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morning guys & gals
I am here looking for a little (no jokes please) help and understanding.
Over the past 12 - 18 months I have started to have erection problems .
Sometimes getting 1 is difficult other times it's keeping the bugger hard that is the problem.
The worst example of this was in Cupids about 8 months ago... I was invited into a room by a great couple and the Mrs was stunning and did all the right thinks so to speak but I just couldn't perform!!! And I was mortified.
So much so I actually left this site briefly and haven't had the confidence to back to any club since.
I have tried the cheaper versions of Viagra and they do work but the side effects are horrendous! Heartburn, pounding head, dry mouth.
Can anyone confirm if real Viagra have the same symptoms?
As I am now at the point of swallowing my pride and going seeing the quack in the hope that he can help.
Thanks in advance.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find the blue pills give me an awful pounding headache, try the White ones and drink plenty of water, also don't put pressure on yourself to perform as you need to be aroused for them to actually do there thing and you won't be if you are constantly worrying (and it'll give you a headache worrying)
While I use them more to keep a good night going, I'm sure they will work if you are having problems.
The only side effect I have noticed is notacibly higher heart rate but I kinda attest this to heat of the moment excitement and nerves as much as the pills.
I get mine from my doctor once a month at the price of a prescription (£7.00 odd)
All you have to do is be up front and honest as to why you want them (aka being a swinger and safe sex in a group environment being paramount)
Hope this helps!
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I (rob) get this too. I've had a fair few issues with stress lately which can really easily have an impact on my abilities to stay up.
The more you think about things going south or the more performance pressure you put yourself under, the harder (or.... Not) things get.
Try and isolate anything that's been causing stress and give it time. Things will soon look up  |
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over a year ago
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Have you considered it may also be a problem you are compounding?
The fact you are having trouble makes you worried for when you do meet which makes you struggle to perform which makes you worried for the next time you meet... Circle of woe infinatum.
I know it's easy to say but it's possible if you can struggle through with the pills for a few meets you may find that infact there is nothing wrong downstairs and it's all up in your head?
Either way a trip to the doctor sounds like a good plan 
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By *adysilkCouple
over a year ago
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"morning guys & gals
I am here looking for a little (no jokes please) help and understanding.
Over the past 12 - 18 months I have started to have erection problems .
Sometimes getting 1 is difficult other times it's keeping the bugger hard that is the problem.
The worst example of this was in Cupids about 8 months ago... I was invited into a room by a great couple and the Mrs was stunning and did all the right thinks so to speak but I just couldn't perform!!! And I was mortified.
So much so I actually left this site briefly and haven't had the confidence to back to any club since.
I have tried the cheaper versions of Viagra and they do work but the side effects are horrendous! Heartburn, pounding head, dry mouth.
Can anyone confirm if real Viagra have the same symptoms?
As I am now at the point of swallowing my pride and going seeing the quack in the hope that he can help.
Thanks in advance.
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If your on blood pressure tablets you should not take Viagra |
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Thanks for the replies
A lot of what you are saying makes sense.
I am now putting a lot of pressure on myself and know this is having a knock on effect.
But I can't honestly put my finger on 1 thing that as triggered this.... Perhaps it's just a build up of a few things.
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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago
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It may well be all in your head.
Once you start thinking about it, that can be the kiss of death. I'm willing to admit that I went through a phase when I starting questioning myself - along thinking of:
"I'm enjoying this, but why aren't I erect. Maybe I'm not enjoying this. Maybe the woman had noticed and will wonder why I'm not enjoying this. Now I can't stop thinking about me not enjoying this and her knowing this. I am enjoying this though.....".
Far from ideal when you're in a headlock  .
You're probably not half as relaxed as you think you are. The answer may well be to be in the presence of someone who you can be totally honest with and totally relaxed with.
That's not to say it isn't medical, but our brains do play massive tricks on us.
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over a year ago
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I agree. my husband went through a period of not being able to rise to the occasion and got quite stressed by it. instead of using tablets, he changed his part of our profile to soft swap and this took the pressure right off because he knew that anyone who read our profile would know what they are getting without the embarrassment. 4 weeks on problem solved |
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By (user no longer on site)
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im not sure what age you are and what your physical fitness is like but once you rule out physical issues, a lot of erection problems are psychological. My advice is not to get involved with blue pills/medication. You need to let your body respond naturally.
The trouble is of course that if your cock doesnt rise once when it should, then that pattern tends to repeat and you get flashbacks. It becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. I think you need to cut out sex and masturbaion for a while until you normalise again.. |
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I'm gobsmacked that men still think they are capable of performing every single time.
