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Whys it hard for a young male to get a meet ?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hello everyone just looking for some inside information been on here for a little while now got a few pics up send face pics whenever asked and have a couple of what I think are reasonably good verifications so I really don't know why it's still so hard for me to get a meet ? Is it just because I'm one of the younger ones on here ? I just want to have some fun ? X |
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A lot of young guys ask this question so I guess age is the problem.
However you've been to a club and got a veri, try getting along to more socials etc so you can meet people face to face, a lot assume (rightly or wrongly) that they won't have much common ground with young guys. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi thanks for the reply yer I thought it might be yer I've been to eurekas and yer had a great time had a few people that was interested but ever since then it's been pretty quite do you know any other good socials that woukd be happy to see a single male ? Ino I wish they didn't think that I'm easy to get along with just wish some people would give me a chance to prove myself |
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Just keep an eye in the club meet/parties section of the forums. There are sometimes ones at eureka and further afield but they are well worth attending and most allow single guys but it will state it anyway in the details x |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"Hello everyone just looking for some inside information been on here for a little while now got a few pics up send face pics whenever asked and have a couple of what I think are reasonably good verifications so I really don't know why it's still so hard for me to get a meet ? Is it just because I'm one of the younger ones on here ? I just want to have some fun ? X "
if you put as much effort into your profile as you put into your post here.... maybe that would be a start... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd go with the 'age'factor too
IMO , guys( and girls for that matter) of a really young age should be out having fun and shagging 'the old fashioned way' not relying on a site  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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'Put more effort in'
Is poor advice!
You are either physically what they want or you aren't, telling this guy to just put more effort in does not mean he'll see any more interest in himself.
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"I'd go with the 'age'factor too
IMO , guys( and girls for that matter) of a really young age should be out having fun and shagging 'the old fashioned way' not relying on a site "
too much cctv nowadays..
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"'Put more effort in'
Is poor advice!
You are either physically what they want or you aren't, telling this guy to just put more effort in does not mean he'll see any more interest in himself.
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Disagree , I put lots of effort in and get plenty of rewards. And I'm not physically wonderful (except my ass). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd go with the 'age'factor too
IMO , guys( and girls for that matter) of a really young age should be out having fun and shagging 'the old fashioned way' not relying on a site
too much cctv nowadays..
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That's very true lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"'Put more effort in'
Is poor advice!
You are either physically what they want or you aren't, telling this guy to just put more effort in does not mean he'll see any more interest in himself.
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Looks at person saying put effort in - 42 meet verifications
Looks at person saying effort doesn't matter - over a year and not one veri.
Hmmm |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"'Put more effort in'
Is poor advice!
You are either physically what they want or you aren't, telling this guy to just put more effort in does not mean he'll see any more interest in himself.
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Totally disagree. If someone with a profile that has one or two sentences messages, no matter how attractive they are, I'm probably not likely to be interested. Looks and cock size are not major factors for me when deciding who to meet. I prefer a profile to say something about the person, get their personality across and see they've made an effort as this usually makes for a good meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well we'll have to disagree.
Nothing more annoying than typing out a long message for the sake of it.
I reckon it's better to be concise and to the point, that way you waste less tome if and when it is ignored.
If someone isn't attracted to you then an essay isn't going to persuade them otherwise. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What you have to remember is that you are 21 and single therefore have no ties. You will find that a lot of people on here especially couples have busy work lives, kids and generally a life outside the world of swinging so will not be able to meet at a drop of a hat like you i imagine can.
In messages try to instill some maturity into them rather than just saying how wonderful they look and how you want to f**k them. This is a big turn off for both of us, we would rather have a well constructed message about the weather than, i want to fuck you senseless ones.
If you chatting to a couple you need to make a connection with the male half as well. I like to think that i would want to go and have a pint with the guy before i would want him to sleep with E.
I agree with previous posts that you need to elaborate on your profile a bit. Dont turn it in to war and peace but a little more about you as a person would be good...
Be honest, read profiles properly,only mail those where you fit what they are looking for.
And above all be patient
And Have fun |
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"Well we'll have to disagree.
Nothing more annoying than typing out a long message for the sake of it.
I reckon it's better to be concise and to the point, that way you waste less tome if and when it is ignored.
If someone isn't attracted to you then an essay isn't going to persuade them otherwise. "
I've never wrote an essay. My profile is only a few paragraphs. Writing isn't where the effort is made. Effort is in trying to present yourself to your best, use witty status updates or unique profile pics. I will drive up and down the country to go to socials so people know who I am. And everyone does now lol.
At the last fab social I went to everyone recognised me from my profile without me having to introduce myself. And you would be surprised how much that makes you more appealing. I did very well that weekend |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What you have to remember is that you are 21 and single therefore have no ties. You will find that a lot of people on here especially couples have busy work lives, kids and generally a life outside the world of swinging so will not be able to meet at a drop of a hat like you i imagine can.
In messages try to instill some maturity into them rather than just saying how wonderful they look and how you want to f**k them. This is a big turn off for both of us, we would rather have a well constructed message about the weather than, i want to fuck you senseless ones.
If you chatting to a couple you need to make a connection with the male half as well. I like to think that i would want to go and have a pint with the guy before i would want him to sleep with E.
I agree with previous posts that you need to elaborate on your profile a bit. Dont turn it in to war and peace but a little more about you as a person would be good...
Be honest, read profiles properly,only mail those where you fit what they are looking for.
