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"You click with someone on FAB. They seem decent but you find out they have a partner who doesn't know. Personally I wouldn't take things further. What are your thoughts?" you're a couple yes? Only you said that in singular | |||
"No. We did it once and immediately agreed not to again. We don't know if she knew or not but we guess not as he took the wedding ring off " so he told you he was married but took the wedding ring off? | |||
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"We don't take things further. Affair to me implies emotional involvement that to me is more of a betrayal than physical involvement." I agree, an affair includes emotion. Different to swinging. Forgetting about the third party, how would your partner feel if they thought you were having an affair? | |||
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"... I do wonder about people who say they won't play with attached people yet go to clubs and play. There is no way you can guarantee that you aren't playing with a 'cheat'." Simple to ask if you want to know. No you can't guarantee that somebody won't lie to you when asked. If that is the case you can only go on the information you have. However if you have knowledge someone is cheating you do then have the choice to decline if you so wish. If it wouldn't make any difference then no need to ask. | |||
"... I do wonder about people who say they won't play with attached people yet go to clubs and play. There is no way you can guarantee that you aren't playing with a 'cheat'. Simple to ask if you want to know. No you can't guarantee that somebody won't lie to you when asked. If that is the case you can only go on the information you have. However if you have knowledge someone is cheating you do then have the choice to decline if you so wish. If it wouldn't make any difference then no need to ask. " Exactly, so why do people make such an issue of it online, yet aren't bothered when in a club. Hmmmmm. | |||
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"I just meet people and assume they are attached.... I look at this way.... what are chances this person isn’t dating someone else or has a fuck buddy?" I’m the same, assume attached unless I hear/know otherwise | |||
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"... I do wonder about people who say they won't play with attached people yet go to clubs and play. There is no way you can guarantee that you aren't playing with a 'cheat'. Simple to ask if you want to know. No you can't guarantee that somebody won't lie to you when asked. If that is the case you can only go on the information you have. However if you have knowledge someone is cheating you do then have the choice to decline if you so wish. If it wouldn't make any difference then no need to ask. Exactly, so why do people make such an issue of it online, yet aren't bothered when in a club. Hmmmmm." Maybe because in a club they are less likely to have your contact details so there is virtually no chance of some demented bunny-boiler appearing on your doorstep or pestering you with phone calls or text messages. | |||
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" I have a couples profile on here too with a lady who is also married. We have spoken to couples on here who have said no to us for being married.... Totally understand. Then two days later they are messaging her for a solo meet. Funny how their principals are put to one side when a bi sexual woman is at stake?? " Simple, they don't want to play with married men. | |||
"I don't judge and understand that people are here for so many different reasons, and I can appreciate why some people resort to cheating in their relationships. This for me is fun sex, not serious dating so I would meet people who are married, as long as they are careful not to be caught out. I do wonder about people who say they won't play with attached people yet go to clubs and play. There is no way you can guarantee that you aren't playing with a 'cheat'. " Totally agree with this... If they get caught that's their problem not mine. They have more to lose than me. | |||
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"I don't judge and understand that people are here for so many different reasons, and I can appreciate why some people resort to cheating in their relationships. This for me is fun sex, not serious dating so I would meet people who are married, as long as they are careful not to be caught out. I do wonder about people who say they won't play with attached people yet go to clubs and play. There is no way you can guarantee that you aren't playing with a 'cheat'. Totally agree with this... If they get caught that's their problem not mine. They have more to lose than me. " Thank you for an open mind, so many that aren't on here. I don't hide it, and understand why some don't want to get involved, but to judge someone you don't know? I could have lied and tried to hide it, or say that it's an open relationship, but I believe in openness. The term 'cheat' is banded around, but after 4 years of a sexless relationship that used to be very active, who's been cheated the most? I decided I'm not ready to give up on something so important at 45, I have received a number of messages, some abusive, judging me, asking why I don't just leave etc. but how many of them have gone so long without being made to feel attractive to some1, or able to express their true self. I do wonder how many women in the same permission receive the same? I thought the lifestyle was about freedom to openly explore, express, share, whatever one wants, among others that give the same freedom as well as taking it. If it was my partner on here cos I'd let myself go and would rather spend my evenings up the pub than pay her any attention, the same people would be saying it served me right, or 'go girl' | |||
