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By *team7279 OP Couple
over a year ago
London |
Just curious, what kind of ground rules do couples on here have for each other?
Our main rules are no play with anyone we know outside of swinging, no contact with play partners without each other's knowledge, either of us can pull the plug at any time and neither of us should pressure the other into anything. Open and honest about it at all times.
In terms of the sex, we don't really operate any rules outside of whatever is comfortable with with any given partner.
How about you? |
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Ours is if either of us, or anyone else is uncomfortable we stop -we want everyone to be having fun, so much hornier that way.
And we come as a pair whether we are meeting singles or couples...after all it's fun to watch!
That's about it other than safe sex. |
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over a year ago
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When I was on as a couple our rules were
No play without each other unless it was with someone we had both agreed.
Always safe with others.
And nothing behind the others back.
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"Used to be no people our kids ages...
Used to be.... oops.
Seems like in clubs age doesn't matter."
We're the same, we won't actively organise a meet with people the same or younger than our kids. BUT we've never asked anyone in a club for ID.
Cal |
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"Just curious, what kind of ground rules do couples on here have for each other?
Our main rules are no play with anyone we know outside of swinging, no contact with play partners without each other's knowledge, either of us can pull the plug at any time and neither of us should pressure the other into anything. Open and honest about it at all times.
In terms of the sex, we don't really operate any rules outside of whatever is comfortable with with any given partner.
How about you?"
Pretty identical, except there are exceptions for point one, sadly not all the ones I'd like  |
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By *team7279 OP Couple
over a year ago
London |
"Ours is if either of us, or anyone else is uncomfortable we stop -we want everyone to be having fun, so much hornier that way.
And we come as a pair whether we are meeting singles or couples...after all it's fun to watch!
That's about it other than safe sex."
Oh heck, and safe sex always for us too!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just curious, what kind of ground rules do couples on here have for each other?
Our main rules are no play with anyone we know outside of swinging, no contact with play partners without each other's knowledge, either of us can pull the plug at any time and neither of us should pressure the other into anything. Open and honest about it at all times.
In terms of the sex, we don't really operate any rules outside of whatever is comfortable with with any given partner.
How about you?"
Pretty much the same, nothing behind the others back, its not a rule but if can be helped nothing in our own bed, to me thats our space.
Bella x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We always play with each other first ...and last after a play session with others
We only play together in the same room. Safe sex only.
We like kinky stuff but only do that with each other #trust |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ours are....
1.same room only
2.safe sex
3.no anal (like to keep that for us)
4.if either want to stop we both stop.
5.no extra contact with someone we have played with unless both are aware.
Apart from that then it's just have fun and get kinky lol
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We had some great rules. But best one was the if either of us weren’t feeling it in play ‘Need a drink’ was used to signify it wasn’t working and we both stopped. |
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By *ouble CCouple
over a year ago
Gran Canaria |
1. No outside the scene play
2. ALWAYS safe sex with others
3. No means no. No matter how far it's gone/going
4. No play with kids in the house
5. Open and honest at all times.
6. COMMUNICATION
There is no right way or wrong way to do this kinda thing. Do what's right and what works for you.
And the biggest one HAVE FUN!
Miss C Xx |
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"We arrive as a couple we play as a couple and we leave as a couple if either calls halt we both stop simples
...pretty much our view as well. As well as be nice to people and have a good time  "
And always safe sex |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just curious, what kind of ground rules do couples on here have for each other?
Our main rules are no play with anyone we know outside of swinging, no contact with play partners without each other's knowledge, either of us can pull the plug at any time and neither of us should pressure the other into anything. Open and honest about it at all times.
In terms of the sex, we don't really operate any rules outside of whatever is comfortable with with any given partner.
How about you?"
We sort of do:
- nobody from our village
- no friends
- no colleagues
- we each have a veto (not yet used) |
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We keep it simple really. Like listed on our profile. Same room, full swap, kissing. Ideally no drama also!
We do like to push boundaries a bit with delicious consequences. Both of us have to be comfortable but sometimes will let the other lead across a new boundary.
