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"Why is it there are some many people on here who think it's great shagging behind their wives / Gf back. Then wen I start it THEY BLOCK ME TRUTH HURT THEN EH HOPE U ALL GET CAUGHT " Does this include women cheating behind their husband's backs too? | |||
"Why is it there are some many people on here who think it's great shagging behind their wives / Gf back. Then wen I start it THEY BLOCK ME TRUTH HURT THEN EH HOPE U ALL GET CAUGHT Does this include women cheating behind their husband's backs too?" Does for me yeah... (but to be honest I don't usually get hit on by married woman) | |||
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"Why is it there are some many people on here who think it's great shagging behind their wives / Gf back. Then wen I start it THEY BLOCK ME TRUTH HURT THEN EH HOPE U ALL GET CAUGHT " different people different circumstances, it's not black and white everytime | |||
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"Does it partner know u fuck other men tben But u still go home n play the good housewife Bollocks" To be honest you have a very poor opinion of people in relationships. You have your reasons. I've met and seen couples on here that are not married to each other. Must be a minefield of annoyance for you. Happy hunting for you. | |||
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"I find you all very hypocritical. Some situations like mine are sexless, so I find this is my discrete fix." Yours is the only situation I would feel sorry for when it comes to meeting behind a partners back. It must be awful being with a partner that doesn't want sex at all, while the other still does. | |||
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"I find you all very hypocritical. Some situations like mine are sexless, so I find this is my discrete fix. Yours is the only situation I would feel sorry for when it comes to meeting behind a partners back. It must be awful being with a partner that doesn't want sex at all, while the other still does. " I was in that situation with my ex husband but we decided to end things. We loved each other very much and was a difficult decision but it was the best for both of us. I would never have been deceitful, he was too special for that. | |||
"I find you all very hypocritical. Some situations like mine are sexless, so I find this is my discrete fix. Yours is the only situation I would feel sorry for when it comes to meeting behind a partners back. It must be awful being with a partner that doesn't want sex at all, while the other still does. " Not just me there are men in the same situation. So nothing is black and white. | |||
"I find you all very hypocritical. Some situations like mine are sexless, so I find this is my discrete fix. Yours is the only situation I would feel sorry for when it comes to meeting behind a partners back. It must be awful being with a partner that doesn't want sex at all, while the other still does. I was in that situation with my ex husband but we decided to end things. We loved each other very much and was a difficult decision but it was the best for both of us. I would never have been deceitful, he was too special for that. " My partner has the foresight to tell me what happens in 'prague' stays in prague. He knows but willing to not let it interfere with our life. | |||
"Yeah Likewise If U found out ur wife was Shaggin behind ur back Way wud u do" I found out my now ex wife was so divorced her and found out were he worked made it known wot he had done and he lost his job then his flat  | |||
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"Why is it there are some many people on here who think it's great shagging behind their wives / Gf back. Then wen I start it THEY BLOCK ME TRUTH HURT THEN EH HOPE U ALL GET CAUGHT " There will be many in society who think its just as bad to fuck about in the swingeing scene. Immorality has different levels for all if you don't like them just avoid and move on. | |||
"Yeah Likewise If U found out ur wife was Shaggin behind ur back Way wud u doI found out my now ex wife was so divorced her and found out were he worked made it known wot he had done and he lost his job then his flat "Why ? What did it have to do with his employer. Besides the divorce what did your wife lose. In my case I met the guy who my ex wife had her affair with, truly I was going to batter him but for some reason didnt,had a chat said a few things and walked away. It takes 2 people to cheat both share the blame. You need to look at why she cheated there may have been an underlying problem My ex said she was in a dark place !!!! | |||
"Beats me! My ex and I were active as swingers and only played together. 4 yrs in I found out she’d been cheating on me with at least 3 guys who I knew of. Two of them were supposed to be my mates! " Opportunity is the mother of deceit | |||
"Does it partner know u fuck other men tben But u still go home n play the good housewife Bollocks To be honest you have a very poor opinion of people in relationships. You have your reasons. I've met and seen couples on here that are not married to each other. Must be a minefield of annoyance for you. Happy hunting for you. " Relationships are many and varied what works for one will not work for another. We are all individuals and our reasons for the things we do are ours and shoukd remain so. Happy fabbing xx | |||
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"Well that's why wen someone msgs me An their profile say CANNOT ACCOMMODATE I always check if the luve with anyone. Then if they day they do Is wife or gf Well thatsxwen I blow More fool them Hope they get caught N she chucks them out " You seem very angry OP.. People are people and you can't and shouldn't judge why some people do, quite frankly their circumstances are non of your business. You don't want to play with a married or attached man, so seek out those that are single and enjoy yourself No point in worrying about people who you've no interest in. If someone contacts you from a single profile and is in fact married or attached then that is deceitful on their part if they don't tell you and you have to find out later yourself.. That's down to you questioning someone early in a conversation to establish the facts and decide from there if you're likely to continue. That's what we all have to do, chat and find out if everything is OK with all involved If not - talk to someone else That's the nature of the beast I'm afraid, frustrating as it may be sometimes | |||
