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If you get a message from someone, and you're just not feeling them. Something about the profile puts you off, maybe even something irrational. Do you tell them? Try to let them down gently? Or totally ignore?
Genuine request for advice on fabbing etiquette. |
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"If you get a message from someone, and you're just not feeling them. Something about the profile puts you off, maybe even something irrational. Do you tell them? Try to let them down gently? Or totally ignore?
Genuine request for advice on fabbing etiquette."
We reply with no thank you and make a note of why using the notes feature on their profile (which is private. They can't see these). IF they come back asking why then we tell them. This sometimes doesn't go too well though and you could get abuse. Some people block when they send why to prevent this response. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you get a message from someone, and you're just not feeling them. Something about the profile puts you off, maybe even something irrational. Do you tell them? Try to let them down gently? Or totally ignore?
Genuine request for advice on fabbing etiquette."
I think its easier just to ignore messages from those you're not interested in.
Anyone with half a brain will realise that by getting no response to their message they obviously aren't what the other person is looking for and should move on to another profile without giving it a second thought.
Only the crazies the needy and the desperate make a big issue out having no reply to their message.
Thats my personal view and I'm entitled to it . |
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By *ed wineMan
over a year ago
Where the streets have no name |
Usually, there is some details in the sender's profile that I don't like or want to clarify before going further. If the rest attracts me, I just kindly ask her. If it doesn't, a polite "Thanks, no"
With a profile like mine, they always ask for more details about me ...  |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
I simply delete the message. I don't have the time or the inclination to make notes and check for each and every message I receive. In the future, their profile may have changed and meet my requirements |
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Depends how much the profile puts me off and how much effort appears to have gone into the message for me. I always try to stick with a vague but polite "not for me thanks but good luck finding some fun" and try not to give specific reasons why not. No need to risk offending for no reason.
Those who have blatantly ignored or not read my profile or send crude/unimaginative messages, I delete without reply. |
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"If you get a message from someone, and you're just not feeling them. Something about the profile puts you off, maybe even something irrational. Do you tell them? Try to let them down gently? Or totally ignore?
Genuine request for advice on fabbing etiquette."
We just say that they are not for us and good luck with their search. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you get a message from someone, and you're just not feeling them. Something about the profile puts you off, maybe even something irrational. Do you tell them? Try to let them down gently? Or totally ignore?
Genuine request for advice on fabbing etiquette.
We just say that they are not for us and good luck with their search. "
We do this too  |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"If you get a message from someone, and you're just not feeling them. Something about the profile puts you off, maybe even something irrational. Do you tell them? Try to let them down gently? Or totally ignore?
Genuine request for advice on fabbing etiquette.
We just say that they are not for us and good luck with their search. "
Gosh, you two are so polite 
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Depends how much the profile puts me off and how much effort appears to have gone into the message for me. I always try to stick with a vague but polite "not for me thanks but good luck finding some fun" and try not to give specific reasons why not. No need to risk offending for no reason.
Those who have blatantly ignored or not read my profile or send crude/unimaginative messages, I delete without reply. "
This |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get people messaging me to tell me they don't like my profile!!"
Nothing wrong with it in my opinion.
Its your profile so do as you see fit with it and ignore those who have an issue. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I get people messaging me to tell me they don't like my profile!!
Nothing wrong with it in my opinion.
Its your profile so do as you see fit with it and ignore those who have an issue. "
Oh they get a equally cheeky message in response .. I'm no shrinking violet when it comes to fuckwittery |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I get people messaging me to tell me they don't like my profile!!
Nothing wrong with it in my opinion.
Its your profile so do as you see fit with it and ignore those who have an issue.
Oh they get a equally cheeky message in response .. I'm no shrinking violet when it comes to fuckwittery "
Oohhh errr |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you get a message from someone, and you're just not feeling them. Something about the profile puts you off, maybe even something irrational. Do you tell them? Try to let them down gently? Or totally ignore?
Genuine request for advice on fabbing etiquette."
I just look at their pics first ..... if the message they sent has minge and boobs pics , I'm not fussed.....I'll reply and keep chatting.... words on a profile means nothing to me...
If it's a single male.......block , block , and block some more for good measure |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We don't get inundated with messages, so we reply to all winks and messages we get. (Unless they're just disrespectful)
We usually say we just don't feel we're compatible right now.
It's very rare we get a message back asking why not, on the odd occasion we do, we'll be honest but polite, and if it's because they clearly haven't read our profile, we'll be blunt and block.
Most often we get a "thanks" back for going to the trouble of replying.
In all honesty our philosophy is, it's difficult to get an understanding and fair opinion of someone based on a website profile, but it's the only option we have right then and there. But if we were to meet them face to face in the future, we may have an entirely different opinion.
Being rude, ignoring or simply blocking based on a quick impression of a profile,may be a regretful decision if we were to meet them face to face at a club maybe. |
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"We don't get inundated with messages, so we reply to all winks and messages we get. (Unless they're just disrespectful)
We usually say we just don't feel we're compatible right now.
It's very rare we get a message back asking why not, on the odd occasion we do, we'll be honest but polite, and if it's because they clearly haven't read our profile, we'll be blunt and block.
Most often we get a "thanks" back for going to the trouble of replying.
In all honesty our philosophy is, it's difficult to get an understanding and fair opinion of someone based on a website profile, but it's the only option we have right then and there. But if we were to meet them face to face in the future, we may have an entirely different opinion.
Being rude, ignoring or simply blocking based on a quick impression of a profile,may be a regretful decision if we were to meet them face to face at a club maybe."
Yes but all depends if you dont mind taking that risk and possibly missing out ?
Me personally am happy to carry on as i do as it works just fine for me. |
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By *exatooCouple
over a year ago
Bournemouth/ Fuerteventura |
"Usually, there is some details in the sender's profile that I don't like or want to clarify before going further. If the rest attracts me, I just kindly ask her. If it doesn't, a polite "Thanks, no"
With a profile like mine, they always ask for more details about me ... "
Love your profile (Mrs) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you get a message from someone, and you're just not feeling them. Something about the profile puts you off, maybe even something irrational. Do you tell them? Try to let them down gently? Or totally ignore?
Genuine request for advice on fabbing etiquette.
We reply with no thank you and make a note of why using the notes feature on their profile (which is private. They can't see these). IF they come back asking why then we tell them. This sometimes doesn't go too well though and you could get abuse. Some people block when they send why to prevent this response. "
I do similar. Say thanks for the hello, but don't go into details.
If they asked why, 'just not my type'. Isn't that enough? |
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