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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

We've been trying to create Marie's wish for an MMMMMF (ourselves and four other single guys) three times now over the last few weeks.

Each time we've found the guys several days in advance, good verifications. Each one claiming to be reliable etc.

Of those three times, across a total of fourteen different guys, thirteen of them have bailed out in the 24 hours prior to the meet.

So, any tips for finding guys that are actually going to show? Should we just look on the day rather than in advance?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Well, I can see why guys would be attracted to being with Marie - but the idea of being with a large group of naked men wouldn’t appeal to me at all.

Single women and couples also have a habit of bailing out at the last minute, I’ve found. It is odd though, given the limited amount of opportunity for meets as a ‘single guy’ you’d think that they would ‘stay in the game’, once an agreed opportunity arose.

I’ve had to postpone before (developed a cold) but never cancelled a meet.

Maybe the gangbang scenario works well as a bit of porn in their heads but in the cold light of day they realise they will just be naked and wanking with a group of men with minimal and competitive direct interaction with Marie?

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By *itty9899Man  over a year ago

Craggy Island


"We've been trying to create Marie's wish for an MMMMMF (ourselves and four other single guys) three times now over the last few weeks.

Each time we've found the guys several days in advance, good verifications. Each one claiming to be reliable etc.

Of those three times, across a total of fourteen different guys, thirteen of them have bailed out in the 24 hours prior to the meet.

So, any tips for finding guys that are actually going to show? Should we just look on the day rather than in advance? "

You should try a club?

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By *rHornyGentMan  over a year ago

South East London

Could be a whole host of reasons for bailing but the guy above has nailed a few.

I’ve found that you need to invite 4x the people you want to avoid disappointment. Keep pushing the event via status and posted meets.

Don’t know where you planned to hold it but a club might be better as people can do other things before and afterwards.

Personally I’ve been to a few of these events and prefer them to be full sex and come over / in the lady rather than stand and wank. Not keen on the lads who barge in front saying I’m coming then stand for ages...

Good luck guys and hope this works for you.

MHG x

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By *plpxp2Couple  over a year ago

Middlesbrough

We've managed to meet an established group of guys over in York some years ago, that worked well I have t say.

Since then we've found the best way to have a number of single guys is in a club, always willing volunteers to step up to the mark and you don't waste valuable playtime.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

Thanks all. A club is always Plan B, so tonight we're at Quest and hopefully we can make it happen there if there's enough guys Marie likes!

Its always the full-sex version of a meet, not just a wank-and-point! Marie likes the feeling of being able to satisfy a few guys.

We have wondered if these guys are just scared of the scenario when it becomes real.

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By *rHornyGentMan  over a year ago

South East London


"Thanks all. A club is always Plan B, so tonight we're at Quest and hopefully we can make it happen there if there's enough guys Marie likes!

Its always the full-sex version of a meet, not just a wank-and-point! Marie likes the feeling of being able to satisfy a few guys.

We have wondered if these guys are just scared of the scenario when it becomes real.

"

With the checks you make regarding being real and well verified then it’s odd that most of them bailed out. Do let me know if you get down this way

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple  over a year ago

luton

Wish we could find women in this area up for this. My wife said she would think about it, if there were enough guys at club that she liked

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"We've been trying to create Marie's wish for an MMMMMF (ourselves and four other single guys) three times now over the last few weeks.

Each time we've found the guys several days in advance, good verifications. Each one claiming to

Of those three times, across a total of fourteen different guys, thirteen of them have bailed out in the 24 hours prior to the meet.

So, any tips for finding guys that are actually going to show? Should we just look on the day rather than in advance? "

Try married men

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By *offee with MilkCouple  over a year ago

Over the roundabout and then turn right.


"We've been trying to create Marie's wish for an MMMMMF (ourselves and four other single guys) three times now over the last few weeks.

Each time we've found the guys several days in advance, good verifications. Each one claiming to be reliable etc.

Of those three times, across a total of fourteen different guys, thirteen of them have bailed out in the 24 hours prior to the meet.

So, any tips for finding guys that are actually going to show? Should we just look on the day rather than in advance? "

You'd probably get more luck asking for bi guys even though it's a straight meet. These guys are already comfortable around other guys and less likely to bail out.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple  over a year ago

Slough

There are various established groups of men who have a track record of turning up and delivering. I'd locate on of their organisers if i were you.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

A couple of points, if I may.

