FabSwingers.com > Forums > Swinging Support and Advice > Best way to let a couple know you are interested
Best way to let a couple know you are interested
Jump to: Newest in thread
 |
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"What's the best way to let another couple know you are interested, without going a grabbing them.? . Who makes the first move? "
Talk to them? Tell them you are interested? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Is this on here, at a club? It depends on the scenario.
Either way just striking up a conversation seems best. It works for me....so should for you guys as a couple. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"We don't have a problem chatting but it's just that.. 'Wanna go a play'? Simple as that or am I over thinking things? "
We normally say "We're going to the hot tub now, feel free to join us". If they follow, 99% chance they are interested, if they don't then they aren't. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Thats I good question, often think should I or should,nt I send a message or a tastfull wink.
What is the suitable etiquette ??
Though do feel, on the rare occasions a couple is interested in a single fabber the first move should come from them...
Or am I wrong.... |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"We don't have a problem chatting but it's just that.. 'Wanna go a play'? Simple as that or am I over thinking things? "
I think after chatting for a while you get the vibe about whether someone is interested or not. Bite the bullet politely ask them if they are interested in some fun. If not wish them a good night and me on. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Sorry I replied from my single profile then!
We chat to lots of great people in clubs etc but when it comes down to that 'wanna come and play' bit, my lips seal. My other half has been swinging 18 yrs and still doesn't like to ask. I need to put my confident hat on and hope for the best!
Do you think not being bi can hinder? Is it easier if you are? Not that I can change myself and preference but when 2 ladies want to chat then play, do the guys go along for the ride? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
My method is
If somebody don't make a move on me they aren't interested so I don't bother approaching them 
I have no idea how affective that method is to be honest |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"My method is
If somebody don't make a move on me they aren't interested so I don't bother approaching them
I have no idea how affective that method is to be honest "
. Hmmm yes , but surely if everyone adopted the same method .
No would msg anyone ?? No point of this site .... |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"My method is
If somebody don't make a move on me they aren't interested so I don't bother approaching them
I have no idea how affective that method is to be honest "
Lol that's exactly what we do in clubs , but on here we like to send a wink and fab their pics |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"My method is
If somebody don't make a move on me they aren't interested so I don't bother approaching them
I have no idea how affective that method is to be honest .
Hmmm yes , but surely if everyone adopted the same method .
No would msg anyone ?? No point of this site ...."
I more ment at clubs and parties etc I assumed that's what the OP mentioned because you can't 'grab' somebody on the internet
On here you have to make an effort or nobody will see you but in the flesh when people are looking at you if somebody does not show any interest in me I assume it's because they have none so I wouldn't make a move on them
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
At a club or party, ignore the couple all night, even when they smile at you, avoid their gaze. Then when they start playing just join in!  kidding of course, but it's not unusual to witness this behaviour! X |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
OP I've had the pleasure of seeing you in action. You definitely aren't shy.
From a singles perspective, I prefer messages that are straight to the point. I find 'Hi, how are you' is less effective than 'You look like fun, fancy a fuck?' Either as sender or recipient.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I definitely think asking is the way to go, can be scary but it means you won't make mistakes. I love chatting to people in clubs, I'll sit and chat to anyone and everyone, doesn't mean I'm interested in them all, and recently had a scenario where it was assumed by another couple I was and me feeling cornered before quickly exiting lol
Her  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Yes, if you're still in the socialising area, just chat, nobody is going to stand up and shout at you
You can talk about how they like to play and it will quickly become clear if you are right for each other.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"What's the best way to let another couple know you are interested, without going a grabbing them.? . Who makes the first move? "
send them a well ment cock pic  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
in the eye of the storm |
"OP I've had the pleasure of seeing you in action. You definitely aren't shy.
From a singles perspective, I prefer messages that are straight to the point. I find 'Hi, how are you' is less effective than 'You look like fun, fancy a fuck?' Either as sender or recipient.
interesting you see I would struggle to send a massage saying ^hi you look like fun fancy a fuck ^ because that's not how I would approach some one in the flesh .
I am certainly assertive enough to say it in a message or in the flesh .
in a club I'd have no trouble saying during the coarse of a flirty chat " I'd love to retire with you to a private room where I can put you over my knee for a well earned spank and more "
just not as a opening line but a open invitation based on how the chat was going .
maybe I should modify your line for a opening message into something like " well hi there you look like fun I'd love to spank your sexy bum "
I wonder how many times such a message accompanied with a face picture would get me a response or a blocking .
"
 |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
From my experience as a single and when playing as a couple there are generally 2 scenarios.
If socially chatting but wanting to move things on a simple so are you guys playing tonight or just socialising ? (Gives them an easy opt out if you've misread it) - alternately you can say - right were going for a wander to see what's happening - want to join us ?
If your in jacuzzi / playroom a gentle brushing of 'safe' parts ( arms shins etc) usually works -especially with eye contact.
Just some thoughts - probably wrong... |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"From my experience as a single and when playing as a couple there are generally 2 scenarios.
If socially chatting but wanting to move things on a simple so are you guys playing tonight or just socialising ? (Gives them an easy opt out if you've misread it) - alternately you can say - right were going for a wander to see what's happening - want to join us ?
If your in jacuzzi / playroom a gentle brushing of 'safe' parts ( arms shins etc) usually works -especially with eye contact.
Just some thoughts - probably wrong... "
No, you are more or less spot on. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
