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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Might sound like a silly question but with TV /TS how do they / you like to be addressed as a man or as a woman?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As a human

But to specifically answer your question - if I am doing a role play - then the character I am playing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just call me Mikki

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just call me Mikki"

She answers to “oi “ too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just call me Mikki

She answers to “oi “ too

Ha,,i answer to no one

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just call me Mikki

She answers to “oi “ too

Ha,,i answer to no one

‘Cept ‘er indoors

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just call me Mikki

She answers to “oi “ too

Ha,,i answer to no one

‘Cept ‘er indoors

nope,,im out of control

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just call me Mikki

She answers to “oi “ too

Ha,,i answer to no one

‘Cept ‘er indoors

nope,,im out of control

Ah. She left you

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By *abrielle247Couple (FF) over a year ago

PDI Gran Canaria

"Might sound like a silly question but with TV /TS how do they / you like to be addressed as a man or as a woman? "

Do you really need to ask.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just call me Mikki

She answers to “oi “ too

Ha,,i answer to no one

‘Cept ‘er indoors

nope,,im out of control

Ah. She left you

lol,,no , wow,,are you pretending you know me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I like convincing tv's

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I like convincing tv's"

most are an utter pain in the arse

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Haha I never no lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Haha I never no lol"

i do like a "convincing" man they seem quite rare

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just call me Mikki

She answers to “oi “ too

Ha,,i answer to no one

‘Cept ‘er indoors

nope,,im out of control

Ah. She left you

lol,,no , wow,,are you pretending you know me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Haha I never no lol

i do like a "convincing" man they seem quite rare

Me too.

Love a really convincing fella

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 15/04/18 00:40:38]"

nah I'm far from convinced

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 15/04/18 00:40:38]"

Aw. Did you suddenly think better of admitting you wanted oral with a tv?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 15/04/18 00:40:38]

Aw. Did you suddenly think better of admitting you wanted oral with a tv?

oh i thought you was a woman

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 15/04/18 00:40:38]

Aw. Did you suddenly think better of admitting you wanted oral with a tv?

oh i thought you was a woman

Neither he nor I were referring to me missy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 15/04/18 00:40:38]

Aw. Did you suddenly think better of admitting you wanted oral with a tv?

oh i thought you was a woman

Neither he nor I were referring to me missy.

oh who was ya referring to?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 15/04/18 00:40:38]

Aw. Did you suddenly think better of admitting you wanted oral with a tv?

oh i thought you was a woman

Neither he nor I were referring to me missy.

oh who was ya referring to?"

Lol. I think he was talking generally. As was I

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 15/04/18 00:40:38]

Aw. Did you suddenly think better of admitting you wanted oral with a tv?

oh i thought you was a woman

Neither he nor I were referring to me missy.

oh who was ya referring to?

Lol. I think he was talking generally. As was I

how do you know what he thinks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 15/04/18 00:40:38]

Aw. Did you suddenly think better of admitting you wanted oral with a tv?

oh i thought you was a woman

Neither he nor I were referring to me missy.

oh who was ya referring to?

Lol. I think he was talking generally. As was I

how do you know what he thinks"

Woman’s intuition

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By *abrielle247Couple (FF) over a year ago

PDI Gran Canaria

I am psychic and know someone is a caretaker.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Might sound like a silly question but with TV /TS how do they / you like to be addressed as a man or as a woman? "

In answer to the op;

If they are presenting as female then you use the feminine terms; she, her etc.

If they present as male..... you get the picture.

You of course realise tv and TS can be male to female and also female to male.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am psychic and know someone is a caretaker.

ive always been the caretaker

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By *oodyshere2011Man over a year ago

Midlands

Be polite, that’s a start and would be rare on here, lol !!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am psychic and know someone is a caretaker.

ive always been the caretaker

She’s been cleaning up on here for years.

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman over a year ago

stourbridge area

Be nice to eachother ...

