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We don't mind a few extra pounds on our playmates, but sometimes we want the same build as us, and don't have problems attracting such members, as they seem to appreciate that we keep ourselves in shape too.
Horses for courses. If you're happy as you are, and many seem to be, then celebrate and enjoy it, but dont moan if people express different preferences. One of the larger, dom. ladies on here would fulfill many of my personal fantasies, but I'm not what she's looking for (I'm Bi) so I settle for a bit of banter in the forums instead, and don't bend her ear about changing what she prefers.  | |||
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"Skinny guys get all the fun... No they don't people have preferences on the type of person they want to meet,me personally(mrs) Don't have a type of guy i go for,there just has to be an attraction and personality goes a long way for me too. We recieved an email recently,the guy said on his profile that he was looking for slim women,when i replied that i wasnt slim,he said its ok you can sit on my face but i wont fuck you... Charming lol"That is bloody awful, I have to admit it was cases such as that which i've read in other posts that kinda lead me to posting this I guess. But that kind of abusiveness is unwarranted, I do hope you gave as good back or just simply ignored him and got on with people who do matter. TBh, I'm wishing i'd not posted this now, I think It's come across the wrong way and my best intentions have gone awry. Anything that helps people not get that kind of abuse is a good thing though I guess. | |||
"Skinny guys get all the fun... No they don't people have preferences on the type of person they want to meet,me personally(mrs) Don't have a type of guy i go for,there just has to be an attraction and personality goes a long way for me too. We recieved an email recently,the guy said on his profile that he was looking for slim women,when i replied that i wasnt slim,he said its ok you can sit on my face but i wont fuck you... Charming lol
That is bloody awful, I have to admit it was cases such as that which i've read in other posts that kinda lead me to posting this I guess.
But that kind of abusiveness is unwarranted, I do hope you gave as good back or just simply ignored him and got on with people who do matter.
TBh, I'm wishing i'd not posted this now, I think It's come across the wrong way and my best intentions have gone awry.
Anything that helps people not get that kind of abuse is a good thing though I guess."Dont let it put you off posting in here,sometimes people read posts and read more into it(hope that made sense lol) And i didnt give him the satisfaction of him thinking that he had bothered me,which he didnt,so didnt reply but he is blocked from contacting us again x | |||
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"Let's put the boot on the other foot. It's human nature to fancy the people who are "easy on the eye". Put 5 slim people and 5 large people, men or women for that matter, and ask any person at random, who they would prefer to shag. I'd bet my house that the slim people would be the most popular choices. It's just the way it is "Sorry, I disagree....slim or easy on the eye may be some peoples choice where as curvy may be easy on the eye to others, it is all down to personal choice....not all people are attracted to slim folk, just as not all prefer curves..... | |||
"Let's put the boot on the other foot. It's human nature to fancy the people who are "easy on the eye". Put 5 slim people and 5 large people, men or women for that matter, and ask any person at random, who they would prefer to shag. I'd bet my house that the slim people would be the most popular choices. It's just the way it is
Sorry, I disagree....slim or easy on the eye may be some peoples choice where as curvy may be easy on the eye to others, it is all down to personal choice....not all people are attracted to slim folk, just as not all prefer curves....."of course some will go for the curvy people, and thank God that they do, or else I wouldn't get a shag, lol, but like I said, I'd bet my house that the slim people would be the most popular. | |||
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"Bad choice of word using shallow and really sorry if that word offended anyone. I'm a Great believer in beauty been more than skin deep, and yet yes, I like to look for certain things, preference as they say is our individual choice. I guess I just noted that there is a pattern in these choices, and does this then cause issues both ways. some people here have shown accounts of attitude given back at them. There seems to be a lot of people who argue both sides of the case, timewasters, pushy people, genuine people vs non-genuine. Just trying to gauge if some of the issues come from conflicts in what people are seeking and want. I also agree with what has been said quite a few times, that people don't read profiles. I mean I'f I replied to someone's profile and they were looking for young athletic blonde men, then I'd be pretty daft sending them a message. But yet this seems to happen (maybe not quite in that way) and you see stories on here or in the chat rooms where people are either rude, or abusive.. Just don't quite get it I guess." seemed like a dig at us larger guys with super slim attractive bi fem women so hey hum that seems to blow your theory of women and couples choosing slim men only. if we were ever knocked back for whatever reason by another member we would except it and move on(and not gripe) | |||
oh... and I bet I am fitter than a lot of the perception of these "skinny" people anyway....
