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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

Why is it you message someone a detailed/good conversation, to get back two or maybe four word reply’s if you are lucky lol

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Why is it you message someone a detailed/good conversation, to get back two or maybe four word reply’s if you are lucky lol"

Maybe they prefer it if people have profiles longer than the first message

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

1. They are not interested and trying to be polite.

2. They think you need to try harder and are making you work for there attention.

3. They’re rude shitlarks!

Take your pick

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By *luebell888Woman  over a year ago

Glasgow

Because whilst you are writing one they are answering 20

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Why is it you message someone a detailed/good conversation, to get back two or maybe four word reply’s if you are lucky lol"

Not sure

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

They’re probably chatting with ten people at once lol

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By *SAchickWoman  over a year ago

Hillside desolate

They're just not that into you.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Why is it you message someone a detailed/good conversation, to get back two or maybe four word reply’s if you are lucky lol

Maybe they prefer it if people have profiles longer than the first message "

“Fill in later” always makes me laugh

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By *luebell888Woman  over a year ago

Glasgow


"Because whilst you are writing one they are answering 20"

And u moan if women dont reply and now you moaning that they do. Men on here have no idea how hard it is to keep up with the volume of messages women get

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By *luteguyMan  over a year ago

Here and There

They want you to show a bit more effort.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Cause they can

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"They want you to show a bit more effort. "

Instead of just showing your arse

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Because whilst you are writing one they are answering 20"

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Care to share a sample message ?

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By *luteguyMan  over a year ago

Here and There


"They want you to show a bit more effort.

Instead of just showing your arse "

Said one arse to another

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Because they have no brains.

Or, they are lazy.

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By *itty9899Man  over a year ago

Craggy Island

Ladies moan when Men give a one-four word message

Men moan women give back a one-four word response

Human = weird

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By *appytochatMan  over a year ago

Deep in the New Forest


"Why is it you message someone a detailed/good conversation, to get back two or maybe four word reply’s if you are lucky lol

Maybe they prefer it if people have profiles longer than the first message

“Fill in later” always makes me laugh"

Plus the ones that state they are new yet have been members of the site for over a year.

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By *ustalittleKinkWoman  over a year ago

in the shadows

Op you can exchange 150 messages and then all of a sudden they just stop replying. No one who's why. They just ghost you. Don't over think it and move on

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Because whilst you are writing one they are answering 20

And u moan if women dont reply and now you moaning that they do. Men on here have no idea how hard it is to keep up with the volume of messages women get"

Totally agree with this

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By *itty9899Man  over a year ago

Craggy Island


"Op you can exchange 150 messages and then all of a sudden they just stop replying. No one who's why. They just ghost you. Don't over think it and move on "

yeah! don't over think things you'll just make yourself crazy

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By *ustalittleKinkWoman  over a year ago

in the shadows


"Because whilst you are writing one they are answering 20

And u moan if women dont reply and now you moaning that they do. Men on here have no idea how hard it is to keep up with the volume of messages women get"

Not all women. Previous forum posts clarify with correct filters, even the best of profiles don't get huge amounts

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By *aughtybutniceBBWWoman  over a year ago

The County of Northamptonshire


"Because whilst you are writing one they are answering 20

And u moan if women dont reply and now you moaning that they do. Men on here have no idea how hard it is to keep up with the volume of messages women get

Not all women. Previous forum posts clarify with correct filters, even the best of profiles don't get huge amounts "

I wish I could filter more to stop unwanted messages. Height, smokers, distance etc, but sadly not. So I have yet to find out how to reduce messages to a manageable amount, where you could reply to every one.

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By *oxy_minxWoman  over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Why is it you message someone a detailed/good conversation, to get back two or maybe four word reply’s if you are lucky lol"

I'll be honest, if someone messages me and all they have is a less than detailed profile then I don't even look at the message.

I am fed up of men messaging me saying they love my profile and pics yet do not give me the same the courtesy of having the same in return, that is when I can't be arsed

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By *itty9899Man  over a year ago

Craggy Island


"Because whilst you are writing one they are answering 20

And u moan if women dont reply and now you moaning that they do. Men on here have no idea how hard it is to keep up with the volume of messages women get

Not all women. Previous forum posts clarify with correct filters, even the best of profiles don't get huge amounts

I wish I could filter more to stop unwanted messages. Height, smokers, distance etc, but sadly not. So I have yet to find out how to reduce messages to a manageable amount, where you could reply to every one. "

Why do some women feel the need to respond to every message?

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By *weet and Spicy69Couple  over a year ago

Northwest

Some are just bloody lazy lol.

