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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I need a bit of advice. Has anyone met someone on here and ended up in a relationship with them? And how did it work out? I've met someone through the site and we both like each other but are apprehensive about being together due to meeting through here.
It's driving us both mad! Thanks x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Only the once. Lasted several months, but didn't work out. Nothing to do with this site though, or how we met. So give it a go if it makes ya happy and feels right |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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me and my now other half met on here and our second anniversary is coming up and we are VERY happy , it does happen and it does work, id say go for it because you wont know untill u try....x |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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a good few have over the years.
some worked
others didn't.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for the replies! The whole situation has thrown us both as we never expected to meet someone through here and have such an amazing connection. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks for the replies! The whole situation has thrown us both as we never expected to meet someone through here and have such an amazing connection. X"
If it's meant to be it will be. Just need to he open and honest about what you both want. Good luck to you both  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Thanks for the replies! The whole situation has thrown us both as we never expected to meet someone through here and have such an amazing connection. X
If it's meant to be it will be. Just need to he open and honest about what you both want. Good luck to you both "
Thank you. I told him this morning that if it's meant to happen it will. X |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Thanks for the replies! The whole situation has thrown us both as we never expected to meet someone through here and have such an amazing connection. X
If it's meant to be it will be. Just need to he open and honest about what you both want. Good luck to you both
Thank you. I told him this morning that if it's meant to happen it will. X"
Why should Fab be any different to the rest of life - people meet through all kinds of situations.
Good luck!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I need a bit of advice. Has anyone met someone on here and ended up in a relationship with them? And how did it work out? I've met someone through the site and we both like each other but are apprehensive about being together due to meeting through here.
It's driving us both mad! Thanks x"
Go for it! ?? doesn't matter how you met, at least you've got the advantage of honesty, You both know what you want and the method of meeting is irrelevant.
if you had tried the 'vanilla' dating world then you might not have discovered each other. |
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By *rsIdiotWoman
over a year ago
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I joined fab looking for just meets.....I ended up with a fiancé.
We're getting married in may |
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I believe in fate, most people in my experience join fab to have fun, not contemplating a relationship but as others say why should meeting on fab be any different than a pub or club. Question I'd want to know If you weren't in a relationship before, then technically you couldn't be considered a swinger, presumably if you got together you would lose your single profiles. Would you thent consider swinging as a couple? That shouldn't btw affect your decision on getting together!! |
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I met a guy on here. He's married and so am I but we are very fond of each other. Neither of us wanted it to happen but you can't help who you fall in love with. I keep the balance because I know he loves his wife and will never leave her, just as I won't leave my husband. Is so right it can't be wrong and we both wish we'd met 20 years ago. Go with what you feel and good luck to you x |
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I agree with the others..if it's right it will work..he could be your Mr right, if you don't try you'll never know..good luck to you both. X
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks everyone x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Good luck to you both. Give it your best shot x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks for the replies! The whole situation has thrown us both as we never expected to meet someone through here and have such an amazing connection. X"
Sounds like it's meant to be. Celebrate and enjoy your relationship xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Apologies if I sound negative, I don't mean too but your profile says you've been a site member for 2 weeks. My question would be more about developing real feelings in 2 weeks is unlikely but being in lust is more likely x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We met in a club .. Not arranged ... just by chance |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Congrats - your relationship should certainly be fun x |
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It doesn't matter where you meet. If it happens, it happens |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Apologies if I sound negative, I don't mean too but your profile says you've been a site member for 2 weeks. My question would be more about developing real feelings in 2 weeks is unlikely but being in lust is more likely x"
I was on the site before but it's not so much the feelings just the fact there's a strong connection. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well if you are sure the other person feels the same just have fun and see where it takes you.
The cynic in me has heard way too many stories of women falling for guys and it not being straight forward or reciprocated. |
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I think go for it...what have you got to lose? X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not a swinging site, but my husband and I met through a dating site (where he was shagging half of the UK and I was going through a divorce).
Neither of us expected it to be more than fun I think but married 18 months later and we've been together ten years now. |
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Lots of fab members have a meet, get on well and think yes this ones for me ...after one or two meets! get real!!!
most end disastrously....
However .... i know a few over the years who have got together as a couple. a few have lasted the course but generally no it does not work.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Lots of fab members have a meet, get on well and think yes this ones for me ...after one or two meets! get real!!!
most end disastrously....
However .... i know a few over the years who have got together as a couple. a few have lasted the course but generally no it does not work.
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Cool thanks for the feedback. I'll just arrange some meets and enjoy the site! X |
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"Lots of fab members have a meet, get on well and think yes this ones for me ...after one or two meets! get real!!!
most end disastrously....