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By *hloevtTV/TS over a year ago

norwich

The clue is in what im wearing ! . If I have a dress on then she , her , Chloe. .... if I have a days beard growth a pair of work boots and my work gear then it would have to be "he or oi " x

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman over a year ago

stourbridge area

"The clue is in what im wearing ! . If I have a dress on then she , her , Chloe. .... if I have a days beard growth a pair of work boots and my work gear then it would have to be "he or oi " x"

A truthfull answer .... id admire honesty .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The clue is in what im wearing ! . If I have a dress on then she , her , Chloe. .... if I have a days beard growth a pair of work boots and my work gear then it would have to be "he or oi " x"

This

Or Her royal highness also works

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By *hloevtTV/TS over a year ago

norwich

Thank you.. and you sure are the princess.. you look stunning x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Be nice to eachother ... "

We are.... in our own silly way.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As LadyQ

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If any Tran gets annoyed at any guy for using the simple term He or Him, my advice to the guy is to move on,theres plenty of down to earth Trans out there that will happily serve all your needs and you theirs without all the Airs and Graces of the Little Britain Brigade...

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By *abrielle247Couple (FF) over a year ago

PDI Gran Canaria

"If any Tran gets annoyed at any guy for using the simple term He or Him, my advice to the guy is to move on,theres plenty of down to earth Trans out there that will happily serve all your needs and you theirs without all the Airs and Graces of the Little Britain Brigade..."

Simple manners and respect cost nothing, I have no time for those that don't.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Simple manners and respect cost nothing, I have no time for those that don't.

Guys can show respect and manners without kowtowing to the whims and fancies of the Little Britain Brigade

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just address them by their name, you have to figure the individual out as well as they do you.

Convincing or not is in the eye of the beholder or the deluded

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By *abrielle247Couple (FF) over a year ago

PDI Gran Canaria

Yes but I'm not desperate and live as a female.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Simple manners and respect cost nothing, I have no time for those that don't.

Guys can show respect and manners without kowtowing to the whims and fancies of the Little Britain Brigade"

Welcome back Mara. I was only thinking the other day how non controversial these threads have been for a while. Missed your input xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Fabulous response

and very true xx

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By *abrielle247Couple (FF) over a year ago

PDI Gran Canaria

Graces of the Little Britain Brigade...

Fabulous response

and very true xx"

Nothing fab or true about that whatsoever,just a poor excuse for being an idiot.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sexual games and talks aside, if a guy cannot respect me - he’s going to feel a sharp heel on his groin as I kick him out of the room.

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By *ediceTV/TS over a year ago

Wrexham

"I like convincing tv's"

Convincing them of what?

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By *ediceTV/TS over a year ago

Wrexham

"Might sound like a silly question but with TV /TS how do they / you like to be addressed as a man or as a woman? "

If you address someone by the gender they're presenting as, you can't go far wrong.

If nothing else, it's common politeness.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Might sound like a silly question but with TV /TS how do they / you like to be addressed as a man or as a woman?

If you address someone by the gender they're presenting as, you can't go far wrong.

If nothing else, it's common politeness.

I agree some basic courtesy and manners is a good start.

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By *hloevtTV/TS over a year ago

norwich

If I go to a club I am always refered to as "Chloe" her and/or sexy hun. Just love it when the men hold the door open for me and show respect. Always makes me feel beautiful inside x

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By *tace 309TV/TS over a year ago

durham

They call me Stace .deal with it or move on

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By *tace 309TV/TS over a year ago

durham

Life's that simple ...

Well for some it isn't

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By *loria JamesTV/TS over a year ago

Durham

Simple manners and respect cost nothing, I have no time for those that don't.

Guys can show respect and manners without kowtowing to the whims and fancies of the Little Britain Brigade"

You keep referring to Little Britain...is that supposed to mean something.

It reminds me of a man in a austin wearing driving gloves and pulling a caravan..... im not having a dig at those of you in the caravan club x

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By *abrielle247Couple (FF) over a year ago

PDI Gran Canaria

Simple manners and respect cost nothing, I have no time for those that don't.

