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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

We have been swinging over ten year. thats clubs not just fucking about with a profile on a web site and wasting time for all.in that time we have done a lot

was hoping for new ideas to play out. but think .swing for us as come to an end now .the only ideas we get are shit one liners asking for a shag. we would be better off staying in wating porn and fucking each other like we did before swinging. having str8 sex is things couples do so should this type of person be on a dating website looking for sex. OR DO THEY THINK swingers are more up for it .think we have had all we can take from this site as its not working for us getting 100s of one liners is just taking up time we do not have. so happy wanking to all and good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

ps We have had many good profiles over the years with lots of pics no one reads it .we just get a lot more one liners fro sad people . so do not try to tell us about changing the profile tryed that time and time again.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why not stick with the clubs ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why not stick with the clubs ?

If it's not broke don't fix it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why don't you use your filters and go looking yourselves for people on here that you would like to meet?

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

Ok, good luck to you too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

try being a tgirl on this site and then u will really know wot dreamers and wankers are all about x good luck with whatever you both decide to do xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ok. Bye

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By *ivnwcplCouple over a year ago

liverpool

"We have been swinging over ten year. thats clubs not just fucking about with a profile on a web site and wasting time for all.in that time we have done a lot

Cannot understand why you have not had much luck, especially with such a well written and articulate profile.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"ps We have had many good profiles over the years with lots of pics no one reads it .we just get a lot more one liners fro sad people . so do not try to tell us about changing the profile tryed that time and time again. "

maybe on this occasion you should...

what you have written on there is a tad offputting

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why don't you use your filters and go looking yourselves for people on here that you would like to meet?"

maybe that's too easy?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Why not stick with the clubs ?

If it's not broke don't fix it.

well the first answer is the right one most of the time .and thats what we said this time last year and have been doing that. but even club now are the same old thing after 10 years and about 16 clubs .was hoping to meet somone of a couple that think lets try new things not just the same old ones .wish we NEVER got into swinging and that way sex would just be sex and not looking for the new thing to try .ps not thinking BI for me my wife is very bi.just not for me

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Why don't you use your filters and go looking yourselves for people on here that you would like to meet?

maybe that's too easy?"

tryed it years ago but the ones that say the right things never come up with the goods

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

well lordy lord......theres hope for me yet!!

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By *obbytupperMan over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

I'm amazed that you even get one liners.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think someone's really not happy and should go before this turns

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm amazed that you even get one liners.

yep we used to get about 100 a day can i ask how is the wanking off going. ok i hope

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think it may well be the fact that you are disillusioned by the whole scene . This is obvious , and I'm afraid it's your negativity which attracts the lack of inspirational messages .

Why should it be up to others to inspire you ?

Shouldn't you be a bit more positive and suggest what may work for you ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think it may well be the fact that you are disillusioned by the whole scene . This is obvious , and I'm afraid it's your negativity which attracts the lack of inspirational messages .

Why should it be up to others to inspire you ?

Shouldn't you be a bit more positive and suggest what may work for you ?

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absolutely this

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm amazed that you even get one liners.

yep we used to get about 100 a day can i ask how is the wanking off going. ok i hope "
I should think hes well used to having to rely on his hand for wanking pleasures

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I think it may well be the fact that you are disillusioned by the whole scene . This is obvious , and I'm afraid it's your negativity which attracts the lack of inspirational messages .

Why should it be up to others to inspire you ?

Shouldn't you be a bit more positive and suggest what may work for you ?

we are but not on this site time tells us that been off and on it for about five years and we find that it just does not work .think most people think that swingers will just FUCK anyone .but the thing is its the other way .why would a swinger need to fuck anyone when we are getting good sex all the time. just think this site does not really work for us and most of the swingers we know that go to clubs . just look at the meets page for this friday in the west mids ,

9 out of every 10 meets are for a club meet .THATS great but when you are a clubber you would meet at the club anyway .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Anyone help? Can you deleat a forum?

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By *lighty1Woman over a year ago

You Dont Need to Know, right now

You've asked for help, so here are my suggestions. Hide your profile, and take a break for a while. Step away from the keyboard.

Take a couple of months to discuss between you whether or not you want to continue swinging. See if you miss it, after a couple of months.