"I don't judge and understand that people are here for so many different reasons, and I can appreciate why some people resort to cheating in their relationships. This for me is fun sex, not serious dating so I would meet people who are married, as long as they are careful not to be caught out. I do wonder about people who say they won't play with attached people yet go to clubs and play. There is no way you can guarantee that you aren't playing with a 'cheat'. Totally agree with this... If they get caught that's their problem not mine. They have more to lose than me. Thank you for an open mind, so many that aren't on here. I don't hide it, and understand why some don't want to get involved, but to judge someone you don't know? I could have lied and tried to hide it, or say that it's an open relationship, but I believe in openness. The term 'cheat' is banded around, but after 4 years of a sexless relationship that used to be very active, who's been cheated the most? I decided I'm not ready to give up on something so important at 45, I have received a number of messages, some abusive, judging me, asking why I don't just leave etc. but how many of them have gone so long without being made to feel attractive to some1, or able to express their true self. I do wonder how many women in the same permission receive the same? I thought the lifestyle was about freedom to openly explore, express, share, whatever one wants, among others that give the same freedom as well as taking it. If it was my partner on here cos I'd let myself go and would rather spend my evenings up the pub than pay her any attention, the same people would be saying it served me right, or 'go girl' " We all judge, even you. Swingers are no different to any other group of people. | |||
" I have a couples profile on here too with a lady who is also married. We have spoken to couples on here who have said no to us for being married.... Totally understand. Then two days later they are messaging her for a solo meet. Funny how their principals are put to one side when a bi sexual woman is at stake?? Simple, they don't want to play with married men." But it’s fine to play with a married woman? | |||
" I have a couples profile on here too with a lady who is also married. We have spoken to couples on here who have said no to us for being married.... Totally understand. Then two days later they are messaging her for a solo meet. Funny how their principals are put to one side when a bi sexual woman is at stake?? Simple, they don't want to play with married men. But it’s fine to play with a married woman?" Providing she is in a relationship with a man not another woman then yes it is. | |||
"I don't judge and understand that people are here for so many different reasons, and I can appreciate why some people resort to cheating in their relationships. This for me is fun sex, not serious dating so I would meet people who are married, as long as they are careful not to be caught out. I do wonder about people who say they won't play with attached people yet go to clubs and play. There is no way you can guarantee that you aren't playing with a 'cheat'. In total agreement. This is a swingers site not a dating one and people behave accordingly. V x " | |||
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"You click with someone on FAB. They seem decent but you find out they have a partner who doesn't know. Personally I wouldn't take things further. What are your thoughts?" If we are at a club we probably wouldn't know until after, and not our problem anyway. If meeting via fabs, not that that ever actually happens, then no chance. | |||
"You click with someone on FAB. They seem decent but you find out they have a partner who doesn't know. Personally I wouldn't take things further. What are your thoughts?" I don’t judge as know there are reasons behind it, but I wouldn’t take things further | |||
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"I fell hard for a fellow swinger and he felt the same. A four month relationship ensued. Then I discovered he was married, had been for 32 years. Wife hadn't a clue about me, Fab or any of it. I told the wife and haven't heard from him since. But guess what - his profile is still active!!" That's awful and damn right bloody mean on his behalf. | |||
"I fell hard for a fellow swinger and he felt the same. A four month relationship ensued. Then I discovered he was married, had been for 32 years. Wife hadn't a clue about me, Fab or any of it. I told the wife and haven't heard from him since. But guess what - his profile is still active!! That's awful and damn right bloody mean on his behalf." Damn right. He lied about every single thing. And he is still at it!!  | |||
