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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What a ridiculous question on a swinging site!!
A marriage can survive fab more than it can normally.
I find fabs great as it makes us be 100% open with each other, we don't have temptations that could spoil our marriage as we indulge in them together
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes of course as long as both partners are 100% happy with everything.
Love, full trust & no jealousy helps a lot when swinging as a couple.
We have been on the scene for years but make sure we both arrange meets once we have agreed together & we do not meet alone.
Works for us but if either decided they wanted to stop we would both leave the site. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I hope so 
Seriously though, OP, would you expect couples to say no? Even the people who may one day divorce probably won't say no now, while they are still on fab and things are good.
On a related note, my divorce papers will be filed tomorrow. Nobody tell Marc 
-Courtney |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hope so
Seriously though, OP, would you expect couples to say no? Even the people who may one day divorce probably won't say no now, while they are still on fab and things are good.
On a related note, my divorce papers will be filed tomorrow. Nobody tell Marc
-Courtney"
What are your grounds Courtney?!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hope so
Seriously though, OP, would you expect couples to say no? Even the people who may one day divorce probably won't say no now, while they are still on fab and things are good.
On a related note, my divorce papers will be filed tomorrow. Nobody tell Marc
-Courtney
What are your grounds Courtney?!!"
I have to have grounds?
The fact that he might not exist is a good start 
-Courtney |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hope so
Seriously though, OP, would you expect couples to say no? Even the people who may one day divorce probably won't say no now, while they are still on fab and things are good.
On a related note, my divorce papers will be filed tomorrow. Nobody tell Marc
-Courtney
What are your grounds Courtney?!!
I have to have grounds?
The fact that he might not exist is a good start
-Courtney"
You could have it annulled then!! |
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"Can a marriage survive FAB?
what do you feel is the answer?
I'm starting to think it has to be no. To be honest"
Oh dear. That might be true for you but doesn't mean it's so for all fab marriages.
Hope it works out for the best. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hope so
Seriously though, OP, would you expect couples to say no? Even the people who may one day divorce probably won't say no now, while they are still on fab and things are good.
On a related note, my divorce papers will be filed tomorrow. Nobody tell Marc
-Courtney
What are your grounds Courtney?!!
I have to have grounds?
The fact that he might not exist is a good start
-Courtney
You could have it annulled then!!"
I think you've got an idea there. Can you be my witness?
-Courtney |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A marriage can survive anything. All you need is to be honest and communicate. You do those two things and anything can be worked out. Oh and commitment. These three things......oh and love.
Right 4 things a marriage needs honesty, commitment, love and communication. You've got those and you can survive anything!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can a marriage survive FAB?
what do you feel is the answer?
I'm starting to think it has to be no. To be honest"
One of the few things I've learnt in life is that every relationship fails from what one fails to address...
Swinging, singing or swimming, can all doom a relationship if there's underlying issues that need communication or resolve |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"Yes, I'm pretty sure that lots of people are married but also enjoy swinging and it doesn't stop their marriage being successful."
It stops some from thinking of ever getting married though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Absolutely.
Oh and having a wife as hot as Jane helps too I didn't know we were married....am I a bigamist now?  "
Polygamy is the new way of putting it x |
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Not if the wife finds out you been playing away.
If a couple goes into it together, and you never force anything on one another then Yes, its worked for us and we believe our relationship is stronger for it.
If you are hitting a sticky patch and think it will relight your marriage then we would say no it won't. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Some food for thought thanks guys
Seems the underlying thing is communication
Damn!!!!!!!!
I'm doomed
Oh gawd! Have you been sent to Coventry? Don't lose hope you can get back on track."
Bloody he'll I hope not
My ex wife lives there lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not if the wife finds out you been playing away.
If a couple goes into it together, and you never force anything on one another then Yes, its worked for us and we believe our relationship is stronger for it.
If you are hitting a sticky patch and think it will relight your marriage then we would say no it won't."
We have separate profiles
She been on longer than me
Just never seems to be off the phone
She knows I have worries but her answer to them are
Oh shut up will you your being silly |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some food for thought thanks guys
Seems the underlying thing is communication
Damn!!!!!!!!
