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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi. This is a joint account with me and my partner and he has left me in charge of all initial contact. I have sent a message to a few women on here and he isn't happy with it. The part he doesn't like is
"He would probably want to meet u alone knowing him but it's agreed that we would only meet as a 3sum at all times."
He says it looks like he's going to try and pester women to meet alone for fun. I said it's to see if they really want a 3sum as some women like to take what other women have and if they suggest a single meet they aren't what we are looking for.
How does the sentence read to you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi. This is a joint account with me and my partner and he has left me in charge of all initial contact. I have sent a message to a few women on here and he isn't happy with it. The part he doesn't like is
"He would probably want to meet u alone knowing him but it's agreed that we would only meet as a 3sum at all times."
He says it looks like he's going to try and pester women to meet alone for fun. I said it's to see if they really want a 3sum as some women like to take what other women have and if they suggest a single meet they aren't what we are looking for.
How does the sentence read to you?"
I'd make it clear on your profile you're only after threesomes, aiming you already haven't, rather than that in a message. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It reads like you don't trust him. "
I would assume a couple contacting me would be meeting as a couple. I would question why you would include that in a message ie has he done it before and now you are warning me off. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
I think there are a lot better ways to say the same thing but worded differently.
All you really need is a line in the message, as well as on your profile, that says something along the lines of "We're only interested in meeting as a couple" - which covers it from all angles.
The way you have it would probably put a lot of people off as it infers your other half will likely try to meet them on his own, or even that this is actually a guy hiding behind a couples profile to get meets, despite you saying otherwise on both counts. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It makes it sound like he wants 1on1 meets but you don't want him to... and tbh if anyone you message reads this post I would think it is very likely to put them off meeting you, what with the remark about some women wanting what other women have! That just makes me think that swinging in any capacity is not for you  |
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"It reads like you don't trust him.
I would assume a couple contacting me would be meeting as a couple. I would question why you would include that in a message ie has he done it before and now you are warning me off. "
I agree - I’d run a mile because it sounds like there are trust issues & that not everything is good between you |
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