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Hello (to whoever bothers to read this  ) Im a bit confused about this site because you cant get verified unless you meet someone.....and people wont meet you if you aren't verified!! They seem to think you're a fake or timewaster. Its a bit of a catch 22 situation |
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By *il_MissBMFCWoman
over a year ago
Various Venues Across The UK |
At least you're photo verified! That's a start..
But as someone has previously said try and attend a club/party! Even if it's just a social.. Get chatting to other guests to see if any can verify you. Also, more often than not, venue owners / party organisers will gladly verify you to get you started off too!
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"Hello (to whoever bothers to read this ) Im a bit confused about this site because you cant get verified unless you meet someone.....and people wont meet you if you aren't verified!! They seem to think you're a fake or timewaster. Its a bit of a catch 22 situation"
Catch 22; it's a good read in fairness to it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Pity that the ladies telling me they meet newbies are miles from me!  "
so log in to the chatrooms on this site and someone will verify you by webcam. It's not hard. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hello (to whoever bothers to read this ) Im a bit confused about this site because you cant get verified unless you meet someone.....and people wont meet you if you aren't verified!! They seem to think you're a fake or timewaster. Its a bit of a catch 22 situation
Catch 22; it's a good read in fairness to it! "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm with you on this one. Couples and women they say like what you say but your not verified so won't meet! On other forum people say single men need to give it 6 months . I'm genuine , reply or send messages politely and still they won't meet. I appreciate lot of time waisters on here and me pretending to be women or couples etc. but we just need a chance! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Pity that the ladies telling me they meet newbies are miles from me! "
Maybe you have to make the effort and travel to them. When you have been here over a year without even a sniff of a meet the fact that you have to make alot of effort will be very clear to you. Socials are held all over. No excuse really. |
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"I'm with you on this one. Couples and women they say like what you say but your not verified so won't meet! On other forum people say single men need to give it 6 months . I'm genuine , reply or send messages politely and still they won't meet. I appreciate lot of time waisters on here and me pretending to be women or couples etc. but we just need a chance!"
Negative profile = no meets  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hello (to whoever bothers to read this ) Im a bit confused about this site because you cant get verified unless you meet someone.....and people wont meet you if you aren't verified!! They seem to think you're a fake or timewaster. Its a bit of a catch 22 situation
Catch 22; it's a good read in fairness to it! "
It is...  |
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Could the whinging men on here please check the spelling on their profile? If you're arrogant enough to describe yourself as professional, have the wit and intelligence to make sure everything is spelt correctly otherwise it makes you look like a twat. It's that that might be losing you meets.
After all, now you're beginning to realise, if you can't be bothered to make an effort with your profile, then people won't make the effort to make contact. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Could the whinging men on here please check the spelling on their profile? If you're arrogant enough to describe yourself as professional, have the wit and intelligence to make sure everything is spelt correctly otherwise it makes you look like a twat. It's that that might be losing you meets.
After all, now you're beginning to realise, if you can't be bothered to make an effort with your profile, then people won't make the effort to make contact. "
Tea Steve?
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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago
Staffordshire Moorlands |
"Hello (to whoever bothers to read this ) Im a bit confused about this site because you cant get verified unless you meet someone.....and people wont meet you if you aren't verified!! They seem to think you're a fake or timewaster. Its a bit of a catch 22 situation"
I've told you this before. ...you've only been on here just over a week! Its not a guaranteed instant shag once you join, you have to take time to get to know people, not start whining after a few days that nobody will meet! Have patience!!!!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I read your profile...started off ok but then that bit at the end..very bitter...almost uncomfortably so
That needs to go !
If you feel you've wasted five minutes of your life writing a simple profile but one that is intended to find yourself a f/b or even partner then you need to spend an hour doing a new one
Well done for not having silly cock shots sat on the toilet though...that's refreshing ! |
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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago
Wakefield |
"Hello (to whoever bothers to read this ) Im a bit confused about this site because you cant get verified unless you meet someone.....and people wont meet you if you aren't verified!! They seem to think you're a fake or timewaster. Its a bit of a catch 22 situation"
We read your profile which had us interested up to and including the word chemistry. After that your profile turned us off.
We did not appreciate the attempt at humour in the next paragraph and the last paragraph made us feel you would let us down (no reason for us to feel that but we just did).