Guys can show respect and manners without kowtowing to the whims and fancies of the Little Britain Brigade

You keep referring to Little Britain...is that supposed to mean something.

It reminds me of a man in a austin wearing driving gloves and pulling a caravan..... im not having a dig at those of you in the caravan club x"

Ha ha, yes I can see what you mean.

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By *inkyChrissy99TV/TS over a year ago

Bristol

I expect to be referred to as the sex i present as.

If i am wearing my female clothes and blatently trying to achieve a female look then call me mate or he/him will not get a response.

I think for mist tvs its the same... Should be common sense really....

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By *VBethTV/TS over a year ago

Warminster

As many have said, address them as they're presenting. If I'm in girl mode and someone calls me mate or pal it feels odd. Or just use their name if you know it

If they are of the choose your own pronoun variety but didn't tell you that then you can't be expected to know.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Simple manners and respect cost nothing, I have no time for those that don't.

Guys can show respect and manners without kowtowing to the whims and fancies of the Little Britain Brigade

Welcome back Mara. I was only thinking the other day how non controversial these threads have been for a while. Missed your input xx"

Well Rachel as said plenty of we Transgendered folks dont have our heads stuck up our bottoms and accept the Guys just as they are...

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By *ustJ0dieTV/TS over a year ago

Burton-on-Trent

Simple manners and respect cost nothing, I have no time for those that don't.

Guys can show respect and manners without kowtowing to the whims and fancies of the Little Britain Brigade

Welcome back Mara. I was only thinking the other day how non controversial these threads have been for a while. Missed your input xx

Well Rachel as said plenty of we Transgendered folks dont have our heads stuck up our bottoms and accept the Guys just as they are...

I'm as down to earth as they come, but any guy who addresses me as "him" or more appallingly "mate" when I'm on a girl day will know about it. It's not about being up myself, it's just courtesy.

And if you allow them to do it without correction, or even saying "I'm ok with you saying that to me, but most girls aren't" then you're actually helping to cause the problem.

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By *rinity666Man over a year ago

Away for work abroad long term,

Trinity will suffice..its a mixture of the straight-bi-cd side of me.. xx

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By *helleyj69TV/TS over a year ago

everywhere!!

Having put the effort in to look fem I appreciate being referred to that way,but don’t get over pissy about it if it happens, after all I am actually basically a bloke in a dress. It is just polite though isn’t it. One time I did see red was with a cheeky bastard that said “cheers mate, nice one fella” as he zipped up his pants!! If I wasn’t in such high heels I’d have been in full on bloke mode after that...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Simple manners and respect cost nothing, I have no time for those that don't.

Guys can show respect and manners without kowtowing to the whims and fancies of the Little Britain Brigade

Welcome back Mara. I was only thinking the other day how non controversial these threads have been for a while. Missed your input xx

Well Rachel as said plenty of we Transgendered folks dont have our heads stuck up our bottoms and accept the Guys just as they are...

It appears your are pretty much alone in your opinion on how we should accept guys just as they are, Mara.

I for one, hate being misgendered. If it’s a genuine mistake I’ll let it pass but deliberate misgendering is disrespectful and a way of poking fun at people who have chosen to move along a very difficult path.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As many have said, address them as they're presenting. If I'm in girl mode and someone calls me mate or pal it feels odd. Or just use their name if you know it

If they are of the choose your own pronoun variety but didn't tell you that then you can't be expected to know. "

Quite possibly people arent being intentionally disrespectful.Maybe it's just that first impressions count for a lot. If someone does not recognize or understand the term "presenting as female" (which is very much in the eye of the beholder) and just sees what he perceives as a man wearing a dress, then he is quite likely to address you as such.

The thing is...he's not actually wrong,is he?

