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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We have been trying since Nov14 to invite a straight male to take part in our scenario (fucking Jill in front of jak while being filmed). I realise it not for everyone but we seem to get timewaster after timewaster.
My theory is that most guys get off on the thought of it but bottle it when they get the go ahead from Jill, most are no shows or come out with a crap excuse last minute... or they are mostly married guys making arrangements that they cant keep.
We have tried probably about 15 times now with no success. Any thoughts on this or similar experiences.
Jak |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yup we've been having a similar experience on our couples profile too, to the point that we deleted our first couples profile as we just weren't getting anywhere. We're playing it differently this time and going to social events and clubs instead to find prospective play mates. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yup we've been having a similar experience on our couples profile too, to the point that we deleted our first couples profile as we just weren't getting anywhere. We're playing it differently this time and going to social events and clubs instead to find prospective play mates."
that exactly what we thought about doing |
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"Yup we've been having a similar experience on our couples profile too, to the point that we deleted our first couples profile as we just weren't getting anywhere. We're playing it differently this time and going to social events and clubs instead to find prospective play mates.
that exactly what we thought about doing"
Lower your age range by one year  |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
if the method you are using at the moment aint working... change it!!!
i always say that if you after a specific scenario and specific people, you are always better off doing the searching yourself... as opposed to waiting on people coming to you....
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Crazy pity the no shows can't pop on here and explain. They are giving sincere guys a bad name.
Everyone has a busy life these days but I've never been a no show and never would be.
I might not want video play on a first meet tho. Better to get to know one another physically first and build up the trust. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Crazy pity the no shows can't pop on here and explain. They are giving sincere guys a bad name.
Everyone has a busy life these days but I've never been a no show and never would be.
I might not want video play on a first meet tho. Better to get to know one another physically first and build up the trust."
we get plenty of interest and do everything we can to make sure the guy is happy with our scenario. I agree its the genuine guys that suffer because we all start to become very cynical. |
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Maybe loose the camera, most people regardless of gender would be put off allowing someone they don't know to film them like that- would you trust a ramdom stranger to film you fucking then just waltz off with the footage to do what they like with it? |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
i hate they "giving the sincere guys a bad name" line.. because it is rubbish...
in fact its the opposite... the arse are arses and the good guys will stand out even more....
its one of those "oh look at me... i'm different" saccerine based nonsense things that you think sounds good... but just screams "sluuuuuurrrrpppp!" and not in a good way
back to the Opening Post
if you are really 0 for 15.... that doesn't meant your preference is at the issue... it screams your selection process is!!!! again how do you do the choosing, what checks do you put in place, do you speak to them, phone calls, how well do you get to know them, over what time ect ect ect
those who fail to learn from mistakes are doomed to repeat them again... and again... and again |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Maybe loose the camera, most people regardless of gender would be put off allowing someone they don't know to film them like that- would you trust a ramdom stranger to film you fucking then just waltz off with the footage to do what they like with it?"
I already said we understand its not for everyone, my point is that they claim they have no issues with our request and going on make arrangements. Jill has even met several of them for a coffee and they say they are well up for it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think they may be put off by the thought of being filmed, the potential embarrassment of finding themselves on some porn site one day. Then there is the bareback side of it..."
I can understand why that would put them off but why go through with the coffee meet and the phone calls and arranging a date if this is any issue from the start.
This is our fantasy and we have the right to put it out there for anyone who might share it. I just thought id ask why do guys go to all that hassle if theyre uncomfortable with the scenario in the first place. |
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"Jill has even met several of them for a coffee and they say they are well up for it."
I've had the similar experience from the single female camp a few times- enthusiasm after a social, then nothing.
Some people either have trouble saying what they think, are too polite to say no at the time or are just full of shite- its not just a bloke thing  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes it could be that lots of guys fantasy is to be a porn star, but they get performance worries. It might feel great at the time but very easy to look like a bafoon when it is played back. Those without the confidence will just leg it at the last minute, but eventually a stallion will appear.
