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What do you do if you recognise someone, do you say hi
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm chatting to a guy I went to school with, he puts his face pic on!
I don't I'm discreet.
I've told him I can't reveal myself due to my job and being discreet etc.
I have assured him I will keep his info discreet
What happens on fab stays on fab in my opinion.
I would never play on my doorstep due to discretion unless it's a hot toyboy who I don't have mutual friends with lol |
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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago
Wakefield |
"Seen a couple of people on here that I see a lot in town, do i say hi or not lol"
Why not?
In towns and villages across the UK people say hello to strangers everyday.
If you want to say more then use common sense, if its a crowded place just keep walking after the greeting, if they are in company, keep walking.
Its's not rocket science it is what grown up people do all the time.
Never intrude in a group situation unless you are part of that group or invited. |
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The etiquette surely has to be a smile or a wink and then if the feeling dictates, drop a message on here.
It'd be quite disarming having someone come up whilst in a shop so I think by far a passing glance is enough. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had a few messages saying people have seen me or "Did you work in Cheadle Morrisons??" (I did) and I have to say I'm glad they waited to message rather than say hi, especially since I have face pics but they didnt!
I think a wink if they'll recognise you is decent  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would block them and never mention it. If someone I knew from here came up ad spoke to me when I was out and about doing 'real life' stuff I would not be happy.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If someone from the site we hadn't met said hi to us in public either you'd have to refer to the site so we'd know how we were meant to know you, which wouldn't be cool, or we'd be wondering whether we were meant to know you so it would be pointless. A smile and a message later would be better. As far as people we've met, more than happy for them to say hi if we're on our own. |
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If we'd played with the couple or single male in the past then we'd say hi, if it was someone we recognise from face pics from here then we wouldn't say hi as we wouldn't know them. Simples really. |
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By *iReyWoman
over a year ago
Cheshire East |
I've had 2 people message me over the last couple of years saying the recognise me ( even though I have no face pics ) but that they can't tell me who they are as they need the privacy.
Honestly nothing more infuriating in my opinion. If that's the case then just don't say anything. It's horrible knowing someone you know personally knows you're on here but you don't know who the hell it is |
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I would probably see how they reacted first... if it was a wry smile then all good... kind of fun exchanging knowing glances
Would never walk right up and chat... and wouldn't expect them to. You nor they have any idea who might be there too.
Too risky for a "and how do you guys know each other"  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Met a guy we had been chatting to on here at a m6 services. He smiled at us first from a distance, I recognised him from his pics. I gave him a thumbs up and he joined us over our coffee. Was good to meet him and several months later he joined us for a weekend. |
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"Met a guy we had been chatting to on here at a m6 services. He smiled at us first from a distance, I recognised him from his pics. I gave him a thumbs up and he joined us over our coffee. Was good to meet him and several months later he joined us for a weekend."
You guys have a pretty radical profile... up in Stornaway too!!??
Who said the highlands are quiet lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd probably smile and acknowledge them, as you don't know personal preference. I was mortified when someone who knew me from here approached me in Asda whilst i was shopping with my 15year old. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd probably smile and acknowledge them, as you don't know personal preference. I was mortified when someone who knew me from here approached me in Asda whilst i was shopping with my 15year old. "
oh what did you say to them lol if I knew someone and see them out I wouldn't approach them, no way. I would have told them to fuck off I don't know u lol
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd probably smile and acknowledge them, as you don't know personal preference. I was mortified when someone who knew me from here approached me in Asda whilst i was shopping with my 15year old. oh what did you say to them lol if I knew someone and see them out I wouldn't approach them, no way. I would have told them to fuck off I don't know u lol "
I ushered my son to grab some bread and politely said no offence but my 2 lives are separated I'd appreciate you not coming on to me while I'm with my family |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd probably smile and acknowledge them, as you don't know personal preference. I was mortified when someone who knew me from here approached me in Asda whilst i was shopping with my 15year old. oh what did you say to them lol if I knew someone and see them out I wouldn't approach them, no way. I would have told them to fuck off I don't know u lol
I ushered my son to grab some bread and politely said no offence but my 2 lives are separated I'd appreciate you not coming on to me while I'm with my family"
yeah fair play. That's really rude I think. What happens on here should stay on here. Have u been with him and meet on here, or is he on here and just reconised u |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No I've never played with him, although he's asked on many occasions over the 5 years I've been here. I blocked him in the end, so now every few months I'll receive a Facebook message enquiring after my health. No response is ever given yet he remains undeterred and will try again |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No I've never played with him, although he's asked on many occasions over the 5 years I've been here. I blocked him in the end, so now every few months I'll receive a Facebook message enquiring after my health. No response is ever given yet he remains undeterred and will try again "
what really! ! That's a stalker u have, what a weirdo
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By *awty40_xxWoman
over a year ago
north lanarkshire |
A guy approached me a few years ago while i was on here on a different profile, asked if i was (said my first name) and was i on fab.. i was a bit taken aback but turned out i had been speaking to him just didnt recognise him from his pic, was all good in the end but was a bit weird at first |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A guy approached me a few years ago while i was on here on a different profile, asked if i was (said my first name) and was i on fab.. i was a bit taken aback but turned out i had been speaking to him just didnt recognise him from his pic, was all good in the end but was a bit weird at first "
silly you. Probably your boyfriend u been with for years lol
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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago
West Wales and Cardiff |
I saw an amazing, well-known couple off here on holiday in my home town last December.