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By *tace 309TV/TS over a year ago

durham

"As many have said, address them as they're presenting. If I'm in girl mode and someone calls me mate or pal it feels odd. Or just use their name if you know it

If they are of the choose your own pronoun variety but didn't tell you that then you can't be expected to know.

The thing is...he's not actually wrong,is he?"
yes

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By *loria JamesTV/TS over a year ago

Durham

"As many have said, address them as they're presenting. If I'm in girl mode and someone calls me mate or pal it feels odd. Or just use their name if you know it

If they are of the choose your own pronoun variety but didn't tell you that then you can't be expected to know.

The thing is...he's not actually wrong,is he?"

I think the issue is one of respect. If someone talks in that way they either do not understand us or have no respect for us. Either way i would just avoid them...after all thats what the block button is for.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Simple manners and respect cost nothing, I have no time for those that don't.

Guys can show respect and manners without kowtowing to the whims and fancies of the Little Britain Brigade

Welcome back Mara. I was only thinking the other day how non controversial these threads have been for a while. Missed your input xx

Well Rachel as said plenty of we Transgendered folks dont have our heads stuck up our bottoms and accept the Guys just as they are...

It appears your are pretty much alone in your opinion on how we should accept guys just as they are, Mara.

I have given the Guys good advice based on decades of experience as a Transgendered person...

Experience you lack, and it oft shows in your lengthy docuementaries on forums...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As many have said, address them as they're presenting. If I'm in girl mode and someone calls me mate or pal it feels odd. Or just use their name if you know it

If they are of the choose your own pronoun variety but didn't tell you that then you can't be expected to know.

The thing is...he's not actually wrong,is he?yes"

I dont wish to seem unduly critical but it is quite possible that, if people are not getting it, that it is only you who condiders that you are 'presenting as female'.

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By *ustJ0dieTV/TS over a year ago

Burton-on-Trent

"As many have said, address them as they're presenting. If I'm in girl mode and someone calls me mate or pal it feels odd. Or just use their name if you know it

If they are of the choose your own pronoun variety but didn't tell you that then you can't be expected to know.

The thing is...he's not actually wrong,is he?"

Err....yes, he is.

Gender isn't defined by clothes. And unless said person has been living in a media vacuum for the past few years then they can't possibly be that ignorant, and are more likely just being passive/aggressively offensive.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

seper
"As many have said, address them as they're presenting. If I'm in girl mode and someone calls me mate or pal it feels odd. Or just use their name if you know it

If they are of the choose your own pronoun variety but didn't tell you that then you can't be expected to know.

The thing is...he's not actually wrong,is he?

Err....yes, he is.

You know and I know ,that gender is not defined by clothes but that guy is perceiving "person with penis..i.e. 'man' ".That will be what leads them to use the pronouns 'he' 'him' or 'his'.

You can convince yoirself all you like that you are 'presenting female' but,It's obviously lost on some people and,if they are perceiving "person with penis" and you want them to perceive otherwise then,I'm sorry but,it's up to you to give that impression

not for others to change the way they perceive you.

Like I said,first impressions count for a lot.You only have a split second to make that impression and you dont get a second chance,it's almost impossible to change someones mind once they have formed that impression.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think it depends on how much effort you goto to present yourself in female mode for instance if you just throw on a dress and don't bother shaving face and body hair don't expect everyone to address you as miss or young lady and then get bent out of shape when someone calls you mate,pal sir or Mr but that's my humble opinion and I have been to bars and clubs where guys have not put in the effort to feminise

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By *loria JamesTV/TS over a year ago

Durham

"As many have said, address them as they're presenting. If I'm in girl mode and someone calls me mate or pal it feels odd. Or just use their name if you know it

If they are of the choose your own pronoun variety but didn't tell you that then you can't be expected to know.

The thing is...he's not actually wrong,is he?yes

I dont wish to seem unduly critical but it is quite possible that, if people are not getting it, that it is only you who condiders that you are 'presenting as female'."

