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Why am i not getting meets
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Is it me or my profile? I've been on here for almost three months and it seems like I'm wasting my time.... I don't think I'm a bad looking lad, I have no troubles on a night out, so what am I doing wrong here?
Any help would be appreciated. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nothing wrong with the photos
but no likes dislikes what you are looking for in a meet would help.
also cant accommodate some people see this as u are attached etc
go to socials at clubs meet people x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm afraid it's a numbers game.
Us single guys massively outnumber the ladies, so they can afford to be selective.
You need to be patient.
On average, most guys don't get their first meet until they've been here for 6 months - of course there are some exceptions. Some have been more fortunate and others less so.
You need to stand out and be appealing.
Being unable to accommodate and only being able to travel if someone comes and picks you up isn't likely to appeal to many.
Are you being pro-active (i.e. Messaging people) or are you waiting for them to come to you.
Most women get hundreds of messages a day so don't really need (or have the time) to go searching. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it me or my profile? I've been on here for almost three months and it seems like I'm wasting my time.... I don't think I'm a bad looking lad, I have no troubles on a night out, so what am I doing wrong here?
Any help would be appreciated. "
Sorry but your profile doesn't really appeal. It's all about what you're wanting, not what you can offer...oh, and by the way, I think the word you're looking for is"indulge"...and as for wanting to be fetched and carried...you are joking aren't you? As a couple, we look for grown ups who can sort out their own travel arrangements...stick to your nights out if that's what's working for you... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Got to say the whole travel thing does leap of the page. In a buyers market for women people will walk across fire for them. So going out there way to pick someone up your age isn't going to work well for you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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May we ask, do you have problems finding fun therefore you may feel this is a place for free and easy sex?
This is a grown up world, not really the place to appear helpless and moan about no attention. No one finds either of those attractive, and a thread moaning that no one is meeting you is certainly not going to make people want to meet you.
It will probably make things worse. |
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"How does that read? "
The word "sordid" has gone, at least 
Are you seriously telling me that if a lady messages you wanting sex, you will ignore her message because she didn't put 'mad hatter' in the message title? Good luck. |
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"Is it me or my profile? I've been on here for almost three months and it seems like I'm wasting my time.... I don't think I'm a bad looking lad, I have no troubles on a night out, so what am I doing wrong here?
Any help would be appreciated. "
You need to show your cock pictures and that might work |
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"Is it me or my profile? I've been on here for almost three months and it seems like I'm wasting my time.... I don't think I'm a bad looking lad, I have no troubles on a night out, so what am I doing wrong here?
Any help would be appreciated. "
Not trying hard enough perhaps?  |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
"Is it me or my profile? I've been on here for almost three months and it seems like I'm wasting my time.... I don't think I'm a bad looking lad, I have no troubles on a night out, so what am I doing wrong here?
Any help would be appreciated. "
I've not read your profile I offer the same advice there's countless threads asking for profile advice use the generic info to improve your profile
If you've no trouble on a night out... Why worry about here?   |
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Ok I am sorry but I get 10 guys message a day asking to meet and I have on my prof that I can't meet at the mo so god only knows how meny the girls who are activel meeting get . Your prof is ok and pics are ok . But in this game ok will put you 1/2 way up the ladder at best . I find the guys that think there good looking find this site hardest as they have never really tryed before ( and sometimes think they shouldn't have to ) . Here's a clue GIRLS ARE NOT GOING TO CHASE YOU ON HERE !!! You have to work hard and sell your self . If your just looking for sex stick to night clubs and nights out with the boys it's MUCH EASYER. |
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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago
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As I have said to other guys like you, who come up with the same request, the answers are simple, a number of which have already been covered by others.
This is NOT an "Instant Fix" site as some new guys seem to think it will be!
You are up against so many other guys, all seeking the same. You have to make yourself stand out! So you have to SELL yourself!
The fact you cannot accommodate is well explained but it will put off potential meets. Your young age will also be off-putting to some.
You need to get out to Socials or Clubs in your area. Get onto the Forums too, It is all a case of getting yourself noticed.
Unless you are really fortunate, meets will take a while to materialise. It takes patience, perseverance and dare I say it, even more patience!
But at only 2-3 months on here, you are a mere beginner!