Some of the answers on this thread remind of why swinging has gone down hill over the last two decades. Guys that aren't prepared to meet in mfm or group situations. I think the vast majority these days are just looking for 121 meets. This very often goes for single females too.

Timing. This can play a big part. Most of the successful group fun I have helped organise or have taken part in, the most successful have been daytime meets, for whatever reason. That includes weekend daytime meets too.

Selection process. I don't know how you pick to match your criteria. But does it really matter what a guy looks like in a group situation? As long as he is clean, polite and respectful of your wishes and of course turns up. Your criteria works to a point because you seem to get enough interest, it's just the final result. Yes it's your fantasy, so you should play it how you want, I'm not saying that.

While single guys will always get a bashing and deservedly so in many cases, some of the blame has to come down to the selection process. Somewhere along the way you are picking the wrong guys, so some of the blame is partly yours too.

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By *tuartsCelloCouple  over a year ago

Bristol

We quite often arrange to meet single guys in clubs and the show up rate is dismal - luckily being in a club there is usually something else to do!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

feel free to add me to the reliability list please

travel not an issue

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By *andys manMan  over a year ago

colchester

But to be fair the same can be said for couples, me and my partner used to talk with 3 or 4 couples at once to arrange a meet, all for the same date in a hope that at least 1 couple would turn uo. If they all turned up then bonus but that never happened. So its not just the guys

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

We're picking guys with good verifications that tell us they are reliable, that have promises in their profiles saying "I always turn up".

There's nothing wrong with the selection process. I just expect a man to honour his word, and not pretend he's suddenly got work commitments or has food poisoning.

Sadly the verification system is inherently flawed, and you can't tell if a guys 6 great verifications should be counterbalanced by 17 no-shows.

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By *andys manMan  over a year ago

colchester


"We're picking guys with good verifications that tell us they are reliable, that have promises in their profiles saying "I always turn up".

There's nothing wrong with the selection process. I just expect a man to honour his word, and not pretend he's suddenly got work commitments or has food poisoning.

Sadly the verification system is inherently flawed, and you can't tell if a guys 6 great verifications should be counterbalanced by 17 no-shows.

"

To be fair i have a job that requires me to be available when the phone rings, i dont have a 9 to 5 so could be called off at anytime but to that end i wouldn't arrange to meet but i would say ill confirm nearer the time.just to put someone in the picture, but I've never let anyone down. Planning is a little short notice though

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I just think 4 guys one woman doesnt really fit ...too much testosterone they want to fuck not stand watching ..3 maybe better least you can have one in each hole haha..but agree clubs are better ..i host parties and guys are flakey as hell as they bottle it if they cant perform in front of people...you need experienced swingers not 1 to 1ers

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"We're picking guys with good verifications that tell us they are reliable, that have promises in their profiles saying "I always turn up".

There's nothing wrong with the selection process. I just expect a man to honour his word, and not pretend he's suddenly got work commitments or has food poisoning.

Sadly the verification system is inherently flawed, and you can't tell if a guys 6 great verifications should be counterbalanced by 17 no-shows.

"

Well there's part of your vetting process. Guys that say they always turn up are full of b/s. Nobody can always turn up. Personally I don't arrange to meet unless I am completely sure I can make it. Even then, real life sometimes comes into play. I've had people postpone on me on more than one occasion. But they are only postponements.

Do the guys have verifications from group meets? Or are they all 121, social or club verifications? Even cam? Do you chat to the guys over a phone? A good way of ing out those that aren't genuine.

Distance? If they have a long way to travel, then they are less likely to turn up.

As others have said, invite twice as many. If they all turn up, a bonus. There are many ways of finding 'genuine' guy's.

Obviously experience comes into it but to have 13/14 not turn up, something isn't right. Which comes down to the chosen guys.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"We've been trying to create Marie's wish for an MMMMMF (ourselves and four other single guys) three times now over the last few weeks.

Each time we've found the guys several days in advance, good verifications. Each one claiming to be reliable etc.

Of those three times, across a total of fourteen different guys, thirteen of them have bailed out in the 24 hours prior to the meet.

So, any tips for finding guys that are actually going to show? Should we just look on the day rather than in advance? "

depends on the guy I’ve met a few females and a couple last night so it’s just the person depending

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"We've been trying to create Marie's wish for an MMMMMF (ourselves and four other single guys) three times now over the last few weeks.

