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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hello all
I'm new on fab this time around but have been on and off the site a fair few times. It looks fab from afar but want more of, well, all the usual I suppose
Thing is this has always been alone on here and not with my other half. I'd love to get more involved in the scene and involve my wife but it's starting that conversation in a subtle way that I'd like some input on.
What do we think? Interested in opinions from women, men and couples who may have been in similar situations and came through the other side successfully!
Tell me those stories, give me tips, most appreciated 
Mr H |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I feel you pain as have been here. Although she loves it now.
Took a while to convince her that the turn in for me was to see her with another guy and not that I just wanted permission to have sex with another woman.
There is a lot of trust involved and you need to make sure she is really comfortable with your motives.
As silly as it sounds, porn and alcohol is always a good place to start, it gives you a chance to discuss 'do you fancy trying that', or 'I bet you'd love that' . Then you can use toys as a virtual 3rd party etc |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I feel you pain as have been here. Although she loves it now.
Took a while to convince her that the turn in for me was to see her with another guy and not that I just wanted permission to have sex with another woman.
There is a lot of trust involved and you need to make sure she is really comfortable with your motives.
As silly as it sounds, porn and alcohol is always a good place to start, it gives you a chance to discuss 'do you fancy trying that', or 'I bet you'd love that' . Then you can use toys as a virtual 3rd party etc"
Great answer. Saved me all that typing lol |
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"I feel you pain as have been here. Although she loves it now.
Took a while to convince her that the turn in for me was to see her with another guy and not that I just wanted permission to have sex with another woman.
There is a lot of trust involved and you need to make sure she is really comfortable with your motives.
As silly as it sounds, porn and alcohol is always a good place to start, it gives you a chance to discuss 'do you fancy trying that', or 'I bet you'd love that' . Then you can use toys as a virtual 3rd party etc"
Pretty much this for us |
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Well on another thread the other you said you basically said you'd had the conversation with her on a few occasions and she outright disapproves of the thought. It's tough cookies I'm afraid you'll just have to respect her choice |
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"Well on another thread the other you said you basically said you'd had the conversation with her on a few occasions and she outright disapproves of the thought. It's tough cookies I'm afraid you'll just have to respect her choice "
Don't think he did that was someone else. |
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"Well on another thread the other you said you basically said you'd had the conversation with her on a few occasions and she outright disapproves of the thought. It's tough cookies I'm afraid you'll just have to respect her choice
Don't think he did that was someone else."
No he said I alright and if he pushes too far he could just push her out his life for good and then where would he be? |
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"Sorry to say this, but if you aren't close enough to discuss this with her openly then you probably aren't ready to swing together. "
This is the real truth of it swinging requires a lot of honesty and trust it's usually brings already close couples closer |
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"Well on another thread the other you said you basically said you'd had the conversation with her on a few occasions and she outright disapproves of the thought. It's tough cookies I'm afraid you'll just have to respect her choice
Don't think he did that was someone else.
No he said I alright and if he pushes too far he could just push her out his life for good and then where would he be? "
Nope, still cannot see that ? |
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"Well on another thread the other you said you basically said you'd had the conversation with her on a few occasions and she outright disapproves of the thought. It's tough cookies I'm afraid you'll just have to respect her choice
Don't think he did that was someone else.
No he said I alright and if he pushes too far he could just push her out his life for good and then where would he be?
Nope, still cannot see that ?"
Well you won't see it the thread got deleted |
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"Well on another thread the other you said you basically said you'd had the conversation with her on a few occasions and she outright disapproves of the thought. It's tough cookies I'm afraid you'll just have to respect her choice
Don't think he did that was someone else.
No he said I alright and if he pushes too far he could just push her out his life for good and then where would he be?
Nope, still cannot see that ?
Well you won't see it the thread got deleted "
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"Well on another thread the other you said you basically said you'd had the conversation with her on a few occasions and she outright disapproves of the thought. It's tough cookies I'm afraid you'll just have to respect her choice
Don't think he did that was someone else.
No he said I alright and if he pushes too far he could just push her out his life for good and then where would he be?
Nope, still cannot see that ?
Well you won't see it the thread got deleted
Use the green arrow, helps a lot "
Not with a deleted thread it doesn't because the thread no longer exsist a to green arrow it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sorry to say this, but if you aren't close enough to discuss this with her openly then you probably aren't ready to swing together.
This is the real truth of it swinging requires a lot of honesty and trust it's usually brings already close couples closer "
This
I was a lonesome swinger last year, never having done anything though, just the odd watch n wank sort of thing, then one night Mrs M sort of 'found' my profile.... we chatted and now we are here as a couple, life has never been better between us both, and all because she was a Mrs Marple on the computer! Haha
The advice I would give.... tell her, if you have a strong relationship then it will be much easier for you to come clean with her. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sorry to say this, but if you aren't close enough to discuss this with her openly then you probably aren't ready to swing together.
This is the real truth of it swinging requires a lot of honesty and trust it's usually brings already close couples closer
This
I was a lonesome swinger last year, never having done anything though, just the odd watch n wank sort of thing, then one night Mrs M sort of 'found' my profile.... we chatted and now we are here as a couple, life has never been better between us both, and all because she was a Mrs Marple on the computer! Haha
The advice I would give.... tell her, if you have a strong relationship then it will be much easier for you to come clean with her. "
There you go then OP. Seems the best thing is to show her your profile....? Or not? |
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" This is the real truth of it swinging requires a lot of honesty and trust it's usually brings already close couples closer "
Totally agree! We are closer than ever now, after a shaky few years after the kids arrived we are in a good place now! We still talk about our feelings, if something upsets my and why it has (normally I'm totally irrational)
I was introduced by my hubby and was disgusted at first... I listened to him and we have met as a couple and me alone. Still unsure of a full swap or hubby with another woman.. but we shall see on the occasion. Xx |
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