I can't stand yes or no replies, bore off already

If they are lazy in a message probably lazy in bed too

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By *weet and Spicy69Couple  over a year ago

Northwest


"Because whilst you are writing one they are answering 20

And u moan if women dont reply and now you moaning that they do. Men on here have no idea how hard it is to keep up with the volume of messages women get

Not all women. Previous forum posts clarify with correct filters, even the best of profiles don't get huge amounts

I wish I could filter more to stop unwanted messages. Height, smokers, distance etc, but sadly not. So I have yet to find out how to reduce messages to a manageable amount, where you could reply to every one.

Why do some women feel the need to respond to every message?"

Sometimes it's just polite to say no thanks not interested, rather than just be rude and ignore them.

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By *oxy_minxWoman  over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Some are just bloody lazy lol.

I can't stand yes or no replies, bore off already

If they are lazy in a message probably lazy in bed too "

The same can be said about a lazy profile

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By *weet and Spicy69Couple  over a year ago

Northwest


"Some are just bloody lazy lol.

I can't stand yes or no replies, bore off already

If they are lazy in a message probably lazy in bed too

The same can be said about a lazy profile

"

And how is my profile lazy ?

Where is the fun in laying all your cards on the table???

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By *WKinkMan  over a year ago

Bury

Genuine question to the ladies but what’s your average weekly wink/message toll?

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By *weet and Spicy69Couple  over a year ago

Northwest


"Some are just bloody lazy lol.

I can't stand yes or no replies, bore off already

If they are lazy in a message probably lazy in bed too

The same can be said about a lazy profile

I would have been bored shitless reading all that to be honest.

My profile can't be that bad I have verifications where are yours love?

And how is my profile lazy ?

Where is the fun in laying all your cards on the table??? "

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By *attoo manMan  over a year ago

Rhyl


"Because whilst you are writing one they are answering 20"

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I’ve become very aware that there is an intense dislike amongst single men for ignoring messages. We don’t like offending people, so we will try to answer messages where an effort has been made. But as we aren’t looking to meet privately, we will answer briefly so as not to lead anyone on.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Some are just bloody lazy lol.

I can't stand yes or no replies, bore off already

If they are lazy in a message probably lazy in bed too "

I can't agree with that. I get brain tired staring at my screen. In bed, I'm a she devil

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Some are just bloody lazy lol.

I can't stand yes or no replies, bore off already

If they are lazy in a message probably lazy in bed too

The same can be said about a lazy profile "

Have to disagree with this too. My profile is shit. In bed I'm steaming hot.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Some are just bloody lazy lol.

I can't stand yes or no replies, bore off already

If they are lazy in a message probably lazy in bed too

I can't agree with that. I get brain tired staring at my screen. In bed, I'm a she devil "

Us too. We’re lazy with Fab messaging. Can’t be arsed, don’t enjoy it. Probably been using Fab too long. We’re better in person.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Why is it you message someone a detailed/good conversation, to get back two or maybe four word reply’s if you are lucky lol"

Was it ' thanls but no thanks '

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By *oxy_minxWoman  over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Some are just bloody lazy lol.

I can't stand yes or no replies, bore off already

If they are lazy in a message probably lazy in bed too

The same can be said about a lazy profile

And how is my profile lazy ?

Where is the fun in laying all your cards on the table??? "

1) It wasn't in reply to your profile it was in reply to your post!

2) Should it not be 'our' profile? Not 'my', just an observation.

I was saying if someone messages me with a 1 liner profile and 1 public picture then I can not be arsed going out of my way to look any further, so if someone can't be arsed constructing a well defined profile that tells me something about them as a person then neither can I, it is quite simple in my view

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Why is it you message someone a detailed/good conversation, to get back two or maybe four word reply’s if you are lucky lol"

Perhaps your message isn't as detailed or as a good a conversation as you believe

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By *weet and Spicy69Couple  over a year ago

Northwest


"Some are just bloody lazy lol.

I can't stand yes or no replies, bore off already

If they are lazy in a message probably lazy in bed too

The same can be said about a lazy profile

Have to disagree with this too. My profile is shit. In bed I'm steaming hot. "

Hahaha sod the profile it's more fun finding things out than reading it

I couldn't be arsed reading an essay on a profile, ( yes I get bored quick ) all the doo's and don'ts ' and the one offs are not for me, you are on a swinging site not a dating site jeez try plenty of fish

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Why is it you message someone a detailed/good conversation, to get back two or maybe four word reply’s if you are lucky lol"

Was it ' thanks but no thanks '

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By *weet and Spicy69Couple  over a year ago

Northwest


"Some are just bloody lazy lol.

I can't stand yes or no replies, bore off already

If they are lazy in a message probably lazy in bed too

The same can be said about a lazy profile

And how is my profile lazy ?

