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So guys I’m hoping for threesome with my partner sometime! She’s really kinky, have great sex! However the conversation has never really headed towards a three way! It’s not something I would probably mention invade it goes tits up! Either a MMf or Mff I wouldn’t mind either way as if also like to watch her with another guy, sucking fingers during sex / ducking vibrator whilst fucking her is the closest I’ve got and she likes it. Surely this means something ??
Anyone know how to get the ball rolling ?
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Watch a film with a 3some in it (not porn obviously, unless that’s what you do  ) and bring up the subject and ask what her thoughts are on the subject. Like someone’s already said, what could possibly go wrong  |
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"Watch a film with a 3some in it (not porn obviously, unless that’s what you do ) and bring up the subject and ask what her thoughts are on the subject. Like someone’s already said, what could possibly go wrong "
I suppose I could laugh it off worst case lol |
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Fantasy does not always turn into reality. If she is into you then that might change if you introduce someone else, dependant on her own likes dislikes etc. Wary ground as others have said, speak about someone else who has done this and see her reaction that might give you a clue. |
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Having been in the position of your OH where my ex wanted to try threesomes I'd have been furious if I'd have found out he'd been on here before even broaching the issue with me. It's a bit presumptive.
Either start a conversation about fantasies or gently raise the idea in the bedroom and see how she reacts. If you think she'll react badly to it even being mentioned though how do you think she'll react to you being here without her knowledge?
The key thing for me when I came round to the idea was that we were exploring the idea and the scene together, not that he'd got it all planned without me. |
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Good communication is the key to much success in relationships, including sexual satisfaction. Open up more about your sexual interests, so that there aren't the surprises or secrets, where you don't need to have them, 3 sums included. If you create the open culture between you, it becomes natural to share and be open. You want to satisfy her, so do lots of asking questions. |
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"Fantasy does not always turn into reality. If she is into you then that might change if you introduce someone else, dependant on her own likes dislikes etc. Wary ground as others have said, speak about someone else who has done this and see her reaction that might give you a clue. "
True reality isn’t always good ,I had a mmf with a guy I was seeing never wanted to but I went along with it ,wished I didn’t tbh |
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How long have you been together? Took us 16 years before we sat there and the Mrs said... I've always thought I was Bi what do you think? Dropped the Fab bomb made an account and the rest is history.  |
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So you are too scared to ask her about ithe in case she reacts negatively bit assume by having a 'spontaneous' one she'll be fine. Ignoring the huge flaw in that logic or the fact that her being unhappy after the event doesn't appear to be a concern to you, the sheer level of coercion invloved is pretty disgusting in my opinion.
Have some respect and talk to her about it |
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"So guys I’m hoping for threesome with my partner sometime! She’s really kinky, have great sex! However the conversation has never really headed towards a three way! It’s not something I would probably mention invade it goes tits up! Either a MMf or Mff I wouldn’t mind either way as if also like to watch her with another guy, sucking fingers during sex / ducking vibrator whilst fucking her is the closest I’ve got and she likes it. Surely this means something ??
Anyone know how to get the ball rolling ?
Tia"
I genuinely don't understand why you don't have the balls to talk about something like this with your partner. |
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"So guys I’m hoping for threesome with my partner sometime! She’s really kinky, have great sex! However the conversation has never really headed towards a three way! It’s not something I would probably mention invade it goes tits up! Either a MMf or Mff I wouldn’t mind either way as if also like to watch her with another guy, sucking fingers during sex / ducking vibrator whilst fucking her is the closest I’ve got and she likes it. Surely this
means something ??
Anyone know how to get the ball rolling ?
Tia
I genuinely don't understand why you don't have the balls to talk about something like this with your partner. "
I’m sure I’m not the only one |
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"So you are too scared to ask her about ithe in case she reacts negatively bit assume by having a 'spontaneous' one she'll be fine. Ignoring the huge flaw in that logic or the fact that her being unhappy after the event doesn't appear to be a concern to you, the sheer level of coercion invloved is pretty disgusting in my opinion.
Have some respect and talk to her about it"
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"So guys I’m hoping for threesome with my partner sometime! She’s really kinky, have great sex! However the conversation has never really headed towards a three way! It’s not something I would probably mention invade it goes tits up! Either a MMf or Mff I wouldn’t mind either way as if also like to watch her with another guy, sucking fingers during sex / ducking vibrator whilst fucking her is the closest I’ve got and she likes it. Surely this
means something ??
