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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Why won't women meet men who have small cocks. It shouldn't matter if u know how to use it but I'm finding nobody wants to meet me because of my predicament |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sounds to me like you're focusing on that rather than your personality. Do you get off on women telling you that it's to small for them? I know alot of guys do. |
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"Why won't women meet men who have small cocks. It shouldn't matter if u know how to use it but I'm finding nobody wants to meet me because of my predicament"
So let's get this straight....you get chatting to a lady and then as soon as you mention your cock dimensions, she is no longer interested? Sounds odd to me..  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I agree it shouldn't matter, I advertise myself for meets and when ppl see my pics they are not interested, I've had messages off ppl saying I'm an embarassment and that there fingers are bigger and thicker than me, its not my personality they are not interested in. All you who are judging me how many have been thrown out of a house from a woman I had arranged to meet because I was too small for her and she was use to bigger than me. |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
"Am not bragging but am very big and have noticed that women say the bigger the better but once they have it in front of them they run scared"
SOME women. I dislike big cocks - too many bad experiences. |
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"Am not bragging but am very big and have noticed that women say the bigger the better but once they have it in front of them they run scared
SOME women. I dislike big cocks - too many bad experiences."
Exactly my point  |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
"Am not bragging but am very big and have noticed that women say the bigger the better but once they have it in front of them they run scared
SOME women. I dislike big cocks - too many bad experiences.
Exactly my point "
no, you were saying "women say the bigger the better" - I have never, and will never say that. I've actually turned fellas away that boast of being big or well hung. The only thing I like well hung is a good steak!
I'd far rather have a smaller guy who has other skills. I am petite and just find too large painful, so I would never get to the stage of meeting someone that big to disappoint them.
OP, how small? For some people on here, it is about a fantasy, and fulfilling an ideal. |
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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago
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"Why won't women meet men who have small cocks. It shouldn't matter if u know how to use it but I'm finding nobody wants to meet me because of my predicament"
The only disadvantage you have is when you pee it has further to travel so you have to get your aim right  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hard to be confident when ppl tell u that they are not interested in you either because I'm not a male model with a perfect body or I'm too small. If ppl actually tried to get to know me they would see I'm a decent guy and not judge me off looks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hard to be confident when ppl tell u that they are not interested in you either because I'm not a male model with a perfect body or I'm too small. If ppl actually tried to get to know me they would see I'm a decent guy and not judge me off looks."
chill out mate, you will be fine.
mone is tiny when soft and im having trouble getting it up.
Thats when you should worry.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hard to be confident when ppl tell u that they are not interested in you either because I'm not a male model with a perfect body or I'm too small. If ppl actually tried to get to know me they would see I'm a decent guy and not judge me off looks."
Everyone gets told by others that they aren't interested in them for whatever reasons. We can't be attractive to everybody, but a positive attitude and liking yourself certainly helps. We all have things we dislike about ourselves. If you focus on your strengths rather than your weaknesses you will begin to feel more confident and that will be far more attractive to others. |
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By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago
Cardiff |
Try being 2" and about 1.5cm thick on a *very* good day! Well, moment 
Unless you are actually going to go and do something about making yourself bigger stop pitying yourself or moaning about what other people like.
So you can't please everyone? No one can.
Some people like small cocks some like (or think they like) big cocks, welcome to reality.
Just be honest with yourself, what you have is what you have, if you don't like it then change it, if you like it and some people don't then sod them, simple really. Ok so maybe you don't get sex as often as you like, it's not the end of the world. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I (mr) am quite average, i have played in the same room as smaller guys and considerably bigger guys and have noticed that size isnt everything, confidence is a big factor, so is foreplay and knowing how to judge what people like ect
The issue is quite often within the fella that the cock is attached to  |
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"Why won't women meet men who have small cocks. It shouldn't matter if u know how to use it but I'm finding nobody wants to meet me because of my predicament"
its in your head and you are worrying about it that's the problem  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hard to be confident when ppl tell u that they are not interested in you either because I'm not a male model with a perfect body or I'm too small. If ppl actually tried to get to know me they would see I'm a decent guy and not judge me off looks."
Unfortunately on a site like this the odds are somewhat stacked against you. It's not about getting to know you it's mostly about what you can offer. And people who are aesthetic are going to be at the front of the queue when people are looking for a quick fix off here.
If you want your-personality to shine through then don't feel sorry for yourself get off your ass and go to a social or club and get to work.
We met a guy in a club who had the full on athletic body type she loves and when the towel came off he had a tiny little widger and still had fun. Only thing holding you back is your brain not your cock.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love giving oral sex, so your cock would be in my face and i'd be looking at it a lot and something small wouldn't do it for me. Plus some of us love to gag and try and get something massive in, not gonna happen with you is it?