I know I would look like Shrek on camera, so I know not to go wasting time, as much as I wish I could, but some people hope that a miracle will unfold over the days running up to it and suddenly they have the confidence to perform like a race horse |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We have been trying since Nov14 to invite a straight male to take part in our scenario (fucking Jill in front of jak while being filmed). I realise it not for everyone but we seem to get timewaster after timewaster.
My theory is that most guys get off on the thought of it but bottle it when they get the go ahead from Jill, most are no shows or come out with a crap excuse last minute... or they are mostly married guys making arrangements that they cant keep.
We have tried probably about 15 times now with no success. Any thoughts on this or similar experiences.
Jak"
Would you be comfortable being filmed by strangers?
You're looking for a relatively rare thing by adding that request. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh wait lol you want it bareback too?
Yeah you're looking for a very tiny minority of guys.
Many will think "yeah great ill do it" but then as it gets closer realise the pretty huge risk they're exposing themselves to health and otherwise just for a shag and instead will just go "actually yeah ill pass" |
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I really enjoy being filmed and never once backed away from a meeting just because they wanted to film it.
Shame your not closer I would be well up for it. I might have to see what deals Virgin trains have to Glasgow   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just a suggestion as a nervous guy who is turned on by the thought.
Maybe after meeting for coffee or tea go for a normal meet? Like be present and all,, maybe take a pic, but don't drive in camera first?
Just a though, sometimes if you work someone up to it you might get a reliable guy?  |
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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago
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"I think they may be put off by the thought of being filmed, the potential embarrassment of finding themselves on some porn site one day. Then there is the bareback side of it..."
. The other side of the coin is that some people enjoy being filmed . One. couple used to film every meet which I had with them and show it to their friends . I obtained another meet from someone just watching the film. Being filmed is probably the ultimate proof of your performance as it is all on camera. There would not be much point in turning up if you could not do what was required .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think they may be put off by the thought of being filmed, the potential embarrassment of finding themselves on some porn site one day. Then there is the bareback side of it.... The other side of the coin is that some people enjoy being filmed . One. couple used to film every meet which I had with them and show it to their friends . I obtained another meet from someone just watching the film. Being filmed is probably the ultimate proof of your performance as it is all on camera. There would not be much point in turning up if you could not do what was required ."
Yeah and for other "proof" of the event might be a bitch when the CSA starts a knocking lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have been trying since Nov14 to invite a straight male to take part in our scenario (fucking Jill in front of jak while being filmed). I realise it not for everyone but we seem to get timewaster after timewaster.
My theory is that most guys get off on the thought of it but bottle it when they get the go ahead from Jill, most are no shows or come out with a crap excuse last minute... or they are mostly married guys making arrangements that they cant keep.
We have tried probably about 15 times now with no success. Any thoughts on this or similar experiences.
Jak"
Damn, why am I not younger, handsome, and live in Glasgow.
I don't understand why they don't man up if they become anxious about the whole thing and tell you they changed their mind. Being a no-show is very rude.
The filming would not bother me, even though I have never been filmed. One time the husband took lots of pictures of me fucking his beautiful, sexy wife.
As to the bareback, I would want us all to be as sure as we could that there were no STD's. I don't think you want some stranger giving your sexy wife some STD.
You received some very good comments. If it is still what you two want than keep looking. As one guy said "You will eventually find that Stallion."
Good luck! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It makes it look crap for us genuine guys who have been on fabs for years without any verifications - mainly because most couples assume that we are all timewasters. It is the few genuine people like that suffer! |
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"We have been trying since Nov14 to invite a straight male to take part in our scenario (fucking Jill in front of jak while being filmed). I realise it not for everyone but we seem to get timewaster after timewaster.
My theory is that most guys get off on the thought of it but bottle it when they get the go ahead from Jill, most are no shows or come out with a crap excuse last minute... or they are mostly married guys making arrangements that they cant keep.
We have tried probably about 15 times now with no success. Any thoughts on this or similar experiences.