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"Why is it there are some many people on here who think it's great shagging behind their wives / Gf back. Then wen I start it THEY BLOCK ME TRUTH HURT THEN EH HOPE U ALL GET CAUGHT Does this include women cheating behind their husband's backs too?" I would assume so, in the interests of being fair to all. | |||
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"I could accommodate, but it would be embarrassing. I don’t want my children to know that I am involved in casual sexual with people off a swingers website. So with that in mind I don’t invite anyone to mine, ever..." Totally agree that kids must come first. I live alone and due to previous bad experiences with guys on fab I am no longer willing to accommodate, despite being in the perfect position to do so. | |||
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"I don't accommodate either, I'm completely single and not attached in any way. Am I also a cheat OP? " Would you consider cheating with me. I’m single but I love the thrill | |||
"I don't accommodate either, I'm completely single and not attached in any way. Am I also a cheat OP? Would you consider cheating with me. I’m single but I love the thrill " Absolutely.  | |||
"Can I just ask.....Why have you put your full mobile number on your profile if you don't want attached men contacting you? Was this post really created for men to fall into your trap?" This  | |||
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"Can I just ask.....Why have you put your full mobile number on your profile if you don't want attached men contacting you? Was this post really created for men to fall into your trap?" Do you mean like a honey trap? People who catch out cheating partners for their other halves? | |||
"Can I just ask.....Why have you put your full mobile number on your profile if you don't want attached men contacting you? Was this post really created for men to fall into your trap? This "or attention seeking thread | |||
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"Can I just ask.....Why have you put your full mobile number on your profile if you don't want attached men contacting you? Was this post really created for men to fall into your trap? This
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"Yes Pisses me off either sex cheating behind their partners. If it's a swingers shudnt it be ether as a couple together Shaggin other people of single people. Many a time wen Iv asked someone an they are married n I say do u like Shaggin behind it wife. Why do they block me. THE TRUTH HURT THEN eH Just think how the he feels when she finds out N fucks him off out the house. He tries to grovel back to her Bullshit Likewise if she is carry on on behind his back n he caught her out kicks her out the house. So who is the winner And looser " Reading this made me go cross eyed  | |||
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"Yes Pisses me off either sex cheating behind their partners. If it's a swingers shudnt it be ether as a couple together Shaggin other people of single people. Many a time wen Iv asked someone an they are married n I say do u like Shaggin behind it wife. Why do they block me. THE TRUTH HURT THEN eH Just think how the he feels when she finds out N fucks him off out the house. He tries to grovel back to her Bullshit Likewise if she is carry on on behind his back n he caught her out kicks her out the house. So who is the winner And looser Reading this made me go cross eyed " | |||
"Well that's why wen someone msgs me An their profile say CANNOT ACCOMMODATE I always check if the luve with anyone. Then if they day they do Is wife or gf Well thatsxwen I blow More fool them Hope they get caught N she chucks them out " always with the SHE chucks them out, just as many women doing it on here as men | |||
"We see this purely as a hook up site and don’t care if who we see is cheating. It’s just sex to us." booooom | |||
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"People have been cheating for as long as there has been monogamy. Nothing to see here, move along." true | |||
"I think unless you know the circumstances then you shouldn’t judge, don’t meet them, it’s not rocket science!!!!! I state clearly I am cheating on my husband, I adore him, and want to grow old with him, how ever, we have no sex life, so I indulge in a bit of Fab everynow and again, your very opiniated and that’s your choice, but as someone said earlier, it’s not all black and white, I wish my life was as perfect as yours so I could. sit on my high horse criticising every one else for their choices" Here here...well said x | |||
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"Not really a need for this post and all the ones after it is there OP? I don’t like cheats myself and would never knowingly meet with anyone who is cheating on their other half for various reasons. However I’m not going to judge or badger them for their own choices. Each to their own. " | |||
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"Not really a need for this post and all the ones after it is there OP? I don’t like cheats myself and would never knowingly meet with anyone who is cheating on their other half for various reasons. However I’m not going to judge or badger them for their own choices. Each to their own. " | |||
"Why is it there are some many people on here who think it's great shagging behind their wives / Gf back. Then wen I start it THEY BLOCK ME TRUTH HURT THEN EH HOPE U ALL GET CAUGHT " I hate all forms of cheating - men and women I agree xx | |||
"I find you all very hypocritical. Some situations like mine are sexless, so I find this is my discrete fix. Being a swinger doesn't exclude cheating or relationship breakdowns. " same here | |||
"Yeah Likewise If U found out ur wife was Shaggin behind ur back Way wud u doI found out my now ex wife was so divorced her and found out were he worked made it known wot he had done and he lost his job then his flat "What you did to him was horrible, no need for that level of revenge in my opinion. Nothing is black and white. Tbh your profile says that you can be very discreet if needed????? Does that mean you are happy to enter into a relationship with someone who is married? Cos it sounds like it?? How does that work then? Not a nice trait is revenge, especially in the swinging scene where you cannot take anything at face value  | |||
"Yeah Likewise If U found out ur wife was Shaggin behind ur back Way wud u doI found out my now ex wife was so divorced her and found out were he worked made it known wot he had done and he lost his job then his flat
What you did to him was horrible, no need for that level of revenge in my opinion.