However .... i know a few over the years who have got together as a couple. a few have lasted the course but generally no it does not work.
Cool thanks for the feedback. I'll just arrange some meets and enjoy the site! X"
and thats just exactly what a swinging site is all about ...good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lots of fab members have a meet, get on well and think yes this ones for me ...after one or two meets! get real!!!
most end disastrously....
However .... i know a few over the years who have got together as a couple. a few have lasted the course but generally no it does not work.
Cool thanks for the feedback. I'll just arrange some meets and enjoy the site! X"
Good to read such a happy, positive posting!!! All the best... Enjoy - have fun... Then have more fun... |
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just had our 3rd anniversary
Very happy
Long may it continue |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we are going strong 2.5 years after meeting on here |
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know a few people who have married from here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Good luck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Connection or lust? Dont rush take your time.... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Connection or lust? Dont rush take your time...."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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does it matter where you met so long as you are happy I met someone from pof as "friends" then she dumped me because she said she was falling for me lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not a swinging site, but my husband and I met through a dating site (where he was shagging half of the UK and I was going through a divorce).
Neither of us expected it to be more than fun I think but married 18 months later and we've been together ten years now."
Gorgeous xx  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My partner and I met on here, after a few months of chatting we finally met in January this year. We have now been living together for 7 weeks and couldn't be happier. Neither of us were looling for a relationship but we just clicked and fell in love. We still swing as a couple and so meeting on here was the best thing for us. Hope it works out as well for you. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"My partner and I met on here, after a few months of chatting we finally met in January this year. We have now been living together for 7 weeks and couldn't be happier. Neither of us were looling for a relationship but we just clicked and fell in love. We still swing as a couple and so meeting on here was the best thing for us. Hope it works out as well for you. "
That's really nice to hear x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I moved I with my partner who I met on here 8 months ago and would not change a day. It does not matter where you meet....if it is feeling right go for it. Happiness to you both.xxx |
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For those who met on here, everybody loves to know how you met. Have any of you had the balls to be honest? Bet you said you met online or on a dating site Lol. |
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By *ilandlarryCouple
over a year ago
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We met on a different, similar, site and have been married for 6 years now. Had been chatting in the chat room and met at a social in Notts. Something just clicked and although we have had a few bumpy rides we are happy and still in love.
Go with your gut, if he is "the one" then concentrate on your relationship.
Good luck xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For those who met on here, everybody loves to know how you met. Have any of you had the balls to be honest? Bet you said you met online or on a dating site Lol. "
I Marshall am am open to most people about swinging .. All my work colleagues and most of my family know that I met my Unicorn on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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funny what life chucks at you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I saw natalie on cam 5 years ago we chatted met up a few times now we live together and so happy |
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First contact between my partner and I was in a Fab chat room. About a year later we met at a swingers party and then just kept on meeting......we passed our fourth anniversary back in July. Some relationships work, some don't regardless of where people meet. |
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"For those who met on here, everybody loves to know how you met. Have any of you had the balls to be honest? Bet you said you met online or on a dating site Lol. "
Ah but we are being honest when we say we met online, initially just to meet as friends but it soon developed into something else - strangely no one has ever asked what the site what the site was called but the majority of our friends do know xxx |
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Met mine on here, 2 years later still going strong |
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Wife and i met on here as singles an still as strong
Ypu have to go with how you both feel not what others say good luck to you both x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you both feel the same just go with it x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's so nice to read so many lovely stories that worked out.. Im one of the unlucky ones that it didn't.. What i would say, is that it is completely different swinging with someone you have feelings for and jealousy has a nasty habit of rearing its ugly head.. I wish you all the best and hope things work out as well for you as it has so many others |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it can both work if you are both totally honest with each other ...if not it will never work |
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By *onyneMan
over a year ago
Newcastle |
Nice to see so many lovely posts on this thread...and hard to disagree. I wish you both all the best |
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By *awsex99Couple
over a year ago
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we met here three years ago and stills feels like weve just met....people ask how we met and I just say on the internet ! |
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We are another couple that met on here. I did my best to deny what was happening between us at the time but I finally saw sense! We have been together for 2 years now and are very happy together. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We met on here, two years ago. It certainly works for us...
You should see my ring...oooeeer
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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IT DOESN'T WORK |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I met my ex on here, we had a great 18 months but he came back on and had an affair with another member, despite her saying it was only swinging etc.., I saw the kik messages between Her and my ex, full of I love you's etc.... We've ended and he's tested positive for chalmydia, now he's kipping on a friends sofa whilst he try's to get himself together, she doesn't give a shit and I'm debating on telling her husband as she really doesn't give two hoots about anything. I know it's not the done thing but neither was what they did.