It's simply not possible. You may think your cock is a separate entity with a mind of its own but it's not and it can indicate other health problems. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm gobsmacked that men still think they are capable of performing every single time.
It's simply not possible. You may think your cock is a separate entity with a mind of its own but it's not and it can indicate other health problems. "
True,, i think it depends on circumstances. There are times when i struggle to get hard mostly becuase i cant be bothered and other days where i can ream a girl until she orgasms,withdraw and still be rock hard for some time afterward and often she will simply mount up again.. |
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"I agree. my husband went through a period of not being able to rise to the occasion and got quite stressed by it. instead of using tablets, he changed his part of our profile to soft swap and this took the pressure right off because he knew that anyone who read our profile would know what they are getting without the embarrassment. 4 weeks on problem solved"
I was going to say this... Why not make your next few club visits about something softer like giving the woman oral or hand relief. Ban yourself from sex and see how you get on. I don't envy guys the pressure of needing to get hard tbh, at least women can fake their part if they're not in the groove... |
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over a year ago
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40 does sound early for the usual age related ED You smoke too. I'm not a Dr but you need to fuck those cigarettes right off as a start point mate.
I'd also ask for a diabetic test at Boots or similar( you never know)
You can buy Viagra from superdrug online. Its around £64 for 12 100mg ( dont quote me on that) You can get lower doses in less quantity for cheaper from Superdrug.
Superdrug are a reputable company. If you buy Viagra you'll get viagra and not some dangerous psuedo shite made in an Indian/Chinese kitchen
Fill in the 5 min form, buy as small amount as you can, try them, If they work go to and and explain to your Dr.
You may or may not get your next lot on prescription ( 4 per month I believe )
The good thing is there are ways to get the little general going again.
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"I agree. my husband went through a period of not being able to rise to the occasion and got quite stressed by it. instead of using tablets, he changed his part of our profile to soft swap and this took the pressure right off because he knew that anyone who read our profile would know what they are getting without the embarrassment. 4 weeks on problem solved
I was going to say this... Why not make your next few club visits about something softer like giving the woman oral or hand relief. Ban yourself from sex and see how you get on. I don't envy guys the pressure of needing to get hard tbh, at least women can fake their part if they're not in the groove..."
TBH im not a big fan of faking,,why do it? As a male i dont really feel any pressure to perform. If i am exposed to a...err..stimulating situation..i can feel my cock begin to thicken. If it isnt happening,,well what can you do? |
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Maybe you could try and find a regular playmate that understands and there is no pressure ? That way you would be putting less pressure on yourself to perform and things will naturally flow when you're relaxed.
It's a vicious circle to be in as you will be subconsciously thinking about it all the time. I would pop and see your GP too ad it will put ypur mind at rest that's it's a fairly common issue and nothing to be embarrassed about |
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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago
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"Maybe you could try and find a regular playmate that understands and there is no pressure ? That way you would be putting less pressure on yourself to perform and things will naturally flow when you're relaxed.
It's a vicious circle to be in as you will be subconsciously thinking about it all the time. I would pop and see your GP too ad it will put ypur mind at rest that's it's a fairly common issue and nothing to be embarrassed about "
Yeah, I agree about the regular, understanding partner bit.
I also think that some of us still think we're 15 years old, when going over a pothole while on the bus bus was enough to get us harder than an Easter Island statue |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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At your age it's probably
Drinking
Smoking
Lack of exceecsie
Too fat
And good old fashioned stress
So change the things that you can change and don't worry about the things that you can't
Big deal you can't get a stiffy in a club so just watch
Go to a few naked saunas and just watch get used to body confidence |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Smoking is definitely a cock killer. It affects the arterial and venous walls making them less flexible and narrowing. When you get down to your todger where the blood vessels get narrower and narower,,well you can guess the end result,,a floppy cock,,and there will be no fixing it once the damage is done.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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oh forgot,,drinking to excess,well if you get even a small beer gut, its fat which is almost impossible to get rid of and it can easily whip an inch or two off the base of your todger. Now look at my cock,,ive never smoked and only occasionally have a glass of wine.. |
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Thanks for all the replies guys.
And as for smoking you all spot on its something that needs to be addressed.
But I can assure you it definitely isn't down to lack of exercise I go to the gym a minimum of 4 mornings every week and im still playing a decent standard of rugby every week!!! Even at 40 so that can be ruled out.
I'm just Gona book in with the doc and see what he says.
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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Don't beat yourself up about it at all it does happen most men at some point in their life.
