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By *jgoofy OP Couple
over a year ago
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Hi all just a piece of advice needed. We recently went on a social with a couple the evening went well we felt no negative vibe then when the verification came through it was lovely couple but no mention of meeting again. My wife and I were discussing that if we put something on our profile that basically meant if you aren't going to meet us don't leave us in limbo for future socials. Has anyone else done this and what did they put. We meet loads of people at parties and always seem to do great socials. Thanks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have you contacted the couple you met and asked them if they want to meet again?
Just because it's not in their veri doesn't necessarily mean they don't  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi all just a piece of advice needed. We recently went on a social with a couple the evening went well we felt no negative vibe then when the verification came through it was lovely couple but no mention of meeting again. My wife and I were discussing that if we put something on our profile that basically meant if you aren't going to meet us don't leave us in limbo for future socials. Has anyone else done this and what did they put. We meet loads of people at parties and always seem to do great socials. Thanks"
Maybe they're not keen in announcing to the world what their intentions towards you are? We tend to give very generic verifications without detail in them because after all, that's what they are, a verification that you're who you say you are and that you turned up as arranged...and we prefer to have those conversations as a dialogue with the people involved, not the whole site. reviews of performance and announcements of what you're going to do next are unnecessary... |
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"Hi all just a piece of advice needed. We recently went on a social with a couple the evening went well we felt no negative vibe then when the verification came through it was lovely couple but no mention of meeting again. My wife and I were discussing that if we put something on our profile that basically meant if you aren't going to meet us don't leave us in limbo for future socials. Has anyone else done this and what did they put. We meet loads of people at parties and always seem to do great socials. Thanks"
Message them. You have met face to face your interaction from now on should be directly with one another. Put something in your profile if you want but I think s polite note after a social saying that you had a great time and would like to meet again would be much better. Why do you feel it's up to the other people to make the move? |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
A veri is nothing more than confirmation that you've met, are who you say you are - and maybe that you're nice.
It's not a means of planning future meets or confirming to you or anyone else that you intend to or not.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi all just a piece of advice needed. We recently went on a social with a couple the evening went well we felt no negative vibe then when the verification came through it was lovely couple but no mention of meeting again. My wife and I were discussing that if we put something on our profile that basically meant if you aren't going to meet us don't leave us in limbo for future socials. Has anyone else done this and what did they put. We meet loads of people at parties and always seem to do great socials. Thanks"
By the way...its clear from your visible verifications exactly who you're talking about...not clever... |
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"A veri is nothing more than confirmation that you've met, are who you say you are - and maybe that you're nice.
It's not a means of planning future meets or confirming to you or anyone else that you intend to or not.
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Or if you're a shit shag.  |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"A veri is nothing more than confirmation that you've met, are who you say you are - and maybe that you're nice.
It's not a means of planning future meets or confirming to you or anyone else that you intend to or not.
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Or if you're a shit shag. "
Just hide it Steve - just hide it!  
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi all just a piece of advice needed. We recently went on a social with a couple the evening went well we felt no negative vibe then when the verification came through it was lovely couple but no mention of meeting again. My wife and I were discussing that if we put something on our profile that basically meant if you aren't going to meet us don't leave us in limbo for future socials. Has anyone else done this and what did they put. We meet loads of people at parties and always seem to do great socials. Thanks"
I've got veris from guys and they are only one offs. never seen them again |
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"Hi all just a piece of advice needed. We recently went on a social with a couple the evening went well we felt no negative vibe then when the verification came through it was lovely couple but no mention of meeting again. My wife and I were discussing that if we put something on our profile that basically meant if you aren't going to meet us don't leave us in limbo for future socials. Has anyone else done this and what did they put. We meet loads of people at parties and always seem to do great socials. Thanks
By the way...its clear from your visible verifications exactly who you're talking about...not clever..."
Oh dear! Not again. What's wrong with people and their sense of discretion lately? |
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"Hi all just a piece of advice needed. We recently went on a social with a couple the evening went well we felt no negative vibe then when the verification came through it was lovely couple but no mention of meeting again. My wife and I were discussing that if we put something on our profile that basically meant if you aren't going to meet us don't leave us in limbo for future socials. Has anyone else done this and what did they put. We meet loads of people at parties and always seem to do great socials. Thanks
By the way...its clear from your visible verifications exactly who you're talking about...not clever..."