you concentrate on you... and be the best person you can be, that is the only thing you can affect!!! | |||
"Sorry OP: I'm with Twobitwo in that this does sound like a bit of a whinge because you feel excluded. I'm very big but don't usually find very big men sexually attractive. The other thing is a matter of dynamics: 1 (big gut) + 1 (big gut) = (NO) bumping uglies! "in that case i will have the big uns and you can have the skinny uns | |||
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"Let's put the boot on the other foot. It's human nature to fancy the people who are "easy on the eye". Put 5 slim people and 5 large people, men or women for that matter, and ask any person at random, who they would prefer to shag. I'd bet my house that the slim people would be the most popular choices. It's just the way it is "Have to agree there, you only have to look at the top 50 mens list in most womens magazines or read threads posted on here about celebrities you'd like to be swingers or have threesomes with etc and most mention slim athletic types  | |||
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) but I do think that I am personable and get on well with people generally. So, maybe there's some self-projection thing going on here... I rate personality highly in the hope that others will do so too.
Who knows... perhaps I'm just spouting complete rubbish again. | |||
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"If you look at peoples profiles and then at their verifications you'll, most times, find that like attracts like. That's one of the reasons couples will say "looking for similar". People like to meet those that they feel comfortable with. Some people have issues about their self image and the last thing they need to do is meet someone who makes them feel worse about themselves. They might well desire a meet with their idea of a Venus or Adonis but their own insecurities prevent it.
XXXX"Thats the thing though, on these type of threads people say things like, prefer my man to be big blah blah, dont like slim atletic types, prefer rugby players, then on celebrity threads you get names like Daniel Craig, Jude Law, Wentworth Miller, Gerard Butler, Brad Pitt, Allan Rickman, Matt Damon, David Tennant, Christian Bale, Johnny Depp etc etc 
So i certainly can see where the OP is coming from especially if he follows the forums. | |||
"If you look at peoples profiles and then at their verifications you'll, most times, find that like attracts like. That's one of the reasons couples will say "looking for similar". People like to meet those that they feel comfortable with. Some people have issues about their self image and the last thing they need to do is meet someone who makes them feel worse about themselves. They might well desire a meet with their idea of a Venus or Adonis but their own insecurities prevent it.
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Thats the thing though, on these type of threads people say things like, prefer my man to be big blah blah, dont like slim atletic types, prefer rugby players, then on celebrity threads you get names like Daniel Craig, Jude Law, Wentworth Miller, Gerard Butler, Brad Pitt, Allan Rickman, Matt Damon, David Tennant, Christian Bale, Johnny Depp etc etc
So i certainly can see where the OP is coming from especially if he follows the forums."Yeah, we've noticed that too. That's what was meant in our last couple of lines. They may well have a fantasy sex partner or body type but many would be too insecure to meet them, if given the chance. XXXX | |||
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"take it from your rant you will jump anything !!" Was that aimed at me, in actual fact no I won't. I look for personality, at times that's difficult to gauge from profiles, like to chat quite a bit before anything happens, like to be comfortable and the reverse applies. Agree with comments after this post. Personality is key. | |||
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"size doesn't matter to me (in every aspect :P) as long as you have a pulse and a sense of humour lol" Personality goes a long way. you know theres an awful lot of people posting on this saying the same thing. Its not size its personality, yet at the start we had a few people saying, its personal preference, though my argument was that Looks aint everything and for the majority, that seems to be other peoples _iews too. A woman who makes me laugh, makes me excited and who makes me at ease and lets me know she knows a lot behind those eyes, well that means much more though I do understand a lot of the arguments about personal preference, self pride, similar looks etc, confidence issues etc.. Found the comments on this post fascinating. | |||
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"size doesn't matter to me (in every aspect :P) as long as you have a pulse and a sense of humour lol" haha....honesty's the best policy. | |||
"size doesn't matter to me (in every aspect :P) as long as you have a pulse and a sense of humour lolhaha....honesty's the best policy. "I agree, "hi there, I have a very large belly and I haven't seen much of my cock in the last 4 years but I'm told its a good size" Honesty, respectfulness and as most people say, just been yourself, counts for a lot | |||