There is no shame in going to the doctor and getting the right medication prescribed for you if he feels that that is what your next step should be. Don't worry yourself about it, that can't help you. |
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Seen this type of thread a few times, maybe it's time to share my experience. Our first 2 visits to a club were a "flop". Had no problems performing with T in private then we met a couple, and they were hot, I'm talking dreams come true hot here and I just couldn't get hard. Thought it was just because we had already had fun, I was wrong, went in a private room and was like a rabbit. Turns out he just won't play in company! In an empty orgy room, he's rock hard, the second someone comes in, he leaves! We go straight to a private room again, no hesitation.
After our second failure I got some white (blue pills) now never have a problem. Typical performance anxiety. I get slightly flushed but other than that no side effects whatsoever
We have played with quite a few couples at clubs and I would say 90% of couples we have spoke to also need help. Just going of our experiences obviously. |
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1.Most of us get this once in a while: but if you get worried about it, then it becomes a psycological thing.
2. It can of course be a medical thing.
Don't fuck about trying to fix it yourself; see your GP. He/ she will look for medical reasons ( and/ or psycological reasons,) and treat you accordingly . |
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By *redrayMan
over a year ago
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"morning guys & gals
I am here looking for a little (no jokes please) help and understanding.
Over the past 12 - 18 months I have started to have erection problems .
Sometimes getting 1 is difficult other times it's keeping the bugger hard that is the problem.
The worst example of this was in Cupids about 8 months ago... I was invited into a room by a great couple and the Mrs was stunning and did all the right thinks so to speak but I just couldn't perform!!! And I was mortified.
So much so I actually left this site briefly and haven't had the confidence to back to any club since.
I have tried the cheaper versions of Viagra and they do work but the side effects are horrendous! Heartburn, pounding head, dry mouth.
Can anyone confirm if real Viagra have the same symptoms?
As I am now at the point of swallowing my pride and going seeing the quack in the hope that he can help.
Thanks in advance.
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I suggest you see the GP and get his opinion. You could also try something called Menergy from Holland & Barratt its a good all round pick me up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It may well be all in your head.
Once you start thinking about it, that can be the kiss of death. I'm willing to admit that I went through a phase when I starting questioning myself - along thinking of:
"I'm enjoying this, but why aren't I erect. Maybe I'm not enjoying this. Maybe the woman had noticed and will wonder why I'm not enjoying this. Now I can't stop thinking about me not enjoying this and her knowing this. I am enjoying this though.....".
Far from ideal when you're in a headlock .
You're probably not half as relaxed as you think you are. The answer may well be to be in the presence of someone who you can be totally honest with and totally relaxed with.
That's not to say it isn't medical, but our brains do play massive tricks on us.
Good luck."
This
The least erotic thought is "is my dick hard yet". I went though a phase of these problems, the solutions have already been mentioned but most of all it helps to talk to the woman in advance. Something like:
"Look I have this problem sometimes, if it happens then it's not you but on the positive side, it means I'll be pleasuring you with my tongue and fingers even longer" |
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Once again thanks for all the replies
Bit of an update! called the the doctors and what a nightmare that was.
The lady who answered wanted to know everything apart from what was left on my mortgage.
I came very close to saying... Well it's like this love "I haven't had a proper good hump in about 12 months"
Thankfully I did manage to get an appointment without going into full detail.
(Albeit in 2 weeks time)
And more importantly I have been an invested in a good leccy cig and not had a cigarette for nearly a day now.
Fuck me it's hard ...... Quitting that is
And as for not putting pressure on myself and trying "soft play" I really wish it was that easy! There is nothing I would love more than a relaxed meet with lots of kissing, flirting & teasing with no expectations of full penetration.
But it's is difficult enough getting meets on here as a single bloke without adding my little problem into the equation.
Next step get in to see the doc then hopefully a club visit.
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You seem like a lovely guy so here's another one for you.
We find the easiest way to really enjoy the moment is to get to know the people you are meeting, we basically class all the people we sleep with as FWB (your Milage may vary being a single guy).
It takes a huge amount of pressure to 'perform' off if it's just a natural progression of a night out with friends and makes it that much more fun.
M&M
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....called the the doctors and what a nightmare that was.
The lady who answered wanted to know everything apart from what was left on my mortgage.
I came very close to saying... Well it's like this love "I haven't had a proper good hump in about 12 months"
Thankfully I did manage to get an appointment without going into full detail.
(Albeit in 2 weeks time)
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For future reference ; the receptionists have no right to demand information as to why you want to see the doctor; it's none of their business; I was always very robust with them ; even for something trivial.
