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We seem to have little luck on here recently in meeting other couples. While we don't blame those who scroll past this post thinking "oh another one" (as we would), hopefully somebody can spare the time to give us some pointers on where we might be going wrong? |
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over a year ago
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For my money I like your pictures your profile is fine . hope you find what you want. Good luck shame your too far from me but then I am playing single and a lot older
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"We seem to have little luck on here recently in meeting other couples. While we don't blame those who scroll past this post thinking "oh another one" (as we would), hopefully somebody can spare the time to give us some pointers on where we might be going wrong?"
You've arranged successful meets in the past so you obviously know how to do it. Where do things go wrong now? Not finding people you'd like to meet? No offers? Not able to firm up plans after chatting a bit? |
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"We seem to have little luck on here recently in meeting other couples. While we don't blame those who scroll past this post thinking "oh another one" (as we would), hopefully somebody can spare the time to give us some pointers on where we might be going wrong?"
Go to clubs if you want to meet people that are attractive to both of you. You seem to be doing ok on here? |
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Maybe just add of you want soft or full swap. It would be the deal breaker for me.
The only other thing that would put me off is that piercing but that's my personal preference they scare me!
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Your veri's would suggest otherwise. Your profile and pics look good to us. Would be happy to say hi at the Newcastle Social, but we are outside of your age range, so wouldn't expect more. Good luck. |
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Thanks for all of the replies so far!
If it's the age, then we can't change that so time will put that right?
We do message couples then as has been suggested, it rarely comes to a meet in the end. We get along to all of the local socials we can to try and meet new people.
We would like to do a club but it's a combination of nerves and a lack of Dutch courage that stops us going to them, it won't be long until we just go for it though! |
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"Maybe just add of you want soft or full swap. It would be the deal breaker for me.
The only other thing that would put me off is that piercing but that's my personal preference they scare me!
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Good point, that'll get added to the profile. Piercing is staying put though |
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Possibly i don't think it's anything you've done. Your profile is very well thought out and informative. You are young which could put some people off but that's not your fault and not something you can change. I would maybe add if your looking for full swap or soft swap. Me and my hubby would be looking for that.
Also, this isn't your fault again but it could be just the age bracket that your looking for. We aren't local to you but we are in your age bracket. We have a young family and trying to meet as a couple is very complicated for us (and many others in our situation) it's possible that the age group your looking for just have complicated homelives and that meeting as a couple is difficult. |
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"We seem to have little luck on here recently in meeting other couples. While we don't blame those who scroll past this post thinking "oh another one" (as we would), hopefully somebody can spare the time to give us some pointers on where we might be going wrong?"
Four way attraction can be difficult to establish. You seem to be doing everything right otherwise.
Hope things look up  |
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You have to establish a brand as a couple and you can do that by going to a club that offers the kind of party you like as often as you can manage. When people see what your brand has to offer in terms of the way you interact,your choices of other couples, how friendly and hot your brand as a couple is, you will instantly begin to pull fans of all types. At this point people will just be making you genuine offers without any effort from you.There are a lot of sweet couples , young and old that will like you, also not every couple will be your fan but you are playing to please the fans you choose. |
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"Possibly i don't think it's anything you've done. Your profile is very well thought out and informative. You are young which could put some people off but that's not your fault and not something you can change. I would maybe add if your looking for full swap or soft swap. Me and my hubby would be looking for that.
Also, this isn't your fault again but it could be just the age bracket that your looking for. We aren't local to you but we are in your age bracket. We have a young family and trying to meet as a couple is very complicated for us (and many others in our situation) it's possible that the age group your looking for just have complicated homelives and that meeting as a couple is difficult."
This is true, we also don't have the luxury of being able to play any night of the week. We have added a line about soft/full swap following the advice we have had |
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"We do message couples then as has been suggested, it rarely comes to a meet in the end. We get along to all of the local socials we can to try and meet new people."
OK if there are couples you talk to, get along with and fancy meeting, ask straight-up and suggest some specific dates when you are free, or ask them when they are free. It's the difference between vaguely expressing interest and making concrete plans.
I also noticed the tight age preference, sure that will limit your potential matches but (at least in our area) there are loads of younger couples about, it is not a problem. |
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Apart from the fact that you two have blocked single guys from contacting you due to too many messages and abuse, I really can't see why your profile wouldn't get more interest from people on here. It's well written (albeit a bit on the long side but hey not everyone minds that), you've got good pics and you have good verifications too. We have a particular common interest (starts with W...) too and I'm sure there are others out there who would too.
Probably a bad run of luck. How often do you two actively seek others out on here instead of just waiting for them to come by your profile? Sometimes waiting around isn't the answer, just go out there and find the people you two would like and be directly into the game about it. Try to keep vague allusions to future meets to a minimum; the sooner fixed dates and interests can be confirmed the better it is for everyone involved!
Good luck. If I were a couple on here we'd probably have you two pretty high on the "want to meet" list.
-Ides |
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"For my money I like your pictures your profile is fine . hope you find what you want. Good luck shame your too far from me but then I am playing single and a lot older
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Exactly this...profile n pics seem fine. Distance and singularity rules me out tho... |
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I don't like loads of crotch shots and fuck pics, so that would put me off. But I definitely seem to be a minority, so seems your profile is just fine to most x |
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There is no doubt many couples would rule you out because of the photos of your male half in those knickers ,having a bisexual male half and wanting to meet TVs . You are also very young and the majority of swingers tend to be aged 45 to 65 but stick to your principles and that way you will get less messages but you are more likely to be a good match up for the people who contact you. |
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