Jak"
And this is what gives us genuine single guysa bad repreputation.
Don't paint us all with the same brush. |
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"We have been trying since Nov14 to invite a straight male to take part in our scenario (fucking Jill in front of jak while being filmed). I realise it not for everyone but we seem to get timewaster after timewaster.
My theory is that most guys get off on the thought of it but bottle it when they get the go ahead from Jill, most are no shows or come out with a crap excuse last minute... or they are mostly married guys making arrangements that they cant keep.
We have tried probably about 15 times now with no success. Any thoughts on this or similar experiences.
Jak"
I can understand many not wanting to be filmed as you have no control over where it goes its more caution than being a timewaster. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have been very lucky with our guys that we have met. All have been perfect and done as we asked for. although we have had several not turn up . We find best way is lots of contact , make sure you ring them at awkward times like 7pm or 8am if they don't answer then they probably have a gf |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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What your looking for is VERY specific. I would assume is only going to appeal to a very small number of people, hence why your struggling.
I'm not saying that what you want is wrong, just that it's going to be extremely hard to find.
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"What saddens me is this behaviour just makes genuine single guys look bad and then its harder for meets"
In agreement with Fabio above, I find this sentiment pathetic and just wrong.
We are each responsible for our own success on this site, and it's no use imagining that others' actions influence that.
It looks like the OP approached and socially met guys who would declare themselves "genuine" (hate that meaningless adjective!) and who still bottled it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What saddens me is this behaviour just makes genuine single guys look bad and then its harder for meets
In agreement with Fabio above, I find this sentiment pathetic and just wrong.
We are each responsible for our own success on this site, and it's no use imagining that others' actions influence that.
It looks like the OP approached and socially met guys who would declare themselves "genuine" (hate that meaningless adjective!) and who still bottled it."
Sorry but the more guys that waste people's time , the more you are all tarred with the same brush .
Simple fact .
And the same goes for couples and single girls and TVs . People get sick and tired of time wasters and either give up or pass you by as they are disillusioned .
Simple fact .
So please let's not keep going on about how it's up to you to be who you are and that no one spoils your time on fab . They do and will .
Simple fact
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"What saddens me is this behaviour just makes genuine single guys look bad and then its harder for meets
In agreement with Fabio above, I find this sentiment pathetic and just wrong.
We are each responsible for our own success on this site, and it's no use imagining that others' actions influence that.
It looks like the OP approached and socially met guys who would declare themselves "genuine" (hate that meaningless adjective!) and who still bottled it.
Sorry but the more guys that waste people's time , the more you are all tarred with the same brush .
Simple fact .
And the same goes for couples and single girls and TVs . People get sick and tired of time wasters and either give up or pass you by as they are disillusioned .
Simple fact .
So please let's not keep going on about how it's up to you to be who you are and that no one spoils your time on fab . They do and will .
Simple fact
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I totally agree with your views on timewasters and with your point that "no one spoils your time on fab"
That's a simple fact. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have been trying since Nov14 to invite a straight male to take part in our scenario (fucking Jill in front of jak while being filmed). I realise it not for everyone but we seem to get timewaster after timewaster.
My theory is that most guys get off on the thought of it but bottle it when they get the go ahead from Jill, most are no shows or come out with a crap excuse last minute... or they are mostly married guys making arrangements that they cant keep.
We have tried probably about 15 times now with no success. Any thoughts on this or similar experiences.
Jak"
no we all dont lol.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What your looking for is VERY specific. I would assume is only going to appeal to a very small number of people, hence why your struggling.
I'm not saying that what you want is wrong, just that it's going to be extremely hard to find.
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exactly this...
for years and years I've seen people set out quite specific requirements..which IS fair enough, however then you cannot then classify an entire group as wannabes/timewasters because your selected group is quite narrow... |
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
Dublin and London |
Unfortunately Jak you will lots of this in the site. You just have to stuck with it. Have ye tried chatting in cam for a bit and getting to know the guy, might help out the time wasters? Best of luck with it, I do hope it happens for ye. J |
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Its funny I see this quite often, maybe those being let down should broaden the range of men they are willing to meet. Some of us single guys are never given the chance yet we are lumped in with the time wasters. I think you'd be amazed at the hoops some of us ignored guys would jump through just to be given a chance. Try and you may find you have been missing out... |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
My 2p..
