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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Scenario, someone catches my eye on here so I send them a message, now its known that most women on here are inundated with messages so its common im sure to skip a few.
My question is if ive mailed someone and they havent read it for days do I assume they werent interested or that they just havent seen it? I dont want to repeatedly message someone but at the same time if I just messaged at the wrong time could be a missed opportunity. Discuss lol |
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8 times out of 10 they have looked at a profile before opening the message and decided to jog on.
However it *might* be ok to send one more message a few weeks or even months later.... A different message of course and only if you really match what they are looking for. |
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By *ANDA2Couple
over a year ago
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They may have gone straight to your profile. Viewed it and decided your not for them.
If they don't fancy you then they may not even read the message as they have no intention of meeting.
Harsh but true.
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"They may have gone straight to your profile. Viewed it and decided your not for them.
If they don't fancy you then they may not even read the message as they have no intention of meeting.
Harsh but true.
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saves wasted time on both sides |
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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago
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"Scenario, someone catches my eye on here so I send them a message, now its known that most women on here are inundated with messages so its common im sure to skip a few.
My question is if ive mailed someone and they havent read it for days do I assume they werent interested or that they just havent seen it? I dont want to repeatedly message someone but at the same time if I just messaged at the wrong time could be a missed opportunity. Discuss lol "
There is no easy answer here. It is possible your message just got missed. So maybe try once more after a week or two. Have to accept they may have seen it and just aren't interested and just not got around to deleting it. Some even just let their messages fall out the bottom of their list and never delete. It's also possible that they have seen and will get back to you at some point. You could send that second message and they might think pushy bugger and be put off you.
In a nutshell you can't win. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They may have gone straight to your profile. Viewed it and decided your not for them.
If they don't fancy you then they may not even read the message as they have no intention of meeting.
Harsh but true.
saves wasted time on both sides"
add it could be a copy and pasted message to |
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"Scenario, someone catches my eye on here so I send them a message, now its known that most women on here are inundated with messages so its common im sure to skip a few.
My question is if ive mailed someone and they havent read it for days do I assume they werent interested or that they just havent seen it? I dont want to repeatedly message someone but at the same time if I just messaged at the wrong time could be a missed opportunity. Discuss lol "
Tricky one as I myself miss messages but then yes I am guilty of reading messages and marking them unread until I have time to reply but forgetting about them |
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"Scenario, someone catches my eye on here so I send them a message, now its known that most women on here are inundated with messages so its common im sure to skip a few.
My question is if ive mailed someone and they havent read it for days do I assume they werent interested or that they just havent seen it? I dont want to repeatedly message someone but at the same time if I just messaged at the wrong time could be a missed opportunity. Discuss lol
There is no easy answer here. It is possible your message just got missed. So maybe try once more after a week or two. Have to accept they may have seen it and just aren't interested and just not got around to deleting it. Some even just let their messages fall out the bottom of their list and never delete. It's also possible that they have seen and will get back to you at some point. You could send that second message and they might think pushy bugger and be put off you.
In a nutshell you can't win."
Bleedin' minefield innit!!
Don't try - you're out of the running before starting.
Try again and you run the risk of being brandished pushy!
I've sent second messages with a "trying one more time in case it was missed, but if it was a thanks but no thanks, please tell me and I'll know not to bother you again". has worked a few times (either opened a dialogue or been given that thanks but...)
Many profiles do say 'if I don't reply it's a no'!! Not worth trying them again  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do you send a proper message or something like 'How r u' or 'free now?'. I never reply to anything where I can read the whole message without opening it. "
For the most part I always send a proper message, although I have occasionally been lazy, but I know why I dont hear back from them lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Delete your sent mail as soon as you've sent it, then you won't know what the recipient has done with it. You'll either get a reply or you won't, no stressing over it. If they are interested then they will reply. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Delete your sent mail as soon as you've sent it, then you won't know what the recipient has done with it. You'll either get a reply or you won't, no stressing over it. If they are interested then they will reply."
Yeah thats what I started to do recently just wanted to see others look on it |
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"Delete your sent mail as soon as you've sent it, then you won't know what the recipient has done with it. You'll either get a reply or you won't, no stressing over it. If they are interested then they will reply.
Yeah thats what I started to do recently just wanted to see others look on it "
It’s really simple. Once you have sent a message it no longer belongs to you.
Just forget it. |
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"Delete your sent mail as soon as you've sent it, then you won't know what the recipient has done with it. You'll either get a reply or you won't, no stressing over it. If they are interested then they will reply.
Yeah thats what I started to do recently just wanted to see others look on it "
My advice would be Bloc them and move on it's that simple |
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If I don't reply to a message, then it's as far as I'm concerned a "no thanks" but I always delete which the sender would see.
Getting a 2nd message would annoy me.
Quite often get ones weeks, even months later & it's obvious from what's written the sender has no memory they've messaged me before.
Harsh as it is, but I now block the majority, just saves time on everyone's parts. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As suggested earlier...if you are really keen, leave it a week or so and then send a message.
People have lives outside if here and mistakes do happen so it could have been overlooked. But repeated messaging, especially when I haven't replied to your first one, would have me running for the hills. Good luck! |
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"If I don't reply to a message, then it's as far as I'm concerned a "no thanks" but I always delete which the sender would see.
Getting a 2nd message would annoy me.
Quite often get ones weeks, even months later & it's obvious from what's written the sender has no memory they've messaged me before.
Harsh as it is, but I now block the majority, just saves time on everyone's parts. "
They can't give you the excuse they have no memory - Fab has a big bold warning if you try a second message along the lines of, "you messaged once, they haven't replied, take it as a no"
Yes, I know... I've ignored it once or twice  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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They only have themselves to blame, if they allow so many messages that they can't read them all, block the ones they aren't interested in and delete them.
You only have yourself to blame if you keep messaging the same profiles and don't get an answer.
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"They may have gone straight to your profile. Viewed it and decided your not for them.
If they don't fancy you then they may not even read the message as they have no intention of meeting.
Harsh but true.
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He is fully aware of this scenario ?
They may have totally missed the man's message too
They may have just done a bulk delete
They may have done lots of things the op clearly noted this fact that they MAY
The fact is he does not know
The fact is they MAY not have read and rejected
It MAY be just as if he had not messaged even once
It MAY be that they have not seen his message and if they had they MAY have found it charming him beautiful and want to reply
The fact remains he does NOT KNOW
Why make a random assessment that he has been rejected when it is quite plausible and reasonable he MAY not have been
I always find the one way condescending MAY argument amusing ! |
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"If I don't reply to a message, then it's as far as I'm concerned a "no thanks" but I always delete which the sender would see.
Getting a 2nd message would annoy me.
Quite often get ones weeks, even months later & it's obvious from what's written the sender has no memory they've messaged me before.
Harsh as it is, but I now block the majority, just saves time on everyone's parts.
They can't give you the excuse they have no memory - Fab has a big bold warning if you try a second message along the lines of, "you messaged once, they haven't replied, take it as a no"
Yes, I know... I've ignored it once or twice "
I've had several 'discussions' with some who have insisted they've never messaged me before.
One even after I screenshot our WhatsApp conversation & posted it back to him! |
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