Each time we've found the guys several days in advance, good verifications. Each one claiming to be reliable etc.

Of those three times, across a total of fourteen different guys, thirteen of them have bailed out in the 24 hours prior to the meet.

So, any tips for finding guys that are actually going to show? Should we just look on the day rather than in advance?

You should try a club?"

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I just think 4 guys one woman doesnt really fit ...too much testosterone they want to fuck not stand watching ..3 maybe better least you can have one in each hole haha..but agree clubs are better ..i host parties and guys are flakey as hell as they bottle it if they cant perform in front of people...you need experienced swingers not 1 to 1ers"
I agree i am not much of watcher and been around lots of guys wanking round me and waiting my turn is a turn off for me

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Never not showed.

Never cancelled.

Don't get how some people can say yes and go back on their word

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan  over a year ago

Coventry

Dare i suggest maybe for a lot of guys they may like the fantasy of it or just the oppertunity to get laid and some attention. So say yes or activly volunteer. But then when they sit and think about in reality they only want a one on one or at least not having to share with so many other guys? It may simply not in reality offer them enough of what they are after to make the effort worth it. In affect (no offence) they work out it's a bad deal for them and they drop out.

Granted it's shit when people just don't turn up instead of explaining they are no longer in. But I think anyone on here has experienced that this behaviour is the norm when people change their minds.

Maybe look for guys who have varifications for multiple guy on woman sessions or just go to a club?

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

Yes, we're at Quest tonight, and hoping for the best. Fingers crossed.

But isn't the whole point of fab finding reliable people, arranging meets and having fun? Otherwise this is just Facebook...

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Yes, we're at Quest tonight, and hoping for the best. Fingers crossed.

But isn't the whole point of fab finding reliable people, arranging meets and having fun? Otherwise this is just Facebook... "

And there you have it!

I think for many this is Facebook naughty.

As I said previously, swinging has declined over the last two decades.

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By *he Happy ManMan  over a year ago

Merseyside


"We've been trying to create Marie's wish for an MMMMMF (ourselves and four other single guys) three times now over the last few weeks.

Each time we've found the guys several days in advance, good verifications. Each one claiming to be reliable etc.

Of those three times, across a total of fourteen different guys, thirteen of them have bailed out in the 24 hours prior to the meet.

So, any tips for finding guys that are actually going to show? Should we just look on the day rather than in advance? "

Sadly lots of guys will bottle it.

The rule is if you want 4 guys invite 8. If you want 8 guys invite 16 etc.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"We've been trying to create Marie's wish for an MMMMMF (ourselves and four other single guys) three times now over the last few weeks.

Each time we've found the guys several days in advance, good verifications. Each one claiming to be reliable etc.

Of those three times, across a total of fourteen different guys, thirteen of them have bailed out in the 24 hours prior to the meet.

So, any tips for finding guys that are actually going to show? Should we just look on the day rather than in advance?

Sadly lots of guys will bottle it.

The rule is if you want 4 guys invite 8. If you want 8 guys invite 16 etc. "

the only guys lucky with that if they have loads of friends not one or two friends

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Try looking for a different type of person. I get overlooked a lot but if I say I am going to meet then I will.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Same here, I get overlooked. But love gangbangs and threesomes.

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By *htcMan  over a year ago

MK

Dont be fussy. Invite everyone.

Similar thing for me held a few group meets most don't turn up or then don't reply. Why I now keep a tally of fakes and keep track of the good ones.

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By *oiluvfunMan  over a year ago

Penrith

The first threesome I took part in was supposed to be a MMMMF, but the other two guys didn’t turn up; I had my work cut out trying to be 3 guys (wife was blindfold), but gave it my all

Always invite more than you want, would be the best advice

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Does it really matter what a guy looks like in a group situation? As long as he is clean, polite and respectful of your wishes and of course turns up."

Yes it matters a lot to me! I wouldn't want to be having sex with or sucking the cock of anybody I didn't fancy. I'd like a group situation but because I struggle to even find one guy I fancy at a club then I think the group scenario will unfortunately just remain a fantasy for me.

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By *heHotwifePairCouple  over a year ago

South


"We've been trying to create Marie's wish for an MMMMMF (ourselves and four other single guys) three times now over the last few weeks.

Each time we've found the guys several days in advance, good verifications. Each one claiming to be reliable etc.