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"size doesn't matter to me (in every aspect :P) as long as you have a pulse and a sense of humour lol Personality goes a long way. you know theres an awful lot of people posting on this saying the same thing. Its not size its personality, yet at the start we had a few people saying, its personal preference, though my argument was that Looks aint everything and for the majority, that seems to be other peoples _iews too. A woman who makes me laugh, makes me excited and who makes me at ease and lets me know she knows a lot behind those eyes, well that means much more though I do understand a lot of the arguments about personal preference, self pride, similar looks etc, confidence issues etc.. Found the comments on this post fascinating. "Read my profile! you'll see I prefer personality over looks everytime. If a guy can make me giggle he's already halfway there. Most people don't have a 'type' anyway. I like them whether they are tall, short, large or small but saying that I am not into huge muscly guys. | |||
"size doesn't matter to me (in every aspect :P) as long as you have a pulse and a sense of humour lolhaha....honesty's the best policy. "Gawd can you imagine if we all rewrote our profiles stating all the horrid bits hahaha 44, prone to be being frosty, menopausel, so sweaty in bed, chicken drum stick thighs, stretch marks and a huge scar from belly button to pubic bone. But a great smile and a bubbly personality ! Would that cut it? Any takers??!! | |||
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"I like skinny, geeky types, and from the feedback I've received, men like that don't have much luck on here. i don't like preening muscle men. I've also recently developed a bit of a thing for short men. Small but perfectly formed. It takes all sorts "I can talk for hours about firewalls and TCP/IP... is that what you meant by the geeky type? | |||
"I like skinny, geeky types, and from the feedback I've received, men like that don't have much luck on here. i don't like preening muscle men. I've also recently developed a bit of a thing for short men. Small but perfectly formed. It takes all sorts
I can talk for hours about firewalls and TCP/IP... is that what you meant by the geeky type?"Cisco Juniper of Firewall-1, not to mention Ipv4 or new sexy ipv6..ooohheeerrr I say. from one Network Speaclist Geek to another | |||
"I like skinny, geeky types, and from the feedback I've received, men like that don't have much luck on here. i don't like preening muscle men. I've also recently developed a bit of a thing for short men. Small but perfectly formed. It takes all sorts
I can talk for hours about firewalls and
TCP/IP... is that what you meant by the geeky type?"now you're talking! | |||
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"Well as you see, its all about preference. I much prefer someone with a bit a meat on them, not because i dont fancy skinny/slim/athletic guys, but usually they take care of themselves, i cant afford a gym and also having had kids, id feel like Morecombe and Wise or Little and Large, Laurel and Hardie, dont think fit athletic guys want us that have had kids, therefore, i prefer a guy with imperfections like me, i wouldnt feel uncomfortable then. On the other hand though, if i chatted to someone and they are nearer my age and slim, i wouldnt turn them down "I'm twice your size, I've had four children and my playmates are all between 5ft 11 to 6ft 4. They include a dancer/model, one that runs marathons, one tennis, a couple play golf and rugby, they dive. My point is ALL of my playmates are athletic, lithe or medium build. The Michelin Man wants his tyres back and my boobs lost the fight with gravity decades ago. Lymph oedema and erythema nodus have left my legs scared. My playmates can't wait to get their hands on me, and a rock hard erection says it all. I meet playmates socially, they see me in the flesh. It's a major confidence booster seeing handsome, fit men nervous and excited in your presence. It makes a difference how you feel about yourself too I think. I'm rich, smart, gainfully employed, attractive and think men are very lucky to be around me. . My playmates are also professional men, directors etc.
I met a new playmate this week, we'd met twice before socially. For the first time I felt nervous. Why? I've not been well with the flu, plus it was months since I'd played due to a medical condition, not had my hair done and he is gorgeous: I nearly cancelled because I didn't feel good about me.
The phone was in my hand to call when he called me, excited, looking forward to seeing me. He travelled across London in blizzard conditions to get to me: and I live on a hill!!
We spent six hours together, stopping for lunch and coffee. Even when we sat snuggled up having coffee before he left I cannot say I was confident in myself: this has never happened to me as I think I'm hot and the men lucky. I didn't feel myself and that affected how I was around such a handsome, fit, younger man.