Good Luck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You're a guy, simple as
There's nearly 100,000 guys on here
too many girls are like you and don't meet, which is fair enough"
and that's relevant to this thread because.......????  |
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By *rsIdiotWoman
over a year ago
Bedworth |
"You're a guy, simple as
There's nearly 100,000 guys on here
too many girls are like you and don't meet, which is fair enough"
Whether ladies choose to meet or not is entirely their decision. We aren't here as free prostitutes who should just drop our knickers for any bloke who messages!
Swinging is not just about meeting for sex, it is about so much more than that. There will be times when people stay around purely for the social aspect of swinging and other times when they will actively meet. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I have no trouble on a night out with attention and talking with women, im on here to indulge on my interests something that a one night stand doesnt really allow room for. |
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As you have a friend who's on fab - I've not checked him out. If he's doing well, get support from him too. You could share rides ... to clubs etc.
Vary your pics a bit, including some flesh- cock pics are not a big winner, but a photo of you topless could help you minimise some of your profile text.
You say you can get shags- presumably single girls - on nights out. Is the main difference that on fab you can meet couples, and that you may get regular fuck buddies? Some of that is also the same in the real world.
Fab for you single guys means a lot of regular effort. Without friends you're going to need to continue and there may be little gain for you. You may only want a small number of partners, so I do encourage you to reflect on the options available for this. If you were local I'd come out and socialise at swinging clubs with you, as you could relax amongst great company, where eyes may meet across a room and stuff can happen. In clubs your lack of accommodation may not matter, first off.
Good luck with your journey  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it me or my profile? I've been on here for almost three months and it seems like I'm wasting my time.... I don't think I'm a bad looking lad, I have no troubles on a night out, so what am I doing wrong here?
Any help would be appreciated. "
actually i think your profile is pretty good!! YMaybe add a topless shot? It takes time to get meets on here and you need to be patient. You're best off going to local socials and clubs to meet people. Theres ALOT of single men on here so couples & single fems have pick of the bunch. Makesure your first message is original, and stands out from the crowd & that you've really read someones profile before messaging. Good luck!! Juicy xx |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"Is it me or my profile? I've been on here for almost three months and it seems like I'm wasting my time.... I don't think I'm a bad looking lad, I have no troubles on a night out, so what am I doing wrong here?
Any help would be appreciated. "
....... because for a lot of people, when they meet others, it is more than just about the purely physical.... so where you may be "mr pretty".... its not enough to hold a persons attention.....
take it from "mr lardass"..... I'm having a ball...... |
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"I'm a laidback kinda lass shite to what fab stats say 10/1 on men youve still gotta fish out the one thats right for u"
But being a girl you have got more options...its always the sperms who needs to fight for an egg!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm a laidback kinda lass shite to what fab stats say 10/1 on men youve still gotta fish out the one thats right for u
But being a girl you have got more options...its always the sperms who needs to fight for an egg!!"
I much prefer to message a guy who stands out in a crowd than be hounded by hundreds thinking I'm top dollar cos they all want a go lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You're a guy, simple as
There's nearly 100,000 guys on here
too many girls are like you and don't meet, which is fair enough
Whether ladies choose to meet or not is entirely their decision. We aren't here as free prostitutes who should just drop our knickers for any bloke who messages!
Swinging is not just about meeting for sex, it is about so much more than that. There will be times when people stay around purely for the social aspect of swinging and other times when they will actively meet."
I thought swinging was meeting for sex intertwined with conversation alchohol and more sex ,have I missed something |
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"You're a guy, simple as
There's nearly 100,000 guys on here
too many girls are like you and don't meet, which is fair enough
Whether ladies choose to meet or not is entirely their decision. We aren't here as free prostitutes who should just drop our knickers for any bloke who messages!
Swinging is not just about meeting for sex, it is about so much more than that. There will be times when people stay around purely for the social aspect of swinging and other times when they will actively meet. I thought swinging was meeting for sex intertwined with conversation alchohol and more sex ,have I missed something "
I thort swinging was a lifestyle choice and not just a way for guys to get a free escort for the night !! Not just sex . I have made some very good friends on here and all Thow I can meet at mo I still hang around for the social side |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Honest advice be part of the community
Post and chat on here people will chat to you. You will be verified as a person at least of interest and take it from there |
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By *rsIdiotWoman
over a year ago
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"You're a guy, simple as
There's nearly 100,000 guys on here
too many girls are like you and don't meet, which is fair enough
Whether ladies choose to meet or not is entirely their decision. We aren't here as free prostitutes who should just drop our knickers for any bloke who messages!