Of those three times, across a total of fourteen different guys, thirteen of them have bailed out in the 24 hours prior to the meet.

So, any tips for finding guys that are actually going to show? Should we just look on the day rather than in advance? "

We’ve had the same problem sort us know when you have an answer lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

Well last night the club solution worked for us. There were a few single guys that Marie liked, and we were able to have the MMMMF she has been craving! X

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Well last night the club solution worked for us. There were a few single guys that Marie liked, and we were able to have the MMMMF she has been craving! X"

Good to know that you finally had the fun you wanted!

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By *oiluvfunMan  over a year ago

Penrith


"Well last night the club solution worked for us. There were a few single guys that Marie liked, and we were able to have the MMMMF she has been craving! X"

I've definitely been going to the wrong clubs lol

Glad to hear you got sorted

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By *ancalotMan  over a year ago

notts

You make contact you show up

End ov

Nerves are never good but part of the fun!

100%attendance here

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By *oiluvfunMan  over a year ago

Penrith


"You make contact you show up

End ov

Nerves are never good but part of the fun!

100%attendance here"

Same here, it’s why I enjoy far more success with private meets than rolling the dice and visiting a club

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By *ife lover 101Man  over a year ago

Bromsgrove

I'm reliable and had great meets ...I'm not bragging when I say that lol

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By *Cocksucker84Man  over a year ago

newcastle


"We've been trying to create Marie's wish for an MMMMMF (ourselves and four other single guys) three times now over the last few weeks.

Each time we've found the guys several days in advance, good verifications. Each one claiming to be reliable etc.

Of those three times, across a total of fourteen different guys, thirteen of them have bailed out in the 24 hours prior to the meet.

So, any tips for finding guys that are actually going to show? Should we just look on the day rather than in advance? "

In my experience verifications mean fuck all. Some of the best meets I've had have been from new members and some of the biggest timewasters have been men with multiple verifications.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

It's not easy finding men for 1 on 1, let alone for a mmmmmf.

But I suppose it depends on how fussy you are, I sometimes think I have my standards set way too high, but I would rather go without than lower them.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"We've been trying to create Marie's wish for an MMMMMF (ourselves and four other single guys) three times now over the last few weeks.

Each time we've found the guys several days in advance, good verifications. Each one claiming to be reliable etc.

Of those three times, across a total of fourteen different guys, thirteen of them have bailed out in the 24 hours prior to the meet.

So, any tips for finding guys that are actually going to show? Should we just look on the day rather than in advance? "

We can help.. our parties are always well attended xx

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By *layfullsamMan  over a year ago

Solihull


"We've been trying to create Marie's wish for an MMMMMF (ourselves and four other single guys) three times now over the last few weeks.

Each time we've found the guys several days in advance, good verifications. Each one claiming to be reliable etc.

Of those three times, across a total of fourteen different guys, thirteen of them have bailed out in the 24 hours prior to the meet.

So, any tips for finding guys that are actually going to show? Should we just look on the day rather than in advance? "

I think the rule is to invite at least double the men you actually want or use a club

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

A lot of couples here think Single guys have not much to do except sit with a dick in their hands & Service women on drop of a hat

Sorry no

We have our own lives & regular jobs etc

Also single guys have option of Tinder good old vanilla dating where a lot of action is readily available and much younger women too...

In the end it also boils down on couples looks & overall attitude as well

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By *abioMan  over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"A lot of couples here think Single guys have not much to do except sit with a dick in their hands & Service women on drop of a hat

Sorry no

We have our own lives & regular jobs etc

"

i am really glad someone finally said this.... because all the white knighting going on in this thread was bordering on slavering....

the good guys aren't the ones complaining... they are already out there doing their reputations justice...

attracting people is a two way street... men have to attract the couples... but couples have to attract the men, so give them as many reasons as to why they should meet you, as much as these guys have gone about getting couples to meet them!

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By *orny andy yorkMan  over a year ago

york

When looking at a guys veris try to pick the ones who reguley attend group meets I m reliable but you’ve blocked me

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"We've been trying to create Marie's wish for an MMMMMF (ourselves and four other single guys) three times now over the last few weeks.

Each time we've found the guys several days in advance, good verifications. Each one claiming to be reliable etc.

Of those three times, across a total of fourteen different guys, thirteen of them have bailed out in the 24 hours prior to the meet.