If you decide that you do want to continue to swing, then come back in a more positive frame of mind, craft a new profile, and start finding the joy and pleasure in swinging again. Use your filters to minimise the number of messages you receive (if you're finding that these annoy you), and proactively approach the kind of people you do want to meet. Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well.. I try to make my messages as engaging as poss. But its not getting me anywhere. All they do is look at the photo I provide and utter.. not my type.. which is annoying. How can you tell someone is not your type from a photo. A chat will in all probability ascertain wether someone is a type or not. But I think that gets forgotten on here. Shame really.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well.. I try to make my messages as engaging as poss. But its not getting me anywhere. All they do is look at the photo I provide and utter.. not my type.. which is annoying. How can you tell someone is not your type from a photo. A chat will in all probability ascertain wether someone is a type or not. But I think that gets forgotten on here. Shame really. "

So you don't look at the photos of those you message then and decide if you're attracted to them?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

So you don't look at the photos of those you message then and decide if you're attracted to them?"

somtimes we look but the brain and the ideas do it more for us then a six pack

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Are you seriously asking how you can tell if someone isn't your type from a pic ?

Wow ....

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By *awtynNiceCouple over a year ago

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We have always had a great time on the site and in the scene in general and It's a real shame it's not worked for you. Sometimes moving forward is the best idea. Best of luck and hope you have fun out there. X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why not stick with the clubs ?

If it's not broke don't fix it.

Maybe after a decade it's time to call it a day? Life moves on, people change, the scene has changed. Why so much angst if that's the case? Why blame others and have so much bitterness towards strangers for what is probably just evolution?

And why on earth would you wish you'd never started swinging if you enjoyed at the time?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Are you seriously asking how you can tell if someone isn't your type from a pic ?

Wow ....

well the best meet we have ever had we my wife blindfolded in the woods on a really hot summer day .she never seen him to this day .so yep we think its not all about the way somone looks .but you are also right if you think the person is HOT also makes the sex a lot better

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"We have always had a great time on the site and in the scene in general and It's a real shame it's not worked for you. Sometimes moving forward is the best idea. Best of luck and hope you have fun out there. X "

thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Why not stick with the clubs ?

If it's not broke don't fix it.

And why on earth would you wish you'd never started swinging if you enjoyed at the time?"

not blaming others .just sayng the people that essage us are not what we are after.as for wish you'd never started swinging .YEP THINK THAT SOMETIMES think if you had never eaten your best meal. would you still think about it or would you just eat the same old food.ONLY SAID SOMTIMES

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By *angbang junkieCouple over a year ago

Ilkeston

Sounds like you're defeating yourself. You already said that you know how to swing.

If this site isn't doing it for you, move on, or back to ways that did work for you.

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I would STAY but make better use of your block button AND filters and see what happens. No point IN having a cross-patch profile as the MEN who are the culprits won't read it but the LOVELY ladies and couples will.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Sounds like you're defeating yourself. You already said that you know how to swing.

If this site isn't doing it for you, move on, or back to ways that did work for you."

lol yep we had worked that part out.we have not stopped clubbing just saying this dioes not work for us .if this was the only way we could find fun. like some people i would cut my fucking dick off and sell the fucking thing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Take a break and re evaluate your wish list or just carry on swinging but socially x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We have been swinging over ten year. thats clubs not just fucking about with a profile on a web site and wasting time for all.in that time we have done a lot

Maybe you have the ideas rather than wait for other people to come up with them

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"I would STAY but make better use of your block button AND filters and see what happens. No point IN having a cross-patch profile as the MEN who are the culprits won't read it but the LOVELY ladies and couples will. "

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

Wait, no leave if it's too stressful.

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By *hrobinhoodMan over a year ago

Nottingham

its sometimes nice to take a break for a while, but clubs are always fun

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By *uvesmuffinCouple over a year ago

Barking

So your not Happy then ?

Him

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"We have been swinging over ten year. thats clubs not just fucking about with a profile on a web site and wasting time for all.in that time we have done a lot

Maybe you have the ideas rather than wait for other people to come up with them "

the thing is ask a an would you like us to pop round bit of flashing and lots or oral sex .would he say no.so we ask him what he is looking for is idea. if its the same thing we like the sound of wwe meet if not we do not.WE ARE NOT KNOW to this game been doing it many years .and we do know how it works .