Certainly our age range has changed a little upwards in that if someone’s hot and sexy then age isn’t such a limit. We’re also fine around men who are bi/bi curious as I think the lifestyle tends to make us more open minded. Also we have developed a tiny interest in very light bdsm/bondage. Naturism isn’t something we’d have considered before swinging is another example. |
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Simple and uncomplicated here.
First: We always swing/meet as a couple
Two: Anything the other does or wishes to do whilst swinging together is allowed.
Having been on the scene for a number of years and been involved in some wild situations these simple rules work for us |
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"Just curious, what kind of ground rules do couples on here have for each other?
Our main rules are no play with anyone we know outside of swinging, no contact with play partners without each other's knowledge, either of us can pull the plug at any time and neither of us should pressure the other into anything. Open and honest about it at all times.
In terms of the sex, we don't really operate any rules outside of whatever is comfortable with with any given partner.
How about you?"
We’re just a soft swing couple.. Soft swing for us is all in the same room. I’m happy for Mrs V to stroke someone else cock and for the female to grab mine.. nipple sucking and playing for both ladies and possible finger play.. but everyone’s different. We don’t kiss or do oral with others. Any couples Interested? Message us x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its a fairly simple set of rules for us...
- We only meet together.
- We always play safely.
- Within a meet we're both free to do anything we please.
- If either of us has any concern before or during play, for ant reason, we both stop.
- We reconnect and make love together after the meet.
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By *team7279 OP Couple
over a year ago
London |
"1. No outside the scene play
2. ALWAYS safe sex with others
3. No means no. No matter how far it's gone/going
4. No play with kids in the house
5. Open and honest at all times.
6. COMMUNICATION
There is no right way or wrong way to do this kinda thing. Do what's right and what works for you.
And the biggest one HAVE FUN!
Miss C Xx "
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I had a lot more restrictions/rules when we first entered into swinging. Some of them were born out of fear and a lack of confidence...
As time went on and experience grew, I realised staying rigid to some of those rules wasn’t really beneficial to embracing and enjoying those moments
So some of them no longer apply.....
I am a stickler for safe penetration though and absolutely no bareback (me or my fiancé) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just curious, what kind of ground rules do couples on here have for each other?
Our main rules are no play with anyone we know outside of swinging, no contact with play partners without each other's knowledge, either of us can pull the plug at any time and neither of us should pressure the other into anything. Open and honest about it at all times.
In terms of the sex, we don't really operate any rules outside of whatever is comfortable with with any given partner.
How about you?"
Pretty much this but the first in the list is the open and honest rule  |
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By *oandjohnCouple
over a year ago
South Wales, will travel to Hereford, Worcestershire and Shropshire |
Play safe
Enjoy
Indulge as much as you want or can
Nothing behind each other’s backs (but can play on your own with partners agreement)
If the fun stops so do we
No means no
Keep an open mind |
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Our rules have evolved over the years.
Basically now, I just let kim decide how things go, I’m open to anything, she can vary depending on many factors, so it’s just easier to let her lead the way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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After seeing one or two domestics I would say,
Make sure you stick to the rules you make, however temping it may be to go off piste, and
Review boundaries regularly |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No kissing x
That wouldn't work for us. Kissing is a huge part of the enjoyment of others for both of us.
Us neither, kissing, flirting all part of the fun  "
Agreed. And it is so horny to be down on my wife and look up to see her kissing her lover that I couldb’t give it up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Kissing above the neck and vaginal penetration are our current rules. We are new and soft swap only. Not to say things won't change but would be pre discussed beforehand. We are married/kids so don't want to endanger that by rushing. Plenty respect it and want to play, some don't and we respect their choices and boundaries. |
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"Kissing above the neck and vaginal penetration are our current rules. We are new and soft swap only. Not to say things won't change but would be pre discussed beforehand. We are married/kids so don't want to endanger that by rushing. Plenty respect it and want to play, some don't and we respect their choices and boundaries."
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When we started out we were nervous about the impact on our relationship, so we were quite tentative until we felt comfortable. Since then we have found that having fun, being together and safe sex are our only real rules.
