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do fat guys have a chance?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't got a chance either, but keep my hopes up lol. you do have a chance. No chance 
Seriously, op, these things take time."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I aint had no problems in meeting from fab, not fat just big due to.my profession as a bouncer (Doormen & security advisor) some women even want me to body search them in role play dressed as a doormen lol. All good fun tho. Dont stress when it happens it happens.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a big guy and still find it hard to believe that people want to play with me. I see other guys walking round that are stereotypically good looking and stuggle to see how I compete but looks arn't everything.
If everyone was the same the world would be boring!! |
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"Hit the gym mate lol
If someone said this to a woman there would be uproar.
OP if you're happy then great, ignore small minded people  "
Fully agree. Some folks on here really are up their own arses aren't they ?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I can get a meet. Anyone can.
It's all about confidence. Be confident in your body. Be confident about yourself. That itself will be enough to win people over.
All the best.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I can get a meet. Anyone can.
It's all about confidence. Be confident in your body. Be confident about yourself. That itself will be enough to win people over.
All the best.
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That's because you're all round beaut |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you don't allow that one facet of yourself as a person define you then you have as much chance as the next guy.
Fat n fugly half of the twosome here and we have no trouble attracting others. |
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"Everyone knows ther are lots of people who appreciate a bbw, but do larger men have a chance on here?
Not with me!
Eww!"
So you aren't attracted to a larger person, there was no need for the 'Ewww'.  |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
for a lard arse I don't think I do too badly..... but I have got past just seeing myself as one feature.... and basing all my success on one feature... or using one feature as a excuse!!!
I trying to be the best me I can be... may be good enough for some... wont be for others...
I use all my energy to focus on those who do.... as opposed to those who dont |
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"for a lard arse I don't think I do too badly..... but I have got past just seeing myself as one feature.... and basing all my success on one feature... or using one feature as a excuse!!!
I trying to be the best me I can be... may be good enough for some... wont be for others...
I use all my energy to focus on those who do.... as opposed to those who dont "
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There's no BHM scene, whereas there is a BBW scene. So we fat guys have fewer opportunities to mingle.
However, while I accept I am not everyone's cup of tea, I've done OK down the years. I think confidence without being cocky has a lot to do with it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like the bigger guy.
I find them to be very attentive to me, and generally do what they can to please me.
but saying that I've met all shapes and sizes (body and cock)
Think its just important to have a connection.
Its not like your going to be getting married, its just fun |
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"Hit the gym mate lol
If someone said this to a woman there would be uproar.
OP if you're happy then great, ignore small minded people "
Precisely. There's no need to be rude.
I do find that being self-confident is one of my biggest assets. No doubt some ladies are put off by my appearance, some don't mind and some are turned on. But personality counts for a lot. |
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By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago
Cardiff |
"Everyone knows ther are lots of people who appreciate a bbw, but do larger men have a chance on here?"
Of course they do, not everyone likes gym slaves (I personally like a bit of extra weight). There are lots of people here with lots of different tastes. If you are happy with how you are don't change a thing and just be patient |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Op
Just start a BHM group and start throwing parties....
a mate of mine did try that but there was insufficient interest."
I'd go to something like that, local to me though. |
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"Hit the gym mate lol
If someone said this to a woman there would be uproar.
OP if you're happy then great, ignore small minded people
Fully agree. Some folks on here really are up their own arses aren't they ?
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Yup. Friggin rude  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Op
Just start a BHM group and start throwing parties....
a mate of mine did try that but there was insufficient interest."
Well you can try again.... Just have patience |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a bigger guy , I don't do well on here and think slimmer guys do better in clubs hence on a diet , that's just how Iv found things , might just be I'm more confidant when slimmer , just my _iew ! |
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A gentleman ... with a good personality goes far in my book .
Some guys on here think they are soooo special .......
But really are as dull as dishwater .....
OP ....think positively. .. be yourself .....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Male half of the couple here.
Joined FAB 6 years ago and I was a bloater with a BMI of 52 - so at 6 foot tall that put me at just shy of 26 stone. That's big.