I'm doomed
Oh gawd! Have you been sent to Coventry? Don't lose hope you can get back on track.
Bloody he'll I hope not
My ex wife lives there lol"
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"Some food for thought thanks guys
Seems the underlying thing is communication
Damn!!!!!!!!
I'm doomed
Oh gawd! Have you been sent to Coventry? Don't lose hope you can get back on track.
Bloody he'll I hope not
My ex wife lives there lol"
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"Not if the wife finds out you been playing away.
If a couple goes into it together, and you never force anything on one another then Yes, its worked for us and we believe our relationship is stronger for it.
If you are hitting a sticky patch and think it will relight your marriage then we would say no it won't.
We have separate profiles
She been on longer than me
Just never seems to be off the phone
She knows I have worries but her answer to them are
Oh shut up will you your being silly"
I think the details are something to be kept between the two of you and I can only advise you to talk to each other if you can. Good luck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes of course as long as both partners are 100% happy with everything.
Love, full trust & no jealousy helps a lot when swinging as a couple.
We have been on the scene for years but make sure we both arrange meets once we have agreed together & we do not meet alone.
Works for us but if either decided they wanted to stop we would both leave the site."
Ditto to this |
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By *uncpl83Couple
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
If anything FAB has made our marriage stronger then ever!
We now communicate a lot more and have never spoke so openly about our sexual fantasies.
Our marriage was never on the rocks before we joined but it opened a door for us and we know enjoy fulfilling our fantasies with each other
Lou |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Swinging.. Is for couples.
Marriage.. Is the coming together of two souls. Kindred spirits. Friends. Companionship.
Work has to be done on a daily basis its a partnership.
Swinging from one to another does that enhance a marriage?
Oh it means you can fuck anyone and you both agree. Thought marriage was between two people not shagging next on legs.
Oh right.. Hey vicar am having a marriage between the swinging world.. So my legs are open to any cock.. What a fucking life... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Swinging in a marriage on a mutual agreement of next on legs.. Quick I want a fab marriage lol
Marriage should not affect your relationship unless you cheat.
Keep working at your swinging marriages.. Happy swinging.. Next lol |
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By *p4funCouple
over a year ago
PLYMOUTH |
"If anything FAB has made our marriage stronger then ever!
We now communicate a lot more and have never spoke so openly about our sexual fantasies.
Our marriage was never on the rocks before we joined but it opened a door for us and we know enjoy fulfilling our fantasies with each other
Lou"
this |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Some food for thought thanks guys
Seems the underlying thing is communication
Damn!!!!!!!!
I'm doomed
Does your wife not know?"
How I feel?
No but she not a great talker
Well with me lol |
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By *uncpl83Couple
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"Swinging in a marriage on a mutual agreement of next on legs.. Quick I want a fab marriage lol
Marriage should not affect your relationship unless you cheat.
Keep working at your swinging marriages.. Happy swinging.. Next lol "
Don't understand if you think swinging as a married couple is a bad or good thing?
Not sure if I get your sarcasm.... |
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By *uncpl83Couple
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"No sarcasm.........
Bottom line is......
Feels like she wants to be with me but.......
Not in the biblical way"
Sorry that quote wasn't intended for you.
My opinion would be to listen to your gut instincts and by the sounds of it the feeling isn't good as your having these doubts.
Hope all ends well for you
Lou
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To be frank if you are a swinging couple we do not understand why have single profiles, swinging to us Is mutual fun. Been doing it for 15years on and off, dipping in and out when we want fun. Not all couples can cope emotionally but it is about perspective, but that's just our opinion and it works for us. |
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By *uncpl83Couple
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"To be frank if you are a swinging couple we do not understand why have single profiles, swinging to us Is mutual fun. Been doing it for 15years on and off, dipping in and out when we want fun. Not all couples can cope emotionally but it is about perspective, but that's just our opinion and it works for us."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Met loads of happily married couples in clubs. If you're both honest, open and respect each other then yes. I'd love to meet a woman to go to clubs with and have a relationship/marriage with |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No sarcasm.........
Bottom line is......
Feels like she wants to be with me but.......