Swinging is not just about meeting for sex, it is about so much more than that. There will be times when people stay around purely for the social aspect of swinging and other times when they will actively meet. I thought swinging was meeting for sex intertwined with conversation alchohol and more sex ,have I missed something "
Yes you have!
Too many men in here think it's a free way of getting instant gratification. It's not! If that's what you want then try an escort.
It's a way if life, an attitude and an outlook. We have met plenty of people, played with some but not all (incidentally, alcohol is rarely involved in our playing). Along the way we have made some very good friends who we can socialise with in the vanilla world as well as the swinging world. Some of those friends will be invited to our wedding in may.
So, as you can see, swinging is far much more than meeting for sex intertwined with alcohol and conversation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Got to say the whole travel thing does leap of the page. In a buyers market for women people will walk across fire for them. So going out there way to pick someone up your age isn't going to work well for you. "
I don't drive but always try to arrange travelling to meets etc if it's easy to get to and from them. Most of the time the other party will offer to pick me up, which is really kind, but I don't expect it.
Don't see why this should be different for guys though. Maybe its society. Lol. |
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Quite a few people have picked on the need to be picked up. What's wrong with that??
I've been picked up lots of times,from the airport,railway station and sometimes from home
I've also picked lots of women up...... is this a sexist thing?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Quite a few people have picked on the need to be picked up. What's wrong with that??
I've been picked up lots of times,from the airport,railway station and sometimes from home
I've also picked lots of women up...... is this a sexist thing?? "
Maybe its a safety thing? I wouldn't pick up a complete stranger on a first meet. |
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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago
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"Quite a few people have picked on the need to be picked up. What's wrong with that??
I've been picked up lots of times,from the airport,railway station and sometimes from home
I've also picked lots of women up...... is this a sexist thing?? "
. Not many people will be too impressed with a man who expects to be picked up. Is he not able to pay fo a taxi.? You are very lucky if lots of people picked up up, but I cannot see any logical reasons why they would . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Have a look at my profile, is it pants??
Why do this in someone else's thread?"
Just new to the home thing an learning the ropes. I've not done anything like this before so I guess I'm accidentally makin mistakes in places |
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"Have a look at my profile, is it pants??
Yeah.
Nice one not cut out for this site of nutters I don't think"
You're on here as well, remember, so if I'm a nutter, then so are you.
Now you've had the joy of looking at my profile, compare the effort I put in with the effort you did on your profile and then look at the direct correlation between the number of meets each of us have against the amount of profile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Have a look at my profile, is it pants??
Yeah.
Nice one not cut out for this site of nutters I don't think
You're on here as well, remember, so if I'm a nutter, then so are you.
Now you've had the joy of looking at my profile, compare the effort I put in with the effort you did on your profile and then look at the direct correlation between the number of meets each of us have against the amount of profile. "
I'm new mate and to be honest travel around so much that it's hard for me to meet people it's just not easy for me being away so much.
That is a hard part of my job to be honest |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its normal for men not to get many meets, its more down to luck, hang in there, patient is a virtue lol.
you make your own luck in this lifestyle, sitting back waiting will get you nowhere fast."
Is it normal for men to not get many meets....then I'm not normal.
Is it more down to luck? Then I must be very lucky.
If patience (patient? Wtf) is a virtue...then I am totally lacking in any virtue....but not lacking in meets.
However I do (sometimes) make an effort....and guess what? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its normal for men not to get many meets, its more down to luck, hang in there, patient is a virtue lol.
you make your own luck in this lifestyle, sitting back waiting will get you nowhere fast."
I know you do. I am more busy with going to the gym and things x. |
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"Its normal for men not to get many meets, its more down to luck, hang in there, patient is a virtue lol.
you make your own luck in this lifestyle, sitting back waiting will get you nowhere fast.I know you do. I am more busy with going to the gym and things x."
You need to, mate, blubber-belly |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its normal for men not to get many meets, its more down to luck, hang in there, patient is a virtue lol.
you make your own luck in this lifestyle, sitting back waiting will get you nowhere fast.I know you do. I am more busy with going to the gym and things x.
You need to, mate, blubber-belly "
No its ok, maibe u lol. |
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"Its normal for men not to get many meets, its more down to luck, hang in there, patient is a virtue lol.
you make your own luck in this lifestyle, sitting back waiting will get you nowhere fast.I know you do. I am more busy with going to the gym and things x.
You need to, mate, blubber-belly No its ok, maibe u lol."