Myself and my wife have been very successful and she's a lady with a fuller figure.
It's a lot to do with who you are and not what you are. Personality is much more important to others than your body image. Attract someone's mind and their body will follow.
I had Bariatric surgery end of last year and have so far lost 8.5 stone and so now have a very different body shape. I'm in XL clothes now and not 4/5XL. Has it made a difference to our swinging activities? I can say NO it's just as it was.
Size isn't the issue its about you as a person, so don't beat yourself up. Get to a club and be sociable.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Gym fit VWE....
Yeah well, I'm into fitness. Fitness whole pizza in my gob. I'm not gym fit, I'm fit enough but couldn't describe myself as gym fit.
But...who cares? I'm having fun regardless!
Peace. |
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"Everyone knows ther are lots of people who appreciate a bbw, but do larger men have a chance on here?
Not with me!
Eww!
So you aren't attracted to a larger person, there was no need for the 'Ewww'. "
Not to fat *men* |
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"for a lard arse I don't think I do too badly..... but I have got past just seeing myself as one feature.... and basing all my success on one feature... or using one feature as a excuse!!!
I trying to be the best me I can be... may be good enough for some... wont be for others...
I use all my energy to focus on those who do.... as opposed to those who dont "
This! |
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"While i agree personality is much more important that looks its also much more difficult to convay on a profile.
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Just because someone isn't overweight doesn't mean they are a 'skinny rake' you might be putting people off with that comment. It is hard to convey personality on your profile but comments like that do no one any favours. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was on a week long course about 3 years back with a mixed group (m&f). There was one particularly hot girl there - manager for Hollister, tall, slim and gorgeous BUT she was as dull as shit. There were 2 other girls in the group who were lets say, curvy to bbw, but they were seriously good fun to be around. Great craic and right up for a laugh. If i'd been offered a choice between a night with the hot Hollister chick and either of the other 2 girls, there'd be no contest. Gimme a girl whose company i enjoy every time. I'm no oil painting myself and aint exactly a skinny minnie by any stretch but i'm a funny bastard and a bit of a charmer (not my own words, someone else's!) I've always found that more than helpful with the fairer sex. Horses for courses really. |
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"I'm a big guy and still find it hard to believe that people want to play with me. I see other guys walking round that are stereotypically good looking and stuggle to see how I compete but looks arn't everything.
If everyone was the same the world would be boring!!"
I'm the same and I'm a woman |
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By *D40Couple
over a year ago
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Male half of the couple here.
Joined FAB 6 years ago and I was a bloater with a BMI of 52 - so at 6 foot tall that put me at just shy of 26 stone. That's big.
Myself and my wife have been very successful and she's a lady with a fuller figure.
It's a lot to do with who you are and not what you are. Personality is much more important to others than your body image. Attract someone's mind and their body will follow.
I had Bariatric surgery end of last year and have so far lost 8.5 stone and so now have a very different body shape. I'm in XL clothes now and not 4/5XL. Has it made a difference to our swinging activities? I can say NO it's just as it was.
Size isn't the issue its about you as a person, so don't beat yourself up. Get to a club and be sociable.
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I disagree... Your wife has a fecking marvellous figure... I am 5 years post rny x |
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You are the size that you choose to be.
You as a responsible adult live every day with the consequences of your actions, good and bad alike.
So therefore the tone of your post might suggest that you are less than happy with your present size.
So do something about it.
Try cutting out beer, potatoes, and bread, and junk food of all types.
You are issued with one body, so may as well look after it! |
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It IS that simple.
Eat less and move more.
Cut out potatoes, beer, and bread.....
Resist take-aways
Exercise self control.
Clear out your cupboards of sweets chocolates and junk.
Not difficult is it?
You are what you eat.
Accept responsibility for yourself and your actions.
Everything in your life is a reflection of the choices you have made.
If you want a different result, then make a different choice!
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"Hit the gym mate lol
If someone said this to a woman there would be uproar.