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

If you stay, you'll remain angry and unhappy and if you leave you won't have an audience to moan at.

No need to answer, it's pretty clear to me that I think you're not interested in solutions but just want to vent and this is a good place for that.

It's anonymous and safe and satisfying - but only satisfying for a short period of time. It doesn't cure the underlying issues.

Listen to a song by the Clash. That will put things into perspective.

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By *ndykinkyMan over a year ago

STOKE-ON-TRENT

Have you tried different clubs ?

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By *ilmiss75Woman over a year ago

Thornton

Why would people respond to you in the way you want them to with that terrible, ranty profile full of bad language?

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By *eavenscentitCouple over a year ago

barnstaple

Very boring

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why is it up to others to inspire you. That's a very passive attitude. Plus it's very difficult to inspire and come up with ideas when your profile says nothing and there are no photos to start the ball rolling.

You come across as glass half empty... we for one look for glass half full. And are here to have lots of laughter fun and filthy naughty sex! Your profile isn't shouting that's what we'll get with you.

You need to re evaluate your outlook.

Anyway goodbye

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By *awtynNiceCouple over a year ago

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Just a suggestion to add to my response yesterday. Have you tried the Scene outside of the U.K. as it's a little different, lots of theatre, very erotic and relaxed. Obviously there is Cap D’Agde if you don't want to go far but it's a little dull really. I would recommend Desire in Mexico is a great choice and has fantastic parties. The Private village in Ibiza is a little bouncy but lots of fun and of course there is Toren in Amsterdam; this is a great club and if your lucky you will be invited to one of the private parties. If you really want to push the boat out so to speak you could also try the Bella Vita boat club and while there the Roof top resort; a little costly but lots of fun.

There are others but these are particularly special.

Anyway just a thought. Take care X

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Have you tried different clubs ?"

yep about 16 clubs in all.and yes stoke was the first club we went to about 12 years ago not been for about 6 years now

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Why would people respond to you in the way you want them to with that terrible, ranty profile full of bad language?"

they would not .but the shit does not work when we take tie and do a great profile no cunt reads it .just send sit one liners with dick pics if thats for you great but not for us.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Why is it up to others to inspire you. That's a very passive attitude. Plus it's very difficult to inspire and come up with ideas when your profile says nothing and there are no photos to start the ball rolling.

You need to re evaluate your outlook.

Anyway goodbye

have done all above many times over the last five years no fucker reads it

says all that at the top of the page

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By *izzy.Woman over a year ago

Stoke area

Wow. Just looked at your profile. I think you need to take a break from the site. Your profile is very negative and aggresive. The only messages you get, will be from people who haven't read it first. If people read it, they would run away fast. Take a break and decide if you want to try again in the future.

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

I'd say your attitude is the problem

Just another couple that wants people to jump through metaphorical hoops to meet them

Newsflash it's not just about you

Then there's the ranty profile all that does is "inspire" decent people to look elsewhere. If your that bitter all you can do is bitch and rant just walk away it's not worth it

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

You need to re evaluate your outlook.

Anyway goodbye

have done all above many times over the last five years no fucker reads it

says all that at the top of the page"

It's quite evident from the comments on this thread that people do indeed read profiles

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Just a suggestion to add to my response yesterday. Have you tried the Scene outside of the U.K. as it's a little different, lots of theatre, very erotic and relaxed. Obviously there is Cap D’Agde if you don't want to go far but it's a little dull really. I would recommend Desire in Mexico is a great choice and has fantastic parties. The Private village in Ibiza is a little bouncy but lots of fun and of course there is Toren in Amsterdam; this is a great club and if your lucky you will be invited to one of the private parties. If you really want to push the boat out so to speak you could also try the Bella Vita boat club and while there the Roof top resort; a little costly but lots of fun.

There are others but these are particularly special.

Anyway just a thought. Take care X "

thanks a lot only playa del ingles canary islands been to 4 clubs and swinging on the nude beach is good .also going away for a few weeks this weekend .so yes always after fun .just saying after 5 years and only meeting about 10 people from this site .it could be much better.and for the time it takes .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You need to re evaluate your outlook.

Anyway goodbye

have done all above many times over the last five years no fucker reads it

says all that at the top of the page"

Best you go

although somehow I doubt you will.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

You need to re evaluate your outlook.

