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Is there any point?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Been on & off Fab over the years but generally come to the same conclusion- it’s really hard to meet someone as a single fella here. Obviously there are more men than women so there’s more competition & it probably doesn’t help that I can be fussy too. Maybe I’d be better sleeping with half the site & getting loads of verifications lol not my style though.

Anyway I’ll end that rant with a question lol. Is there any way to stand out as a single man on this apart from being respectful & verified?

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By *kyblue1878Couple over a year ago

Southport

Your pictures are fine and profile polite albeit a little brief but you're only looking to meet single ladies so the obvious question would be 'why bother with a site for swingers?'

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

An engaging profile, that draws the reader in, is also helpful. There are many that just state facts. Injecting a little personality into the text is never a bad thing. You have good pictures OP

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

2 “look at me” threads in 2 days OP,....... maybe you’ll be successful third time lucky

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"2 “look at me” threads in 2 days OP,....... maybe you’ll be successful third time lucky "

Maybe I will guess we’ll find out tomorrow

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"Your pictures are fine and profile polite albeit a little brief but you're only looking to meet single ladies so the obvious question would be 'why bother with a site for swingers?' "

Can only people who want to play with couples be on a swinging site?

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By *loswingersCouple over a year ago

Gloucester

"Been on & off Fab over the years but generally come to the same conclusion- it’s really hard to meet someone as a single fella here. Obviously there are more men than women so there’s more competition & it probably doesn’t help that I can be fussy too. Maybe I’d be better sleeping with half the site & getting loads of verifications lol not my style though.

Anyway I’ll end that rant with a question lol. Is there any way to stand out as a single man on this apart from being respectful & verified?"

Maybe you would be better to sleep with half the site & getting loads of verifications ? Try it , change your style , risk it and see what it’s like to have that much fun . Who knows , you might like it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wondering whether you should sleep with half the site as a solution to whatever your problem is with Fab! Wow, what a nice dilemma to have! So many guys can’t get any meets, let alone have the option of sleeping with half the site!

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Be funny.

I never took my single profile seriously and it seemed to work. And I completely failed at following the whole go to clubs advice.

And also I’d suggest getting social meets (with veris). I got told by other gals I met with they preferred seeing this.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Be funny.

I never took my single profile seriously and it seemed to work. And I completely failed at following the whole go to clubs advice.

And also I’d suggest getting social meets (with veris). I got told by other gals I met with they preferred seeing this. "

Yeah I prefer social meets 1st & stated that in my profile when I set it up, seems like webcam chats are more likely so far. I’m not aware of any clubs in N.Ireland so thats not an option for me unfortunately anyway.

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By *izzy.Woman over a year ago

Stoke area

You say in your profile what you want....lady without boyfriend, big tits whatever .....but not much about what you offer. Why should a single lady choose you , rather than other men who message her ?

There are lots of threads about improving your profile or sending first messages, use the search facility to get some tips .

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By *hubaysiWoman over a year ago

Leeds

"Your pictures are fine and profile polite albeit a little brief but you're only looking to meet single ladies so the obvious question would be 'why bother with a site for swingers?'

Can only people who want to play with couples be on a swinging site?"

Can single men be ‘swingers’ or just play things for females and couples? Why do single men join a swinging site? Aren’t ‘swingers’ traditionally couples?

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By *izzy.Woman over a year ago

Stoke area

"Your pictures are fine and profile polite albeit a little brief but you're only looking to meet single ladies so the obvious question would be 'why bother with a site for swingers?'

Can only people who want to play with couples be on a swinging site?

Can single men be ‘swingers’ or just play things for females and couples? Why do single men join a swinging site? Aren’t ‘swingers’ traditionally couples? "

In the old days when people put their keys in a bowl maybe.

I am a single lady who enjoys the lifestyle. The freedom and atmosphere in club's , the chance to enjoy sexual activities with others and chat openly about sex. This site would be very limited if it was just couples .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Your pictures are fine and profile polite albeit a little brief but you're only looking to meet single ladies so the obvious question would be 'why bother with a site for swingers?'