OP if you're happy then great, ignore small minded people
Fully agree. Some folks on here really are up their own arses aren't they ?
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You don't need hit a gym,my hubby saying-more sex you need it. Its better than a gym. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your not huge by any stretch of the imagination, but your body PIC doesn't do you any favours. Try a few different angles, the one you have chosen just exaggerates any belly you might have.
And remember the words of Dr Pete Venkman. "Suck in those guys guys, were the Ghostbusters". |
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By *D40Couple
over a year ago
Wolverhampton |
"I've been on and off this site for 6 years and had no meets! And the reason is I'm overweight. It's such a shallow site it's unreal! "
I wouldnt meet you mainly because i cant see your face. The face can reflect the personality of a person.
Cock pics have no interest to me, to just be interested in the size of a cock is shallow & lets be honest you can have the biggest cannon but if you dont know how to use it then its useless.
Show some personality, your body is fine xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been on and off this site for 6 years and had no meets! And the reason is I'm overweight. It's such a shallow site it's unreal!
I wouldnt meet you mainly because i cant see your face. The face can reflect the personality of a person.
Cock pics have no interest to me, to just be interested in the size of a cock is shallow & lets be honest you can have the biggest cannon but if you dont know how to use it then its useless.
Show some personality, your body is fine xx"
i always get turned down when I send a face pic lol . I dread them askin . Mind u I get turned down when I don't lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Everyone knows ther are lots of people who appreciate a bbw, but do larger men have a chance on here?"
for every 100 messages we get 99 of them are one liners so we do not even look at the profiles .why would we .if your a larger man that knows how to make people feel good .and put it in a good message you would get us chatting to you and the rest is a maybe to the 99% that send the one liners .happy wanking . |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"I've been on and off this site for 6 years and had no meets! And the reason is I'm overweight. It's such a shallow site it's unreal! "
Perhaps then your best bet is in the world out there where women are tripping over themselves in the race to meet with you |
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By *lfieWoman
over a year ago
South Dublin |
"I've been on and off this site for 6 years and had no meets! And the reason is I'm overweight. It's such a shallow site it's unreal! "
You could have lost a lot of weight in six years. Just saying. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been on and off this site for 6 years and had no meets! And the reason is I'm overweight. It's such a shallow site it's unreal! "
Of course its shallow, The simple truth is there's tens of thousands of people on the Site so we can all pick the Body type/Looks/Age and attitude we want.
Thats Life
Btw your Veris say you have met others.
Skinny Gimp  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Everyone knows ther are lots of people who appreciate a bbw, but do larger men have a chance on here?"
Larger,skinny or some sort of chisseld type like the one below your first post, I reckon we all have as much chance here as we do outside,it's just we put ourselves forward more here so are likely to get more rejections I would guess |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do ok as well
A lot has to do with confidence. I know im not everyone's type but I couldn't give a fuck (pun intended) be yourself and enjoy and you will find what you need. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Everyone knows ther are lots of people who appreciate a bbw, but do larger men have a chance on here?"
Plenty of men say the like the big women, must be a woman who likes big blokes....
But don't forget the women rule the roost on this type of sites. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And OP, in his eternal quest to be desired by the opposite sex, abandoned Fabswingers.com and headed off to pastures new."
is their another place for ex fabsters to go and seek fulfillment and happiness? |
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On here not so much but in real life I've done pretty well.
Looks are clearly an important factor but just chill and remember you are doing this to have fun with like minded people. Its not a competition.
Like you say not everyones cup of tea but similarly not everyone on here are you attracted to. |
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"And OP, in his eternal quest to be desired by the opposite sex, abandoned Fabswingers.com and headed off to pastures new. is their another place for ex fabsters to go and seek fulfillment and happiness? "
Something to do with fish I think? |
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Tester4321 I would say you need to sell yourself more in your profile including a pic that ladies are more likely to enjoy. Most ladies know full well what a penis looks like but they don't know what you look like.
get some verifications even if they are just from cams. Remember your profile is your shop front. Sell yourself. |
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