Ok Ok lets put this to bed right now. Thankyou to all the people who have met me personally through chameleons or our partys and have felt the need to defend the fact that I had the audacity to challenge the wideheld beleif that all single men are cock pic sending thickos who should be avoided at all costs.As you know the one thing I dont need is someone to stand in front of me to take silly snide comments from what we normal people call "Armchair Swingers" these are people who seem to be on here all day long telling people who have asked for advice or help how clever they think they are or what the "Swinging Laws" are as per their their very own self appointed "Fab Forum Clique Society" we are always right brigade who jump into frenzied action on their well worn keyboards ( they dont get out much you see) and make sure that we all are aware that we MUST agree with their massivley important judgement on any swinging issue or in fact any world event from "The Royal Wedding" to The Death of Bin Laden" After all this their forum abd if we dont agree with them we must be sent a snide remark or ask for us to be banned (yes I have 3 times for challenging the stereotype everyone seems to allow themselves to be tarred with.) Although when i challenged this all were lifted as i had not broken any rule but just had these nitwits in a lather cos they couldnt accept that they may be challenged) To be honest I couldnt care less what these peoples opinions are as if u check several of the forum rooms and you will see them jumping up and down when someone actually announces there is no father christmast or the well known fact that all gay men will immediatly try to bum any man within 10 feet is in the same room as you and the OP must be sectioned straight away for such blasphemy or at least reprimanded lol . They know who they are and all I say is let them get on with it while we more thoughtful intelligent people think how we can get the best out of this site for the purpose it was designed . Namely meeting good honest genuine people who want to meet others who are likeminded individuals
Th reason for the post was that wanted to ask a single man to attend our party saturday night to make up the balance of people . ie single men, single women and couples. Now I know its very contreversial to say this but i accpet its my responsibility as the co-host and organiser for the partys sucess and safety,and security of any guets that is in my home. I also am responsible for providing full and honest details of what they need to attend covering every aspect. Its my responsibilty to address any concerns they may have in complete honesty. Also I offer my personal guarantee I will not divulge personal details they give me and I personally am responsible for their and their partners safety. Bottom line is that im saying his wife can wander around naked on her own if thats her bag and will be 100% safe. He has my promise that i have not colluded in any way with or on my own to use this site to invite him or his wife because I have seen their pics. They are BIG promises to make and i am under pressure to deliver on them. well I do and do all that with 26 couples 2 single men and 2 single ladies. No one is invited by their dress size, size of cock or because they are my mate from\the pub. No One and i mean no one gets in if they arent on the guest list, end of they are not omitted on the basis they are bi, black,any other outdated stereotype u can think of that others beat people with. Guess what, we do all this and wont give a prior guest list so they dont know whos coming in advance apart from the mix. I have read through every profile before hand so i already know that the people mix also means that every differnt type of sexy fantasy is in there somwhere all they have to do is to find it by communicating , blimey an adult party where the host actually puts his balls on the line rather than knock out a few e mails offer a bag of crisps and waits for the victims (sorry I mean Guests) to come along and worry all night why the he dosent know precisley who is there while he is feeling up his poor guests wives.lol
Thats just part of what myself and debbs put into this EVERY party we hold. So Im not "looking" for a single man to be offerd up as a human dildo to be available for the other guests use Im was looking and found a single guy who is a decent, fun, guy with no hang ups or issues and can communicate with all other guests and be able to accept a polite "no Thankyou" but also maybe using his personality or charm he meets people that want to play together for all the right reasons. Then he gets respect that he earns. If he turns into jack the ripper in my home then its my judgemnt that is flawed and i cant afford that so I have every right to challenge all single men who want to an invite to our party to show me that he is more than a cock pic and can indeed walk the talk. I dont force anyone to ask for an invite but if they do I will do what i have to do to ensure that i get the right man to attend. If im even 1% unsure he isnt what he says he is its a no go, that dosent mean he isnt a good guy it means he may not be comfortable in this particular envoirenment but he may be somewhere else. Thats OUR criteria and thats the way it is. then he maybe help to start to change peoples biased _iew that all guys are idiots. thats not true and maybe people should look at themselves before they start criticise him and what they post a profile on here that is ambiguos at the least.
To the earlier poster who wished me luck in finding him. Its nothing to do with luck my friend its putting in work and honest description of what or who we are looking for. I leave nothing to luck though is suspect you do seeing as your profile mainly consists of one long moan as to why obviously everyone else is an idiot or timewaster. Hmm seems u have had a lot of no shows ive nevre had one in a year maybe they are all targeting u , you must be plain unlucky then lol cant be something your end can it ??