So only pretty girls deserve respect?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As many have said, address them as they're presenting. If I'm in girl mode and someone calls me mate or pal it feels odd. Or just use their name if you know it

If they are of the choose your own pronoun variety but didn't tell you that then you can't be expected to know.

The thing is...he's not actually wrong,is he?yes

I dont wish to seem unduly critical but it is quite possible that, if people are not getting it, that it is only you who condiders that you are 'presenting as female'.

So only pretty girls deserve respect?"

What a silly comment.

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By *abrielle247Couple (FF) over a year ago

PDI Gran Canaria

The vast majority get it, that's it rude and disrespectful but a few just like to be confrontational in their view's on anything to do with transgender issues.

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By *loria JamesTV/TS over a year ago

Durham

Simple manners and respect cost nothing, I have no time for those that don't.

Guys can show respect and manners without kowtowing to the whims and fancies of the Little Britain Brigade

Welcome back Mara. I was only thinking the other day how non controversial these threads have been for a while. Missed your input xx

Well Rachel as said plenty of we Transgendered folks dont have our heads stuck up our bottoms and accept the Guys just as they are...

It appears your are pretty much alone in your opinion on how we should accept guys just as they are, Mara.

I have given the Guys good advice based on decades of experience as a Transgendered person...

Experience you lack, and it oft shows in your lengthy docuementaries on forums..."

Hunni i cant get over the size of your ego, you seem to think you are right on every subject even though you are in a minority of one.

You come in here screaming for attention, and come across as a typical chat room bully who lacks even the basic social skills.

God only knows why you think anyone would take advice from you.

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By *ustJ0dieTV/TS over a year ago

Burton-on-Trent

"seperAs many have said, address them as they're presenting. If I'm in girl mode and someone calls me mate or pal it feels odd. Or just use their name if you know it

If they are of the choose your own pronoun variety but didn't tell you that then you can't be expected to know.

The thing is...he's not actually wrong,is he?

Err....yes, he is.

You know and I know ,that gender is not defined by clothes but that guy is perceiving "person with penis..i.e. 'man' ".That will be what leads them to use the pronouns 'he' 'him' or 'his'.

not for others to change the way they perceive you.

It's not for them to change the way they perceive you, no. But perhaps instead of jumping in and getting it wrong, the person asks "how do you like to be addressed?" instead.

That would be refreshing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Everyone deserves respect the post is about how you want to be perceived and addressed when dressed

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"seperAs many have said, address them as they're presenting. If I'm in girl mode and someone calls me mate or pal it feels odd. Or just use their name if you know it

If they are of the choose your own pronoun variety but didn't tell you that then you can't be expected to know.

The thing is...he's not actually wrong,is he?

Err....yes, he is.

You know and I know ,that gender is not defined by clothes but that guy is perceiving "person with penis..i.e. 'man' ".That will be what leads them to use the pronouns 'he' 'him' or 'his'.

not for others to change the way they perceive you.

It's not for them to change the way they perceive you, no. But perhaps instead of jumping in and getting it wrong, the person asks "how do you like to be addressed?" instead.

That would be refreshing.

"
I always ask how would u like me to address u before I meet someone as it cuts out any awkward moment

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"seperAs many have said, address them as they're presenting. If I'm in girl mode and someone calls me mate or pal it feels odd. Or just use their name if you know it

If they are of the choose your own pronoun variety but didn't tell you that then you can't be expected to know.

The thing is...he's not actually wrong,is he?

Err....yes, he is.

You know and I know ,that gender is not defined by clothes but that guy is perceiving "person with penis..i.e. 'man' ".That will be what leads them to use the pronouns 'he' 'him' or 'his'.

not for others to change the way they perceive you.

It's not for them to change the way they perceive you, no. But perhaps instead of jumping in and getting it wrong, the person asks "how do you like to be addressed?" instead.

That would be refreshing.