Where is the fun in laying all your cards on the table???

1) It wasn't in reply to your profile it was in reply to your post!

2) Should it not be 'our' profile? Not 'my', just an observation.

I was saying if someone messages me with a 1 liner profile and 1 public picture then I can not be arsed going out of my way to look any further, so if someone can't be arsed constructing a well defined profile that tells me something about them as a person then neither can I, it is quite simple in my view

"

Nothing better to do clearly

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By *oxy_minxWoman  over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Some are just bloody lazy lol.

I can't stand yes or no replies, bore off already

If they are lazy in a message probably lazy in bed too

The same can be said about a lazy profile

And how is my profile lazy ?

Where is the fun in laying all your cards on the table???

1) It wasn't in reply to your profile it was in reply to your post!

2) Should it not be 'our' profile? Not 'my', just an observation.

I was saying if someone messages me with a 1 liner profile and 1 public picture then I can not be arsed going out of my way to look any further, so if someone can't be arsed constructing a well defined profile that tells me something about them as a person then neither can I, it is quite simple in my view

Nothing better to do clearly "

Obviously *yawn*

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By *errysMan  over a year ago

milton keynes and kent

I learnt this a couple of years ago.

I used to only write to those whose profile i matched and got one reply, after a few tries at getting a meet i decided it must have been a wind up.

Its just the way it is.

Just send a short message to say hi or a wink, if they are interested in you, they will reply.

Oh by the way this method doesnt work either lol :-

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By *izzy.Woman  over a year ago

Stoke area


"Why is it you message someone a detailed/good conversation, to get back two or maybe four word reply’s if you are lucky lol"

Because they look at your profile and have nothing to discuss or chat about. You should be grateful that you got a reply in the first place

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Why is it you message someone a detailed/good conversation, to get back two or maybe four word reply’s if you are lucky lol"

I stopped chatting to females and couples for this very reason x

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By *omesticated_VixenWoman  over a year ago

sw London

Sometimes i'll just not be in a chatty mood, but don't like to ignore someone if I've been previously chatting, so i'll reply but maybe not with total enthusiasm.

However if they are the ones that messaged me in the first place, then I kind of expect them to make the effort of starting a conversation, sometimes they need reminding of this! And don't go straight to the "what are you wearing now?" message, after the initial one

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By *sGivesWoodWoman  over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Sometimes i'll just not be in a chatty mood, but don't like to ignore someone if I've been previously chatting, so i'll reply but maybe not with total enthusiasm.

However if they are the ones that messaged me in the first place, then I kind of expect them to make the effort of starting a conversation, sometimes they need reminding of this! And don't go straight to the "what are you wearing now?" message, after the initial one "

I tell them exactly what I'm wearing eg pj's slippers dressing gown, Trackie bottoms tshirt jumper etc.

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By *CanDoThisAllDayCouple  over a year ago

Telford


"Because whilst you are writing one they are answering 20"

DING DING DING!

Single men may get one or two messages a week if they are lucky.

Couples can get so many more... in fact when we have pics in the top 10, we have had over 1000 messages on a 24 hour period.

So that makes it a little more of a challenge to reply no? C x

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Why is it you message someone a detailed/good conversation, to get back two or maybe four word reply’s if you are lucky lol"

1 photo

1 line profile.

Enough said to be honest

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By *CanDoThisAllDayCouple  over a year ago

Telford


"Why is it you message someone a detailed/good conversation, to get back two or maybe four word reply’s if you are lucky lol

1 photo

1 line profile.

Enough said to be honest "

Bugger me, missed this haha!

Its a single line written by what looks like an 11 year old! That’s good! C x

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By *orticiaWoman  over a year ago

Wirral


"Why is it you message someone a detailed/good conversation, to get back two or maybe four word reply’s if you are lucky lol

1 photo

1 line profile.

Enough said to be honest "

Totally this!!

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple  over a year ago

South Wales


"Some are just bloody lazy lol.

I can't stand yes or no replies, bore off already

If they are lazy in a message probably lazy in bed too

The same can be said about a lazy profile

Have to disagree with this too. My profile is shit. In bed I'm steaming hot.

Hahaha sod the profile it's more fun finding things out than reading it

I couldn't be arsed reading an essay on a profile, ( yes I get bored quick ) all the doo's and don'ts ' and the one offs are not for me, you are on a swinging site not a dating site jeez try plenty of fish "

And if you don't just want to shag anything with a pulse? What about if yoy want to find quality sex partners but can't be bothered with fucking clueless drongos in your quest to find quality.

For a lot of people swinging is about quality not quantity. But if quantity over quality is your thang, fill your boots.

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