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Anal - why can't I get on with it?
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"I've used butt plugs to try to relax me more and get used to it. Plenty of lube. I can orgasm from butt plug play. Yet I still struggle with a cock. Will some people just never enjoy it. Maybe it's my mind over thinking it. I'm wondering whether to just give up with it altogether." If it is something that turns you on and like, don't give up. Just relax, and ask your partner to be very gentle, with loads of lube. Patience on his part, relaxation on your, you will succeed.  | |||
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"I too struggle. A lot. Rum helps. Administered orally just to clarify. " rum helps everything tbh xx | |||
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Warm bath then lots of lube, just find a small cock lol | |||
"I've used butt plugs to try to relax me more and get used to it. Plenty of lube. I can orgasm from butt plug play. Yet I still struggle with a cock. Will some people just never enjoy it. Maybe it's my mind over thinking it. I'm wondering whether to just give up with it altogether." Slow and steady wins the race in this situation don't let your partner charge in like a bull on steroids because that will put you off for life I always buy some desensitisation spray from ann summers if I want to try anal for the first time with a new partner also lots of finger play hope this helps xx | |||
"Lots of lube little fingering to open yr hole then get him to ease his cock in x" voice of experience? xx | |||
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"I've read that the easiest position when you're starting out is spooning, move on other positions once you've had some practice " That is true,it's why doctors perform rectal exams in that position. The anal sphincters are muscles and have to be treated as such. You wouldn't try to do the splits without training your legs would you. Although the anal sphincter works differently you still need to work on it. Use your finger with plenty of lube and have a root around,clench and release as you push it in and out. Gradually use more fingers and spread them out. Before inserting anything more rigid and solid inside you you have to have an idea of what to expect. A smaller cock can slip inside me quite easily sometimes,a larger one takes a little longer but is usually in within a minute. I don't do anal very often either. | |||
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"I've used butt plugs to try to relax me more and get used to it. Plenty of lube. I can orgasm from butt plug play. Yet I still struggle with a cock. Will some people just never enjoy it. Maybe it's my mind over thinking it. I'm wondering whether to just give up with it altogether." When you say struggle what do u mean? Tight, pain, cock too soft, depth girth etc? | |||
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"I've used butt plugs to try to relax me more and get used to it. Plenty of lube. I can orgasm from butt plug play. Yet I still struggle with a cock. Will some people just never enjoy it. Maybe it's my mind over thinking it. I'm wondering whether to just give up with it altogether." Give it one last try, I'll willingly volunteer my services to assist you through it | |||
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"Relax relax relax, and know not a turn on to say, but before anal go to the toilet, then obvs shower and then slowly build up, butt plugs, finger, lube, slowly does it. I now love anal but has taken years to get there for me x" Wow and only down the road from me would love to see how much you love anal x | |||
 at the same time because if you are feeling uncomfortable or tense that can help take your mind off it a bit. You know, just until you get going... especially if he is quite well endowed | |||
"I haven't read the whole thread but some good advice above. Just wondering if you had tried using some kind of vibrator on your lady bits at the same time because if you are feeling uncomfortable or tense that can help take your mind off it a bit. You know, just until you get going... especially if he is quite well endowed "would love to see you indulging in some sensual anal play x | |||
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"I've read that the easiest position when you're starting out is spooning, move on other positions once you've had some practice That is true,it's why doctors perform rectal exams in that position. The anal sphincters are muscles and have to be treated as such. You wouldn't try to do the splits without training your legs would you. Although the anal sphincter works differently you still need to work on it. Use your finger with plenty of lube and have a root around,clench and release as you push it in and out. Gradually use more fingers and spread them out. Before inserting anything more rigid and solid inside you you have to have an idea of what to expect. A smaller cock can slip inside me quite easily sometimes,a larger one takes a little longer but is usually in within a minute. I don't do anal very often either. " Not tried it in spoons. I'll leave it for a bit , but when I do try it, that sounds like a good place to start. Thanks for all the advice above too. | |||
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"I too struggle. A lot. Rum helps. Administered orally just to clarify. " I'll bring a bottle if you're willing to meet | |||
"I'd say to leave it alone for while so you don't start to obsess about it as that will make things much worse. Anal is nothing special anyway, as far as I'm concerned, I haven't done it for ages and I don't miss it. " An ex of mine was going crazy when doing anal! Another girl would not allow me to insert even my little finger up her bum. It all depends on the person, cuircumstance, mood, technique, etc. Your partner has to know what he is doing. Take it very slowly rocking gently back and forth.. You'll get there | |||
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"I've used butt plugs to try to relax me more and get used to it. Plenty of lube. I can orgasm from butt plug play. Yet I still struggle with a cock. Will some people just never enjoy it. Maybe it's my mind over thinking it. I'm wondering whether to just give up with it altogether." i adore anal with the right person but i have what i call a shy arse... sometimes it just wont accommodate anything... yet other times... no prep.. and ... i think its my mindset... rather than my body | |||
". i adore anal with the right person but i have what i call a shy arse... sometimes it just wont accommodate anything... yet other times... no prep.. and ... i think its my mindset... rather than my body "9 times out of 10 it'll be your mindset. Same goes for any sexual encounter. If you're not fully at ease it's not going to go as planned. | |||
". i adore anal with the right person but i have what i call a shy arse... sometimes it just wont accommodate anything... yet other times... no prep.. and ... i think its my mindset... rather than my body
9 times out of 10 it'll be your mindset. Same goes for any sexual encounter. If you're not fully at ease it's not going to go as planned. "yup i know that. its like if a guy tells me he is going to make me gush.... my mind flicks a switch and there is no way | |||
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"Sometimes it goes it easier and more comfortably when you're on your back, with legs pinned back etc. Face down arse up not always the most comfortable " This sounds good to me yum | |||
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"Don't use anything that will numb you,you don't want anything to tear. It hurts for a reason. I've had almost my whole hand inside an arse before. Oh yea,don't give yourself an enema either,just a little water in your rectum to rinse it out. I use my finger and water and have never had any mess at all. " Is your second name Corbett and have you a mate called sooty? | |||
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"go with the flow ok and when you , and only you chooses the time then it's up to to you to guide it in at Your pace ye, plenty of lube if your mmm ,,,,, I'm coming over ok and get ya started xxx ,,,,,,,,,,,,, Main Thing Is Be Safe xxx" I'm leaving it for a while. So I'm relaxed about it. | |||