You do realise of course is,that by wishing for people who perceive you as male to address you as female,you are asking for a fundamental sea change in commonly used language? Quite frankly,it's not me you need to be trying to convince (you're pretty much preaching to the converted with me), it's average Joe Public.

You're going to need some pretty good arguments to change popular opinion to your way of thinking.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"seperAs many have said, address them as they're presenting. If I'm in girl mode and someone calls me mate or pal it feels odd. Or just use their name if you know it

If they are of the choose your own pronoun variety but didn't tell you that then you can't be expected to know.

The thing is...he's not actually wrong,is he?

Err....yes, he is.

You know and I know ,that gender is not defined by clothes but that guy is perceiving "person with penis..i.e. 'man' ".That will be what leads them to use the pronouns 'he' 'him' or 'his'.

not for others to change the way they perceive you.

It's not for them to change the way they perceive you, no. But perhaps instead of jumping in and getting it wrong, the person asks "how do you like to be addressed?" instead.

That would be refreshing.

It's also pretty unlikely to happen,as a matter of course in general conversation.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"seperAs many have said, address them as they're presenting. If I'm in girl mode and someone calls me mate or pal it feels odd. Or just use their name if you know it

If they are of the choose your own pronoun variety but didn't tell you that then you can't be expected to know.

The thing is...he's not actually wrong,is he?

Err....yes, he is.

You know and I know ,that gender is not defined by clothes but that guy is perceiving "person with penis..i.e. 'man' ".That will be what leads them to use the pronouns 'he' 'him' or 'his'.

not for others to change the way they perceive you.

It's not for them to change the way they perceive you, no. But perhaps instead of jumping in and getting it wrong, the person asks "how do you like to be addressed?" instead.

That would be refreshing.

You're going to need some pretty good arguments to change popular opinion to your way of thinking."
nasty I look at you and automatically think lady I look at some others and I don't know how I would address them if I hadn't talked to them before that's why communication is key maybe the cd TV TS tgshould inniciate how they want to be addressed by simply saying something along the lines hi I'm so and so but you can call me so and so tonight or am I over complicating it

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By *ustJ0dieTV/TS over a year ago

Burton-on-Trent

"seperAs many have said, address them as they're presenting. If I'm in girl mode and someone calls me mate or pal it feels odd. Or just use their name if you know it

If they are of the choose your own pronoun variety but didn't tell you that then you can't be expected to know.

The thing is...he's not actually wrong,is he?

Err....yes, he is.

You know and I know ,that gender is not defined by clothes but that guy is perceiving "person with penis..i.e. 'man' ".That will be what leads them to use the pronouns 'he' 'him' or 'his'.

not for others to change the way they perceive you.

It's not for them to change the way they perceive you, no. But perhaps instead of jumping in and getting it wrong, the person asks "how do you like to be addressed?" instead.

That would be refreshing.

You're going to need some pretty good arguments to change popular opinion to your way of thinking."

Yes well, why trans people are in the same place now as gay people in the 70's is an entirely different thread.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"seperAs many have said, address them as they're presenting. If I'm in girl mode and someone calls me mate or pal it feels odd. Or just use their name if you know it

If they are of the choose your own pronoun variety but didn't tell you that then you can't be expected to know.

The thing is...he's not actually wrong,is he?

Err....yes, he is.

You know and I know ,that gender is not defined by clothes but that guy is perceiving "person with penis..i.e. 'man' ".That will be what leads them to use the pronouns 'he' 'him' or 'his'.

not for others to change the way they perceive you.

It's not for them to change the way they perceive you, no. But perhaps instead of jumping in and getting it wrong, the person asks "how do you like to be addressed?" instead.

That would be refreshing.

You're going to need some pretty good arguments to change popular opinion to your way of thinking.nasty I look at you and automatically think lady I look at some others and I don't know how I would address them if I hadn't talked to them before that's why communication is key maybe the cd TV TS tgshould inniciate how they want to be addressed by simply saying something along the lines hi I'm so and so but you can call me so and so tonight or am I over complicating it"

Exactly, if a person wants to be addressed differently to how other people perceive them then the onus is on them to ask,not for the beholder to suspend their perception.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My advice stands for the guys, if you come across a Tran that demands titles such as she and her, wants you to kowtow to her whims, gets angry...

