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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Why do people do it? I get that people change their mind or get nervous but its so annoying. Ive had 3 meets arranged since wednesday all 3 have been cancelled and only 1 of them text me to tell me bu it was as i was on my way round to theirs. 3 times in 6 days though... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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3 meets organised in one week think you've answered your own question as to why they didn't show ,still no excuse for not letting you know that is ignorance  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Dont get me wrong i was happy to get the intrest to have the meets arranged and if someone wants to meet me and i'm interested i will say yes, but then it makes me think whats the point. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Are you sure they were women op?
Very few would invite a man straight round to their home?.
Miss"
One was a single lady who was gonna come to mine and the other 2 were couples. I had been talking them for a while too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For the people who are suggesting that the OP is maybe wanting to meet 'too many' and it doesn't fit in with 'their' own criteria of meeting etiquette.. Get over yourselves, this is a swinging/sex site yes!?.. And people do meet for aforementioned activities yes!?.. Then why shouldn't he choose to meet a number of people people in one week, month or year? Jeezus man! Talk about the swinging police in force or what. *and breathe* |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Are you sure they were women op?
Very few would invite a man straight round to their home?.
Miss
One was a single lady who was gonna come to mine and the other 2 were couples. I had been talking them for a while too. "
Did you chat on phone or cam to them all before arranging meets? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It might not suit everyone, but I only meet local guys socially at first in a coffee shop where I'd be on my break or similar anyway so if they decide to no show, its not an issue. I've never been let down or had my time wasted. Better luck with future meets my lovely. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I wouldnt even say that i have tried to meet a lot of people. I arranged a meet, got let down, arranged another and let down and then same again. Ive only had a couple of meets since i joined so its not as if i am trying to meet eveyone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Didnt chat on cam or phone as didnt think i needed too, cant see how that would mean they would turn up. "
A quick video call would at least confirm that the "woman" or "couple" wasn't a sad single bloke wanking over his iPad tho.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Didnt chat on cam or phone as didnt think i needed too, cant see how that would mean they would turn up. "
Just chalk it down to experience mate. It unfortunately happens a lot on here.
And take no notice of the more closed minded comments on this thread... Some people on fab have issues and need to get over themselves. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah suppose so. Ah well, keep trying i guess. "
Just enjoy the forums, get to know people. And more important... have no expectations. That way, you'll have no disappointments.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do people do it? I get that people change their mind or get nervous but its so annoying. Ive had 3 meets arranged since wednesday all 3 have been cancelled and only 1 of them text me to tell me bu it was as i was on my way round to theirs. 3 times in 6 days though..."
Maybe try to be more discerning when picking people to meet?  |
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"Yeah suppose so. Ah well, keep trying i guess.
Just enjoy the forums, get to know people. And more important... have no expectations. That way, you'll have no disappointments. "
Sound advice but good to have some success SOMETIMES...!!! |
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By *wisted2000Woman
over a year ago
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I’ve had this too, speaking for a while, exchanging numbers, finally decide to meet and poof, gone, no explanation, nothing, if there’s a reason just speak up but to leave someone not knowing is extremely rude, hugs op |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Didnt chat on cam or phone as didnt think i needed too, cant see how that would mean they would turn up.
A quick video call would at least confirm that the "woman" or "couple" wasn't a sad single bloke wanking over his iPad tho...."
"Sad single bloke"
1. Not all single men are sad.
2. Some men choose to be single.
3. You really beleive a man winding another man up is wank material?
Humanity is in trouble. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Didnt chat on cam or phone as didnt think i needed too, cant see how that would mean they would turn up.
A quick video call would at least confirm that the "woman" or "couple" wasn't a sad single bloke wanking over his iPad tho...."
OP, you didn't do the most basic of checks before arranging to meet, so I'm not at all surprised about the let downs. Some people are not as they claim to be in here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not sure how i have answered my own question?"
Ffs if they wur all sisters or pals no wonder they all cancelled, they all talked and realised they were meeting you in the same week lolloollll
But yeah cancellations or no shows happen, if they let you know in advance then it's fine.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Been let down many times, both for socials, and the main event.
Fortunately we're pretty resilient and look upon this - swinging- as a part time jolly.
Any hotel let down, we've usually provided drinks and goodies so enjoy those and each other, so win/ win?
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Been let down many times, both for socials, and the main event.
Fortunately we're pretty resilient and look upon this - swinging- as a part time jolly.
Any hotel let down, we've usually provided drinks and goodies so enjoy those and each other, so win/ win?
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That's fine as a couple not as a single lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think the OP is not alone and it goes both ways, we here of so many women being let down and even a few couples have same issues
Sadly there are some who visit this site, get all excited at the prospect of meeting then bottle it in a fit of guilt and of course nerves
Not all of us have this lifestyle and or enjoy it roller coaster ride lol
In regards to 3 no shows in short period - if its a competition I had 4 in one week (3 men and 1 MF Couple) and basically as one cancelled , I simply got back out there and chatted .......
Happier Fabbing times OP  |
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"For the people who are suggesting that the OP is maybe wanting to meet 'too many' and it doesn't fit in with 'their' own criteria of meeting etiquette.. Get over yourselves, this is a swinging/sex site yes!?.. And people do meet for aforementioned activities yes!?.. Then why shouldn't he choose to meet a number of people people in one week, month or year? Jeezus man! Talk about the swinging police in force or what. *and breathe*"
'Swinging police'. Loving that. I have the image of Paul Whitehouse and Harry Enfield as the dutch cops who are partners but also lovers. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Didnt chat on cam or phone as didnt think i needed too, cant see how that would mean they would turn up.
A quick video call would at least confirm that the "woman" or "couple" wasn't a sad single bloke wanking over his iPad tho....
OP, you didn't do the most basic of checks before arranging to meet, so I'm not at all surprised about the let downs. Some people are not as they claim to be in here. "
If they are verified genuine then im taking it that they are. Nieve i know... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not sure how i have answered my own question?
Ffs if they wur all sisters or pals no wonder they all cancelled, they all talked and realised they were meeting you in the same week lolloollll
But yeah cancellations or no shows happen, if they let you know in advance then it's fine. "
They werent all arranged with weeks notice though. The first was midweek no show, i then arranged a friday night meet who was a no show then i had a last minute meet arranged on sat night who then cancelled as i was on my way round there. |
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By *he witchWoman
over a year ago
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Agree with you. Regardless of you organise to meet in coffee shop or your own home, if they not going to turn up they will not.
Don't let other peoples mind set change the way you go about fabbing.. |
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