So, any tips for finding guys that are actually going to show? Should we just look on the day rather than in advance? "

As a bi female seeking both male, couple and female meets I think couples are just as unreliable as single males. I'm about to get on a rant .......... this is one of the many posts in past week I've seen where couples are whinging about the difficulty with getting meets! Yes it's not easy for genuine people on here to arrange meets that actually go ahead but a lot of couples seem to think they're on some sort of pedestal and just expect people to jump at the chance of a meet. If people don't want to meet that's tough and if someone arranges a meet but pulls out/cancels as long as they've given you a day or so notice then that's life! Sometimes everyday stuff gets in the way!!

#rantover

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Well last night the club solution worked for us. There were a few single guys that Marie liked, and we were able to have the MMMMF she has been craving! X"

So many issues around this, but it looks like a club is the way to go. And maybe if you wanted to repeat the experience at yours, some or all of the same guys would attend (if you managed to get profile names) ?

Well done tho. I suspect, as we say to single guys, perseverance is the key too......

Great looking couple, by the way

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple  over a year ago

London


"A lot of couples here think Single guys have not much to do except sit with a dick in their hands & Service women on drop of a hat

Sorry no

We have our own lives & regular jobs etc

i am really glad someone finally said this.... because all the white knighting going on in this thread was bordering on slavering....

the good guys aren't the ones complaining... they are already out there doing their reputations justice...

attracting people is a two way street... men have to attract the couples... but couples have to attract the men, so give them as many reasons as to why they should meet you, as much as these guys have gone about getting couples to meet them!"

That's fine as far as it goes, but the complaint is about guys agreeing to meet and then not turning up.

No one is complaining about guys who are not interested in the first place.

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By *agermeisterMan  over a year ago

Leeds

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By *rHornyGentMan  over a year ago

South East London


"A lot of couples here think Single guys have not much to do except sit with a dick in their hands & Service women on drop of a hat

Sorry no

We have our own lives & regular jobs etc

i am really glad someone finally said this.... because all the white knighting going on in this thread was bordering on slavering....

the good guys aren't the ones complaining... they are already out there doing their reputations justice...

attracting people is a two way street... men have to attract the couples... but couples have to attract the men, so give them as many reasons as to why they should meet you, as much as these guys have gone about getting couples to meet them!

That's fine as far as it goes, but the complaint is about guys agreeing to meet and then not turning up.

No one is complaining about guys who are not interested in the first place. "

Well at least you didn’t mention the guys must be clean shaven

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

It's impossible to predict what guys are genuine or not.

I have been on this site in 2015, and had a few meets. I re-joined 1 month ago and already had 5. Before that i used CL, and only ever let one person down , because some idiot crashed into me on the motorway when i was on my way.

But the stories i heard about time wasters is crazy. Really impossible to predict or filter them

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


" As a bi female seeking both male, couple and female meets I think couples are just as unreliable as single males. I'm about to get on a rant .......... this is one of the many posts in past week I've seen where couples are whinging about the difficulty with getting meets! Yes it's not easy for genuine people on here to arrange meets that actually go ahead but a lot of couples seem to think they're on some sort of pedestal and just expect people to jump at the chance of a meet. If people don't want to meet that's tough and if someone arranges a meet but pulls out/cancels as long as they've given you a day or so notice then that's life! Sometimes everyday stuff gets in the way!!

#rantover "

I think you're rather missing the point of the message...

We also play with ladies and couples, and we don't experience them having anywhere near the level of pulling out of meets. In fact I can't think of any.

You'd imagine that couples should be twice as likely to suffer having to work at the last moment? They don't.

And these guys aren't giving a day or so notice... It's a few hours having talked to them for days or even weeks.

No need to rant... X

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


" As a bi female seeking both male, couple and female meets I think couples are just as unreliable as single males. I'm about to get on a rant .......... this is one of the many posts in past week I've seen where couples are whinging about the difficulty with getting meets! Yes it's not easy for genuine people on here to arrange meets that actually go ahead but a lot of couples seem to think they're on some sort of pedestal and just expect people to jump at the chance of a meet. If people don't want to meet that's tough and if someone arranges a meet but pulls out/cancels as long as they've given you a day or so notice then that's life! Sometimes everyday stuff gets in the way!!

#rantover

I think you're rather missing the point of the message...

We also play with ladies and couples, and we don't experience them having anywhere near the level of pulling out of meets. In fact I can't think of any.

You'd imagine that couples should be twice as likely to suffer having to work at the last moment? They don't.