Then move on as s they got issues, theres plenty of we Transgendered folks that are down to earth that will accept you just as you are...

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By *parkle......Woman over a year ago

Staffordshire

Penis - male

Vagina - Female

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By *ustJ0dieTV/TS over a year ago

Burton-on-Trent

"Penis - male

Vagina - Female

As I said. 1970's.

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By *heangelWoman over a year ago

wonderland

"Penis - male

Vagina - Female

Are you serious

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By *heangelWoman over a year ago

wonderland

I have lots of friends and when my friends are glammed up just like me we are princesses together

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

Occam's razor generally applies - the simplest explanation will usually apply.

You meet someone who's presenting as a guy or woman: refer to them in the relevant way that you've probably been learning to, ever since you were born.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Penis - male

Vagina - Female

I do love that you named yourself after the biggest transgender pride in the world.

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By *inkyChrissy99TV/TS over a year ago

Bristol

I guess there will always be those that wanna make a point of being rude, that applies when out aswell.

I have never encountered it but know plenty that have.

Try to take it for wot it is, poorly educated narrow minded people that have no idea how hurtful they are being and move on.

The world is changing but it won't happen overnight.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Simple manners and respect cost nothing, I have no time for those that don't.

Guys can show respect and manners without kowtowing to the whims and fancies of the Little Britain Brigade

Welcome back Mara. I was only thinking the other day how non controversial these threads have been for a while. Missed your input xx

Well Rachel as said plenty of we Transgendered folks dont have our heads stuck up our bottoms and accept the Guys just as they are...

It appears your are pretty much alone in your opinion on how we should accept guys just as they are, Mara.

I have given the Guys good advice based on decades of experience as a Transgendered person...

Experience you lack, and it oft shows in your lengthy docuementaries on forums..."

Sweetheart, I’ve been transgender all my life. You may look a lot older than me but I’m actual fact there is little between us.

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By *parkle......Woman over a year ago

Staffordshire

"Penis - male

Vagina - Female

I do love that you named yourself after the biggest transgender pride in the world.

Sparkle - to shine or glisten with little gleams of light, as a brilliant gem; glitter; coruscate.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Simple manners and respect cost nothing, I have no time for those that don't.

Guys can show respect and manners without kowtowing to the whims and fancies of the Little Britain Brigade

Welcome back Mara. I was only thinking the other day how non controversial these threads have been for a while. Missed your input xx

Well Rachel as said plenty of we Transgendered folks dont have our heads stuck up our bottoms and accept the Guys just as they are...

It appears your are pretty much alone in your opinion on how we should accept guys just as they are, Mara.

I have given the Guys good advice based on decades of experience as a Transgendered person...

Experience you lack, and it oft shows in your lengthy docuementaries on forums...

Sweetheart, I’ve been transgender all my life. You may look a lot older than me but I’m actual fact there is little between us. "

You have not, until recently you presented yourself to me and others as a man, forum rules forbid me from going into details,

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By *abrielle247Couple (FF) over a year ago

PDI Gran Canaria

"My advice stands for the guys, if you come across a Tran that demands titles such as she and her, wants you to kowtow to her whims, gets angry...

Then move on as s they got issues, theres plenty of we Transgendered folks that are down to earth that will accept you just as you are..."

I think your just coming across as very desperate and obviously have no respect for yourself too.

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By *abrielle247Couple (FF) over a year ago

PDI Gran Canaria

"Penis - male

Vagina - Female

I do love that you named yourself after the biggest transgender pride in the world.

Sparkle - to shine or glisten with little gleams of light, as a brilliant gem; glitter; coruscate."

So why sparkle ?