Anyone know how to get the ball rolling ?
Tia
I genuinely don't understand why you don't have the balls to talk about something like this with your partner.
I’m sure I’m not the only one "
Your relationship is clearly none of my business but..
If you are secretly looking to fuck strangers behind her back and have no idea about how to talk to her about intimate things, it seems to me both of you would be better off with someone else. |
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"Fantasy does not always turn into reality. If she is into you then that might change if you introduce someone else, dependant on her own likes dislikes etc. Wary ground as others have said, speak about someone else who has done this and see her reaction that might give you a clue.
True reality isn’t always good ,I had a mmf with a guy I was seeing never wanted to but I went along with it ,wished I didn’t tbh"
That's always the way seemed like a good idea at the time usually turns into oh no. |
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The only way to get the ball rolling is to ask her if its something shes but as others have said fantasy and reality dont always match up. And if its something she doesn't want then you'll have to just accept that dont try and force the issue.
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"Side note...sucking fingers and a vibrator is nit at all a hint that she would like a 3sum.
Just wanted to add that. "
Glad I’m not the only one thinking the same thing!
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"So guys I’m hoping for threesome with my partner sometime! She’s really kinky, have great sex! However the conversation has never really headed towards a three way! It’s not something I would probably mention invade it goes tits up! Either a MMf or Mff I wouldn’t mind either way as if also like to watch her with another guy, sucking fingers during sex / ducking vibrator whilst fucking her is the closest I’ve got and she likes it. Surely this
means something ??
Anyone know how to get the ball rolling ?
Tia
I genuinely don't understand why you don't have the balls to talk about something like this with your partner.
I’m sure I’m not the only one
Your relationship is clearly none of my business but..
If you are secretly looking to fuck strangers behind her back and have no idea about how to talk to her about intimate things, it seems to me both of you would be better off with someone else. "
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Have you thought that if you can't even bring it up in conversation how are you going to cope as a couple if it were to actually happen?
If you don't have clear, honest, open communication you are heading towards a very unhappy ending trying anything to do with swinging... |
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By *nRachCouple
over a year ago
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We started talking about it naturally, doing dp with a butt plug and I asked her if she would prefer a real cock instead of the plug. Her reply was "no but I would love a pussy in my face". Could not believe my luck, bought the subject up the next day and she confirmed she wasn't just saying it in the moment. A few months later here we are with our dirst meet arranged. |
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"Watch a film with a 3some in it (not porn obviously, unless that’s what you do ) and bring up the subject and ask what her thoughts are on the subject. Like someone’s already said, what could possibly go wrong
I suppose I could laugh it off worst case lol"
"worst case lol"
The worst case is you clumsily broach the subject and in no time at all find yourself standing in a supermarket looking at microwave meals for one.
As so many others have said on here, even the softest swinging depends on huge degree of trust and fairly skilled communication. I too have a sexually explicit partner, but we are taking it very slowly and carefully and I do not take it for granted that despite her mind-blowing desires and fantasies that she will be writhing around in company any time soon, or ever. |
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She may already have fantasies similar to yours, but is too scared to mention them. Introduce it into your foreplay by way of suggestion and role play, gently the thought that some1 could be watching , would they be turned on seeing what you're doing and move it on slowly. If she's had any thoughts you'll be able to tell. Then try expanding on it, he her reaction is negative , you know not to go there |
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"So guys I’m hoping for threesome with my partner sometime! She’s really kinky, have great sex! However the conversation has never really headed towards a three way! It’s not something I would probably mention invade it goes tits up! Either a MMf or Mff I wouldn’t mind either way as if also like to watch her with another guy, sucking fingers during sex / ducking vibrator whilst fucking her is the closest I’ve got and she likes it. Surely this
means something ??
Anyone know how to get the ball rolling ?
Tia
I genuinely don't understand why you don't have the balls to talk about something like this with your partner.
I’m sure I’m not the only one
Your relationship is clearly none of my business but..
If you are secretly looking to fuck strangers behind her back and have no idea about how to talk to her about intimate things, it seems to me both of you would be better off with someone else.
This "
Yep - soooo much this!!  |
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"Side note...sucking fingers and a vibrator is nit at all a hint that she would like a 3sum.
Just wanted to add that. "
she might have said while sucking her fingers in a garbled voice wish this was Tom dick or harrys  |
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