I walked out the cafe and they were taking selfies overlooking the beach.
I know I just wanted to say "hi" and welcome to the area, and suggest places to his
From their side, it would have looked intrusive and possibly creepy.
I'd never say anything.
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Is it is someone i haven't met but recognised from fab i would do nothing.
If it was someone i had met i might smile depending on who i was with but i wouldn't speak to them. I respect people's privacy and try to be discreet. The smile would be an invitation for them to say hi to me if they wanted to  |
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By *awty40_xxWoman
over a year ago
north lanarkshire |
"A guy approached me a few years ago while i was on here on a different profile, asked if i was (said my first name) and was i on fab.. i was a bit taken aback but turned out i had been speaking to him just didnt recognise him from his pic, was all good in the end but was a bit weird at first silly you. Probably your boyfriend u been with for years lol"
I think id know if it was my boyfriend  |
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I was at a party and had some fun with one of the female guests who works for a big retail chain I use weekly and I recognised her straight away but kept a discreet silence given she was at work. She still works there but appears not to be on FAB anymore.
Another time I was in a friend's shop when a man walked in and I thought I know him from somewhere then a few seconds later his partner walked in and it was a girl I'd met a few weeks previously in the same shop for a few hours of naughty Sunday retail therapy but without his knowledge but he knew me from when I'd met the pair of them. As she left the shop I had a single word text from her saying "memories  "
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"Seen a couple of people on here that I see a lot in town, do i say hi or not lol
Why not?
In towns and villages across the UK people say hello to strangers everyday.
If you want to say more then use common sense, if its a crowded place just keep walking after the greeting, if they are in company, keep walking.
Its's not rocket science it is what grown up people do all the time.
Never intrude in a group situation unless you are part of that group or invited."
this for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I recognised someone I knew I'd just keep quiet about it. Most people prefer to be discreet about this kind of thing. If it was someone I felt close enough to, then sure. It's nice to have a friend who understands. |
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"Seen a couple of people on here that I see a lot in town, do i say hi or not lol"
Hopefully you will respect them,pass on by and say nothing.
Maybe a message on fabs later if they are interested then all is good.
If not respect their wishes and leave them alone. |
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By *irthyMan
over a year ago
outside banbury |
So depends on many things - I enjoyed a GB some years ago and didnt see the lady again until quite some time after we happened to be in a pub on a sunday on two consecutive weekends. First time subtle knowing glance - second week a smirk and grin - both times she was with a partner and i was with mates or kids. Discretion is paramount in this and also realising that this is a very separate part of peoples lives and lines shouldnt be crossed unless invited to....
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I'd say nothing. Lots (most?) people would take it as an invasion of their privacy being approached in everyday life.
As someone else has said, at most, send a pm on here explaining you saw them but wanted to be discreet.
Problem is, their are some oddballs on here, people don't necessarily want to be known , in case the other person uses it against them in some way.
Also remember, just because you happen to be there doesn't really mean anything anyway. If they want a local guy, they can do a who's near.
It is difficult. But overall, I'd say do nothing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Actually had this issue a few years back when I ran into a couple I use to meet while I was working near their home. They had their kids with them so me being me just nodded at them as they passed me. Got a text from them later on saying thanks for not being a cretin and doing that. I've heard crazy about people coming up to people they've met who've had family etc with them asking for meets. That in my opinion is a cretin and doesn't know what swinging actually is about.
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
Having been approached in town with an "I know you from fab you're Georgie aren't you?!" I found it really creepy and intrusive to be honest a subtle nod or wink with a message on fab later would be appropriate . |
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