2 weeks! Fuck! Thank god I don't live in UK anymore! On average it's 2 hours here! |
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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago
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If medication is the way advised by your GP, ask if you can go on Verdanafil (Levitra) It works in a different way to Viagra and the side effects aren`t so severe. Still not a good idea to eat a large meal, a meal with fatty foods or drink with them. I`d give them a couple of hours to work too!. Worst side effect I`ve had was waking up with "gritty eyes" after I`d spent a lot of time in the jaccuzzi in Chams! |
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"You seem like a lovely guy so here's another one for you.
We find the easiest way to really enjoy the moment is to get to know the people you are meeting, we basically class all the people we sleep with as FWB (your Milage may vary being a single guy).
It takes a huge amount of pressure to 'perform' off if it's just a natural progression of a night out with friends and makes it that much more fun.
M&M
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Since coming back from holiday a month ago I noticed I was starting to have problems getting hard. Now for the last 2 weeks I've not got sexually aroused. I still get morning wood and masterbating gets me hard. I've been on fab for three weeks and now this is spoiling my fun. I don't drink much, I'm not over weight but I don't sleep as much as I should so I think that could be the reason. Plus, pressure to perform doesn't help either |
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It's all to do with your up stairs over thinking about it worrying and such I had it for a few months it lost me a fwbs because she felt it was her when it was just my head
Maybe go see the docs see what they say but also I know it's easier said then done but have a 1 on 1 with a lady and take time getting used to each other and built your confident up like that thats how I did it anyway hope you get your A game back soon mate |
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I have a similar issue, but I am more than just a cock and if whoever I play with finds the lack of an erection an issue then the problem lies with them. If they are patient they will eventually get to see how well it performs!
Guys we are not performing seals!
Yes I have tried pills sometimes they work sometimes they don't.
Yes I use cock rings!
As it's a subconscious thing (I can be solid for ages when asleep) I've contemplated alternative therapy.
Anyone tried hypnotism if so what was the result? |
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It is such a common problem, especially on a first meet or public play. Most women are understanding (and if they are not then they are not worth your time). Unfortunately, rather than carrying on with soft play, most guys panic and run away which doesn't help them, just makes them feel crap |
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The onset of diabetes can cause it to, happened to my ex until he was properly diagnosed,
No shame in asking for help or advise from the doctors.
Good luck xx |
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I'd recommend that you only take medication when they're appropriately prescribed for you. Everyone will have a different set of side effects and they can also vary over time.
If there are psychological influences, then do what you can to remedy this, including how you're engaging partners, the sequence of activities, your pace and managing your mood and relaxation level amongst others. If there is more to it than that, then consider alternative options.
But I don't think that people should rush to ED meds, without a medical consultation. |
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Well after a month of only getting hard in the morning I thought I'd try something I heard was go to get it 'ready for action' lol. I tried horny goat . Well I've only been on it 2 days now and my balls are tingling and I can feel it working. I'm horny most days anyway but this is getting me twitching just writing about it lol. I'm seeing my fb next weekend so fingers crossed it works |
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Cialis is far better and works for 2 days. Seem with Viagra you have to be in the mood.
I get a tub of it quite cheap with about 60 tabs in.
No heartburn or side affects other then if I think about sex I'm hard within minutes if ive taken it and it don't help if I'm out and about in public haha. |
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"Cialis is far better and works for 2 days. Seem with Viagra you have to be in the mood.
I get a tub of it quite cheap with about 60 tabs in.
No heartburn or side affects other then if I think about sex I'm hard within minutes if ive taken it and it don't help if I'm out and about in public haha."
Nice lol. Where do you get yours from? |
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"morning guys & gals
I am here looking for a little (no jokes please) help and understanding.
Over the past 12 - 18 months I have started to have erection problems .
Sometimes getting 1 is difficult other times it's keeping the bugger hard that is the problem.
The worst example of this was in Cupids about 8 months ago... I was invited into a room by a great couple and the Mrs was stunning and did all the right thinks so to speak but I just couldn't perform!!! And I was mortified.
So much so I actually left this site briefly and haven't had the confidence to back to any club since.
I have tried the cheaper versions of Viagra and they do work but the side effects are horrendous! Heartburn, pounding head, dry mouth.
Can anyone confirm if real Viagra have the same symptoms?
As I am now at the point of swallowing my pride and going seeing the quack in the hope that he can help.
Thanks in advance.
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its happened to me once , pressure to perform can put you off, on such occasions I now have a cock ring once your up it tends to stay up, with no side effects like blue pills ect, must be worth a try as long as you get one that fits properly as some can actually cut off blood supply if too tight |
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I had the problem quite badly a couple of years ago. As someone above said, the more you think about it, the worse it becomes.
