share with another human being? So no surprising that for many, it doesn't happen on meets. But ain't the be all and end all.....
Saying that, I still need two a day or I get as cranky as hell! |
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By *leasures4 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Have you thought about taking a small toy with you to aid things along a bit? Something you know works for you. You could stash it in a locker until fun time
I take my little bullet with me to clubs. Fits neatly in my handbag so is alway handy.
I don't mind not cumming every now and then, but not to cum all the time would bother me big time. "
I honestly wish I could but if its not meant to be I will have fun regardless and wait til I get the mister home.
I will probably take my rabbit ears with me to the club this weekend...you know, just in case... |
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By *leasures4 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"It's refreshing to hear that I am not the only woman on here who does not orgasm on meets. My hubby has known me and my body and can make me orgasm in minutes orally.
I guess like alot of you ladies say it's the atmosphere, surroundings and sometimes feeling the pressure to orgasm and it just doesn't happen. Thanks ladies nice to know I'm not weird lol, especially going to clubs and hearing ladies screaming hee hee is it all put on lol x"
I'm similar but with oral and fingers...
I'm a pain in the arse...lol! Now and again just with penetration and then I'm grinning from ear to ear as to say "look what I've just done!"
I'm very envious of the ladies that can cum easily... *sighs* |
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By *leasures4 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"'Orgasms are something that I treasure on my own, or only share within a relationship.'
I like this sentiment....isn't an orgasm the most intimate experience to share with another human being? So no surprising that for many, it doesn't happen on meets. But ain't the be all and end all.....
Saying that, I still need two a day or I get as cranky as hell! "
I thought I was bad with one a day! Lol! Its my cocoa. I need it to relax...
Last night I was climbing the walls! He was feeling ill so I left him to sleep while I had a play. After reading about ladies who use their rabbit and get where they can't orgasm without it, it did make me wonder enough to go back to basics. So it was manual all the way! Result! |
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By *leasures4 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Same here !!!! My hubby says it would be awesome to see me cum with another man or woman but to be truthful my hubby is the only person to make me cum, it will be my mission to sort it lol x"
Mines the same. He would love to see me cumming all over the place with other men/women. We may surprise ourselves one day. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I very seldom have an orgasm with meets. When I do it's only a little one and not an earth shattering, all singing all dancing one like I have with C. I suppose I look at it as that is 'fab sex', and C and I aren't 'fab sex' we have a different level of intimacy that allows us to be free sexually. |
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It's refreshing to hear that I am not the only woman on here who does not orgasm on meets. My hubby has known me and my body and can make me orgasm in minutes orally.
I guess like alot of you ladies say it's the atmosphere, surroundings and sometimes feeling the pressure to orgasm and it just doesn't happen. Thanks ladies nice to know I'm not weird lol, especially going to clubs and hearing ladies screaming hee hee is it all put on lol x
I'm similar but with oral and fingers...
I'm a pain in the arse...lol! Now and again just with penetration and then I'm grinning from ear to ear as to say "look what I've just done!"
I'm very envious of the ladies that can cum easily... *sighs*
Oral and fingers all the way for me too, works everytime with my hubby |
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"I don't orgasm with meets. I don't want to, I don't fake and I don't care if it bothers them. I'm happy and I have lots of fun.
I completely agree - I don't ever have orgasms on meets, and very specifically don't want to.
Orgasms are something that I treasure on my own, or only share within a relationship.
If anybody has a problem over where my limits lie (and some have!) then it's their problem to deal with, not mine, sorry!
I've given up being nice about it and apologising because I felt that I should - now, it's just the way things are, and isn't going to change anytime soon!!!
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I thought I was bad with one a day! Lol! Its my cocoa. I need it to relax...
Last night I was climbing the walls! He was feeling ill so I left him to sleep while I had a play. After reading about ladies who use their rabbit and get where they can't orgasm without it, it did make me wonder enough to go back to basics. So it was manual all the way! Result!
lol I do that too just check everything's as responsive as normal.......sometimes the old ways are the best....  |
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"I sometimes have similar issues too, even with my regular partner. Cumming isn't always 'be all and end all'. Try not to think that's the main aim of the meet. Just lay back, relax and enjoy it.