Nothing is black and white.
Tbh your profile says that you can be very discreet if needed????? Does that mean you are happy to enter into a relationship with someone who is married? Cos it sounds like it?? How does that work then?
Not a nice trait is revenge, especially in the swinging scene where you cannot take anything at face value "I agree regarding revenge. No point in it and it just leads to anger. My ex cheated on me, I publicly put on social media that we had split and that no one was to blame, privately I wished him and the girl he cheated on me with all the best for their future, lost 3 stone, went out more and joined fab. I’m more happier and I’m the one that can hold my head up high- plus I’m definitely having better sex now x | |||
"I think unless you know the circumstances then you shouldn’t judge, don’t meet them, it’s not rocket science!!!!! I state clearly I am cheating on my husband, I adore him, and want to grow old with him, how ever, we have no sex life, so I indulge in a bit of Fab everynow and again, your very opiniated and that’s your choice, but as someone said earlier, it’s not all black and white, I wish my life was as perfect as yours so I could. sit on my high horse criticising every one else for their choices" I'm in exactly same situation and I say so in my profile, I'm not trying to hide it. | |||
"Yes Pisses me off either sex cheating behind their partners. If it's a swingers shudnt it be ether as a couple together Shaggin other people of single people. Many a time wen Iv asked someone an they are married n I say do u like Shaggin behind it wife. Why do they block me. THE TRUTH HURT THEN eH Just think how the he feels when she finds out N fucks him off out the house. He tries to grovel back to her Bullshit Likewise if she is carry on on behind his back n he caught her out kicks her out the house. So who is the winner And looser " You can purchase replacement keyboards quite cheaply online. | |||
"Yes Pisses me off either sex cheating behind their partners. If it's a swingers shudnt it be ether as a couple together Shaggin other people of single people. Many a time wen Iv asked someone an they are married n I say do u like Shaggin behind it wife. Why do they block me. THE TRUTH HURT THEN eH Just think how the he feels when she finds out N fucks him off out the house. He tries to grovel back to her Bullshit Likewise if she is carry on on behind his back n he caught her out kicks her out the house. So who is the winner And looser You can purchase replacement keyboards quite cheaply online." Unnecessary comment | |||
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"Yeah Likewise If U found out ur wife was Shaggin behind ur back Way wud u doI found out my now ex wife was so divorced her and found out were he worked made it known wot he had done and he lost his job then his flat
What you did to him was horrible, no need for that level of revenge in my opinion.
Nothing is black and white.
Tbh your profile says that you can be very discreet if needed????? Does that mean you are happy to enter into a relationship with someone who is married? Cos it sounds like it?? How does that work then?
Not a nice trait is revenge, especially in the swinging scene where you cannot take anything at face value
I agree regarding revenge. No point in it and it just leads to anger.
My ex cheated on me, I publicly put on social media that we had split and that no one was to blame, privately I wished him and the girl he cheated on me with all the best for their future, lost 3 stone, went out more and joined fab.
I’m more happier and I’m the one that can hold my head up high- plus I’m definitely having better sex now x
"Love it that is what I call turning a negative for you into a positive for you all | |||
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"Just because someone can't accommodate doesn't mean they live with someone. Lots of people have nosey neighbours and like to keep their business private." | |||
"Yes Pisses me off either sex cheating behind their partners. If it's a swingers shudnt it be ether as a couple together Shaggin other people of single people. Many a time wen Iv asked someone an they are married n I say do u like Shaggin behind it wife. Why do they block me. THE TRUTH HURT THEN eH Just think how the he feels when she finds out N fucks him off out the house. He tries to grovel back to her Bullshit Likewise if she is carry on on behind his back n he caught her out kicks her out the house. So who is the winner And looser You can purchase replacement keyboards quite cheaply online. Unnecessary comment " Do you require your steed liveried for the evening Sire? *tugs forelock whilst bowing deeply* | |||
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"I'm not responsible for how others live their lives. How can I be I will never know their personal situation. But these bash others threads based on whatever preconceptions that people hold based on their own unique view of the world do seem to always end up with the same judgemental entrenched positions taken on the basis that we should all live by another's idea of what is acceptable....Or isn't. Its simple if you disagree with others life choices just move on elsewhere without trying to impose your prejudices on another..." Well said | |||
"Not really a need for this post and all the ones after it is there OP? I don’t like cheats myself and would never knowingly meet with anyone who is cheating on their other half for various reasons. However I’m not going to judge or badger them for their own choices. Each to their own. " This
OP sounds extremely hard work and shouty!