On here we limit ages, but it in Clubs we never ask! A cheeky smile, making an effort to look good and a bit of gentle flirting helps immensely |
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By *xxx30Man
over a year ago
york |
"Just curious, what kind of ground rules do couples on here have for each other?
Our main rules are no play with anyone we know outside of swinging, no contact with play partners without each other's knowledge, either of us can pull the plug at any time and neither of us should pressure the other into anything. Open and honest about it at all times.
In terms of the sex, we don't really operate any rules outside of whatever is comfortable with with any given partner.
How about you?"
I think something more couples should highlight in there profile is the subject of kissing cause I know some people love the passion for example I tend to tease a girl by kissing her inner thighs and neck and mouth but some couple don't agree with it plz help |
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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago
Burnleyish (She/They) |
1. No-one too close to home.
2. Don't play with the crazy people.
3. Wrap it up.
4. Pics or it didn't happen (not actually a real one, we don't do pics)
5. Tell all of the details (so I can wank to them) |
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When we started we had all sorts of rules covering anal, kissing, etc.
Soon realised that when you are horny things that you would say "no" to become a "well okay then". By having the rules it often just caused stopped the natural flow of play as Chris intervened as a guy(s) broke a rule that I was happily going along with.
Sx |
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For us it has to be were we both find the meet a turn on. it always got to involve the both of us and we never meet seperate and we both have to be enjoying it either of us can stop it at anytime no matter what reason. we get turned on most the more horny we see each other getting. we dont do anal we keep that as something just for us. we are totaly honest at all times and tell each other everything.. it always has to be about the both of us and neither of us ever feel arkward or pressured. we are on here as a couple so everything we do is about us as a couple |
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By *itzimadCouple
over a year ago
harwich |
we started of with lots of rules but after a while it wound up with just one two
safe sex
we had to know where each other were
we had a big group of friends so i knew if i left her to go do my thing somewhere she was still safe at all times so it no longer made sense not to do what ever we wanted or didnt want |
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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago
Wakefield |
"Just curious, what kind of ground rules do couples on here have for each other?
Our main rules are no play with anyone we know outside of swinging, no contact with play partners without each other's knowledge, either of us can pull the plug at any time and neither of us should pressure the other into anything. Open and honest about it at all times.
In terms of the sex, we don't really operate any rules outside of whatever is comfortable with with any given partner.
How about you?"
We are adults and trust each other so we don't have to have rules. If one of us is uneasy we would talk to the other about it.
Its probably because we have been together for so long we know what would make the other uncomfortable and simply avios going there |
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By *MNJCouple
over a year ago
Nuneaton |
Agree with the super hot couples thing, we've spoken to couples before and wondered if we'd feel hideous playing with them.
There's some sort of a look/wink code too but I don't understand it.
M |
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By *iReyWoman
over a year ago
Cheshire East |
Spent 8 years here and played in clubs with my ex as a couple. Our rules were no one takes one for the team, if anyone is uncomfortable we stop and if anyone wants to meet outside of the couple dynamic it's ok as long as the other knows and agrees to it.
Wanker broke the last rule though hense why I'm here as a single pringle now  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just curious, what kind of ground rules do couples on here have for each other?
Our main rules are no play with anyone we know outside of swinging, no contact with play partners without each other's knowledge, either of us can pull the plug at any time and neither of us should pressure the other into anything. Open and honest about it at all times.
In terms of the sex, we don't really operate any rules outside of whatever is comfortable with with any given partner.
How about you?"
Quite strict and it does restrict. No full sex, no oral sex, no cumming on face or near pussy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Spent 8 years here and played in clubs with my ex as a couple. Our rules were no one takes one for the team, if anyone is uncomfortable we stop and if anyone wants to meet outside of the couple dynamic it's ok as long as the other knows and agrees to it.
Wanker broke the last rule though hense why I'm here as a single pringle now "
This is the one we don’t get, there’s no need to be devious and secretive in this kind of relationship, so why would you! |
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