This!
The verification in question ( as it's easy to see which you're talking about!) Confirms it was a social meet. Absolutely nothing I can see in it would even hint at a suggestion they wouldn't meet again??
Though, if they see this thread they may change any ideas they previously had...! |
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"A veri is nothing more than confirmation that you've met, are who you say you are - and maybe that you're nice.
It's not a means of planning future meets or confirming to you or anyone else that you intend to or not.
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I agree. The rest is personal between you and them |
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By *omtoadCouple
over a year ago
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Although your intentions may have been genuine, I think that you have shot yourself in the foot. Not just for this couple but for many others. If I was part of a couple I would stay away. Due to the fact you are kind of naming and shaming for no apparent reason. A social is a social not a contract for future meets. |
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By *omtoadCouple
over a year ago
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"Although your intentions may have been genuine, I think that you have shot yourself in the foot. Not just for this couple but for many others. If I was part of a couple I would stay away. Due to the fact you are kind of naming and shaming for no apparent reason. A social is a social not a contract for future meets."
* I put A couple when I should have said The couple.
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"Although your intentions may have been genuine, I think that you have shot yourself in the foot. Not just for this couple but for many others. If I was part of a couple I would stay away. Due to the fact you are kind of naming and shaming for no apparent reason. A social is a social not a contract for future meets."
Confused - you ARE part of a couple... aren't you? 
OP - why so needy? Either wait until the couple in question contact you (if they do - not sure they will now) or contact them and ask if they want to move to the next level. You don't need to wring your hands in angst over it and ask people on the forum of there's a subliminal meaning in their verification that needs to be de-coded.
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"Hi all just a piece of advice needed. We recently went on a social with a couple the evening went well we felt no negative vibe then when the verification came through it was lovely couple but no mention of meeting again. My wife and I were discussing that if we put something on our profile that basically meant if you aren't going to meet us don't leave us in limbo for future socials. Has anyone else done this and what did they put. We meet loads of people at parties and always seem to do great socials. Thanks"
You do realise that at the very least, you have embarrassed this couple in front of the whole site? Take the veto down ffs.... |
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"Hi all just a piece of advice needed. We recently went on a social with a couple the evening went well we felt no negative vibe then when the verification came through it was lovely couple but no mention of meeting again. My wife and I were discussing that if we put something on our profile that basically meant if you aren't going to meet us don't leave us in limbo for future socials. Has anyone else done this and what did they put. We meet loads of people at parties and always seem to do great socials. Thanks
You do realise that at the very least, you have embarrassed this couple in front of the whole site? Take the veto down ffs...."
I don't think it's the couple who left the very who should feel embarrassed. |
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If they left a veri like that why should the op take the veri down  "
because it clearly links them to this rather passive aggressive thread wondering why they haven't contacted them asking to meet again.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yet
If they left a veri like that why should the op take the veri down
because it clearly links them to this rather passive aggressive thread wondering why they haven't contacted them asking to meet again.
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im still having my 1st coffee so i agree x |
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"Yet
If they left a veri like that why should the op take the veri down
because it clearly links them to this rather passive aggressive thread wondering why they haven't contacted them asking to meet again.
im still having my 1st coffee so i agree x"
I'm having my first coffee too although I have had two cups of redbush tea. |
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"Yet
If they left a veri like that why should the op take the veri down
because it clearly links them to this rather passive aggressive thread wondering why they haven't contacted them asking to meet again.
im still having my 1st coffee so i agree x
I'm having my first coffee too although I have had two cups of redbush tea. "
i dont think personally that veri would make my on show ones |
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"Yet
If they left a veri like that why should the op take the veri down
because it clearly links them to this rather passive aggressive thread wondering why they haven't contacted them asking to meet again.
im still having my 1st coffee so i agree x
I'm having my first coffee too although I have had two cups of redbush tea.
i dont think personally that veri would make my on show ones"
I don't think we should be discussing it at all really  |
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