And above all be patient
And Have fun"
Not so sure about the maturity thing people seem to like my immature excitement over ice cream and toys lol  |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"Well we'll have to disagree.
Nothing more annoying than typing out a long message for the sake of it.
I reckon it's better to be concise and to the point, that way you waste less tome if and when it is ignored.
If someone isn't attracted to you then an essay isn't going to persuade them otherwise. "
there are ways that you can help yourself "help yourself" stand out... and effort in is one of those....
there are various avenues that are open to you to help... use all of them, some of them, or none of them... but in the end that is down to you and you alone......
if you choose to not make best advantage of them... down to you! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd go with the 'age'factor too
IMO , guys( and girls for that matter) of a really young age should be out having fun and shagging 'the old fashioned way' not relying on a site "
Back of Ilford Palais? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hello everyone just looking for some inside information been on here for a little while now got a few pics up send face pics whenever asked and have a couple of what I think are reasonably good verifications so I really don't know why it's still so hard for me to get a meet ? Is it just because I'm one of the younger ones on here ? I just want to have some fun ? X "
There are lots of guys so lots of competition you have to make yourself stand out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd go with the 'age'factor too
IMO , guys( and girls for that matter) of a really young age should be out having fun and shagging 'the old fashioned way' not relying on a site "
This is unfair. I'm in a commited relationship with a beautiful girl but we both love swinging. Are we supposed to go to Revs on a Saturday and look for couples?
We both love clubs and socials, age is irrelevent! |
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I think one of the reasons why fab provides members with the facility to write profiles is because it's a useful thing to do if you want to meet people. It stands to reason, therefore, that if one has a well written, interesting and attractive profile, then it will help you meet people. 'help' being the operative word. It's not the only tool in the toolbox. Conversely, as was pointed out earlier, there's a correlation between a poorly written profile and lack of meets. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"'Put more effort in'
Is poor advice!
You are either physically what they want or you aren't, telling this guy to just put more effort in does not mean he'll see any more interest in himself.
Looks at person saying put effort in - 42 meet verifications
Looks at person saying effort doesn't matter - over a year and not one veri.
Hmmm "
Don't forget though that some have no interest in being verified (as I have seen from comments on the forums) and are doing very well without it. Being verified isn't the be and end all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi thanks for the reply yer I thought it might be yer I've been to eurekas and yer had a great time had a few people that was interested but ever since then it's been pretty quite do you know any other good socials that woukd be happy to see a single male ? Ino I wish they didn't think that I'm easy to get along with just wish some people would give me a chance to prove myself "
The fact that you are easy to get on with is irrelevant to some of us, your age is enough |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"'Put more effort in'
Is poor advice!
You are either physically what they want or you aren't, telling this guy to just put more effort in does not mean he'll see any more interest in himself.
Disagree , I put lots of effort in and get plenty of rewards. And I'm not physically wonderful (except my ass). "
Effort in often equates to results out....at least early on....then it deformed gets easier! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well we'll have to disagree.
Nothing more annoying than typing out a long message for the sake of it.
I reckon it's better to be concise and to the point, that way you waste less tome if and when it is ignored.
If someone isn't attracted to you then an essay isn't going to persuade them otherwise. "
Message and profile are two diff things. The profile is way more important. When I get a message, before even opening it I go look at the profile, if I like the profile the message becomes almost irrelevant. If the profile is poor then even the best message isn't going to change my initial view if the person and in most occasions it will be a thanks but no thanks.
So agree, keep your messages short and concise, but put some effort into your profile. Stumbled across one of the best profiles I've ever seen of a single guy yesterday, funny, intelligent and different.....I then contacted him. So they do make a difference. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well we'll have to disagree.
Nothing more annoying than typing out a long message for the sake of it.
I reckon it's better to be concise and to the point, that way you waste less tome if and when it is ignored.
If someone isn't attracted to you then an essay isn't going to persuade them otherwise.
Message and profile are two diff things. The profile is way more important. When I get a message, before even opening it I go look at the profile, if I like the profile the message becomes almost irrelevant. If the profile is poor then even the best message isn't going to change my initial view if the person and in most occasions it will be a thanks but no thanks.
So agree, keep your messages short and concise, but put some effort into your profile. Stumbled across one of the best profiles I've ever seen of a single guy yesterday, funny, intelligent and different.....I then contacted him. So they do make a difference."
And thanks very much for that! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We would prefer to meet a young male but unfortunately all the ones that have contacted us do not have their own transport and want us to travel to them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well we'll have to disagree.
Nothing more annoying than typing out a long message for the sake of it.
I reckon it's better to be concise and to the point, that way you waste less tome if and when it is ignored.
If someone isn't attracted to you then an essay isn't going to persuade them otherwise. "
Nothing like setting yourself up to fail is there?? Put no effort into your profile so you get no results. Mmmm self fulfilling prophecy anyone? Hope that's not your attitude to sex or your screwed (or not!) |
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"Well we'll have to disagree.
Nothing more annoying than typing out a long message for the sake of it.
I reckon it's better to be concise and to the point, that way you waste less tome if and when it is ignored.
If someone isn't attracted to you then an essay isn't going to persuade them otherwise. "
typing out a message isnt what people mean by putting effort in, going to socials/clubs, get yourself known face to face rather than sitting at home thinking joining a swinging site is going to do everything for you, "put some effort in" isthe best advice to give. |
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