"I fell hard for a fellow swinger and he felt the same. A four month relationship ensued. Then I discovered he was married, had been for 32 years. Wife hadn't a clue about me, Fab or any of it. I told the wife and haven't heard from him since. But guess what - his profile is still active!!" That was good of you. Could you please include a warning on your profile that you will actively out cheats. It may help to keep the cheating twats at bay. | |||
"I fell hard for a fellow swinger and he felt the same. A four month relationship ensued. Then I discovered he was married, had been for 32 years. Wife hadn't a clue about me, Fab or any of it. I told the wife and haven't heard from him since. But guess what - his profile is still active!! That was good of you. Could you please include a warning on your profile that you will actively out cheats. It may help to keep the cheating twats at bay." He thinks that there is nothing wrong with it and everyone else is at it.. I don't know how to name and shame without being blocked | |||
"I fell hard for a fellow swinger and he felt the same. A four month relationship ensued. Then I discovered he was married, had been for 32 years. Wife hadn't a clue about me, Fab or any of it. I told the wife and haven't heard from him since. But guess what - his profile is still active!! That was good of you. Could you please include a warning on your profile that you will actively out cheats. It may help to keep the cheating twats at bay. He thinks that there is nothing wrong with it and everyone else is at it.. I don't know how to name and shame without being blocked " It isn't worth the ban. People like that just make me sick. | |||
"You click with someone on FAB. They seem decent but you find out they have a partner who doesn't know. Personally I wouldn't take things further. What are your thoughts?" Happened to me. Was seeing someone for quite a while, he always had a good reason why he couldn’t accommodate (teens at home) 6 months later he finally coughed. I was nice, listened sweetly, went home and blocked him on all media. I never ever want to be the reason another woman’s heart is broken!! | |||
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"You click with someone on FAB. They seem decent but you find out they have a partner who doesn't know. Personally I wouldn't take things further. What are your thoughts?" I wouldn’t take things further either. Getting involved with someone who was married is a painful tee-shirt I’ve bought, thrown away and never, ever want to wear again. | |||
"You click with someone on FAB. They seem decent but you find out they have a partner who doesn't know. Personally I wouldn't take things further. What are your thoughts? I wouldn’t take things further either. Getting involved with someone who was married is a painful tee-shirt I’ve bought, thrown away and never, ever want to wear again. " Me too. Was one of the most painful things I've ever encountered in a fairly drma laden life. Not something i wish to repeat. | |||
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"... I do wonder about people who say they won't play with attached people yet go to clubs and play. There is no way you can guarantee that you aren't playing with a 'cheat'. Simple to ask if you want to know. No you can't guarantee that somebody won't lie to you when asked. If that is the case you can only go on the information you have. However if you have knowledge someone is cheating you do then have the choice to decline if you so wish. If it wouldn't make any difference then no need to ask. Exactly, so why do people make such an issue of it online, yet aren't bothered when in a club. Hmmmmm. Maybe because in a club they are less likely to have your contact details so there is virtually no chance of some demented bunny-boiler appearing on your doorstep or pestering you with phone calls or text messages." | |||
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"Age makes a big difference to me. If somebody is young and attached I'll turn them down. If they're older than me then I'm more likely to accept them being married/attached but wanting to meet. I'm sure there's some sane rationale behind this, though it temporarily escapes me. " A younger guy may be more likely to get caught. An older guy is wiser, has probably been caught out before and is likely to be better at covering his tracks. #justsaying. The Lord Fucker (aged 47) | |||
"Age makes a big difference to me. If somebody is young and attached I'll turn them down. If they're older than me then I'm more likely to accept them being married/attached but wanting to meet. I'm sure there's some sane rationale behind this, though it temporarily escapes me. " There isn't always an immediate sane rationale behind these things. I sometimes see a guy say weird reasons why someone has turned them down and think to myself that it seems perfectly reasonable  | |||