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Thanks. Its a relief to know I'm not alone. This thread is obviously highlighting the fact I struggle with orgasm but at meets its not under the limelight in any respect. Its at the back of my mind whilst enjoying any fun we have. It is something I wonder about ,generally though. Thanks again x"
I would prescribe a medicinal drinky, just to help you relax, and then just go with the flow! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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You think that's a worry, I've never cum during a meet, and I can't with my partner either, least not for over 12 years!
Only way I can is if I play master ate alone, |
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By *leasures4 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"You think that's a worry, I've never cum during a meet, and I can't with my partner either, least not for over 12 years!
Only way I can is if I play master ate alone, "
Oh blummin eck! I think its all in the mind with us ladies. Plus we know what feels good and keep with it. By the time you tell someone how good that feels and to keep there, it changes straight away without them realising. Lol! x |
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By *leasures4 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"I sometimes have similar issues too, even with my regular partner. Cumming isn't always 'be all and end all'. Try not to think that's the main aim of the meet. Just lay back, relax and enjoy it.
P
Thanks. Its a relief to know I'm not alone. This thread is obviously highlighting the fact I struggle with orgasm but at meets its not under the limelight in any respect. Its at the back of my mind whilst enjoying any fun we have. It is something I wonder about ,generally though. Thanks again x
I would prescribe a medicinal drinky, just to help you relax, and then just go with the flow! "
I don't want to drink too much though. Its easily done though. I limit to one bottle of wine these days. I'm very relaxed with that and the people I'm with. Its just me. I must be psychologically scared or something |
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By *leasures4 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"It depends a lot on how comfortable you are with that person. I know one woman who was so comfortable with me she would be on the verge of orgasm as soon as I slide my cock in"
Lucky lady! It can't be that with me as I struggle with my fella sometimes too. I fancy the arse off him, feel really comfortable and he makes me feel the most sexiest lady to have walked the earth, so its a mystery... |
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By *leasures4 OP Couple
over a year ago
East midlands |
"I thought I was bad with one a day! Lol! Its my cocoa. I need it to relax...
Last night I was climbing the walls! He was feeling ill so I left him to sleep while I had a play. After reading about ladies who use their rabbit and get where they can't orgasm without it, it did make me wonder enough to go back to basics. So it was manual all the way! Result!
lol I do that too just check everything's as responsive as normal.......sometimes the old ways are the best.... "
I hadn't done that for about 15 years! I became reliant on the rabbit. I sometimes blame that on why I usually need the double stimulation. I've killed so many rabbits! Not in the bunny boiler sense I might add... x |
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By *leasures4 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"It's refreshing to hear that I am not the only woman on here who does not orgasm on meets. My hubby has known me and my body and can make me orgasm in minutes orally.
I guess like alot of you ladies say it's the atmosphere, surroundings and sometimes feeling the pressure to orgasm and it just doesn't happen. Thanks ladies nice to know I'm not weird lol, especially going to clubs and hearing ladies screaming hee hee is it all put on lol x
I'm similar but with oral and fingers...
I'm a pain in the arse...lol! Now and again just with penetration and then I'm grinning from ear to ear as to say "look what I've just done!"
I'm very envious of the ladies that can cum easily... *sighs*
Oral and fingers all the way for me too, works everytime with my hubby "
I think its a more powerful orgasm to be fair. |
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By *leasures4 OP Couple
over a year ago
East midlands |
"I very seldom have an orgasm with meets. When I do it's only a little one and not an earth shattering, all singing all dancing one like I have with C. I suppose I look at it as that is 'fab sex', and C and I aren't 'fab sex' we have a different level of intimacy that allows us to be free sexually. "
Yes the intimacy is definitely different. Although a connection still has to be there for all involved, its more relaxed with your own partner. x |
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"Same here !!!! My hubby says it would be awesome to see me cum with another man or woman but to be truthful my hubby is the only person to make me cum, it will be my mission to sort it lol x
Mines the same. He would love to see me cumming all over the place with other men/women. We may surprise ourselves one day. x"
It would surprise the life out of him, probably would self-combust lol x |
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By *leasures4 OP Couple
over a year ago
East midlands |
"Ooh how about having some guys watch you go solo one night? Bring yourself to orgasm in front of other people. Seems like a fun place to start!"