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"Yeah Likewise If U found out ur wife was Shaggin behind ur back Way wud u do" Dump that cheating whore | |||
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"I'm not responsible for how others live their lives. How can I be I will never know their personal situation. But these bash others threads based on whatever preconceptions that people hold based on their own unique view of the world do seem to always end up with the same judgemental entrenched positions taken on the basis that we should all live by another's idea of what is acceptable....Or isn't. Its simple if you disagree with others life choices just move on elsewhere without trying to impose your prejudices on another..." | |||
"Can I remind people it is against forum rules to discuss anothers profile unless they have asked for it and also against rules to attack people To the OP....welcome to the forum, hopefully you will not take the abusive comments to heart and stick around. If you click on reply and quote people will know who you are answering" Sorry???? So it’s ok for her to slag off people who are cheating? How is that fair? | |||
"Can I remind people it is against forum rules to discuss anothers profile unless they have asked for it and also against rules to attack people To the OP....welcome to the forum, hopefully you will not take the abusive comments to heart and stick around. If you click on reply and quote people will know who you are answering" | |||
"Can I remind people it is against forum rules to discuss anothers profile unless they have asked for it and also against rules to attack people To the OP....welcome to the forum, hopefully you will not take the abusive comments to heart and stick around. If you click on reply and quote people will know who you are answering Sorry???? So it’s ok for her to slag off people who are cheating? How is that fair? " | |||
"Can I remind people it is against forum rules to discuss anothers profile unless they have asked for it and also against rules to attack people To the OP....welcome to the forum, hopefully you will not take the abusive comments to heart and stick around. If you click on reply and quote people will know who you are answering Sorry???? So it’s ok for her to slag off people who are cheating? How is that fair? " | |||
"Can I remind people it is against forum rules to discuss anothers profile unless they have asked for it and also against rules to attack people To the OP....welcome to the forum, hopefully you will not take the abusive comments to heart and stick around. If you click on reply and quote people will know who you are answering Sorry???? So it’s ok for her to slag off people who are cheating? How is that fair? " I am not sure the connection...a general comment for discussion is different to breaking forum rules | |||
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"Can I remind people it is against forum rules to discuss anothers profile unless they have asked for it and also against rules to attack people To the OP....welcome to the forum, hopefully you will not take the abusive comments to heart and stick around. If you click on reply and quote people will know who you are answering Sorry???? So it’s ok for her to slag off people who are cheating? How is that fair? I am not sure the connection...a general comment for discussion is different to breaking forum rules" One rule for one on these forums! She has slagged off a large group of people on this forum and that’s ok? | |||
"Yes Pisses me off either sex cheating behind their partners. If it's a swingers shudnt it be ether as a couple together Shaggin other people of single people. Many a time wen Iv asked someone an they are married n I say do u like Shaggin behind it wife. Why do they block me. THE TRUTH HURT THEN eH Just think how the he feels when she finds out N fucks him off out the house. He tries to grovel back to her Bullshit Likewise if she is carry on on behind his back n he caught her out kicks her out the house. So who is the winner And looser " I'm always loose | |||
"Can I remind people it is against forum rules to discuss anothers profile unless they have asked for it and also against rules to attack people To the OP....welcome to the forum, hopefully you will not take the abusive comments to heart and stick around. If you click on reply and quote people will know who you are answering https://www.fabswingers.com/content/forum-rules Sorry???? So it’s ok for her to slag off people who are cheating? How is that fair? I am not sure the connection...a general comment for discussion is different to breaking forum rules One rule for one on these forums! She has slagged off a large group of people on this forum and that’s ok? " Same rule for everyone, have an opinion on something is fine, be abusive while giving that opinion is not. If you can't understand that then maybe have a read of the forum rules | |||
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"Yes Pisses me off either sex cheating behind their partners. If it's a swingers shudnt it be ether as a couple together Shaggin other people of single people. Many a time wen Iv asked someone an they are married n I say do u like Shaggin behind it wife. Why do they block me. THE TRUTH HURT THEN eH Just think how the he feels when she finds out N fucks him off out the house. He tries to grovel back to her Bullshit Likewise if she is carry on on behind his back n he caught her out kicks her out the house. So who is the winner And looser I'm always loose " Anybodies for a bacon bap | |||
"In a way I would like the OP to come back and clarify. Maybe we've all misunderstood what she's saying, after all text messages can be misread without voice stimulation." exactly they can be ambiguous | |||