"I don't judge and understand that people are here for so many different reasons, and I can appreciate why some people resort to cheating in their relationships. This for me is fun sex, not serious dating so I would meet people who are married, as long as they are careful not to be caught out. I do wonder about people who say they won't play with attached people yet go to clubs and play. There is no way you can guarantee that you aren't playing with a 'cheat'. Totally agree with this... If they get caught that's their problem not mine. They have more to lose than me. Thank you for an open mind, so many that aren't on here. I don't hide it, and understand why some don't want to get involved, but to judge someone you don't know? I could have lied and tried to hide it, or say that it's an open relationship, but I believe in openness. The term 'cheat' is banded around, but after 4 years of a sexless relationship that used to be very active, who's been cheated the most? I decided I'm not ready to give up on something so important at 45, I have received a number of messages, some abusive, judging me, asking why I don't just leave etc. but how many of them have gone so long without being made to feel attractive to some1, or able to express their true self. I do wonder how many women in the same permission receive the same? I thought the lifestyle was about freedom to openly explore, express, share, whatever one wants, among others that give the same freedom as well as taking it. If it was my partner on here cos I'd let myself go and would rather spend my evenings up the pub than pay her any attention, the same people would be saying it served me right, or 'go girl' " I went without for a lot longer than 4 years and I didnt cheat and that's what it is if she doesn't know youre here, it's true we don't know your circumstances but if you love that person what you're doing isn't really very nice for her, I personally understand where you're coming from you're an adult and capable of making a decision so it wouldn't personally affect me but one of the things that certainly many women dislike about a cheat is the lying and in order to be successful at cheating you have to lie a lot, people judge you for many things here, at least in your case you've been honest so people can make informed decisions about whether they meet you or not. | |||
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"It all depends on what you're after: plain fucking ethical fucking or fucking haven't a clue" Bloody hell that was a rare genius moment. Took me by surprise as I skim through what I missed. | |||
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"What an absolute yuk of a situation I’m here for fun with likeminded people. Likeminded being the optimum word. I’m not looking to bed a guilty mind. It took me A HELL OF A LOT to bring my relationship to the open level it is now. I don’t want to shag a coward who darent sit down with their SO and talk about their ADULT wants and needs. It’s a no from me " Amen to that! Well said. | |||
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"I fell hard for a fellow swinger and he felt the same. A four month relationship ensued. Then I discovered he was married, had been for 32 years. Wife hadn't a clue about me, Fab or any of it. I told the wife and haven't heard from him since. But guess what - his profile is still active!! That was good of you. Could you please include a warning on your profile that you will actively out cheats. It may help to keep the cheating twats at bay. He thinks that there is nothing wrong with it and everyone else is at it.. I don't know how to name and shame without being blocked " I'm actually more shocked that you told her than I am that someone lied about being unattached. I get that you felt betrayed and were hurting after 4 months.... So why on earth would you want to inflict that on an innocent third party who had given him her entire life? Where was your empathy? We all make mistakes and the occasional bad choice on here. But you live and learn... You don't blow up the building  | |||
"I don't judge and understand that people are here for so many different reasons, and I can appreciate why some people resort to cheating in their relationships. This for me is fun sex, not serious dating so I would meet people who are married, as long as they are careful not to be caught out. I do wonder about people who say they won't play with attached people yet go to clubs and play. There is no way you can guarantee that you aren't playing with a 'cheat'. Totally agree with this... If they get caught that's their problem not mine. They have more to lose than me. "
It's none of my business, I don't like to share personal things and I don't expect it in return. Here for nsa sex only and if that's their choice then I respect that, you don't know whats going on in their relationship.
And also to add to this half the time I dont even get told, but you can usually guess when a person is attached by their patterns of texting and meets. | |||
"I don't judge and understand that people are here for so many different reasons, and I can appreciate why some people resort to cheating in their relationships. This for me is fun sex, not serious dating so I would meet people who are married, as long as they are careful not to be caught out. I do wonder about people who say they won't play with attached people yet go to clubs and play. There is no way you can guarantee that you aren't playing with a 'cheat'. Totally agree with this... If they get caught that's their problem not mine. They have more to lose than me.
It's none of my business, I don't like to share personal things and I don't expect it in return. Here for nsa sex only and if that's their choice then I respect that, you don't know whats going on in their relationship.
