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How to introduce wife to fab

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I have been on the site for a number of years now, having first been introduced to it by a woman I met on POF.

I had split up with my wife and got fully into the scene. I loved the group meets and started to explore my bi-side too.

I then got back with my wife and gave up the meets. I still go on cam from time to time but that is it.

My wife and I have been starting to share fantasies recently and I believe she is wanting to explore swinging.

I'm not 100% but I want to know if anyone has any advice for broaching the subject with her?

Thanks

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

Tell her it's one of your fantasies. There's no other way of being 100% sure than saying the words outright.

Goodrich.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Tell her it's one of your fantasies. There's no other way of being 100% sure than saying the words outright.

Goodrich."

Thanks. I suppose I will need to but was trying to find out a way to tell her

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By *offee and Cream 2Couple (MM) over a year ago

Loughborough

Watch some porn together.....

Cuckold or swinging, wifeswop etc.

see if she likes it, gets turned on!

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

"Tell her it's one of your fantasies. There's no other way of being 100% sure than saying the words outright.

Goodrich.

Thanks. I suppose I will need to but was trying to find out a way to tell her"

You said you're starting to share fantasies...tell her it's one of yours. It doesn't mean she'll agree to it.

If you create a safe space for sharing i.e.she knows she can tell you any fantasy without you acting all disgusted and she does the same for you it will encourage both of you to open up. You might not get to fulfil this particular fantasy of yours (it isn't a human right after all

) and she might not get to fulfil all of hers but you both might get to do some really great things together that neither of you ever thought you would.

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By * and M lookingCouple over a year ago

Worcester

Wife this is Fab.

Fab this is wife.

Pleased to meet you

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks for the advice. I suppose I will need to open up to her.

Maybe leave fab for the moment though to ease her in

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By *bsinthe_boyMan over a year ago

Luton

If you're beginning to share fantasies, ask yourself if any of her fantasies involve swinging or extra sex partners?

Try gently introducing the idea of swinging to her when you share your fantasies with her. Also think about what you want from swinging. Are you looking to meet other couples, single men, single women or all of the above? Which is your wife most likely to be interested in?

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By *eavenscentitCouple over a year ago

barnstaple

You're only just beginning to share fantasies !

That said, make sex fun and discuss it. Women have fantasies too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just be 100% honest with each other xx

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

"Thanks for the advice. I suppose I will need to open up to her.

Maybe leave fab for the moment though to ease her in

Yes you will.

I agree about leaving fab but don't assume that your wife will agree to swing. For some people its a fantasy they never want to make reality.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A while ago I wrote a computer program which listed a load of fantasies. Both parties could rate their interest from 0 to 5. Any fantasy that got a 7 or higher was listed at the end. I was surprised at some of the things my wife was up for (theoretically anyway) Anything that one of you rate a 1 or 0 won't be flagged up even if the other gives it a 5 so there was no embarassing moments where the really horrific stuff got a mention.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

While you are playing out your fantasy put a swinging porn film

On and bring it up in your play,

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Thanks for the advice. I suppose I will need to open up to her.

Maybe leave fab for the moment though to ease her in

Yes you will.

I agree about leaving fab but don't assume that your wife will agree to swing. For some people its a fantasy they never want to make reality."

Yes I agree it might not appeal to her but I think I will try.

I might not like sharing her too so I suppose we will wait and see.

Thanks again. Great profile too

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Thanks for the advice. I suppose I will need to open up to her.

Maybe leave fab for the moment though to ease her in

Yes you will.

I agree about leaving fab but don't assume that your wife will agree to swing. For some people its a fantasy they never want to make reality.

Yes I agree it might not appeal to her but I think I will try.

I might not like sharing her too so I suppose we will wait and see.

Thanks again. Great profile too"

You're welcome and thanks.

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By * and M lookingCouple over a year ago

Worcester

"Just be 100% honest with each other xx"

Totally this, communication and honesty are vital.

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By *oresexMan over a year ago

South West coast

Probably best not to show her your profile then.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Get a copy of the book Sex At Dawn by Christopher Ryan. Both read it and then discuss. It's an interesting humorous take on human sexuality. It's not porn and is a book that you can leave lying around anywhere but it will provoke discussion about sex and that is what you and your wife need. A good open honest talk otherwise you are heading straight for another split.

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By *arnsley guy100Man over a year ago

Sheffield

"I have been on the site for a number of years now, having first been introduced to it by a woman I met on POF.

I had split up with my wife and got fully into the scene. I loved the group meets and started to explore my bi-side too.

I then got back with my wife and gave up the meets. I still go on cam from time to time but that is it.

My wife and I have been starting to share fantasies recently and I believe she is wanting to explore swinging.

I'm not 100% but I want to know if anyone has any advice for broaching the subject with her?

Thanks"
it might seem like a good idea at the time and could work out.. But on the other hand could backfire for a multitude of reasons.. If you don't approach it, nothing going to happen.. If you do, it could open a can of worms in many directions... Choose very very carefully as this could cost both of you dearly... I believe in if things are OK as they are.. Keep it that way...dont fix what's not broke.

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