This site is for all of us to enjoy sex and meets, not just one person. Nothing you can do about that. it does matter for some of us, and we have the right to that opinion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I agree it shouldn't matter, I advertise myself for meets and when ppl see my pics they are not interested, I've had messages off ppl saying I'm an embarassment and that there fingers are bigger and thicker than me, its not my personality they are not interested in. All you who are judging me how many have been thrown out of a house from a woman I had arranged to meet because I was too small for her and she was use to bigger than me."
This isn't on at all. Sorry to see people think it's ok to humiliate you for being small. I wasn't being bitchy about your cock btw, just being blunt.
It does matter but no need for that. |
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By *andS4funCouple
over a year ago
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I (S) am 7 inches erect and most other fella's we know or seen about swinging are bigger than this, some are the same or smaller of course.I've never had any issues whatsoever and I am comfortable/confidence. There are the same and smaller of course. Maybe most active successful men in the scene are are larger then average - I don't know. It's not a cock conquest but people do have preferences of course. In the real world/nilla world there are millions of average or small. It is was you do with it that counts. I do also think that men are much more pre-occupied or worried about size than Women are. It's personality, attitude, character and other attractive qualities that matter. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm small but I don't suffer from cock envy so it's not an issue for me, if all you are is your cock then your just not bringing enough game to the table.
Personality is so very important. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Rather than focussing on the negative and worrying about all those size queens I'd rather look at the positives. This site is about selling yourself, work on your technique, focus on oral and her having fun. Years ago I suffered from pe and rather than get down about it I worked on making the lady cum as much as possible, then when we had sex it didn't matter so much.
Don't be down about it, confidence in yourself is key |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Change your face pic for one that is a bit lighter. Then put your cock pic private. If a smaller than average cock is your only selling point, you are going to struggle.
Yes there are some size queens who will only go for monster cocks, but even then if it isn't attached to a decent package they won't get anywhere.
Women can choose to use endowment as a filter or a polite way(or painful) to say thanks but no thanks.
Waving around a 9'cock will impress some ladies. Some will say where are the other inches I need. Some will be less than inpressed though.
If women only needed length in them, then love honey would make billions and fab wouldn't need single men.
Focus on your positive attributes and reap the rewards 
A lot of people are offering similar advice and they can't all be wrong |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm small but I don't suffer from cock envy so it's not an issue for me, if all you are is your cock then your just not bringing enough game to the table.
Personality is so very important. "
that's true but if people look at you and are put off how do you get the chance to show your personality |
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I have to be honest, and I try not to mean this badly but, yes, your cock shot would put me off. It's small. I don't need massive, but my partner is big (8"+) and when I see a cock that is much much smaller I just... no.
Sorry |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Am not bragging but am very big and have noticed that women say the bigger the better but once they have it in front of them they run scared"
I'm intrigued now!!! How scary is it??  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm small but I don't suffer from cock envy so it's not an issue for me, if all you are is your cock then your just not bringing enough game to the table.
Personality is so very important.
that's true but if people look at you and are put off how do you get the chance to show your personality "
Very good point, to start with you wouldn't have your cock picture up follow that up by the usual single guy advise when it comes to messaging.
I'm not sure how you do things but if you having good conversation with someone and get on then for me and my partner that is enough. We have never asked for a cock picture but guys seem to send one automatically, if size comes up in conversation then my partner usually says she likes to be the judge of what is a nice cock to her.
The O.P. could help himself out by giving himself a trim that has a habit of making things look a bit bigger.
Obvious satement I know but Size only really matters to those who think size matters and that is not everyone on the scene.
Though I must add I get far more luck in the real world in clubs rather than on here. I do have a cock pic on my couples profile and to be fair me and the o.P. are about the same size. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've watched my wife with loads of blokes including a guy with an enormous cock. Her best experiences (her opinion, not mine) is that size makes no difference. The guys she's had most fun with have muscles, a nice smile and a good sense of humour. If you're fun to be around people want to be around you.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Am not bragging but am very big and have noticed that women say the bigger the better but once they have it in front of them they run scared
I'm intrigued now!!! How scary is it?? "
Even i'm scared of 11 inchers. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am 4" erect and thin that's all
Am a good 9" plus and quite thick as well
Very helpful post for the op! Why not just pour some salt in the wound! "
this!