I didn't use any pills but stopped wanking as much and listened to subliminal videos twice a day. There was a YouTube user called Capture The Matrix who had a video called 'Super Potent Alpha God' - listening to it regularly not only cured the ED but had me performing better than I did beforehand. His videos are no longer up, but search something like "Alpha Sex Subliminal" and listen twice a day. |
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"Cialis is far better and works for 2 days. Seem with Viagra you have to be in the mood.
I get a tub of it quite cheap with about 60 tabs in.
No heartburn or side affects other then if I think about sex I'm hard within minutes if ive taken it and it don't help if I'm out and about in public haha.
Nice lol. Where do you get yours from?"
I can't legally provide a source over the Internet lol. But have a Google for Dimensions lab Cialis. I'm sure you'll find it easy enough. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've heard Holland and Barrett sell a herbal supplement called via pro? Meant to be good for men's health and sold as a food supplement but a friend said it turned his todger into a torpedo ... Worth a punt I guess if your after a bit of assistance
If it doesn't work don't blame me just passing on a friends comment I heard |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Dont try any of those bullshit manifactured pills
Puirchase some organic natural Maca Root (powder form) and take it everyday with water
Also You can also try Zinc and L-arginine which help with blood flow but keep hydrated and you need to be working out ideally.
The maca root should be enough though. |
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"Cialis is far better and works for 2 days. Seem with Viagra you have to be in the mood.
I get a tub of it quite cheap with about 60 tabs in.
No heartburn or side affects other then if I think about sex I'm hard within minutes if ive taken it and it don't help if I'm out and about in public haha.
Nice lol. Where do you get yours from?
I can't legally provide a source over the Internet lol. But have a Google for Dimensions lab Cialis. I'm sure you'll find it easy enough. "
Would they be a reliable source?
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Had this issue since last year. There's even a paragraph at the start of my profile, warning that there's no penetration guarantee.
Must be psychological, since I can get erections fairly easily, at most other times (the biggest and longest-lasting, being during the night).
Two scenarios kill it stone dead:- when I'm about to poke someone (can go down like a flat tyre), and when I'm asked to show it on-cam (absolute kiss of death).
I've got some (red) vigora, recommended by a fabbing couple. Not tested in action yet but tried half a pill on my own and the side fx were unpleasant.
Wish there was a simple fix, so I can start enjoying meets again. |
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"Cialis is far better and works for 2 days. Seem with Viagra you have to be in the mood.
I get a tub of it quite cheap with about 60 tabs in.
No heartburn or side affects other then if I think about sex I'm hard within minutes if ive taken it and it don't help if I'm out and about in public haha.
Nice lol. Where do you get yours from?
I can't legally provide a source over the Internet lol. But have a Google for Dimensions lab Cialis. I'm sure you'll find it easy enough.
Would they be a reliable source?
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Unfortunately that's the risk you take when buying stuff you can't get without a prescription. |
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"Had this issue since last year. There's even a paragraph at the start of my profile, warning that there's no penetration guarantee.
Must be psychological, since I can get erections fairly easily, at most other times (the biggest and longest-lasting, being during the night).
Two scenarios kill it stone dead:- when I'm about to poke someone (can go down like a flat tyre), and when I'm asked to show it on-cam (absolute kiss of death).
I've got some (red) vigora, recommended by a fabbing couple. Not tested in action yet but tried half a pill on my own and the side fx were unpleasant.
Wish there was a simple fix, so I can start enjoying meets again. "
By the sounds of it then it's a physiological issue that's causing it.
Something happened in the past that could have caused it? |
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"Had this issue since last year. There's even a paragraph at the start of my profile, warning that there's no penetration guarantee.
Must be psychological, since I can get erections fairly easily, at most other times (the biggest and longest-lasting, being during the night).
Two scenarios kill it stone dead:- when I'm about to poke someone (can go down like a flat tyre), and when I'm asked to show it on-cam (absolute kiss of death).
I've got some (red) vigora, recommended by a fabbing couple. Not tested in action yet but tried half a pill on my own and the side fx were unpleasant.
Wish there was a simple fix, so I can start enjoying meets again. "
if you can get an erection but loose it upon penetration , a cock ring should work, you need some hardness for a cock ring but when you do get hard it stops the blood flowing back to the body, take some time with the size too big they wont work, too small they work too well and hurt |
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I have been taking horny goat for a week and OMG I got a semi on sat night with my fb. Been a while since that happened. I lost it after tried penetration but I put that down to being late and cold in the house lol. Fingers crossed be better results in a fortnight |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"morning guys & gals
I am here looking for a little (no jokes please) help and understanding.