If you ve had social meets exchanged phone numbers etc then youve tried most things thats suggested to out the wannabes
According to your profile youve been here 8 weeks, thats not a long time.
Youre after a specific type of meet, factor in the normal preferences attraction age etc... The more niche your requirements the smaller the number of suitable guys.
You might find you need a great deal of patience to find who youre looking for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its funny I see this quite often, maybe those being let down should broaden the range of men they are willing to meet. Some of us single guys are never given the chance yet we are lumped in with the time wasters. I think you'd be amazed at the hoops some of us ignored guys would jump through just to be given a chance. Try and you may find you have been missing out... "
to be honest, I dont care if they broaden their age ranges,etc etc..
I'm happy with my past,current,potential meets..
I get bored of hearing "another timewaster" status, especially consistent ones...and after a while, I tend just to ignore the profiles... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have done this scenario quite a few times but with a regular. Maybe meet without the filming and suggest taking pictures and show them to your meet before they leave give them a copy with your face blurred out.
Build up the trust with a few meets and then suggest filming they maybe be more acceptable to the idea then. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We have done this scenario quite a few times but with a regular. Maybe meet without the filming and suggest taking pictures and show them to your meet before they leave give them a copy with your face blurred out.
Build up the trust with a few meets and then suggest filming they maybe be more acceptable to the idea then. "
Not bareback I may add though as didnt realise thats what they wanted |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I (the mrs)for one am pleased your having trouble with what your looking for, we meet single guys and its good to see not all will jump at a shag bareback, its puts them and those they meet at risk , also are you not concerned about your own well being? |
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"We have been trying since Nov14 to invite a straight male to take part in our scenario (fucking Jill in front of jak while being filmed). I realise it not for everyone but we seem to get timewaster after timewaster.
My theory is that most guys get off on the thought of it but bottle it when they get the go ahead from Jill, most are no shows or come out with a crap excuse last minute... or they are mostly married guys making arrangements that they cant keep.
We have tried probably about 15 times now with no success. Any thoughts on this or similar experiences.
Jak"
Come have a weekend in devon and I publicly guarantee I will do this for you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We have been trying since Nov14 to invite a straight male to take part in our scenario (fucking Jill in front of jak while being filmed). I realise it not for everyone but we seem to get timewaster after timewaster.
My theory is that most guys get off on the thought of it but bottle it when they get the go ahead from Jill, most are no shows or come out with a crap excuse last minute... or they are mostly married guys making arrangements that they cant keep.
We have tried probably about 15 times now with no success. Any thoughts on this or similar experiences.
Jak
Come have a weekend in devon and I publicly guarantee I will do this for you "
Might be time to take the safe sex tag off your profile then.
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By *DFL6828Man
over a year ago
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"Its funny I see this quite often, maybe those being let down should broaden the range of men they are willing to meet. Some of us single guys are never given the chance yet we are lumped in with the time wasters. I think you'd be amazed at the hoops some of us ignored guys would jump through just to be given a chance. Try and you may find you have been missing out... "
I totally agree with this. Ive been on here a couple of years and had only 1 social meet, so have found now not to bother messaging anyone, every now and then i do tho after reading the whole profile and using something off it. 99% don't respond, so i now go to clubs instead... It works for me.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A shame you're at the other end of the country OP
I've had a few meets where I have played with a lady while her partner watched and filmed.
To be honest, I was a little nervous before they arrived, but found myself unexpectedly comfortable with it once we got down to it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I (the mrs)for one am pleased your having trouble with what your looking for, we meet single guys and its good to see not all will jump at a shag bareback, its puts them and those they meet at risk , also are you not concerned about your own well being?"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wow, had no idea things were so tough for couples on here!