And also to add to this half the time I dont even get told, but you can usually guess when a person is attached by their patterns of texting and meets. "I agree that you never know what's going on in someone elses relationship. That's the very reason we choose to avoid partnered people, with or without consent from the other partner. How can we possibly justify it to ourselves? | |||
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"You click with someone on FAB. They seem decent but you find out they have a partner who doesn't know. Personally I wouldn't take things further. What are your thoughts?" Massive no from me. | |||
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Is it if a woman is doing it she must have a good reason and if a man does it he's just being a horny twat? Cos that seems legit right?  | |||
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"The really sad thing here is that so many people cannot talk to their partners. Men (mainly) say they cheat because they are in a sexless relationship or are with someone who doesn't satisfy them sexually. In such a situation one would hope two people in a relationship could discuss that issue and try to reach a solution. For many, it seems to be easier to shag ransoms on the side. As I say, very sad. " Agreed  | |||
"I cannot lie. I do meet married women. They just seem to want a good time and are good fun to be with. Some hubbies know, some don't, I get the pleasure of them and handing them back. " | |||
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"I cannot lie. I do meet married women. They just seem to want a good time and are good fun to be with. Some hubbies know, some don't, I get the pleasure of them and handing them back. "Oh yes... we want a good time and we are good fun and I love returning to my husband... | |||
"You click with someone on FAB. They seem decent but you find out they have a partner who doesn't know. Personally I wouldn't take things further. What are your thoughts?" Yes totally I wouldn’t play with someone who was taken and their partner doesn’t know, if your unhappy just leave don’t cheat | |||
"I cannot lie. I do meet married women. They just seem to want a good time and are good fun to be with. Some hubbies know, some don't, I get the pleasure of them and handing them back.
This kind of stuff is OK as all parties know and something we dabble in ourselves but people having affairs nope bugger off
Oh yes... we want a good time and we are good fun and I love returning to my husband... " | |||
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"It is something I have been forced to spend time thinking about and I’m not sure I’ve worked out my feelings. V x " I'm not sure it's as black or white as we'd like it to be.....good luck with the pondering though! | |||
"You click with someone on FAB. They seem decent but you find out they have a partner who doesn't know. Personally I wouldn't take things further. What are your thoughts?" Not a chance in hell...would never want to be the cause of someone else's misery.Always have a thought for the unknowing partner...they would be devastated. | |||
"I don't judge and understand that people are here for so many different reasons, and I can appreciate why some people resort to cheating in their relationships. This for me is fun sex, not serious dating so I would meet people who are married, as long as they are careful not to be caught out. I do wonder about people who say they won't play with attached people yet go to clubs and play. There is no way you can guarantee that you aren't playing with a 'cheat'. Totally agree with this... If they get caught that's their problem not mine. They have more to lose than me. Thank you for an open mind, so many that aren't on here. I don't hide it, and understand why some don't want to get involved, but to judge someone you don't know? I could have lied and tried to hide it, or say that it's an open relationship, but I believe in openness. The term 'cheat' is banded around, but after 4 years of a sexless relationship that used to be very active, who's been cheated the most? I decided I'm not ready to give up on something so important at 45, I have received a number of messages, some abusive, judging me, asking why I don't just leave etc. but how many of them have gone so long without being made to feel attractive to some1, or able to express their true self. I do wonder how many women in the same permission receive the same? I thought the lifestyle was about freedom to openly explore, express, share, whatever one wants, among others that give the same freedom as well as taking it. If it was my partner on here cos I'd let myself go and would rather spend my evenings up the pub than pay her any attention, the same people would be saying it served me right, or 'go girl' " So you believe in openess and honesty on a swingers site but not to your wife..... | |||
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"You click with someone on FAB. They seem decent but you find out they have a partner who doesn't know. Personally I wouldn't take things further. What are your thoughts?" It's easy to say when you're not in the situation. Sometimes life isn't that blabl and white. Sometimes your heart rules your head. | |||