Oh god! I doubt I could do that! I won't do a pole dance, never mind frig myself off in front of spectators. Hehehe! I shy away from attention at the best of times.
I wish I had your confidence. You seem to have loads when we see you on the pole. |
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By *leasures4 OP Couple
over a year ago
East midlands |
"Same here !!!! My hubby says it would be awesome to see me cum with another man or woman but to be truthful my hubby is the only person to make me cum, it will be my mission to sort it lol x
Mines the same. He would love to see me cumming all over the place with other men/women. We may surprise ourselves one day. x
It would surprise the life out of him, probably would self-combust lol x"
And us! Just think how amazing it would be... x |
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over a year ago
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"Ooh how about having some guys watch you go solo one night? Bring yourself to orgasm in front of other people. Seems like a fun place to start!
Oh god! I doubt I could do that! I won't do a pole dance, never mind frig myself off in front of spectators. Hehehe! I shy away from attention at the best of times.
I wish I had your confidence. You seem to have loads when we see you on the pole. "
Fake it until you make it! Also the lights mean I cant see anyone |
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"Same here !!!! My hubby says it would be awesome to see me cum with another man or woman but to be truthful my hubby is the only person to make me cum, it will be my mission to sort it lol x
Mines the same. He would love to see me cumming all over the place with other men/women. We may surprise ourselves one day. x
It would surprise the life out of him, probably would self-combust lol x
And us! Just think how amazing it would be... x"
I think i need to shag more men, just for science reasons of course !!!!!!! lolol x |
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By *leasures4 OP Couple
over a year ago
East midlands |
"Same here !!!! My hubby says it would be awesome to see me cum with another man or woman but to be truthful my hubby is the only person to make me cum, it will be my mission to sort it lol x
Mines the same. He would love to see me cumming all over the place with other men/women. We may surprise ourselves one day. x
It would surprise the life out of him, probably would self-combust lol x
And us! Just think how amazing it would be... x
I think i need to shag more men, just for science reasons of course !!!!!!! lolol x"
Of course. I'm all for research... |
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over a year ago
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"Inadequate is one word. relaxing is another
Sorry... I don't understand? x"
I meant to follow someones quote about me feeling inadequate. messed up sorry.
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By *hocmanxMan
over a year ago
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"Ooh how about having some guys watch you go solo one night? Bring yourself to orgasm in front of other people. Seems like a fun place to start!"
I love it when a woman is pleasuring herself. Even better when she invites me to suck her nipples at the same time!! |
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over a year ago
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"Ooh how about having some guys watch you go solo one night? Bring yourself to orgasm in front of other people. Seems like a fun place to start!
I love it when a woman is pleasuring herself. Even better when she invites me to suck her nipples at the same time!!"
lol I always 'instruct' my man to do that when I'm masturbating.....super-speeds me to orgasm mmmmmm... |
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By *leasures4 OP Couple
over a year ago
East midlands |
"Isn't it all down to more foreplay? Works for the ladies. I've met "
Chances are, you could be down on me all night and I wouldn't cum. We are sometimes built different than others.
My fella thought he had lost his technique when he met me. It just means he has to go the extra mile now with no slacking.
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over a year ago
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"I have experienced similar. I think to some extent meeting with brand new partners is always a challenge in terms of hitting those elusive clit Os: the manipulations needed can be very fine and particular to each woman - factor in a bit of nerves, new/unknown surroundings and distractions etc and you can see how these can go hit&miss.
But what about your partner, doesn't he lend a hand to hit the target? Also sometimes things can go too fast in meetings (ie. not enough foreplay), so slowing down, more touching and generally working you over can help. Lastly, crank up the directions - whatever works for you in terms of physical or mental stimulation, request it or at least let it be known!"
couldn't agree more, well said. Xx |
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over a year ago
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"Hi all...
As much as I LOVE sex and enjoy every minute of getting down and dirty, I have never achieved an orgasm on a meet. Gush, squirt? Yep... but never a full orgasm.
