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Trying to arrange a meet
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We always find it can be so difficult to try arrange a meet. We only meet a few times a year wish it could be much more simple anyone other couple have this problem ? X  |
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We have same problem. Lucky we have found a club not to far from us.so when our offspring are busy we can just go and see who is there. Other than that we both may have solo meet. But more fun playing together |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On our first time using this site a few years ago we often got frustrated with the problems that we encountered trying to get meets to happen, work, childcare and mother nature could often spoil even the best made plans, and lots of these were factors in us leaving the site, since then we have found it a whole lot easier just to turn out to a club and have our own fun, and quite often we end up having fun nights with no disappointments or pressure, happy swinging  |
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"We always find it can be so difficult to try arrange a meet. We only meet a few times a year wish it could be much more simple anyone other couple have this problem ? X "
Pop along to a Swingers Club and meet people who are there. |
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Nope.
We plan ahead, get our names down for organised socials, and meet there. We have to book a room anyway so we then just invite a few back and see how things go.
Parties and clubs are useful too, plus getting involved in helping to organise events means you make loads of friends.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We’ve been here on and off 7 years, just find it really difficult to find a couple then for it to actually happen. We always end up going to clubs as meets never come through.
Mrs x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Looking for a couple you really have to try and get the females attention, sadly your profile isn't doing that hence your lack of meets for couples.
Try changing your pics to less close ups of cocks and your fanny. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a couple that ive known for years. They also reflect on how tricky is it to meet other couples.
Im glad i get to play with them both as i can jump to it when they are free. I guess that is one of the pros of being single and available. |
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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago
Birmingham |
Not easy on here trying to arrange a meet. Finding someone who is as interested in you as you are in them is not always that easy. Then when you do, finding an evening when your all free can be just as difficult. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Looking for a couple you really have to try and get the females attention, sadly your profile isn't doing that hence your lack of meets for couples.
Try changing your pics to less close ups of cocks and your fanny. "
You don’t give up do you?  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not easy on here trying to arrange a meet. Finding someone who is as interested in you as you are in them is not always that easy. Then when you do, finding an evening when your all free can be just as difficult."
Definitely agree with this! Having children etc makes it hard to arrange meets that means both parties are free!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just want to make it clear. We don’t find it hard finding meets it’s the not happening/people backing out etc due to nerves that’s makes it difficult . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just want to make it clear. We don’t find it hard finding meets it’s the not happening/people backing out etc due to nerves that’s makes it difficult . "
Sometimes we find it useful to have a social first, especially with couples new to swinging, that way when you meet to play they know what you are like and are less likely to get nervous and back out.
Sometimes just the girls chatting on the phone beforehand does the trick.
Saying that we have done all the above in the past and still have been let down, in one memorable occasion they found someone better just before our planned meet and left us wondering why we bothered, in our hotel room.
You win some, you lose some. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Honestly, if it happens it happens.
Not actively looking, be like water, just go with the flow."
We’re looking for meets so sitting and waiting isn’t for us, I guess different things work for different people |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It is difficult to arrange meets, firstly finding people that you actually want to meet, then finding a time that is compatible with everyone. Sometimes that alignment can take months. But very often worth waiting for! |
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By *bernathCouple
over a year ago
Gloucestershire |
"Honestly, if it happens it happens.
Not actively looking, be like water, just go with the flow.