And these guys aren't giving a day or so notice... It's a few hours having talked to them for days or even weeks.

No need to rant... X

"

Couples and ladies in my experience do cancel! There's far more men on here to arrange meets with so you'll get more let downs, if it was done on ratio then it would be a different outcome!

I'm not sure you'll understand what I mean, you just seem intent of having a dig

Enjoy the site

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I didn’t miss the point and yes I had ladies and couples cancelling on me, even after talking for a few days. But they always let me know at least a day in advance. Maybe I just been lucky.

But guys seem to be the ones that get a kick out of it and that nots fair on anyone.

I once ended a meet early because they arranged with 2 other guys too and 1 hour later I was called back because the 2 had not showed up.

It happens with everyone but the big timewasters are men, and they give a bad reputation to the few that aren’t timewasters

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


" Couples and ladies in my experience do cancel! There's far more men on here to arrange meets with so you'll get more let downs, if it was done on ratio then it would be a different outcome!

I'm not sure you'll understand what I mean, you just seem intent of having a dig

Enjoy the site "

Your grasp of probability seems lacking, but also isn't what this thread is about.

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By *abioMan  over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


" Couples and ladies in my experience do cancel! There's far more men on here to arrange meets with so you'll get more let downs, if it was done on ratio then it would be a different outcome!

I'm not sure you'll understand what I mean, you just seem intent of having a dig

Enjoy the site

Your grasp of probability seems lacking, but also isn't what this thread is about."

you complained about men cancelling..... others then pointed out the issue isn't just men, but women and couples doing exactly the same thing.....

i think that is absolutely fair comment and not missing the point at all.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


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you complained about men cancelling..... others then pointed out the issue isn't just men, but women and couples doing exactly the same thing.....

i think that is absolutely fair comment and not missing the point at all....."

No, I asked for advice on finding guys that turn up. But please continue to misunderstand, I'm not here to teach.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"

you complained about men cancelling..... others then pointed out the issue isn't just men, but women and couples doing exactly the same thing.....

i think that is absolutely fair comment and not missing the point at all.....

No, I asked for advice on finding guys that turn up. But please continue to misunderstand, I'm not here to teach. "

No you're just here to patronise..... don't post on a public forum if you're not ready for friendly debate, different opinions!

Your original post was one of many posts whinging about men, I just pointed out women and couples are just as bad!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


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No you're just here to patronise..... don't post on a public forum if you're not ready for friendly debate, different opinions!

Your original post was one of many posts whinging about men, I just pointed out women and couples are just as bad!! "

Again, please read my original post again. If you need it in easier words, let me know. X

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By *hongguyMan  over a year ago

dewsbury

im single and always turn up but then im out of your age range maybe you need look at the ones your targeting young full of cum and full of bullshit

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"im single and always turn up but then im out of your age range maybe you need look at the ones your targeting young full of cum and full of bullshit "

Yes, this is a part of the problem and it's what we are trying to address with this forum thread. There's been some great posts earlier on, and this is an interesting point too.

This isn't a diatribe aimed at single guys, this is our frustrating experience and we're trying to find a way to find the right single guys.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

We have a high success rate with single guys, and we believe this is partly before we establish a friendship prior to meeting. Where there is friendship there is loyalty. But in a gang bang situation, one is probably dealing with randoms, so there is no loyalty. If I wanted a gang bang I would do one of 2 things - round up all the guys we know well, or go for one of those organised groups who do gang bangs.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Quite a lot of guys are not truly single. You need to look closer at there status about accommodation and the times if availability. I'm single and I would offer a meet to confirm that I'm genuine at my place so you would know I'm for real or contact the verified people

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By *mmaAndDavidHornyFuckersCouple  over a year ago

Birmingham

It's the nature of the game we've been let down by couples and single females so it's not just men.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Well last night the club solution worked for us. There were a few single guys that Marie liked, and we were able to have the MMMMF she has been craving! X"

OP glad the advice to go to the club was successful. I find that Quest is good for the M+ play; lots of familiar faces too.

Single men - keep going to the clubs. We love you

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By *oiluvfunMan  over a year ago

Penrith


"Well last night the club solution worked for us. There were a few single guys that Marie liked, and we were able to have the MMMMF she has been craving! X

OP glad the advice to go to the club was successful. I find that Quest is good for the M+ play; lots of familiar faces too.