Mines a food baby |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its normal for men not to get many meets, its more down to luck, hang in there, patient is a virtue lol.
you make your own luck in this lifestyle, sitting back waiting will get you nowhere fast.I know you do. I am more busy with going to the gym and things x.
You need to, mate, blubber-belly No its ok, maibe u lol.
Mines a food baby "
lol nice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"@the soldier: Swinging is an ideal pastime for people travelling around. I hugely support the armed forces but you also need to put the effort in on your profile. You did ask, after all...."
No I'm not having a dig at all and thank you for your support as it's a job we have to get up early just like most people ??
I'm just trying to learn and I guess I like to meet new people just out of learning about them and just to see as much of the world and meet as many people as I can before my time is up. It's not just about the sex with me it's also about being lucky enough to get to meet new people and see new things.
Suppose it's the way it comes across via msg talk that's all
I thank you tho ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Have a look at my profile, is it pants??
Why do this in someone else's thread?
Just new to the home thing an learning the ropes. I've not done anything like this before so I guess I'm accidentally makin mistakes in places "
Strange that, your profile says you joined over a year ago.
Have they got it wrong? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's ok guys and thank you I'm not to sure weather I'm welcome here on this site or if I'm in the rite place here.
Thank you guys was really cool speaking to you and I hope the luck keeps going your way.
I think I'll stay in the back ground that's where I like to be ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's ok guys and thank you I'm not to sure weather I'm welcome here on this site or if I'm in the rite place here.
Thank you guys was really cool speaking to you and I hope the luck keeps going your way.
I think I'll stay in the back ground that's where I like to be ??"
No one said you were not welcome. It is a site for all types of people.
However, you avoid the answer. You said you are new here and that explains the way you behave, yet your profile says you joined over a year ago.
Is the site wrong, or are you simply forgetful? |
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Offer something unique...share a fantasy...stand out from the crowd..
have a look at other single male profiles..80% of them say sweet f a.
I wouldnt even message them let alone meet them..be bold/ be different &be yourself ..&of course be patient.You will be amazed at the results..good luck...j ex RN. pompey rating |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's ok guys and thank you I'm not to sure weather I'm welcome here on this site or if I'm in the rite place here.
Thank you guys was really cool speaking to you and I hope the luck keeps going your way.
I think I'll stay in the back ground that's where I like to be ??
No one said you were not welcome. It is a site for all types of people.
However, you avoid the answer. You said you are new here and that explains the way you behave, yet your profile says you joined over a year ago.
Is the site wrong, or are you simply forgetful?"
I think it was when I opened my profile but not done much with it or have not been on the seen due to having an extremely busy year (long story)
I now want to explore abit more and learn not to judge but to have an opening to it all and learn about it all. There's nothing wrong with it or anything I'm just interested in what this little secret side of life holds an I think it's worth looking into ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh and I guess I worded it wrong when I say site is full of nutters.
I've Just clicked on to how that sounds
I mean some o the msg's I've received I must say there very, very strange people. Not sure if it's people messing about or if it's just some thing very odd but that's all I ment by that guys apologies ?? |
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I think we all go through a patch of no meets. We have been on here a few years now & I would say this last year has been the worse. Even considering removing our account.
We have looked at other sites but nothing suitable.
Advice from others is always good....?!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think we all go through a patch of no meets. We have been on here a few years now & I would say this last year has been the worse. Even considering removing our account.
We have looked at other sites but nothing suitable.
Advice from others is always good....?! "
Very true. I'm going to work on mine and then just see what happens.
I love that face with the lashes, it cracks me up every time! Lol |
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"Its normal for men not to get many meets, its more down to luck, hang in there, patient is a virtue lol.
you make your own luck in this lifestyle, sitting back waiting will get you nowhere fast.I know you do. I am more busy with going to the gym and things x."
well good for you, is it any wonder you think swinging is like a game of chance lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The op to this thread is gonna think hes popular when he looks
Hahaha!! Everyone's jumped on his conversation without him in it!! Lol"
Very true!
But didn't that start when you asked everyone to come and look at your profile? Which, to be honest, is as shorter than some of your posts on here!
Do you think that is fair in someone else's thread?? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ha this kind of took a detour as to what I originally asked but none the less I hope all those who read it can benefit from the good and bad critisim thats been left on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it me or my profile? I've been on here for almost three months and it seems like I'm wasting my time.... I don't think I'm a bad looking lad, I have no troubles on a night out, so what am I doing wrong here?
Any help would be appreciated. "
Because you're not a woman !!!! Hang in there kid, it'll happen |
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