Fyi - I am well up for meeting couples. Have a meet arranged for the end of May already. Would love one before! |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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i am just glad that all the guys in the thread that have shouted "me me me, give me a chance" have made themselves know.... because i am sure most of them have safe sex on the profile interests... and we now know that isn't true!!
so well done for shooting yourselves in foot........ i am sure lots are keeping a keen eye on the thread....
anyway... as people as said, because what you are wanting is so specific, you are going to be looking at a much smaller pool of people for the reasons others have mentioned (the taping, the bareback, the type of person you are after ect ect ect....)
you are going to be much better off doing the hunting youselves and explaining why they should meet you..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fabio ur so right, we keep eye on forums and as I said in previous post, im was please no takers,but see those idiots up for unsafe , unknown peeps fun, been doing this over 15 years, now and god more u read the more u learn lol |
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Well I was going to suggest my partner as he too likes filming however then I saw bareback!
Sorry but I would hope very few people would take this risk and why would you?
I hope you find what your looking for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i am just glad that all the guys in the thread that have shouted "me me me, give me a chance" have made themselves know.... because i am sure most of them have safe sex on the profile interests... and we now know that isn't true!!
so well done for shooting yourselves in foot........ i am sure lots are keeping a keen eye on the thread....
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"wondering now if the orginal post is full of shite, saying nov 14 but only been on here 8weeks, maybe what I call an internet wanker /. ?"
very intelligent reply.... not!
we joined another site for the first couple of months b4 finding this site. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Well I was going to suggest my partner as he too likes filming however then I saw bareback!
Sorry but I would hope very few people would take this risk and why would you?
I hope you find what your looking for. "
the topic is " single guys |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i am just glad that all the guys in the thread that have shouted "me me me, give me a chance" have made themselves know.... because i am sure most of them have safe sex on the profile interests... and we now know that isn't true!! "
Oops, I missed that.
To be fair, given that I noticed that OP was the other end of the country I only gave the profile a cursory glance.
Had they been nearer I would have read properly and so it would have been a 'no' from me on bareback.
Apologies OP for not having read your profile properly as I would have commented that bareback may be what is putting people off.
Quite ticked off with myself now, as I usually read profiles properly. What a Womble. |
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Hi all, just back from a trip to the uk, we had odd days to ourself so made arrangements over twenty weeks to meet one couple, and as I love MMF two single males, on different days...guess the two no shows..yep single men..Connie x  |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"i am just glad that all the guys in the thread that have shouted "me me me, give me a chance" have made themselves know.... because i am sure most of them have safe sex on the profile interests... and we now know that isn't true!!
Oops, I missed that.
To be fair, given that I noticed that OP was the other end of the country I only gave the profile a cursory glance.
Had they been nearer I would have read properly and so it would have been a 'no' from me on bareback.
Apologies OP for not having read your profile properly as I would have commented that bareback may be what is putting people off.
Quite ticked off with myself now, as I usually read profiles properly. What a Womble."
and in effect maybe this is an example of a problem (not picking on you personally)
the fact that the people you are after aren't reading it all... only looking at pics, jumping in with both feet and then when explained they think "ooooooooh....."
that is why the OP is better off approaching people, and explaining what they are after exactly... don't rely on peoples reading comprehension! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have been trying since Nov14 to invite a straight male to take part in our scenario (fucking Jill in front of jak while being filmed). I realise it not for everyone but we seem to get timewaster after timewaster.
My theory is that most guys get off on the thought of it but bottle it when they get the go ahead from Jill, most are no shows or come out with a crap excuse last minute... or they are mostly married guys making arrangements that they cant keep.
We have tried probably about 15 times now with no success. Any thoughts on this or similar experiences.
Jak"
We find ourselves in the same boat - been let down tonight and he was full then just went quiet  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know that I am down south from you but I met a couple who were advertising for similar and not getting any luck. After chatting to them and a bit of fun, I met them at theirs and had a good time as the ice had already been broken so to speak. Just a thought.
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