*Please note the "up my own" arse response in this thread is made with my tongue firmly in cheek to illustrate fit, handsome men do play with Ms Blobby's and some even hold our hands, kiss us and socialise with us in public and they're not out as part of Care in the Community.
I thank you! | |||
"If you look at peoples profiles and then at their verifications you'll, most times, find that like attracts like. That's one of the reasons couples will say "looking for similar". People like to meet those that they feel comfortable with. Some people have issues about their self image and the last thing they need to do is meet someone who makes them feel worse about themselves. They might well desire a meet with their idea of a Venus or Adonis but their own insecurities prevent it.
XXXX"Should have read to the end before posting as this sums it up nicely! | |||
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"Well as you see, its all about preference. I much prefer someone with a bit a meat on them, not because i dont fancy skinny/slim/athletic guys, but usually they take care of themselves, i cant afford a gym and also having had kids, id feel like Morecombe and Wise or Little and Large, Laurel and Hardie, dont think fit athletic guys want us that have had kids, therefore, i prefer a guy with imperfections like me, i wouldnt feel uncomfortable then. On the other hand though, if i chatted to someone and they are nearer my age and slim, i wouldnt turn them down
I'm twice your size, I've had four children and my playmates are all between 5ft 11 to 6ft 4. They include a dancer/model, one that runs marathons, one tennis, a couple play golf and rugby, they dive. My point is ALL of my playmates are athletic, lithe or medium build.
The Michelin Man wants his tyres back and my boobs lost the fight with gravity decades ago. Lymph oedema and erythema nodus have left my legs scared. My playmates can't wait to get their hands on me, and a rock hard erection says it all.
I meet playmates socially, they see me in the flesh. It's a major confidence booster seeing handsome, fit men nervous and excited in your presence.
It makes a difference how you feel about yourself too I think. I'm rich, smart, gainfully employed, attractive and think men are very lucky to be around me. . My playmates are also professional men, directors etc.
I met a new playmate this week, we'd met twice before socially. For the first time I felt nervous. Why? I've not been well with the flu, plus it was months since I'd played due to a medical condition, not had my hair done and he is gorgeous: I nearly cancelled because I didn't feel good about me.
The phone was in my hand to call when he called me, excited, looking forward to seeing me. He travelled across London in blizzard conditions to get to me: and I live on a hill!!
We spent six hours together, stopping for lunch and coffee. Even when we sat snuggled up having coffee before he left I cannot say I was confident in myself: this has never happened to me as I think I'm hot and the men lucky. I didn't feel myself and that affected how I was around such a handsome, fit, younger man.
*Please note the "up my own" arse response in this thread is made with my tongue firmly in cheek to illustrate fit, handsome men do play with Ms Blobby's and some even hold our hands, kiss us and socialise with us in public and they're not out as part of Care in the Community.
I thank you! "To be honest, from many years of ridicule, an appalling childhood and not wishing to be likend to my mother, its taken me a long time to actually like myself: i work she doesnt, when i moved into my house, i worked till the early hours of the morning to sort it out, she never has, she is overweight constantly moans about it but does nothing other than want a magic pill, i have worked hard to lose weight. i know from your comment, that i am still not wholly there but Rome wasnt built in a day. There are some guys on here that ive no desire to meet as i feel they are far too good looking for me, least i have something to offer them if i am slim. Its also my reason for not liking the 20's age group; most of them on here are slim, fit, i dont see that they would want me as i'm not the typical hot slim 'gym attending' gorgeous cougar. I do fancy slim etc guys, i just think they wouldnt really want me, thats not to say that i purposely look for men with similar figures to mine but i do feel slightly uncomfortable with those that are slim. On the other hand once as you say, following several hours of chatting, I feel comfortable and all thoughts of "why would they want me??" go out the window and several hours of hot sex follows
I don't want to sound like i am putting down those that i have met that are slim and fit as i am not, to me they are good looking but not an Adonis and lets face it who would want someone that spends hours at the gym and more time looking in the mirror, leaves no time for sex really does it
So for me personality counts but i still wouldnt touch those that you have met, and ive only one out of your three but as i have said, i'm working on one of them, just takes time | |||