"It is something I have been forced to spend time thinking about and I’m not sure I’ve worked out my feelings. V x I'm not sure it's as black or white as we'd like it to be.....good luck with the pondering though!" Thanks  | |||
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"I’d smash the life out of all the married ladies ... don’t give a f### "I'm sure all their gussets are moist right now | |||
" I actually find it harder not to judge those that intentionally try to make people feel bad for the choices they make, with only limited information at their disposal. That self-righteous belief that they know better and need to belittle others in th name of education sets my teeth on edge, no matter how hard I try to take a step back and understand why they might feel that urge." . Exactly this | |||
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"There is no place for it on a swinging site, it's all about being open and honest, who can you put your trust in someone how isn't even honest with there partner "You're a couple. I assume your family doesn't know you're having sex outside of your relationship. Hypocritical much? | |||
" I actually find it harder not to judge those that intentionally try to make people feel bad for the choices they make, with only limited information at their disposal. That self-righteous belief that they know better and need to belittle others in th name of education sets my teeth on edge, no matter how hard I try to take a step back and understand why they might feel that urge. . Exactly this "Absolutely this | |||
" Thank you for an open mind, so many that aren't on here. I don't hide it, and understand why some don't want to get involved, but to judge someone you don't know? I could have lied and tried to hide it, or say that it's an open relationship, but I believe in openness. The term 'cheat' is banded around, but after 4 years of a sexless relationship that used to be very active, who's been cheated the most? I decided I'm not ready to give up on something so important at 45, I have received a number of messages, some abusive, judging me, asking why I don't just leave etc. but how many of them have gone so long without being made to feel attractive to some1, or able to express their true self. I do wonder how many women in the same permission receive the same? I thought the lifestyle was about freedom to openly explore, express, share, whatever one wants, among others that give the same freedom as well as taking it. If it was my partner on here cos I'd let myself go and would rather spend my evenings up the pub than pay her any attention, the same people would be saying it served me right, or 'go girl' So you believe in openess and honesty on a swingers site but not to your wife....." If feeling came into and it turned into an affair, I would be honest with all. As it is I am looking to replace a part that isn't even there. I let people make the choice based on full disclosure, I wasn't given the choice 4 years ago and I wouldn't want to deny any1 the choice based on a lie. It's not something I do easily, but the alternative is zero physical contact with any1, zero connection, zero affection . Some on here will understand how that feels. In an ideal world these situations wouldn't arise, but we'll never see an ideal world. | |||
"There is no place for it on a swinging site, it's all about being open and honest, who can you put your trust in someone how isn't even honest with there partner
You're a couple. I assume your family doesn't know you're having sex outside of your relationship.
Hypocritical much?"That's not the same at all, jfc. | |||
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"There is no place for it on a swinging site, it's all about being open and honest, who can you put your trust in someone how isn't even honest with there partner
You're a couple. I assume your family doesn't know you're having sex outside of your relationship.
Hypocritical much?"You know what swinging is, right? | |||
"I fell hard for a fellow swinger and he felt the same. A four month relationship ensued. Then I discovered he was married, had been for 32 years. Wife hadn't a clue about me, Fab or any of it. I told the wife and haven't heard from him since. But guess what - his profile is still active!! That's awful and damn right bloody mean on his behalf. Damn right. He lied about every single thing. And he is still at it!! "Then she is choosing to ignore it, surely? | |||
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"There is no place for it on a swinging site, it's all about being open and honest, who can you put your trust in someone how isn't even honest with there partner "I'm not sure why I'd need to 'put my trust' in someone who I'm simply seeking to have a sexual encounter with. My expectation for openness and honesty only extends to people who I'm invested in. | |||
"There is no place for it on a swinging site, it's all about being open and honest, who can you put your trust in someone how isn't even honest with there partner
You're a couple. I assume your family doesn't know you're having sex outside of your relationship.
Hypocritical much?