Its not a major issue but I do sometimes worry why I'm not "normal".
I'm not normal either then!
Does anyone else have the same happen to them? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Fem x"
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How intimate do you get with your meets ?
How passionate do you feel ?
Are you tingling from being teased ?
I ask because without these things, without connecting with your sensuality as well as your sexuality, you are going to struggle to really relax.
I hear some couples dont mind fucking but don't kiss. Well this is probably going to cause issues for many. I personally would struggle if I felt like 'a cock' and not a person.
The transmission of feelings via mouth or movement allow me to know if what im doing is right for that partner. I need to spend time learning and playing....something id imagine a hubby may find too intimate (not all).
So its no suprise that some ladies struggle to climax.......but the journey is still fun. |
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By *leasures4 OP Couple
over a year ago
East midlands |
"How intimate do you get with your meets ?
How passionate do you feel ?
Are you tingling from being teased ?
I ask because without these things, without connecting with your sensuality as well as your sexuality, you are going to struggle to really relax.
I hear some couples dont mind fucking but don't kiss. Well this is probably going to cause issues for many. I personally would struggle if I felt like 'a cock' and not a person.
The transmission of feelings via mouth or movement allow me to know if what im doing is right for that partner. I need to spend time learning and playing....something id imagine a hubby may find too intimate (not all).
So its no suprise that some ladies struggle to climax.......but the journey is still fun. "
I'd like to think our meets are very intimate and how passionate we get is dependant on the situation and how horny we are feeling, which is pretty damn horny most of the time.
I don't always get the tingling sensation you have mentioned, but I've always been the same. Maybe I haven't been teased enough? I like lots of foreplay and to be honest, I do need probably more than most.
We don't kiss but I know what you're saying. Kissing does give more of a connection, I don't doubt it for a minute. However, not one of our meets have felt deprived in any way by it or even questioned it. They have accepted our preference and repeated meets. Luckily... Phew!
Saying that... When we have been in a group situation, whether in a club or at a party I've never seen anyone kiss at all! I've just realised! Lol!
Id feel really sad to know I had made anyone feel like "just a cock"
We always make sure there is a connection and we are all relaxed before any fun happens. Having a giggle and flirt is equally important to us, as are peoples feelings.
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Mrs Lincs tends to orgasm within 3 minutes with hubby but she seldom reaches orgasm with other guys, no matter how hard they try.
The other guys haven't been worse than Mr Liincs with regard to their sexual techniques, so we guess it's a mindset issue.
Thankfully it's never ruined her enjoyment |
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over a year ago
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"Funny old things orgasims. Sometimes they are elusive but its great fun trying to get to one.
God loves a tryer..."
Many a woman has told me I am very trying! |
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I'd like to think our meets are very intimate and how passionate we get is dependant on the situation and how horny we are feeling, which is pretty damn horny most of the time.
I don't always get the tingling sensation you have mentioned, but I've always been the same. Maybe I haven't been teased enough? I like lots of foreplay and to be honest, I do need probably more than most.
We don't kiss but I know what you're saying. Kissing does give more of a connection, I don't doubt it for a minute. However, not one of our meets have felt deprived in any way by it or even questioned it. They have accepted our preference and repeated meets. Luckily... Phew!
Saying that... When we have been in a group situation, whether in a club or at a party I've never seen anyone kiss at all! I've just realised! Lol!
Id feel really sad to know I had made anyone feel like "just a cock"
We always make sure there is a connection and we are all relaxed before any fun happens. Having a giggle and flirt is equally important to us, as are peoples feelings.
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Sorry if tou thouvht I was implying your meets are unhappy. I was actually implying that the heightened intamacy of kissing etc. maybe what you require to get to orgasm.
I have no doubt thw meets are happy (ive seen your pics) but we were talking about you. Perhaps the orgasm starts with the first kiss ?
Anyway, if there is no kissing at clubs....I dont really think I will fit in
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By *leasures4 OP Couple
over a year ago
East midlands |
"Mrs Lincs tends to orgasm within 3 minutes with hubby but she seldom reaches orgasm with other guys, no matter how hard they try.
The other guys haven't been worse than Mr Liincs with regard to their sexual techniques, so we guess it's a mindset issue.