"Variety is the spice of life! We are all different and all have differing tastes and preferences. The observant will note trends when reading profiles but I think we all need to be a little 'thick skinned' to be on a site like this. You cannot take it personally when you are rejected/excluded for not meeting someone's specifications or requirements...nor can you necessarily change your appearance in order to meet that requirement. Simply move on and hope to find someone else with whom there is mutual attraction. Good luck...the Geeks will have their day! "Well i meet a geek, least it gives intelligent conversation even though i dont always understand what he says  | |||
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"Not at all babe "Tsk tsk  | |||
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"Well i meet a geek, least it gives intelligent conversation even though i dont always understand what he says "Aww, Kitten, I'm sure you'd understand me - I'm more like the bloke off the IT Crowd than Stephen Hawking... and if you had any problems with your computer, then I could fix it at the same time. | |||
"Speaking as one who is carrying 30 pounds of excess lard on his belly, its never hindered us in meeting people. Like some of the others who actively seek out thin (skinny) peeps, we look for average, to slightly overweight. We attend a party night once a month and I can tell you now that once you get to mid 40's, the body gives up wanting to be slim. Out of 12 couples or so that attend every month, maybe only 1 of those couples are thin, sometimes 2. The majority are slightly overweight and are quite happy with it. Ive even seen some of the thin couples avoided by the others because they find them not attractive being so thin. So the Op's comments really don't hold water, its a case of each to their own. Seek out those like yourself and you'll be ok." I've read a lot of your posts and responses on here and you seem to talk a lot of sense and have a good perspective!
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"ps - I'm not in any way suggesting that anyone in this thread fits any of the categories, it's just I heard the song on the radio and it was stuck in my head for hours. Hopefully it's stuck in your's now too." nope | |||
"ps - I'm not in any way suggesting that anyone in this thread fits any of the categories, it's just I heard the song on the radio and it was stuck in my head for hours. Hopefully it's stuck in your's now too. nope "Damn | |||
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"prefers very skinny guys in a gang bang situation.. once they had their go, you snap them in half, easier keeping track who is still to have a go "LOL! trust you! | |||
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"i get pleny of meets and i get my fair amount of peeps turning me down and its true personality does count why should body size come in to it, its pity because it does with a lot of peeps "Personality does count. But let's be honest. On a site like this, it takes a back seat. It's about physical attraction, then you get to know the person. I think we'd all be lying to ourselves to say otherwise! | |||
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"Without wanting to sound cynical about my own gender, I think it is down to a combination of sheer weight of numbers and the fact that many men would shag the hole in a polo mint. Bigger women will still have the pick of a host of single guys chasing them - and they can afford to be picky, so regardless of their own size, they can target slim/athletic men with plenty scope for success, I am sure. Personal choice and all that. On the other hand, we hear of plenty examples of a girl getting 150 offers of sex a day without any pictures on their profile, so those messaging seem happy to shag regardless of looks/size etc That's just men! In the world of swinging we have BBWs but not BBM - just fat bastards! "In the world of swinging, we try to impress people who's opinions (usually) mean F-all to us, just to get some fun! I've read a couple of profiles about what certain women want and they'll be lucky to find it. Even if they do, that doesn't guarantee they'll like them or they'll have a good meet. Chill my friend! | |||
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And so far its not effected my ability to meet people. Some like their men to be rakes other like a bit of meat. But I'm sure most prefer someone they can get on with both out of bed and in, no matter what their size. | |||
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"Swinging, to a lot of people is about living out your fantasies." Thank you! That's the point I try to make on all threads of this type. Some people get really offended if they're excluded in some way, but it shouldn't be taken personally as for most of us it IS about living a fantasy!!! | |||
Its obviously something more then that. | |||
"Hey, I'm a slim athletic guy and i can't seem to get any fun. Its obviously something more then that."Yes patience, you’ve only been here 3 weeks and your first forum post is saying you’re getting no fun rather than introducing yourself. | |||
"Hey, I'm a slim athletic guy and i can't seem to get any fun. Its obviously something more then that.
Yes patience, you’ve only been here 3 weeks and your first forum post is saying you’re getting no fun rather than introducing yourself. "Not forgetting that you are way to young for those of us that have kids your age group | |||