I do wish you luck with it all, like I said we had a great 18 months and I wouldn't have changed that, just the ending. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for all the messages! It's good hearing both sides. I've realised in the last few days that it probably won't work out as there's too many differences. He's a great guy and I think he's pretty special but not what I'm after.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think this would be the ideal place to meet for a long term relationship x |
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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago
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knew a bloke who met a woman on here she insisted they both closed their profiles and didn't meet anyone else don't know if they are still together |
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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago
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"Thanks for all the messages! It's good hearing both sides. I've realised in the last few days that it probably won't work out as there's too many differences. He's a great guy and I think he's pretty special but not what I'm after. "
That's a shame.
I do know that when I first joined the site, I had so many men tell me they wanted a relationship as they thought that was what I wanted. In reality they wanted a short term swinging partner. My bullshit radar developed quite quickly. Great sex can certainly cloud your judgement.
However after being on here a year, I met a wonderful man at a swinging club. We are together nearly a year now, not as swinging partners, just partners.
What I am trying to say, although not eloquently, is that it can happen and it does. Sometimes you stay together and swing, sometimes you don't. Me I need time to develop our relationship. As others have said, communication is the key.
It was lovely reading about all the successful relationships on the thread above. (We just say we met at a party) |
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We met through a common interest, rather than through Fab, but started as FBs and were swinging together before we became a 'proper' couple. Swinging is just one of many leisure activities we now enjoy together ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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me and Eamonn met on here 3 years ago and have been in a relationship since Best thing to happen was to join Fab |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks for all the messages! It's good hearing both sides. I've realised in the last few days that it probably won't work out as there's too many differences. He's a great guy and I think he's pretty special but not what I'm after. "
Hmmmmm really? |
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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago
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"Thanks for all the messages! It's good hearing both sides. I've realised in the last few days that it probably won't work out as there's too many differences. He's a great guy and I think he's pretty special but not what I'm after. Hmmmmm really?"
Ouch! |
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"I need a bit of advice. Has anyone met someone on here and ended up in a relationship with them? And how did it work out? I've met someone through the site and we both like each other but are apprehensive about being together due to meeting through here.
It's driving us both mad! Thanks x"
We did. Now engaged and living together. Get married next year.
Good luck x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks for all the messages! It's good hearing both sides. I've realised in the last few days that it probably won't work out as there's too many differences. He's a great guy and I think he's pretty special but not what I'm after. Hmmmmm really?
Ouch!"
lol. Didn't hurt at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks for all the messages! It's good hearing both sides. I've realised in the last few days that it probably won't work out as there's too many differences. He's a great guy and I think he's pretty special but not what I'm after.
That's a shame.
I do know that when I first joined the site, I had so many men tell me they wanted a relationship as they thought that was what I wanted. In reality they wanted a short term swinging partner. My bullshit radar developed quite quickly. Great sex can certainly cloud your judgement.
However after being on here a year, I met a wonderful man at a swinging club. We are together nearly a year now, not as swinging partners, just partners.
What I am trying to say, although not eloquently, is that it can happen and it does. Sometimes you stay together and swing, sometimes you don't. Me I need time to develop our relationship. As others have said, communication is the key.
It was lovely reading about all the successful relationships on the thread above. (We just say we met at a party)"
Yohoho, i think you have been misled sweetie, i never wanted a relationship, and didn't ask for a relationship, someone's getting carried away im afraid, and its not me. |
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Yohoho, i think you have been misled sweetie, i never wanted a relationship, and didn't ask for a relationship, someone's getting carried away im afraid, and its not me. "
Ahh the man in question! lol bout time you made a comment sweety lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yohoho, i think you have been misled sweetie, i never wanted a relationship, and didn't ask for a relationship, someone's getting carried away im afraid, and its not me.
Ahh the man in question! lol bout time you made a comment sweety lol piss off Julie, lol xx "
haha make me ! hehe |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'd just like to point out that before I wrote this post I mentioned to the man in question who agreed. Now he's making out it's all one sided and making me look like an idiot! |
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both move on..its fab after all |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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" both move on..its fab after all"
it's what we're both doing. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Take off the forum Satisfyme, chat about it next week. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why should Fab be any different to the rest of life - people meet through all kinds of situations.
Good luck!
Honesty, trust and love tower above everything else so just give it a go x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ooooooops ... I'd move on and start afresh. Many guys/ women on here say they want exclusivity with a playmate they connect with - until someone else ignites their lust again ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On a positive note we both met on here over a year ago now live together so I would say (Mrs) go for it see how it goes we all only have one life and if you have that connection to be happy
Best of luck to the both of you
Mr and Mrs hellraiser xx  |
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