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"People keep saying, "I'm not judgemental" re. cheating, but this isn't body type / age / sexuality we're talking about, this is the purpose deceit of someone by a person meant to be reliable and faithful; it's fine to judge people for that, imo. "I'm not judgemental" is a strange mantra to have on this subject. Some things are perfectly fine to judge, infidelity is one of them. I don't need a high horse to think this." I disagree. Why should people judge other people when they don’t even know them or their circumstances and why they do things. It’s totally unacceptable, just like it’s unacceptable to judge people on how they look and what they are sexually into. Nobody has any right to! I think it’s disgusting and none of anyone’s business what other people do. If it’s not affecting you what’s the issue? Wish I had the time to sit and judge every other buggar on here! | |||
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" I disagree. Why should people judge other people when they don’t even know them or their circumstances and why they do things. It’s totally unacceptable, just like it’s unacceptable to judge people on how they look and what they are sexually into. Nobody has any right to! I think it’s disgusting and none of anyone’s business what other people do. If it’s not affecting you what’s the issue? Wish I had the time to sit and judge every other buggar on here! " You're welcome to disagree, of course, but I don't know of any circumstances that warrant cheating, and I've heard plenty. If there are issues then discussion is needed between the couple in question, and if issues can't be resolved then the relationship needs to be reviewed. Shit analogy alert:If I knew someone was stealing something from someone else without that person knowing, I'd think poorly of them for stealing. Likewise, there are plenty of behaviours that warrant the same, infidelity is one of them. I mean, it's cowardly and hurtful. As stated, I'm fine being judgemental on someone who wantonly commits an act that would cause hurt and distress to another, whether it's my business or not. I'll let them go about their business of course, but I'll think they're a bad egg for it. Sorry if this upsets, but everyone has their rules to adhere to. You're welcome to judge me for this. | |||
" I disagree. Why should people judge other people when they don’t even know them or their circumstances and why they do things. It’s totally unacceptable, just like it’s unacceptable to judge people on how they look and what they are sexually into. Nobody has any right to! I think it’s disgusting and none of anyone’s business what other people do. If it’s not affecting you what’s the issue? Wish I had the time to sit and judge every other buggar on here! You're welcome to disagree, of course, but I don't know of any circumstances that warrant cheating, and I've heard plenty. If there are issues then discussion is needed between the couple in question, and if issues can't be resolved then the relationship needs to be reviewed. Shit analogy alert:If I knew someone was stealing something from someone else without that person knowing, I'd think poorly of them for stealing. Likewise, there are plenty of behaviours that warrant the same, infidelity is one of them. I mean, it's cowardly and hurtful. As stated, I'm fine being judgemental on someone who wantonly commits an act that would cause hurt and distress to another, whether it's my business or not. I'll let them go about their business of course, but I'll think they're a bad egg for it. Sorry if this upsets, but everyone has their rules to adhere to. You're welcome to judge me for this." No it’s fine. I don’t judge. | |||
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"Does it partner know u fuck other men tben But u still go home n play the good housewife Bollocks To be honest you have a very poor opinion of people in relationships. You have your reasons. I've met and seen couples on here that are not married to each other. Must be a minefield of annoyance for you. Happy hunting for you. " That’s us we will not block the op just to be annoying | |||
" I disagree. Why should people judge other people when they don’t even know them or their circumstances and why they do things. It’s totally unacceptable, just like it’s unacceptable to judge people on how they look and what they are sexually into. Nobody has any right to! I think it’s disgusting and none of anyone’s business what other people do. If it’s not affecting you what’s the issue? Wish I had the time to sit and judge every other buggar on here! You're welcome to disagree, of course, but I don't know of any circumstances that warrant cheating, and I've heard plenty. If there are issues then discussion is needed between the couple in question, and if issues can't be resolved then the relationship needs to be reviewed. Shit analogy alert:If I knew someone was stealing something from someone else without that person knowing, I'd think poorly of them for stealing. Likewise, there are plenty of behaviours that warrant the same, infidelity is one of them. I mean, it's cowardly and hurtful. As stated, I'm fine being judgemental on someone who wantonly commits an act that would cause hurt and distress to another, whether it's my business or not. I'll let them go about their business of course, but I'll think they're a bad egg for it. Sorry if this upsets, but everyone has their rules to adhere to. You're welcome to judge me for this." So if one half of a couple becomes ill, long term, and the other half still has sexual needs that are not being met what are they to do? There could still be a lot of love, affection and respect in that relationship but no physical intimacy. Should they leave their sick partner (then they're a selfish bastard for leaving). Have sex with other people (still a selfish bastard) ? Or spend the rest of their life like this (and be a miserable bastard)? | |||
"I think unless you know the circumstances then you shouldn’t judge, don’t meet them, it’s not rocket science!!!!! I state clearly I am cheating on my husband, I adore him, and want to grow old with him, how ever, we have no sex life, so I indulge in a bit of Fab everynow and again, your very opiniated and that’s your choice, but as someone said earlier, it’s not all black and white, I wish my life was as perfect as yours so I could. sit on my high horse criticising every one else for their choices" If you adored your husband you would not be on here. I was cheated on once while pregnant sticking his dick into anything. If you have no sex life work on it with your husband or leave instead of making excuses. | |||