Thankfully it's never ruined her enjoyment "
Lucky Mrs lincs! I wish I could in half an hour! Lol!
I do believe it must be mindset issues with myself too. I'm relaxed, I enjoy it and am quite confident at meets.
Again, like you say...techniques haven't been a problem as Im loving every minute. x |
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By *leasures4 OP Couple
over a year ago
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I'd like to think our meets are very intimate and how passionate we get is dependant on the situation and how horny we are feeling, which is pretty damn horny most of the time.
I don't always get the tingling sensation you have mentioned, but I've always been the same. Maybe I haven't been teased enough? I like lots of foreplay and to be honest, I do need probably more than most.
We don't kiss but I know what you're saying. Kissing does give more of a connection, I don't doubt it for a minute. However, not one of our meets have felt deprived in any way by it or even questioned it. They have accepted our preference and repeated meets. Luckily... Phew!
Saying that... When we have been in a group situation, whether in a club or at a party I've never seen anyone kiss at all! I've just realised! Lol!
Id feel really sad to know I had made anyone feel like "just a cock"
We always make sure there is a connection and we are all relaxed before any fun happens. Having a giggle and flirt is equally important to us, as are peoples feelings.
Sorry if tou thouvht I was implying your meets are unhappy. I was actually implying that the heightened intamacy of kissing etc. maybe what you require to get to orgasm.
I have no doubt thw meets are happy (ive seen your pics) but we were talking about you. Perhaps the orgasm starts with the first kiss ?
Anyway, if there is no kissing at clubs....I dont really think I will fit in
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No, not at all. I didn't think anything of the kind
It may be that we are not intimate enough. I will never know if it is that. But...I do struggle even with kissing involved with my partner. Always have with all my ex's too.
Don't be put off going to a club Its only in my experiences/meets I speak of. Im sure plenty of people do kiss. There's always threads on the forum regarding kissing/no kissing and more people do kiss than those of us that don't. |
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It is incredibly rare that I can orgasm on a meet, I can count on 1 hand how many times I have. It used to bother me when we first started this, but not anymore, I don't expect to so I don't get disappointed when it doesn't happen. Pleasantly surprised when it does |
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By *leasures4 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"It is incredibly rare that I can orgasm on a meet, I can count on 1 hand how many times I have. It used to bother me when we first started this, but not anymore, I don't expect to so I don't get disappointed when it doesn't happen. Pleasantly surprised when it does "
I would be gobsmacked! |
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over a year ago
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"You think that's a worry, I've never cum during a meet, and I can't with my partner either, least not for over 12 years!
Only way I can is if I play master ate alone, "
same here, been close a few times.. and I gush quite often if I'm in the right mood.
If I do during sex its a big surprise ... normally in some odd position! but the same position doesn't always do it the next time. I'm just odd I guess |
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over a year ago
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i never used to that often until i told men what i like and dont like. i only cum through clitoral stimulation though.
if they dont make me cum i use my toy.
it doesnt matter that much though if i cum or not, i dont like men who make you feel as if you have to cum though.
it puts me off. |
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over a year ago
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"I don't orgasm with meets. I don't want to, I don't fake and I don't care if it bothers them. I'm happy and I have lots of fun.
I would never fake either. I don't see the point. I do care if it bothers them though as I don't want to give anyone a complex that they wasn't good enough.
I don't want to be faced with giving the "its not you, its me" speech all the time... Lol! "
I actually tell people I don't orgasm that way they aren't going to get a complex, so long as I enjoy myself and them too I don't get sort of what the issue is. Having an orgasm isn't the be all and end of sex, enjoying oneself is far more important |
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over a year ago
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i think a lot of it. or most of it, is all in the mind. I have no problems ejaculating in the comfort of my own home masturbating, but I do struggle when having sex for some reason. It may be due to medication i'm on, but i'm fairly sure a lot of it's in the mind aswell! It does affect my confidence though, and I am scared of meeting someone in a club and not being able to perform  |
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"Hi all...
As much as I LOVE sex and enjoy every minute of getting down and dirty, I have never achieved an orgasm on a meet. Gush, squirt? Yep... but never a full orgasm.