Can only people who want to play with couples be on a swinging site?

Can single men be ‘swingers’ or just play things for females and couples? Why do single men join a swinging site? Aren’t ‘swingers’ traditionally couples?

In the old days when people put their keys in a bowl maybe.

Swinging is very limiting if it’s just about couples. But it’s also limiting to only want to play with singles, and the OP is limiting himself hugely by wanting to attend swing parties and only play with single women who don’t have boyfriends.

Mrs

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple over a year ago

South Wales

"Your pictures are fine and profile polite albeit a little brief but you're only looking to meet single ladies so the obvious question would be 'why bother with a site for swingers?' "

Fair point.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Anyway I’ll end that rant with a question lol. Is there any way to stand out as a single man on this apart from being respectful & verified?"

If you can’t get a meet how are you going to sleep with half the sight for your verifications?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Been here two weeks and had one meet already?

And you're moaning?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I get a few looks but hardly any winks, never get definite interested folks. Is my profile too long? Pics show too much? Mmm dumfounded member in Bradford x Darren

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I get a few looks but hardly any winks, never get definite interested folks. Is my profile too long? Pics show too much? Mmm dumfounded member in Bradford x Darren

This will sound mean but is meant to help...

Typo in the first line. Talks about being married. Sounds needy in wanting to be chased. Not sure what the never had an mff is for but makes us think you’re here for box ticking. We stopped reading there ... sorry !

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

As was mentioned, if you limit what you’re looking for and what you’re looking for is in limited supply then it logically follows that your chances are going to be limited.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple over a year ago

Slough

"Your pictures are fine and profile polite albeit a little brief but you're only looking to meet single ladies so the obvious question would be 'why bother with a site for swingers?' "

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By *oodnitegirlWoman over a year ago

Yorkshire

I assume your location doesn’t help you much either. I’ve heard a few times that the swinging scene in Ireland is much tougher than the other 3 countries.

Also, no need to write the catty statement about folk having lots of veris. A lot are social meets

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By *izzy.Woman over a year ago

Stoke area

"I get a few looks but hardly any winks, never get definite interested folks. Is my profile too long? Pics show too much? Mmm dumfounded member in Bradford x Darren

Firstly you shouldn't hijack someone else's post. Starting your own is preferable.

Too many cock photos. Yes you have a cock...thats useful..but most ladies prefer a decent body and personality and the dick pics suggest that this is what you think is more important.

There is some humour in the profile, but maybe make it a little briefer. Text not too bad though. Get along to a club to meet people far easier.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple over a year ago

Halifax

Try a club or social op

Use the forums and chat to others there.

It's not only hard for single men,couples struggle too (getting 4 way attraction ,and availability etc).

It's not often many take our fancy these days ,so we use the forums and attend clubs or socials.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Just to clear it up, my only verification from meeting someone on this was from a while back on an old profile- I haven’t met anyone face to face since signing up to Fab again.

Also I probably didn’t choose my words right saying ‘should I sleep with half the site?’ as the offer isn’t there anyway lol. What I meant was should I sleep with just anyone to get verifications but it’s a silly question.

In hindsight I probably shouldn’t have started this post at all- frustration must have got the better of me yesterday! I haven’t had any messages from women I fancy in my country on this but I’ve probably been more fortunate than most single fellas getting messages as all going by other threads so I can’t complain. Interesting seeing it from a woman’s perspective on the forums too & how they get 100s of messages every day, makes me understand more from their point of view & why there isn’t so many replies. Reminds me I’ve got a lot to learn on here!

Anyway thanks to those who posted constructive feed back. Enjoying getting chatting to new people on the forums so far

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And now your profile is hidden?

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By *bwlookingforfunWoman over a year ago

crawley

I meet only single guys really. Couples are not my thing. Very rare.

I cant see your profile as its hidden so cant say much, but i would reply if i knew guy read my profile.

If there is a spark after few msgs, you can look like a gremlin, ill still go for it.

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