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"Judging people is a favourite pastime for many in forums but such is life and this is life, real people, real meets " Its the forums everyone has a right to an opinion. | |||
"People keep saying, "I'm not judgemental" re. cheating, but this isn't body type / age / sexuality we're talking about, this is the purpose deceit of someone by a person meant to be reliable and faithful; it's fine to judge people for that, imo. "I'm not judgemental" is a strange mantra to have on this subject. Some things are perfectly fine to judge, infidelity is one of them. I don't need a high horse to think this. I disagree. Why should people judge other people when they don’t even know them or their circumstances and why they do things. It’s totally unacceptable, just like it’s unacceptable to judge people on how they look and what they are sexually into. Nobody has any right to! I think it’s disgusting and none of anyone’s business what other people do. If it’s not affecting you what’s the issue? Wish I had the time to sit and judge every other buggar on here! " I like this x | |||
"I don’t accom and I’m single , simply its my choice . " I'm the same. I thought it might be nice to offer to accommodate but, after a bad experience with a single guy, there's no way I'm having anyone round to my place again. | |||
"I don’t accom and I’m single , simply its my choice . I'm the same. I thought it might be nice to offer to accommodate but, after a bad experience with a single guy, there's no way I'm having anyone round to my place again. " Safety comes first. | |||
"I don’t accom and I’m single , simply its my choice . I'm the same. I thought it might be nice to offer to accommodate but, after a bad experience with a single guy, there's no way I'm having anyone round to my place again. Safety comes first. "Absolutely. Never in a million years! Nobody will have my address. I have children. Some things are more important. | |||
"Judging people is a favourite pastime for many in forums but such is life and this is life, real people, real meets Its the forums everyone has a right to an opinion." exactly and that can be judgemental | |||
" I disagree. Why should people judge other people when they don’t even know them or their circumstances and why they do things. It’s totally unacceptable, just like it’s unacceptable to judge people on how they look and what they are sexually into. Nobody has any right to! I think it’s disgusting and none of anyone’s business what other people do. If it’s not affecting you what’s the issue? Wish I had the time to sit and judge every other buggar on here! You're welcome to disagree, of course, but I don't know of any circumstances that warrant cheating, and I've heard plenty. If there are issues then discussion is needed between the couple in question, and if issues can't be resolved then the relationship needs to be reviewed. Shit analogy alert:If I knew someone was stealing something from someone else without that person knowing, I'd think poorly of them for stealing. Likewise, there are plenty of behaviours that warrant the same, infidelity is one of them. I mean, it's cowardly and hurtful. As stated, I'm fine being judgemental on someone who wantonly commits an act that would cause hurt and distress to another, whether it's my business or not. I'll let them go about their business of course, but I'll think they're a bad egg for it. Sorry if this upsets, but everyone has their rules to adhere to. You're welcome to judge me for this." I do agree. I won’t sit here and badger or abuse someone for their choices however I don’t agree with cheating in any circumstance and I do think those who try to say “You don’t understand I’m in a X marriage” know it’s wrong and that’s why they try to justify it. If someone is married and contacts me I won’t go at them, I’ll just explain I’m only seeking single guys and wish them luck in their search. | |||
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"People keep saying, "I'm not judgemental" re. cheating, but this isn't body type / age / sexuality we're talking about, this is the purpose deceit of someone by a person meant to be reliable and faithful; it's fine to judge people for that, imo. "I'm not judgemental" is a strange mantra to have on this subject. Some things are perfectly fine to judge, infidelity is one of them. I don't need a high horse to think this." | |||
" I disagree. Why should people judge other people when they don’t even know them or their circumstances and why they do things. It’s totally unacceptable, just like it’s unacceptable to judge people on how they look and what they are sexually into. Nobody has any right to! I think it’s disgusting and none of anyone’s business what other people do. If it’s not affecting you what’s the issue? Wish I had the time to sit and judge every other buggar on here! You're welcome to disagree, of course, but I don't know of any circumstances that warrant cheating, and I've heard plenty. If there are issues then discussion is needed between the couple in question, and if issues can't be resolved then the relationship needs to be reviewed. Shit analogy alert:If I knew someone was stealing something from someone else without that person knowing, I'd think poorly of them for stealing. Likewise, there are plenty of behaviours that warrant the same, infidelity is one of them. I mean, it's cowardly and hurtful. As stated, I'm fine being judgemental on someone who wantonly commits an act that would cause hurt and distress to another, whether it's my business or not. I'll let them go about their business of course, but I'll think they're a bad egg for it. Sorry if this upsets, but everyone has their rules to adhere to. You're welcome to judge me for this." .. Yea it is a poor analogy, Google and Wikipedia are not your friend. At common law, criminal conversation, commonly known as crim. con., is a tort arising from adultery, abolished in many jurisdictions. (Conversation is an old expression for sexual intercourse that is obsolete except as part of this term.)