Over the past 12 - 18 months I have started to have erection problems .
Sometimes getting 1 is difficult other times it's keeping the bugger hard that is the problem.
The worst example of this was in Cupids about 8 months ago... I was invited into a room by a great couple and the Mrs was stunning and did all the right thinks so to speak but I just couldn't perform!!! And I was mortified.
So much so I actually left this site briefly and haven't had the confidence to back to any club since.
I have tried the cheaper versions of Viagra and they do work but the side effects are horrendous! Heartburn, pounding head, dry mouth.
Can anyone confirm if real Viagra have the same symptoms?
As I am now at the point of swallowing my pride and going seeing the quack in the hope that he can help.
Thanks in advance.
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This reminds me of the opening scene to 'human tragic'  |
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To be honest if the woman is genuine ED shouldn't be an issue. I've come across several guys with this issue - we do other things instead. No pressure and if it comes back then happy days but if not then we have to accept that.
I would hate a guy to feel awkward with me but it's like me feeling damned awkward about passing wind |
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As a general rule; if you still get morning wood, it means your cock isn't broke . Let's face it, most blokes don't even like other guys seeing their cock in the loo, let alone sliding into someone else's wife! What we get up to isn't normal life and as a bloke that does put pressure on the males! If in doubt, have a chat with a GP for reassurance |
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"Forget the pills. Exercise, drink plenty of water, sleep more, try to relax/ meditate, and ban yourself from watching porn or masterbating for a while. "
Can I just back up the exercise part of this.
Started a health kick a month ago,walking a lot more and at the gym at least 3 times a week.
Lost a stone,though it doesn't notice yet,but a noticeable improvement in the erection department |
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"To be honest if the woman is genuine ED shouldn't be an issue. I've come across several guys with this issue - we do other things instead. No pressure and if it comes back then happy days but if not then we have to accept that.
I would hate a guy to feel awkward with me but it's like me feeling damned awkward about passing wind"
That's reassuring to know. Thank you. Us men have other appendages to help pleasure women. Last weekend I could only manage a semi. Then lost it but I put that down to the room being cold lol. She was quite happy to let me shave her pussy then finger her twice til she cam. I'm getting a cock pump to help for next time |
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"Just posted my 1st meet in a long while so fingers crossed.
Er...you may want to remove the names of the people you've met on your profile, that is most certainly not discreet."
By the same token you may want to hide your verifications. |
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"Just posted my 1st meet in a long while so fingers crossed.
Er...you may want to remove the names of the people you've met on your profile, that is most certainly not discreet.
By the same token you may want to hide your verifications."
That is entirely different. They were written by the people I met, so they obviously don't mind being identified. |
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over a year ago
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"Thanks for all the replies guys.
And as for smoking you all spot on its something that needs to be addressed.
But I can assure you it definitely isn't down to lack of exercise I go to the gym a minimum of 4 mornings every week and im still playing a decent standard of rugby every week!!! Even at 40 so that can be ruled out.
I'm just Gona book in with the doc and see what he says.
Thanks again."
Glad you're going to the docs to get proper advice. Might also be worth looking at the amount of stress in your life & whether something like a massage or reiki once every few weeks would help with that - stress can have a massive effect on maintaining a boner!
And please don't feel that you have to have sex to play - I love soft play just as much as a good hard shag!! There's nothing nicer than a guy exploring your body with his fingers and tongue as long as you feel that he's enjoying it too!!
M xx |
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"Just posted my 1st meet in a long while so fingers crossed.
Er...you may want to remove the names of the people you've met on your profile, that is most certainly not discreet.
By the same token you may want to hide your verifications.
That is entirely different. They were written by the people I met, so they obviously don't mind being identified. "
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If it bothers you that much I will remove them.
Although why you felt the need to report my profile I have no idea! Some folk just find fault in everything. |
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"Thanks for all the replies guys.
And as for smoking you all spot on its something that needs to be addressed.
But I can assure you it definitely isn't down to lack of exercise I go to the gym a minimum of 4 mornings every week and im still playing a decent standard of rugby every week!!! Even at 40 so that can be ruled out.
I'm just Gona book in with the doc and see what he says.
Thanks again.
Glad you're going to the docs to get proper advice. Might also be worth looking at the amount of stress in your life & whether something like a massage or reiki once every few weeks would help with that - stress can have a massive effect on maintaining a boner!