Not in the biblical way
Sorry that quote wasn't intended for you.
My opinion would be to listen to your gut instincts and by the sounds of it the feeling isn't good as your having these doubts.
Hope all ends well for you
Lou
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Thanks for that xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fab marriage anyone lol
Weird veri.. Weird profile.. Weird question.. "
Totally agree. What is your point? samantha66123 meets you for a coffee after a long break?.
We don't need Fab for our marriage to survive or fail. Nearly 15yrs and still going strong if anything we are now stronger since joining this lifestyle.
No secerts always upfront and honest. And the sex is amazing. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Can a marriage survive FAB?
Take it, it is your wife from the text on your profile who has verified you...odd veri to leave from a wife to a husband......"
It was a date day when we not married just old friends who meet
Date nights are yesterday
Date days are fun lol |
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"Can a marriage survive FAB? "
Yes
We have been together nearly 16 years and married for 11.
If anything our marriage is better and stronger.
We have always been open and honest with each other. Swinging allows us to explore our fantasies together.
I think the "together" bit,
along with communication is the key. For us anyway.
You both need to sit down and talk.... And hope your wife doesn't read the forums.
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"Can a marriage survive FAB?
Take it, it is your wife from the text on your profile who has verified you...odd veri to leave from a wife to a husband......
It was a date day when we not married just old friends who meet
Date nights are yesterday
Date days are fun lol"
You seem unsure if you are married or not having read your other responses.
I'm confused  |
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"Can a marriage survive FAB?
Take it, it is your wife from the text on your profile who has verified you...odd veri to leave from a wife to a husband......
It was a date day when we not married just old friends who meet
Date nights are yesterday
Date days are fun lol"
So you got married after the 25th of october 2015?...now I am confused |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Can a marriage survive FAB?
Take it, it is your wife from the text on your profile who has verified you...odd veri to leave from a wife to a husband......
It was a date day when we not married just old friends who meet
Date nights are yesterday
Date days are fun lol
So you got married after the 25th of october 2015?...now I am confused"
No no no
I drop her in town and park car. We do our own stuff and bump into each other....
It's role-playing stuff |
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By *aymackCouple
over a year ago
manchester |
"Can a marriage survive FAB?
Take it, it is your wife from the text on your profile who has verified you...odd veri to leave from a wife to a husband......
It was a date day when we not married just old friends who meet
Date nights are yesterday
Date days are fun lol
So you got married after the 25th of october 2015?...now I am confused
No no no
I drop her in town and park car. We do our own stuff and bump into each other....
It's role-playing stuff"
So this is a role play question for the forum to see what response you get? is she reading it too seeing as you're both online?  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Can a marriage survive FAB?
Take it, it is your wife from the text on your profile who has verified you...odd veri to leave from a wife to a husband......
It was a date day when we not married just old friends who meet
Date nights are yesterday
Date days are fun lol
So you got married after the 25th of october 2015?...now I am confused
No no no
I drop her in town and park car. We do our own stuff and bump into each other....
It's role-playing stuff
So this is a role play question for the forum to see what response you get? is she reading it too seeing as you're both online? "
No its a genuine concern that answer was some could c y her vari's say met up after a long time |
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So basically you are annoyed that you plat separately and she gets action and you don't, answer seems simple play together or not at all and if does not work then call it a day, she seems to need more. |
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If somethings going to implode, it's gonna implode...
If it's solid, it's solid...
Outside influences won't change that.
I don't hmthink it's ever extra marital sex that kills a relationship, that's just the symptom.
I think it's wanderlust. You can't help but think about all the things you might of done on your own, then one day you just say "fuck it, I'm going it alone".
How that manifests exactly is different for everyone.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So basically you are annoyed that you plat separately and she gets action and you don't, answer seems simple play together or not at all and if does not work then call it a day, she seems to need more."
No that's not it!!!!!!