[1] It is similar to breach of promise, a tort involving a broken engagement against the betrothed, and alienation of affection, a tort action brought by a deserted spouse against a third party. Initially, criminal conversation was an action brought by a husband for compensation for the breach of fidelity with his wife.[2][page needed][full citation needed] The tort was abolished in England and Wales in 1857, but persisted in Ireland long after (Northern Ireland retained it until 1939, and the Republic of Ireland until 1976). It still exists in parts of the United State So stealing a spouse is actually legal. The morality of it is another matter. However some in society (of a religious tendency) would argue about the morality of sex with third parties when in a commited relationship. | |||
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"OP signed in on Fab at this moment, but isn't contributing to the thread.... Must be reading! " Probably shocked at the reactions | |||
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"Not really a need for this post and all the ones after it is there OP? I don’t like cheats myself and would never knowingly meet with anyone who is cheating on their other half for various reasons. However I’m not going to judge or badger them for their own choices. Each to their own. " You say you don’t judge but you have already judged when you don’t meet... What if it was brad Pitt or Hugh jackman, or Scarlett johanson if that’s more your cup of tea...... | |||
"Not really a need for this post and all the ones after it is there OP? I don’t like cheats myself and would never knowingly meet with anyone who is cheating on their other half for various reasons. However I’m not going to judge or badger them for their own choices. Each to their own. You say you don’t judge but you have already judged when you don’t meet... What if it was brad Pitt or Hugh jackman, or Scarlett johanson if that’s more your cup of tea......" I’m entitled to meet who I want to. I’m not judging by _ot meeting them. Does that mean every guy I choose not to meet I’m judging them? Get real. By messaging them abuse or attempting to tell them what they should or shouldn’t do I am judging them. Not meeting them? That’s a choice anyone is entitled to. I couldn’t care less if it was the hottest man on Earth, if he’s married or attached I don’t want to know. My morals don’t suddenly change because someone’s more attractive. | |||
"Why is it there are some many people on here who think it's great shagging behind their wives / Gf back. Then wen I start it THEY BLOCK ME TRUTH HURT THEN EH HOPE U ALL GET CAUGHT " I had to read this again as I was confused. So basically what you're saying is that you too are cheating on a partner  | |||
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"Why is it there are some many people on here who think it's great shagging behind their wives / Gf back. Then wen I start it THEY BLOCK ME TRUTH HURT THEN EH HOPE U ALL GET CAUGHT " I don’t mind shagging behind her back... As long as she is in the same room.  | |||
"No I'm not cheating on anyone It's the married men on here msg to meet me. Shaggin behind their wives back" You said "Then wen I start it" what did you mean by that then? | |||
"Not really a need for this post and all the ones after it is there OP? I don’t like cheats myself and would never knowingly meet with anyone who is cheating on their other half for various reasons. However I’m not going to judge or badger them for their own choices. Each to their own. You say you don’t judge but you have already judged when you don’t meet... What if it was brad Pitt or Hugh jackman, or Scarlett johanson if that’s more your cup of tea......" She hadn't judged, she has exercised her right to choose. | |||
"No I'm not cheating on anyone It's the married men on here msg to meet me. Shaggin behind their wives back" block all guys and do your own search | |||
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"No I'm not cheating on anyone It's the married men on here msg to meet me. Shaggin behind their wives back" Why do you feel the need to "start" on them; they have done nothing to hurt you. You might not like it but it doesn't give you the right to abuse them for it. | |||
"Beleive me i don't meet then Wat I'm sayin is wen I ask do they like Shaggin behind the wives gf back THE BLOCK ME So wat does that prove " That they find it easier to block and move on than you do? | |||
"Beleive me i don't meet then Wat I'm sayin is wen I ask do they like Shaggin behind the wives gf back THE BLOCK ME So wat does that prove " I'm lost are you angry about them cheating or about them blocking you? | |||
"Beleive me i don't meet then Wat I'm sayin is wen I ask do they like Shaggin behind the wives gf back THE BLOCK ME So wat does that prove " it proves that your not for them so to save maybe accidently mailing you again they block so that doesnt happen | |||
" Yea it is a poor analogy... " Well, yes, hence my disclaimer. I was illustrating how (imo and heavy-handedly, for sure) it's okay to judge the actions of others, if warranted. I wasn't saying cheating is 'stealing the spouse of someone' and illegal; people aren't property. It was an analogy, not a like-for-like comparison. They are analogous as both are morally wrong (again, imo ymmv yadda yadda). " I do agree. I won’t sit here and badger or abuse someone for their choices however I don’t agree with cheating in any circumstance and I do think those who try to say “You don’t understand I’m in a X marriage” know it’s wrong and that’s why they try to justify it. If someone is married and contacts me I won’t go at them, I’ll just explain I’m only seeking single guys and wish them luck in their search. "Precisely. I'm not trying to pitchfork people who are duplicitous, but I god damn well reserve the right to think they're shitty for their actions, aka, judging them. | |||