And please don't feel that you have to have sex to play - I love soft play just as much as a good hard shag!! There's nothing nicer than a guy exploring your body with his fingers and tongue as long as you feel that he's enjoying it too!!
M xx"
Thanks love X
Things are improving.... slowly but you are spot on! Clearly stress does play a major part. |
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I too have found viagra gives me a pounding headache and possibly high blood pressure
Last year a friend of a friend went to dubai
And I came back with viagra jellies
I was offered one and basically you just let it melt in your gums
Nothing happened from 2pm till I woke up at 9am the next morning
No symptoms at all
But Omg my 3 incher was solid as a rock and the horn I had was the most intense ever
I've tried and tried to get them but apparently not available in the UK |
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over a year ago
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One word of advise.... if your going for Sildenafil then only take HALF a tablet (50mg)
A whole tablet might make you feel sick, and also gives very bad heartburn.
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"One word of advise.... if your going for Sildenafil then only take HALF a tablet (50mg)
A whole tablet might make you feel sick, and also gives very bad heartburn.
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Yeah, they say that... but, when I took half I barely felt anything. Even the full tablet didn't do that much.
I'm going for 100mg next time.
They've three strengths (25, 50, 100mg) |
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over a year ago
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"Forget the pills. Exercise, drink plenty of water, sleep more, try to relax/ meditate, and ban yourself from watching porn or masterbating for a while. "
Everything he says an try adding more zinc an magnesium to your diet. But most important is to relax. |
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over a year ago
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"40 does sound early for the usual age related ED You smoke too. I'm not a Dr but you need to fuck those cigarettes right off as a start point mate.
I'd also ask for a diabetic test at Boots or similar( you never know)
You can buy Viagra from superdrug online. Its around £64 for 12 100mg ( dont quote me on that) You can get lower doses in less quantity for cheaper from Superdrug.
Superdrug are a reputable company. If you buy Viagra you'll get viagra and not some dangerous psuedo shite made in an Indian/Chinese kitchen
Fill in the 5 min form, buy as small amount as you can, try them, If they work go to and and explain to your Dr.
You may or may not get your next lot on prescription ( 4 per month I believe )
The good thing is there are ways to get the little general going again.
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4 per month that you half |
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There appears to be a little confusion amongst some of the contributors. Sildenafil Citrate is the active ingredient in Viagra and various other ED drugs. Don't necessarily dismiss the versions produced in India, When the Viagra patent ran out about 10 years ago any number of versions came on the market. Far cheaper than the company who produced Viagra which had been ripping users off for years. Viagra is produced under licence by a number of companies for sale all over the world.
Adjanta Pharmarcueticals from India, who produce a ED drug under a number of names are one of the major suppliers to the NHS.
All the ED drugs can produce side effects and they vary from person to person.
I have been using Kamagra on a regular basis for the past 8 years in doses of up to 100mg. Initially I used to get a head ache afterwards but now the only noticeable ill-effect is a slightly stuffy nose.
However if you smoke, eat a fatty meal up to 2 hours before or drink more than 1 pint of 4.5% beer then you are wasting your time and money.
To give you some idea of how much money is still being made by the Viagra name a 10 tablet pack of 100mg generic Sildenafil Citrate can be purchased from a perfectly respectable "high street" chemist in any major city in India for as little as £3.00. The chances are that the Viagra sold by Superdrug are produced in India any way.
A word of warning don't mix tablets containing Sildenafil Citrate with Cialis as they are two entirely different drugs which work in different ways. |
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Bought cock pump and adjustable cock ring. Tried it last night after taking my daily dose of horny goat and OMG! My cock was mega big and hard after a few pump ups. First time in a month. I didn't even need the ring to keep it hard either. Well impressed. Stayed hard ages after I'd cum too  |
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"Well after a month of only gtting hard in the morning I thought I'd try something I heard was go to get it 'ready for action' lol. I tried horny goat . "
So-called horny goat isn't one actual plant. The Epimedium genus of plants contains at least 64 species, and there are a huge number of different varieties too: possibly hundreds of different unique plants. As we know from standard biology, any unique species is distinct from any other.
Firstly, any one selling horny goat could sell any one of those different species: they'll all have different chemical properties. That's if you even get one of those 64 species - maybe they'll just give you some dried up grass.
There's also no evidence from any of those 64 species that they help with erectile problems. As suppliers are making tons of money and they're not having to go through the high costs of making new medications, such as they did when they created Viagra - it would be reasonable to assume that they'd support some much cheaper clinical trials, if they believed that their plant actually worked.