Just I think being on fab should not subtract only add
So as a subtract is here I asked the question |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some come on fab thinking it will fix a broken marriage it won't. If the marriage is strong it will survive and hopefully thrive on the fab input. If it isn't it will crumble. Which is inevitable anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Totally agree with the notion that most couples are happily married or together on here. Talking is the key, I love my partner to bits and he does me, and neither of us would dream of playing seperatley. Been together 21 years, most gave us 6 months, lol. We can explore our fantasies together, as it should be. Finally we are to be married in March, and so much like us, doing the honeymoon first, in January with a month in India! To say we are happy is an understatement |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Swinging should be an enhancement to married life. If it becomes more than that, then possibly it could cause problems.
The same way one partner 'only doing it for the other' would. If both parties talk openly and continue to do so, I see no reason why it should affect a marriage. |
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"What a ridiculous question on a swinging site!!
A marriage can survive fab more than it can normally.
I find fabs great as it makes us be 100% open with each other, we don't have temptations that could spoil our marriage as we indulge in them together
Agree 100%
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We aren't married but we are together as a couple, living together, and met on fab, about a year ago. We both have single profiles and verified each other on our first meet on here too, before we were a couple. We have the option to meet alone, but rarely do ... its becoming the norm for us to meet together because we spend our time together and enjoy each other's company. There is no one up mansion .... and I think that this is what is going on here, op, as other posters have said, it seems to be about the relationship and how solid and open it is, why you are both swinging. Have your own profiles, because you are individuals in your own right, but doing certain things for effect or to play games, that's not what I would see as part of a healthy relationship. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What a ridiculous question on a swinging site!!
A marriage can survive fab more than it can normally.
I find fabs great as it makes us be 100% open with each other, we don't have temptations that could spoil our marriage as we indulge in them together
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Yes - so well put - all I would add is that communication, trust and willingness (to put one's partners pleasure first sometimes for example)is essential m x |
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"Can a marriage survive FAB?
Take it, it is your wife from the text on your profile who has verified you...odd veri to leave from a wife to a husband......"
Exactly what I thought as is the veri from op on said wife's profile |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can a marriage survive FAB? "
FAB can create a marriage ! We met on here - great basis for a solid relationship as nothing goes on behind closed doors - unless she locks me out of course ! x |
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We started swinging many years ago swinging will make or break your marriage.
You meet someone fall in love you never think you want anyone else again but it does not work like that in life./
You see someone your attracted too and think it will just be the once but when you get away with it there,s the next time.
We have never gone behind each other like all our friends who a lot have been married 2-3 times none of them have a clue about this side of our life.
Swinging as made our marriage very happy and strong happier than any of our friends.
Yes sites like fab do help your marriage but can also break them so if your looking else were your marriage is going to break up any way |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Absolutely.
Oh and having a wife as hot as Jane helps too I didn't know we were married....am I a bigamist now? "
Let's meet and see if one of your marriages survive lol x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can a marriage survive FAB? "
Depends.. as long as your both honest and open with each other and play as a couple then yes it can. When the lies start setting in and your partner wanting to play alone then that's where the trouble can tend to lie. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope is the short answer, and stop trying to kid yourselves........."
I have to disagree with this - human nature has many amazing quirks - some very loving partners might actually express their love through the feelings of pride and pure horniness that can arise when sharing their partner with other people - people who appreciate the strength of the bond between the man and wife and who share kinky interests with them. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Op you sound as if your wife is going off on her own and enjoying fab a bit too much, and excluding you?
Has swinging become a substitute for having sex with you?
In effect she is having affairs but out in the open with your knowledge!
This isn't a healthy way of enjoying fab within a relationship it's another form of cheating.
My otherhalf and I play separately and together, but always with good communication and respect for each other.
We involve each other in decision making. And if at any stage either of us was unhappy with the others swinging we discuss it, stop or change how we swing.
Swinging is making our sex life better, it's not a substitute. And no meet is ever more important than my otherhalf!
I would never ever tell him to shut up or mind his own business.
When I swing alone I want him involved as much as possible so he knows who I'm meeting. And I get to share the experience by telling him the dirty details when I get home. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was married before any swinging and divorced after 18 years. Tried to make it work but the last five years were love and sexless.
Would Fab have saved it ? Not sure but me not getting any sex was a big issue.
Years on with H we have amazing sex, which massively increases just before we go to a club or meet and after. So for us Fab has improved our sex life. |
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