We’re looking for meets so sitting and waiting isn’t for us, I guess different things work for different people "
Yeah I guess so |
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We have a lot of problems getting any meets on here probably due to being a primarily daytime meet couple..but when we do chat to other couples and ladies who say they are interested they suddenly seem to disappear..so its chams for us x storm x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We have a lot of problems getting any meets on here probably due to being a primarily daytime meet couple..but when we do chat to other couples and ladies who say they are interested they suddenly seem to disappear..so its chams for us x storm x"
I bet it’s difficult finding meets in the day, we could never meet in the day due to having our toddler (not yet in school etc). Agree with the “suddenly disappearing” comment. X |
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"We have a lot of problems getting any meets on here probably due to being a primarily daytime meet couple..but when we do chat to other couples and ladies who say they are interested they suddenly seem to disappear..so its chams for us x storm x"
Similar to us also
Mrs often has a spare few hours between the school runs/later shifts at work but we struggled to find people available and accommodation plays a factor in that also we’ve found |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have a lot of problems getting any meets on here probably due to being a primarily daytime meet couple..but when we do chat to other couples and ladies who say they are interested they suddenly seem to disappear..so its chams for us x storm x"
im a daytime man , hotel , club , etc |
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Me and my husband get very little opportunity to meet, having no family near by an no sitters available that we’d trust makes swinging a very difficult thing to do, esp finally through the winter months, we have to plan so far ahead it’s easier to stick to the single guys who are more likely to be available at short notice |
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"We have a lot of problems getting any meets on here probably due to being a primarily daytime meet couple..but when we do chat to other couples and ladies who say they are interested they suddenly seem to disappear..so its chams for us x storm x
I bet it’s difficult finding meets in the day, we could never meet in the day due to having our toddler (not yet in school etc). Agree with the “suddenly disappearing” comment. X"
It is difficult..but we keep trying..it's even more frustrating when you've talked for days and then you hear nothing again..best of luck guys x storm x |
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"We have a lot of problems getting any meets on here probably due to being a primarily daytime meet couple..but when we do chat to other couples and ladies who say they are interested they suddenly seem to disappear..so its chams for us x storm x
Similar to us also
Mrs often has a spare few hours between the school runs/later shifts at work but we struggled to find people available and accommodation plays a factor in that also we’ve found"
It works well for us to meet during the day around our shifts etc ..we can do hotels..it's just finding the couples around us x storm x |
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By *ancduoCouple
over a year ago
Manchester |
Yup. Same here. We play separately mostly cos it’s harder still to meet together. Hubby has a car and can nip out any time of day and night. I (Mrs) rely on public transport so need local. We don’t accom so I need people who are local and can accom or willing to share hotel costs.
I can only meet daytimes as long as I’m back by the time the kids are due home. People work.
I can only nip out 2 nights a week. I have a list of people I would like to meet but two nights a week isn’t much especially when some weeks those nights are busy with family things.
So. Local. Can accom. Share costs (surprising how many won’t) or day meets. Sounds easy. It’s really not
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"........So. Local. Can accom. Share costs (surprising how many won’t) or day meets. Sounds easy. It’s really not
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Couldn't agree more with this! Been trying to find this for well over a year now lol  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"........So. Local. Can accom. Share costs (surprising how many won’t) or day meets. Sounds easy. It’s really not
Couldn't agree more with this! Been trying to find this for well over a year now lol "
We ALWAYS share costs whether it be fuel, hotel etc. Wouldn’t dare not do so. |
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People, people, people....it aint rocket science mun, if you want to be successful....
GO
TO
SOCIALS!
You cant fail to make friends and have fun (well, unless you have the social skills of Ghengis Khan). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People, people, people....it aint rocket science mun, if you want to be successful....
GO
TO
SOCIALS!
You cant fail to make friends and have fun (well, unless you have the social skills of Ghengis Khan). "
Socials still don't guarantee you'll find people who want to play though, but yes we agree it certainly helps to get you known in the scene |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"People, people, people....it aint rocket science mun, if you want to be successful....
GO
TO
SOCIALS!
You cant fail to make friends and have fun (well, unless you have the social skills of Ghengis Khan). "
Socials don’t guarantee anything, other than you meeting people. We often go to clubs played half of the amount of times we’ve been to clubs. |
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"People, people, people....it aint rocket science mun, if you want to be successful....
GO
TO
SOCIALS!
You cant fail to make friends and have fun (well, unless you have the social skills of Ghengis Khan).
Socials don’t guarantee anything, other than you meeting people. We often go to clubs played half of the amount of times we’ve been to clubs. "
I agree that attending socials is no guarantee that you will play, but it's a great night out, you get to meet loads of people, network, and make friends.
As for playing, we can only go by our experiences at many socials when we say that, if you want some fun, it's easier than trying to sort out a meet " cold ". The number of "real" genuine potential playmates is far higher than online, there is nowhere to hide when you meet them face to face, no delay, no message ping pong, you meet, chat, hit it of, and then invite them back to your hotel room to see how things go, if they decide not to accept the offer, then there are another 100 potential playmates right there! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Even more irritating is when it's like buses... we have a meet up this weekend. Guuarenteed it'll be quiet until 9pm Saturday night when we've cracked open the wine in the hotel room with no plans on moving or on Sunday we'll be contacted by 3/4 couples that want to meet that night
Sods law is an arse  |
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