Single men - keep going to the clubs. We love you "

Thank you! We just need to find the 'right' clubs it seems

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Well last night the club solution worked for us. There were a few single guys that Marie liked, and we were able to have the MMMMF she has been craving! X

OP glad the advice to go to the club was successful. I find that Quest is good for the M+ play; lots of familiar faces too.

Single men - keep going to the clubs. We love you

Thank you! We just need to find the 'right' clubs it seems "

Should have been a Quest last night - you single fellas were in demand. Interestingly, the ones who talked to people were the ones playing. I stole three of you

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By *oiluvfunMan  over a year ago

Penrith


"Well last night the club solution worked for us. There were a few single guys that Marie liked, and we were able to have the MMMMF she has been craving! X

OP glad the advice to go to the club was successful. I find that Quest is good for the M+ play; lots of familiar faces too.

Single men - keep going to the clubs. We love you

Thank you! We just need to find the 'right' clubs it seems

Should have been a Quest last night - you single fellas were in demand. Interestingly, the ones who talked to people were the ones playing. I stole three of you "

When it comes to clubs, all I get is;

"You should have been here last week/last night, it was wall to wall with single women!"

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Well last night the club solution worked for us. There were a few single guys that Marie liked, and we were able to have the MMMMF she has been craving! X

OP glad the advice to go to the club was successful. I find that Quest is good for the M+ play; lots of familiar faces too.

Single men - keep going to the clubs. We love you

Thank you! We just need to find the 'right' clubs it seems

Should have been a Quest last night - you single fellas were in demand. Interestingly, the ones who talked to people were the ones playing. I stole three of you

When it comes to clubs, all I get is;

"You should have been here last week/last night, it was wall to wall with single women!" "

I’ve been in a club when there was equal single men and women. There’s normal 1/2 women, not ever seen wall to wall but it’s luck of the night too.

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By *oiluvfunMan  over a year ago

Penrith


"Well last night the club solution worked for us. There were a few single guys that Marie liked, and we were able to have the MMMMF she has been craving! X

OP glad the advice to go to the club was successful. I find that Quest is good for the M+ play; lots of familiar faces too.

Single men - keep going to the clubs. We love you

Thank you! We just need to find the 'right' clubs it seems

Should have been a Quest last night - you single fellas were in demand. Interestingly, the ones who talked to people were the ones playing. I stole three of you

When it comes to clubs, all I get is;

"You should have been here last week/last night, it was wall to wall with single women!"

I’ve been in a club when there was equal single men and women. There’s normal 1/2 women, not ever seen wall to wall but it’s luck of the night too. "

I have perfected the art of picking 'quiet' club nights lol, and have never been in a club when there was ever more than one or two single women, and far more than a handful of single guys. I see Quest and Pandora allow single guys on Saturday nights, maybe I'll bump into you when I'm staying in Leeds later this year

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

From what I’ve seen and know, it would probably be better to have at least two or three women with as many as four guys.

They can keep the guys occupied even if only one is the main focus.

And I think a lot of guys are shy at the prospect of having sex in front of other guys without a lot of women being there. Even if they were only getting guys warmed up like fluffers in porn it takes the idea of standing in a group of guys away and makes it a shared experience.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Well last night the club solution worked for us. There were a few single guys that Marie liked, and we were able to have the MMMMF she has been craving! X

OP glad the advice to go to the club was successful. I find that Quest is good for the M+ play; lots of familiar faces too.

Single men - keep going to the clubs. We love you

Thank you! We just need to find the 'right' clubs it seems

Should have been a Quest last night - you single fellas were in demand. Interestingly, the ones who talked to people were the ones playing. I stole three of you

When it comes to clubs, all I get is;

"You should have been here last week/last night, it was wall to wall with single women!"

I’ve been in a club when there was equal single men and women. There’s normal 1/2 women, not ever seen wall to wall but it’s luck of the night too.

I have perfected the art of picking 'quiet' club nights lol, and have never been in a club when there was ever more than one or two single women, and far more than a handful of single guys. I see Quest and Pandora allow single guys on Saturday nights, maybe I'll bump into you when I'm staying in Leeds later this year "

Quest does have two Saturdays a month when single guys can go. They tend to be heavy on couples, if you’re after a female then Friday could be better.

See you there

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By *ig Chris75Man  over a year ago

Sandbach

The 'no shows' are awful - and aren't always confined to single guys in my experience (although they probably worst..!).