Its not a major issue but I do sometimes worry why I'm not "normal".
Does anyone else have the same happen to them? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Fem x"
if your not normal then dont know what I am as I do orgasm lots but rarely gush and never squirt
communication is always the key tell people what you like |
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"Hi all...
As much as I LOVE sex and enjoy every minute of getting down and dirty, I have never achieved an orgasm on a meet. Gush, squirt? Yep... but never a full orgasm.
Its not a major issue but I do sometimes worry why I'm not "normal".
Does anyone else have the same happen to them? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Fem x"
I don't either. I think I don't relax enough |
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Vamp has no problems in this respect.
She is multi-orgasmic, and sometimes has worried some people, because she can shake and shudder, often uncontrollably....some think she is having some kind of 'fit'.
I am often the one who cannot reach a full conclusion...but, as long as the lady I am with enjoys herself, then, I am not worried. |
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By *leasures4 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Hi all...
As much as I LOVE sex and enjoy every minute of getting down and dirty, I have never achieved an orgasm on a meet. Gush, squirt? Yep... but never a full orgasm.
Its not a major issue but I do sometimes worry why I'm not "normal".
Does anyone else have the same yhappen to them? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Fem x
I don't either. I think I don't relax enough "
Its so easy for someone to say relax but can be so difficult to. I orgasmed a couple of weeks ago, but maybe due to it being one on one with a lady who I'm extremely comfortable with and we were in a private room. Also her technique was fantastic and just how I like it. |
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By *leasures4 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Vamp has no problems in this respect.
She is multi-orgasmic, and sometimes has worried some people, because she can shake and shudder, often uncontrollably....some think she is having some kind of 'fit'.
I am often the one who cannot reach a full conclusion...but, as long as the lady I am with enjoys herself, then, I am not worried."
Such a gentleman!
Vamp is a very lucky lady. I'm very envious of ladies who can orgasm easily. Although I do have lots of fun, it can be frustrating when I get so close and then.....nothing! Lol!
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By *leasures4 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"I too cant orgasm on meets, again i always squirt and men usually see this as job done. They dont seem to realise that an orgasm is a womans finale lol"
At home its my cocoa before sleep. But at a meet it really doesnt matter when it comes down to it, as long as we have fun. I just wondered why I struggle.
Lots of men do love a squirter. Its a good job with me. Haha!
A finale would be great at meets but I just think it must be underlying nerves or something, although I enjoy every minute.... |
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"I too cant orgasm on meets, again i always squirt and men usually see this as job done. They dont seem to realise that an orgasm is a womans finale lol
At home its my cocoa before sleep. But at a meet it really doesnt matter when it comes down to it, as long as we have fun. I just wondered why I struggle.
Lots of men do love a squirter. Its a good job with me. Haha!
A finale would be great at meets but I just think it must be underlying nerves or something, although I enjoy every minute.... "
Yea its all good but do wish somebody could make me a quivering wreck..... They all promise they will  haha |
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over a year ago
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"I too cant orgasm on meets, again i always squirt and men usually see this as job done. They dont seem to realise that an orgasm is a womans finale lol
At home its my cocoa before sleep. But at a meet it really doesnt matter when it comes down to it, as long as we have fun. I just wondered why I struggle.
Lots of men do love a squirter. Its a good job with me. Haha!
A finale would be great at meets but I just think it must be underlying nerves or something, although I enjoy every minute....
Yea its all good but do wish somebody could make me a quivering wreck..... They all promise they will haha"
They see you as a challenge possibly... |
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By *leasures4 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Same here
doesn't bother me tbh
makes my orgasms with the O.H all the more intimate and special"
I agree. Orgasms with the O.H are definitely more special as they can be rare for me too. Lol!
I have to aid things quite often with toys. I think I was spoilt by my rabbit when I was single... |
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By *leasures4 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"I get enough from Gimp, so just have a good time, with whoever, and one follows all good
Her"
I struggle even with my fella. Lol!
I do have them but its not easy. Certain foreplay can get me there with him but its rare from penetration without the aid of a toy.
I love the meets we have and always leave happy and on top of the world regardless. |
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