One very imporant point, if u check the veris or the guests comments on saturdays party it seems my first single man guest made a very big impression in terms what a great guy he is. He is charming, eloquent, very polite, totally trustworthy and im proud to call him a friendause he is a fantastic man full stop . he always gets an invite NOT as the "token Black man" but because so many people commented on how good a bloke he is. he isnt a star cos of the size of his cock (not that ive seen it of course) I trust him completely. whats the catch OH MY GOD HES BLACK AND SINGLE . QUICK LOCK UP YOUR DAUGHTERS. That cant be can it, I thought all black men were raging bulls who shouldnt be allowed in a club more than 2 at a time or they will use their massive cocks to intimidate the poor little puny white husbands and run off with their damsels before locking them in a dark room and enslaving them to their huge tools lol FOR GOD SAKE WHY DONT U WAKE UP ITS 2011 TRY TALKING TO THEM AS PEOPLE AND YOU WILL FIND THAT THEY ARE NO DIFFERENT THAN YOURSELF Now the couple knows who sent me a mail asking if there were any black asian or other foreigners were coming and if not they would come along lol. I just pointed out that i wouldnt invite them but there is a local witch burning cermeony they may want to go to instead.
I STRATED THIS ABOUT 6 MONTHS AGO AFTER GETTING FED UP WITH PEOPLE MOANING AND WHINGEING ABOUT THIS TYPE OF PERSON OR THAT TYPE OF PERSON. THEY DIDNT LIKE BI MEN, FAT MEN,THIN MEN, TIMEWASTERS IN FACT ANYONE THAT TURNED THEM DOWN I WENT ON TO FABS AND PUT UP A RANT THAT IM GONNA START A PARTY FOR GOOD PEOPLE WHO JUST ARE DECENT FUN PEOPLE WHO WANT TO PLAY AND BE SAFE , NO REALLY MEANS NO (THE MOST IGNORED PHRASE IN SWINGING AND MOST USED). That was 10.30 friday night my first response was at 12.00. by 10.30 monday morning i had received 685 mails of support saying well done, well said thats what we want, whens it starting. I received just one that said Im a wanker (fair enough hes entitled to his _iews) I asked 3 pairs of "experienced" swingers and top class moaners at a club if they wanted to help me get it running. all said it couldnt be done but would be happy to attend if i could. Well 8 months on and here we are after 6 parties now each better than the last as we take on board what our guests feedback and try to make changes for the better. WE HAVE NEVER HAD TO DEAL WITH AN ISSUE" on the onestrike and your out basis and now we are at the point where we have a waiting list and people actually trust us and the reputation is out there and spreading. Its got to the point now that people who come are offering to bring a plate of food or help with music etc. thats great because in a way its as much their party as ours
HMM NOW THERES AN IDEA, ??
IN ALL THAT TIME WE HAVE NEVER CHARGED A PENNY. WE DO THIS BECAUSE WE WANT TO AND OUR CURRENCY IS A VERIFICATION FROM OUR GUESTS TO SAY THEY ENJOYED THEMSELVES AND WE DELIVERED ON OUR PROMISES.
SO IN SUMMARY IF WE WANT TO ATTRACT PEOPLE WHO ARE GENUINE AND FEEL THE SAME AS US WE HAVE TO HAVE THE RIGHT GUESTS THEN WE WILL ASK THE TOUGH DIRECT QUESTIONS AND CHALLENGE THE CURRENT LAZY ATTITUDES TO ALL SORTS OF PEOPLE. IF THE "ARMCHAIR SWINGERS" WANT TO PONTIFICATE FROM THEIR SEATS ON HIGH DONT WORRY ,WE DONT CARE, THEY WOULDNT GET PAST OUR VETTING PROCEDURE ANYWAY LOL
PS; AFTER MY ACCUSATION ON SATURDAY THATY SINGLE MEN IN THE MAIN WERE LAZY AND DIDNT DO ENOUGH TO SELL THEMSELVES OR CHALLENGE THE "WHINGERS" BY RAISING THEIR GAME I RECEIVED OVER 20 MAILS SAYING I WAS A BIT HARSH BUT RIGHT. CHEERS GUYS U GO FOR IT. DONT LET THESE WHINGERS GET YOU DOWN. MY 2 SINGLE GUYS WHO ATTENDED THE PARTY WERE BRILLIANT GUESTS , SEE IT CAN BE DONE !!!
IF ANYONE IS INTERSTED IN WHAT IVE SAID OR MAYBE INTERSTED IN TAKING THE IDEA FURTHER . DROP US A LINE ON OUR PAGE.
PS. THE REASON FOR THE DODGY POST WAS I WAS WORKING THROUGH THE NIGHT TO GET THE PROBLEM SORTED AND WAS SO TIRED COULDNT SEE THE PC WELL. WAS IT WORTH IT, YOU BET IT WAS XXXXXXXXXXXX
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They didn't type anything (as far as I can see) that is against the site rules! 
they do look like a fun couple. someone fill us in if they do get that final guy and what the party was like 