Think there's too many keyboard warriors who don't actually walk the walk sadly.

Once had a couple not turn up on me - and I'd booked and paid for a hotel room - I was livid as spoke to them an hour before - never heard from them again as they blocked me - bastards.....

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By *relanddirectMan  over a year ago

cheshire


"Well, I can see why guys would be attracted to being with Marie - but the idea of being with a large group of naked men wouldn’t appeal to me at all.

Single women and couples also have a habit of bailing out at the last minute, I’ve found. It is odd though, given the limited amount of opportunity for meets as a ‘single guy’ you’d think that they would ‘stay in the game’, once an agreed opportunity arose.

I’ve had to postpone before (developed a cold) but never cancelled a meet.

Maybe the gangbang scenario works well as a bit of porn in their heads but in the cold light of day they realise they will just be naked and wanking with a group of men with minimal and competitive direct interaction with Marie?"

perfect response

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By *oiluvfunMan  over a year ago

Penrith


"Well last night the club solution worked for us. There were a few single guys that Marie liked, and we were able to have the MMMMF she has been craving! X

OP glad the advice to go to the club was successful. I find that Quest is good for the M+ play; lots of familiar faces too.

Single men - keep going to the clubs. We love you

Thank you! We just need to find the 'right' clubs it seems

Should have been a Quest last night - you single fellas were in demand. Interestingly, the ones who talked to people were the ones playing. I stole three of you

When it comes to clubs, all I get is;

"You should have been here last week/last night, it was wall to wall with single women!"

I’ve been in a club when there was equal single men and women. There’s normal 1/2 women, not ever seen wall to wall but it’s luck of the night too.

I have perfected the art of picking 'quiet' club nights lol, and have never been in a club when there was ever more than one or two single women, and far more than a handful of single guys. I see Quest and Pandora allow single guys on Saturday nights, maybe I'll bump into you when I'm staying in Leeds later this year

Quest does have two Saturdays a month when single guys can go. They tend to be heavy on couples, if you’re after a female then Friday could be better.

See you there "

Ok, so I've checked the Quest website, and it's going to be the 3rd Saturday of the month when I'm there, which is a no-go for single guys. Pandora here I come lol

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

As a single guy, no one trusts you unless you're verified. You can't get a meet to get verified!

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By *anetandNickCouple  over a year ago

Ross-on-Wye

Well that was an unusually poor ratio.

Generally only about 80% of single guys fail to turn up.

So typically if you want 20 guys, you need to have invited about 100.

Janet xxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Well that was an unusually poor ratio.

Generally only about 80% of single guys fail to turn up.

So typically if you want 20 guys, you need to have invited about 100.

Janet xxxxxx"

Wow that's bad!

I've always showed up!

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By *losfukbudsCouple  over a year ago

Gloucester

I wouldn't bail it's a great opportunity

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By *ENGUYMan  over a year ago

Hull


"We've been trying to create Marie's wish for an MMMMMF (ourselves and four other single guys) three times now over the last few weeks.

Each time we've found the guys several days in advance, good verifications. Each one claiming to be reliable etc.

Of those three times, across a total of fourteen different guys, thirteen of them have bailed out in the 24 hours prior to the meet.

So, any tips for finding guys that are actually going to show? Should we just look on the day rather than in advance? "

From my experience and those of others, use a Club for this scenario from which you'll get to know regulars whom you can invite to a private meet.

Additionally, some guys know of others similar to themselves who are seeking such meets, who are verified and can be trusted to show up as planned.

For many guys, as said already, the idea of a MMMMF or similar is great in theory but it can be daunting on the day which is why so many withdraw at the last minute and fail to show.

I've been to similar events where the Couple got assurances from up to a dozen guys but on the day, I was the only one to show up!

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By *appy squirrelWoman  over a year ago

Norwich

when organising moresums I tend to go with guys I have met up already one a 121 basis. that way I know we get on sexually, show up and are really interested as we have discussed it. seems to work

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By *rkeb3Man  over a year ago

east Lancashire road

the expectation from single guys is really high couples n females

they just want n expect you to do what ever they ask you it's ridiculous

the amount of couples n femals bailing out at the last minute is same as the guys

gangbang or groups are hard work always a guy had to be d*unk or to stand next other naked man have a wank waiting for his turn no one wants that n don't feel comfortable that's why they don't seem to bother

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