Sure the OP wants to read how big other guys are! |
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"Why won't women meet men who have small cocks. It shouldn't matter if u know how to use it but I'm finding nobody wants to meet me because of my predicament"
Size is not always important, my wife favourite meet has a small cock |
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I wouldn't show your cock pic on your profile... Let the ladies get to know you first, build up your confidence by showing them you know how to use it in person. The person who threw you out is just horrible. I've had a meet, in person, where I looked at his size and thought "oh.. That's not going to work", and it turned out to be some of the best sex I've had this year!! I have always been with big guys, so was more than happy to have my assumptions smashed to smithereens!! Good luck, OP, I hope you find what you are looking for :o) |
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I've never had any complaints either way, not too big or too small so guess I should count myself lucky. Just because a women has big or small tits doesn't make any more or less sexy ( thou I prefer smaller pert tits ) but that's just a personal like |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes I agree, but big tits like jordans or at least DD is nice to have, to have a nice wank between and suckle, small tits don't really do it for me as much,  |
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I've experienced several guys who were definitely at the back of the queue when cocks were handed out. I find they usually have another brilliant skill - oral or digital.
I've always had great fun with them but I never achieve orgasm when they are fucking me.
Give me average or large and I'll cum all day. Maybe because I've given birth to huge babies? It's really each to their own at the end of the day though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hello OP, I'm 'small' and it's not stopped me having some fun on here and other sites.
I agree though, it most certainly DOES limit the number of meets you can have, there most definitely are some size queens out there, but provided you're positive in outlook, friendly and easy going and utilise all the tools available to you (think tongues, fingers, hands and your mind!) then fun can indeed be had!
Good luck in your search, I hope you find what you're looking for |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why won't women meet men who have small cocks. It shouldn't matter if u know how to use it but I'm finding nobody wants to meet me because of my predicament"
Self pity statuses will give you even less of a chance at getting a meet than having a small cock ever will |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The most attractive thing about someone else is that they like themself first!
Everyone finds different types attractive or not. Eye colour 6 pack. Big or small tits weight hight teeth smile attitude feet body hair body hygene colour of hair baldness shaved not shaved. ....
No one person can be everyones cup of tea.
But we have to love ourselfs before we can expect others to want us.
Theres thing we can change about ourselves and there's things we cant.
Life is about accepting the things we cant change, and being happy with that. And working on the things we can and want to change.
Good luck xxxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Anyone who has studied female autonomy puts the g spot 3-4 inches in, so a smaller one is better designed for the sensitive bit, plus add your fingers and a clit you should be fine |
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By *utumnWoman
over a year ago
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I've met socially, liked the person and gone on to have a play meet without even considering their penis size or seeing a pic and have been pleased by all shapes and sizes!
I prefer small to average but happy with bigger if it's not used as a battering ram!
If the chemistry and sex appeal is there then the rest just follows naturally  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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24 hours after and the o.P. hasn't taken a word of any of the excellent advise
It was refreshing that the forum didn't get nasty or personal so I hope the o.P. takes a look and understands the help he was given was excellent. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some females have overused gaping holes between their legs, Where even a bowling pin or traffic cone cant please them. Some ladies have big pussies just like some guys have small pricks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If guys werent so obsessed with showing it, there wouldn't be a problem. Obviously they'll always be people who'll ask what size you are but everyone I know on fab say they never ask. If you met somebody in a pub and there was the opportunity to take things further you wouldn't say hang on let me show you what's on offer first...would you? So take off the pic, use your charm and those that ask and are not interested because of you size, fair enough, its their choice, move on to somebody who will appreciate you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"size can be a issue Ive been turned down twice because of my size wish i was smaller sometimes "
Gosh how shallow some men/women are. At least they could have sent you on your way with a good wank. Mrs N would have |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"size can be a issue Ive been turned down twice because of my size wish i was smaller sometimes
Gosh how shallow some men/women are. At least they could have sent you on your way with a good wank. Mrs N would have "
Mrs N seems a decent soul |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hard to be confident when ppl tell u that they are not interested in you either because I'm not a male model with a perfect body or I'm too small. If ppl actually tried to get to know me they would see I'm a decent guy and not judge me off looks."
agree with you there - I'm on a new profile but was on here some time ago for a year, come back to the site and so far i've many knock backs from women and couples because im short and stocky and not built like a greek statue (with arms )and have a 10ft wanger! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I did see a profile on here once where the wife wanted dp and the single guy had to be small. See if you can find them. Could open up a whole new market for you x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The first time I properly came/orgasmed was with a smaller guy he was roughly 5inches and that was at his best, as much as I enjoy bigger (8/9inches) il always go for average/smaller cause I know il cum with them. It was his sexy self confidence that had me gushing haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The first time I properly came/orgasmed was with a smaller guy he was roughly 5inches and that was at his best, as much as I enjoy bigger (8/9inches) il always go for average/smaller cause I know il cum with them. It was his sexy self confidence that had me gushing haha |
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