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Ground rules

By *amcpl4FUN OP Couple over a year ago

St Austell

This is aimed at couples generally.

When on a first meet do you talk ground rules first, or just go with the flow and find out what each other likes, as you go.

Personally we find talking ground rules first kind of clinical.

But issues can arise with out rules, like it's too late to find out you've just cum in her hair, when she detests that, for example.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We always make sure we have a quick discussion of ground rules before we play with anyone.

I don't find it clinical personally, just a warmup to playing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is why we always have a social. Or I suppose a quick chat about hard limits and away you go

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We discussed rules before we even joined the scene, as our experience grew, we discussed and changed the rules by each other's agreements

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We discussed rules before we even joined the scene, as our experience grew, we discussed and changed the rules by each other's agreements"

I think it was meant more with the others than between the two of you. I may be wrong though

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By *lighty1Woman over a year ago

You Dont Need to Know, right now

Just don't ever cum in a woman's hair. Unless you are at her house, and it's late at night, and no-one is going to see her before she has had chance to wash her hair, and she has said she likes man-muck in her hair. Just ... don't cum in her hair!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just don't ever cum in a woman's hair. Unless you are at her house, and it's late at night, and no-one is going to see her before she has had chance to wash her hair, and she has said she likes man-muck in her hair. Just ... don't cum in her hair!"

In fact... just don't do anything that you've not agreed that you both want to do.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In fact... just don't do anything that you've not agreed that you both want to do."

That would surely take hours ticking off every single possible action.

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple over a year ago

Leicestershire

How can you play without risk of upsetting someone or offending someone if you don't know their boundaries or hard limits?

I suppose you could ask every time you go to do something new but I'd imagine that gets old pretty fast...

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By *inkyKellyCDTV/TS over a year ago

Coventry

I usually quickly go over 'do's and 'don't's in any messages leading up to the meet. Part of figuring out if you're both what each other are after, for me :]

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By *mojeeCouple over a year ago

Dunfermline

We always use kik or here to message and get that out of the way before meeting. We usually we come someone in and have a brew and quick chit chat before Em takes him upstairs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In fact... just don't do anything that you've not agreed that you both want to do.

That would surely take hours ticking off every single possible action."

I think it's perfectly reasonable and if you're an adult you can cover the basis quite well.

Are you interested in penetrative sex? Does that include oral, vaginal and anal? Do you have any 'no touch' areas? Do you use a condom for oral too or just vaginal and anal? How do you feel about ejaculate - do you want it kept in the condom or is on the body fair game? Is kissing ok? If kissing on the body is ok, what about kissing on the mouth? Do you like restraint? Which kind of restraints do you like? Are there any that you don't like?

Etc etc.

It's just a different approach - and it might not work for you. But for the last ten years or so I've been embracing radical consent and I've had a great sex life.

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By *orders2forUCouple over a year ago

Hawick

In fact... just don't do anything that you've not agreed that you both want to do.

That would surely take hours ticking off every single possible action.

I think it's perfectly reasonable and if you're an adult you can cover the basis quite well.

Etc etc.

It's just a different approach - and it might not work for you. But for the last ten years or so I've been embracing radical consent and I've had a great sex life."

Perfectly put.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In fact... just don't do anything that you've not agreed that you both want to do.

That would surely take hours ticking off every single possible action.

I think it's perfectly reasonable and if you're an adult you can cover the basis quite well.

Etc etc.

It's just a different approach - and it might not work for you. But for the last ten years or so I've been embracing radical consent and I've had a great sex life.

Perfectly put.

L2"

I have to say that I have used this approach in the past as I don't generally meet without getting to know their likes and dislikes first. As I prefer to meet more than once, you can then discuss further

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman over a year ago
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My Own Little World

Well me and hubby know what we are each allowed to do on a meet, they were set in stone ages ago and if either of us want to make any changes we talk it over.

When it comes to a new play mate I tell them before before play starts that I Don't bareback, Don't cum on me - anywhere and if I say no, stop or don't then I mean it.

That pretty much covers the bases

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By *irty Girty From No 30Woman over a year ago

Burbage

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman over a year ago

Glenrothes

After a disastrous meet involving me, a FB and a couple, I would never go in blind, should I ever go down that route again. Biggest issue was actually with my FB at the time who was more interested in fucking the female of the couple than foursome fun lol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We sort all that out in messeges before meeting. Mainly to make sure he is ok with what we are looking for as we have only do very specific play when we meet.

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By *win PeaksCouple over a year ago

Northamptonshire

We only meet at clubs and as we are a full swap couple we don't have many rules. We do sometimes do play separately at clubs and the only rule we have is to get permission to play with the individual before going off with them.

Dave

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

When meeting couples (or indeed) anyone I always establish them. I would hate to be in a situation (for example) where I kiss the female and the husband was not keen on the same, it ruins it for them and me.

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

In our experience, it is better for all to be clear about any no no's. It makes for a better meet and no one has any unwelcome surprises!

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