If anyone does know of any double blind clinical trial evidence that has been published in appropriate journals, then I'd be very interested - but I'm not aware of any.
This is just an explanation about the plant genus and potential to spend lots of money on something that has no evidence behind it. |
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"Well after a month of only gtting hard in the morning I thought I'd try something I heard was go to get it 'ready for action' lol. I tried horny goat .
So-called horny goat isn't one actual plant. The Epimedium genus of plants contains at least 64 species, and there are a huge number of different varieties too: possibly hundreds of different unique plants. As we know from standard biology, any unique species is distinct from any other.
Firstly, any one selling horny goat could sell any one of those different species: they'll all have different chemical properties. That's if you even get one of those 64 species - maybe they'll just give you some dried up grass.
There's also no evidence from any of those 64 species that they help with erectile problems. As suppliers are making tons of money and they're not having to go through the high costs of making new medications, such as they did when they created Viagra - it would be reasonable to assume that they'd support some much cheaper clinical trials, if they believed that their plant actually worked.
If anyone does know of any double blind clinical trial evidence that has been published in appropriate journals, then I'd be very interested - but I'm not aware of any.
This is just an explanation about the plant genus and potential to spend lots of money on something that has no evidence behind it."
Well in the last few weeks there has been a 'big' improvement down there. So something is working for me. On top of the goat I drink more fluids now, and am eating blueberries regularly. All that combined is getting my cock more ready than not now. So looks promising |
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over a year ago
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If you watch a lot of porn and other stuff it could be PIED.
Porn induced erectile dysfunction. It's real..Google it. Stop watching porn and wanking. Altho I a fine one to talk lol
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"If you watch a lot of porn and other stuff it could be PIED.
Porn induced erectile dysfunction. It's real..Google it. Stop watching porn and wanking. Altho I a fine one to talk lol
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Yes I did have about 3 weeks free from porn and wanking and that did help. Not heard of PIED though lol |
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over a year ago
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I've never had a problem getting it up but on my 2nd meet from fab I had it. I went to a couple's home they were really nice and made me feel very welcome she was stunning. We had a chat then we got down to play I couldn't get it up. They were really nice about it but it knocked my confidence |
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over a year ago
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"Seen this type of thread a few times, maybe it's time to share my experience. Our first 2 visits to a club were a "flop". Had no problems performing with T in private then we met a couple, and they were hot, I'm talking dreams come true hot here and I just couldn't get hard. Thought it was just because we had already had fun, I was wrong, went in a private room and was like a rabbit. Turns out he just won't play in company! In an empty orgy room, he's rock hard, the second someone comes in, he leaves! We go straight to a private room again, no hesitation.
After our second failure I got some white (blue pills) now never have a problem. Typical performance anxiety. I get slightly flushed but other than that no side effects whatsoever
We have played with quite a few couples at clubs and I would say 90% of couples we have spoke to also need help. Just going of our experiences obviously."
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over a year ago
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Apart from the slight spat way down the responses have been reassuringly helpful.
I had an issue for ages ..led to sexless marriage which in turn increasrd the pressure to perform.
Diagnosed with Diabetes and Depression/Aniexty over a number of issues. I had a serious injury in the Army which took me from International Athlete fitness to fat n flabby ...as others have said the weight diet and drinking have all added to the lack of 'output'
I did try Kamagra as I was embarrassed to me tiin ED to doctor as hes a complete wanker.. Found i git the stuffy nose but hard cock and when female FB a d i tried out some of our toys I literally blew a load that took me back to being a 20 something bloke who GFs used to whisper about longevity and releating firing weapon..??
I did feel some lightheadness and if Im being honest( why not) i also felt very 'angry/short tempered' for about 24hrs later....not a guilt trip just silly outbursts when missing a step etc.
I went to GPs and asked to see anyone but normal one...Sexy as hell vision sat there and asked how she could help! Jeez nearly a 'story/fantasy' entry but seriously i felt a real stirring and as she went through everything she was brilliant at putting me at ease and suggesting some counselling fitness and well being before medication...she really helped due to her professional but caring nature.
Please OP see a Doc before medicating or you too might end up on EAU with massively high BP and very high pulse...a sensible open discussion and everything appears to be better performing ..
Might have red too much into the Docs 'that's Fab....Oh Fab' comments ..??(yes she did say that and no i didnt push it i accepted it was just her way of speaking) |
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Update: Whatever problem I had in recent months has now appeared to have been solved as I can get hard on cue now. Feels great and can't wait to try it out with my fwb. The cockring is definitely going to be used as well |
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tried cutting in half and seems to work ok, but still get a sickie feeling sometimes.