Anyway goodbye

have done all above many times over the last five years no fucker reads it

says all that at the top of the page

Best you go

although somehow I doubt you will.

maybe i live in hope that someone has a mind and can think of a good idea we are into .maybe one day out of the 100s of fucking shit one liners we will get a good one

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By *ilmiss75Woman over a year ago

Thornton

I find you extremely rude. If it's that bad here, why not just leave instead of being so aggressive and using so much bad language.

You keep saying your in hope that 'someone might think of a good idea you are into'.. But what is that exactly? There is nothing on your profile that would indicate what you are into.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You need to re evaluate your outlook.

Anyway goodbye

have done all above many times over the last five years no fucker reads it

says all that at the top of the page

Best you go

although somehow I doubt you will.

maybe i live in hope that someone has a mind and can think of a good idea we are into .maybe one day out of the 100s of fucking shit one liners we will get a good one "

Why don'y YOU come up with the ideas and suggest them to others?

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"I find you extremely rude. If it's that bad here, why not just leave instead of being so aggressive and using so much bad language.

You keep saying your in hope that 'someone might think of a good idea you are into'.. But what is that exactly? There is nothing on your profile that would indicate what you are into."

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I find you extremely rude. If it's that bad here, why not just leave instead of being so aggressive and using so much bad language.

You keep saying your in hope that 'someone might think of a good idea you are into'.. But what is that exactly? There is nothing on your profile that would indicate what you are into."

fuck me can anyone read.things like this says about the profile at the start.try fucking reading it.then i would not get pissed of says it all really canyou not see that

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By *teve197_ukMan over a year ago

Sutton Coldfield

Get a life

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I find you extremely rude. If it's that bad here, why not just leave instead of being so aggressive and using so much bad language.

You keep saying your in hope that 'someone might think of a good idea you are into'.. But what is that exactly? There is nothing on your profile that would indicate what you are into.

fuck me can anyone read.things like this says about the profile at the start.try fucking reading it.then i would not get pissed of says it all really canyou not see that "

Can I suggest you read back your own post!!! It's unreadable. How are we meant to decipher that mess?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I find you extremely rude. If it's that bad here, why not just leave instead of being so aggressive and using so much bad language.

You keep saying your in hope that 'someone might think of a good idea you are into'.. But what is that exactly? There is nothing on your profile that would indicate what you are into.

fuck me can anyone read.things like this says about the profile at the start.try fucking reading it.then i would not get pissed of says it all really canyou not see that

Can I suggest you read back your own post!!! It's unreadable. How are we meant to decipher that mess?"

not got the time have a life to live no just this fucking shit.like some people

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"I find you extremely rude. If it's that bad here, why not just leave instead of being so aggressive and using so much bad language.

You keep saying your in hope that 'someone might think of a good idea you are into'.. But what is that exactly? There is nothing on your profile that would indicate what you are into.

fuck me can anyone read.things like this says about the profile at the start.try fucking reading it.then i would not get pissed of says it all really canyou not see that "

If you won't change the way you do things, then don't expect your results to change, that's just logical.

Don't bitch about things getting better when you don't want to try improve them yourselves

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"I find you extremely rude. If it's that bad here, why not just leave instead of being so aggressive and using so much bad language.

You keep saying your in hope that 'someone might think of a good idea you are into'.. But what is that exactly? There is nothing on your profile that would indicate what you are into.

fuck me can anyone read.things like this says about the profile at the start.try fucking reading it.then i would not get pissed of says it all really canyou not see that

Can I suggest you read back your own post!!! It's unreadable. How are we meant to decipher that mess?

not got the time have a life to live no just this fucking shit.like some people"

Well then go live it, it might help you get over that massive ego and chip on your shoulder you've got

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

maybe i live in hope that someone has a mind and can think of a good idea we are into .maybe one day out of the 100s of fucking shit one liners we will get a good one "

Why does someone else have to think of it for you? Why not decided what you fancy trying next and seek out people who may be into it?

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

fuck me can anyone read.things like this says about the profile at the start.try fucking reading it.then i would not get pissed of says it all really canyou not see that "

I think maybe it is best to step away from the keyboard until you have calmed down and not so aggressive as suggested in the forum summary

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