"Beleive me i don't meet then Wat I'm sayin is wen I ask do they like Shaggin behind the wives gf back THE BLOCK ME So wat does that prove " It proves they know you dissaprove of their actions, so rather than waiting to see if you are going to point out every which way they are wrong in what they do, they block you. Why would you not want them to block you? | |||
"Beleive me i don't meet then Wat I'm sayin is wen I ask do they like Shaggin behind the wives gf back THE BLOCK ME So wat does that prove " Can I ask are you British? | |||
"Beleive me i don't meet then Wat I'm sayin is wen I ask do they like Shaggin behind the wives gf back THE BLOCK ME So wat does that prove it proves that your not for them so to save maybe accidently mailing you again they block so that doesnt happen "It proves they don't want to be judge by a stranger OP! OR Another way of putting it, is they don't give a shit about your opinion about their life! Anyway, the married ones that have contributed and who are maybe reading. Have now saved you the time by blocking you first! There you go...... Happy fabbing! | |||
"No I'm not cheating on anyone It's the married men on here msg to meet me. Shaggin behind their wives back" they've got more than one wife? A harem maybe? | |||
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"I’ve run out of popcorn "Sweet or salty? I have some sweet going spare | |||
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"Beleive me i don't meet then Wat I'm sayin is wen I ask do they like Shaggin behind the wives gf back THE BLOCK ME So wat does that prove " Nothing. It proves nothing. | |||
"I'm not responsible for how others live their lives. How can I be I will never know their personal situation. But these bash others threads based on whatever preconceptions that people hold based on their own unique view of the world do seem to always end up with the same judgemental entrenched positions taken on the basis that we should all live by another's idea of what is acceptable....Or isn't. Its simple if you disagree with others life choices just move on elsewhere without trying to impose your prejudices on another..." | |||
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" Yea it is a poor analogy... Well, yes, hence my disclaimer. I was illustrating how (imo and heavy-handedly, for sure) it's okay to judge the actions of others, if warranted. I wasn't saying cheating is 'stealing the spouse of someone' and illegal; people aren't property. It was an analogy, not a like-for-like comparison. They are analogous as both are morally wrong (again, imo ymmv yadda yadda). I do agree. I won’t sit here and badger or abuse someone for their choices however I don’t agree with cheating in any circumstance and I do think those who try to say “You don’t understand I’m in a X marriage” know it’s wrong and that’s why they try to justify it. If someone is married and contacts me I won’t go at them, I’ll just explain I’m only seeking single guys and wish them luck in their search.
Precisely. I'm not trying to pitchfork people who are duplicitous, but I god damn well reserve the right to think they're shitty for their actions, aka, judging them."I think you believe they cases are analogous because you believe the situation to be morally wrong. I only dealt with one part of your example (sleeping with other people), I did not point the issues with your first part (the stealing). Even if there were not issues with the stealing example, you are comparing apples and pears and using morality to even out the difference which it does not. An analogy is meant to help explain an unclear situation. A false analogy is no help and the refuge of politicians and priests. Given that the people being chastised are most likely to be aware of what they are doing and the potential of hurt I am not sure further education is required. | |||
"The site is full of people cheating and having wonderful sexy shenanigans behind their partners back. Nothing you can do about it OP. They really don't give a stuff about your angry and judgemental opinion." And most are quietly going about their business without advertising it. Informed choice and all that. I know the cheated on partner has no choice but that is something that is on the cheaters concience. A stranger on the internet isn't going to change their view. | |||
"OK, so chatting to the OP now, she's had an unpleasant experience, hence her OP. I won't give any details as its not my place to. Filters are good. I hope she uses them to her advantage and has a more pleasant experience on fab from now on. " A lot of us had unpleasant experiences, but we don't go around making ranting judgemental forum threads about it. I fear with her attitude shown on here, it won't help her Fab experience, but I could be wrong. | |||
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"Look I am totally honest about it, that if a woman wont cheat on me then she's history.. There is no way that I want to get hooked up with a woman that's a monogamist... She cant think much of me if she is not prepared to have a few lovers and let me here all the sordid detail " | |||
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Sweet or salty? I have some sweet going spare"Sweet please .... | |||
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"I find you all very hypocritical. Some situations like mine are sexless, so I find this is my discrete fix. Being a swinger doesn't exclude cheating or relationship breakdowns. " Exactly this. There are loads of men and women in sexless marriages who love their partners but also don't want to go for the next thirty years without any sex. What would you do? Break up a marriage just for sex? That's ridiculous. Personally believe if a marriage is sexless the one with no sex drive should allow the other one to play away. | |||
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