It is always going to be more difficult for single males to get a meet and therefore their profiles have got to entice that bit more than couples or single women. |
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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago
Nr Manchester |
"I'm with you on this one. Couples and women they say like what you say but your not verified so won't meet! On other forum people say single men need to give it 6 months . I'm genuine , reply or send messages politely and still they won't meet. I appreciate lot of time waisters on here and me pretending to be women or couples etc. but we just need a chance!"
May I suggest you visit a couple of clubs? Most people are happy to verify after a bit of a chat. Even the staff in the clubs will do this. You need to get out in the real world... Most clubs are like your local pub, but with added benefits.
Good luck. |
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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago
Nr Manchester |
"Could the whinging men on here please check the spelling on their profile? If you're arrogant enough to describe yourself as professional, have the wit and intelligence to make sure everything is spelt correctly otherwise it makes you look like a twat. It's that that might be losing you meets.
After all, now you're beginning to realise, if you can't be bothered to make an effort with your profile, then people won't make the effort to make contact. "
I agree entirely with this.
Predictive text helps if you have dyslexia. Refine your profile. Let your personality and humour come through. |
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"I read your profile...started off ok but then that bit at the end..very bitter...almost uncomfortably so
That needs to go !
If you feel you've wasted five minutes of your life writing a simple profile but one that is intended to find yourself a f/b or even partner then you need to spend an hour doing a new one
Well done for not having silly cock shots sat on the toilet though...that's refreshing !"
LOL Thanks for the advice |
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Try a social or a club... Get talking with people.. Are they on here? If so see if after the event you made a big enough impact on them by message and get verified..
Easy. Worked for me and now we play when able.....it's not just about here and now sex!
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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago
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"Hello (to whoever bothers to read this ) Im a bit confused about this site because you cant get verified unless you meet someone.....and people wont meet you if you aren't verified!! They seem to think you're a fake or timewaster. Its a bit of a catch 22 situation"
. You don't need verifications in order to meet people . Some verifications are meaningless . For arranging meets what is required is a, a well written profile that stands out fom all the competition , good photographs and only targeting members if you match their specific requirements . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There are plenty of people who meet non-verified people. I know, I'm one of them."
i am too and a lot dnt want there fun spoilt by having to prove anything to anyone or who they did it with! Im sure the ones who are verified within 2mins of bein on cos they met someone for a costa coffee 3mths ago can help |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well I've just had "6 months and no verifications? NO THANKS"
Strange that a large part of this lifestyle is that we respect privacy, discretion, etc but if you choose to do that then it's apparently a major issue, you're fake, a time waster, etc....
I choose not to do the social/clubs - not my personal cup of tea.
Personally I found out about here from a very long time member who I met outside of the "scene" but because we have chosen to keep that part separate the fact we have not verified each other is an issue to some when you do chat, others won't even chat.
Take from that what you will...... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well I've just had "6 months and no verifications? NO THANKS"
Strange that a large part of this lifestyle is that we respect privacy, discretion, etc but if you choose to do that then it's apparently a major issue, you're fake, a time waster, etc....
I choose not to do the social/clubs - not my personal cup of tea.
Personally I found out about here from a very long time member who I met outside of the "scene" but because we have chosen to keep that part separate the fact we have not verified each other is an issue to some when you do chat, others won't even chat.
Take from that what you will......"
Don't lose hope fella, think I went around 7 or 8 months till I got my first meet - though by that time I had got myself cam verified.
I'm still a little nervous about going to clubs myself, but may do it someday.
Pop into the chat rooms and get yourself on cam. But don't just sit there expecting someone to just click your cam and verify you - talk to people. Not everyone who you chat to will be willing to give you a veri though. I had got chatting to one woman - we were both on cam and chatting for ages, but when I asked if sh'd kindly verify me, she said something along the lines of not giving cam verifications. That said, someone else had obviously noticed me ask her and very kindly verified me.
Another thing is that even if you get a meet, there's no guarantee that you will get a veri. I've had a few meets that haven't resulted in a veri, but to be honest, it doesn't really bother me as that isn't why I'm on fab. And some people can be put off by too many anyway. |
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"Hello (to whoever bothers to read this ) Im a bit confused about this site because you cant get verified unless you meet someone.....and people wont meet you if you aren't verified!! They seem to think you're a fake or timewaster. Its a bit of a catch 22 situation"
It's easy, go to a social. |
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