You know what swinging is, right? "I may be wrong but I'm assuming the poster was using an example to show how openess and honesty doesn't necessarily translate to an interest in this lifestyle and family members being aware of it. | |||
"There is no place for it on a swinging site, it's all about being open and honest, who can you put your trust in someone how isn't even honest with there partner
You're a couple. I assume your family doesn't know you're having sex outside of your relationship.
Hypocritical much?"Our sex life has nothing to do with our family,, we are open and honest with each other and would not want anything to do with anyone who has to lie to anyone just to get sex, there is nothing hypocritical about dislikeing cheats, | |||
"There is no place for it on a swinging site, it's all about being open and honest, who can you put your trust in someone how isn't even honest with there partner
I'm not sure why I'd need to 'put my trust' in someone who I'm simply seeking to have a sexual encounter with.
My expectation for openness and honesty only extends to people who I'm invested in."We just don't like the thought of having sex with someone who has a wife/husband at home that has no idea what they are upto, we understand that not everyone can be as open and honest with there partners as we are with each other, this is a swinging site not a cheating site therefore we believe there is no place for it here | |||
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"There is no place for it on a swinging site, it's all about being open and honest, who can you put your trust in someone how isn't even honest with there partner
I'm not sure why I'd need to 'put my trust' in someone who I'm simply seeking to have a sexual encounter with.
My expectation for openness and honesty only extends to people who I'm invested in.
We just don't like the thought of having sex with someone who has a wife/husband at home that has no idea what they are upto, we understand that not everyone can be as open and honest with there partners as we are with each other, this is a swinging site not a cheating site therefore we believe there is no place for it here "Of course that's absolutely fine, but personally I can't make moral judgements about people who have the qualities I'm looking for and who excite my interest, they're in fairly short supply! I'm here for purely selfish reasons and won't take responsibility for the consequences of someone else's behaviour, they've not become cheats because they've met me  | |||
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"We just don't like the thought of having sex with someone who has a wife/husband at home that has no idea what they are upto, we understand that not everyone can be as open and honest with there partners as we are with each other, this is a swinging site not a cheating site therefore we believe there is no place for it here " The only way you can be certain of this is if they tell you. Anything else is an guesswork. However, if someone does tell you, I'd feel that they felt guilty and were trying to offload the guilt. | |||
"There is no place for it on a swinging site, it's all about being open and honest, who can you put your trust in someone how isn't even honest with there partner
I'm not sure why I'd need to 'put my trust' in someone who I'm simply seeking to have a sexual encounter with.
My expectation for openness and honesty only extends to people who I'm invested in.
We just don't like the thought of having sex with someone who has a wife/husband at home that has no idea what they are upto, we understand that not everyone can be as open and honest with there partners as we are with each other, this is a swinging site not a cheating site therefore we believe there is no place for it here
Of course that's absolutely fine, but personally I can't make moral judgements about people who have the qualities I'm looking for and who excite my interest, they're in fairly short supply!
I'm here for purely selfish reasons and won't take responsibility for the consequences of someone else's behaviour, they've not become cheats because they've met me " | |||
"You click with someone on FAB. They seem decent but you find out they have a partner who doesn't know. Personally I wouldn't take things further. What are your thoughts?" Emotions run high I’ve very hard, lust, love or fun is the question xx | |||
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"You click with someone on FAB. They seem decent but you find out they have a partner who doesn't know. Personally I wouldn't take things further. What are your thoughts?" If it was my partner. He'd have no balls left. And id walk the hell away from every aspect of this life and make him live with shitty bjs and missionary for a long as fuck time. Anything behind someones back counts as an affair. Because as soon as you feel a need to hide stuff, thats a damn affair. | |||
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"Over Christmas, I had a message from a guy I’d been speaking to for a short while, never met. He said he was single. Gave out his phone number. The message was “how do you know K*****” It was his gf She found fab on his phone. Thankfully she was lovely, but she had no idea what fab was. I was totally upfront with her and told her to give him hell. My profile says no to marrieds / relationships. It’s my preference, I’ve been cheated on and will not be the whore in another woman’s eyes. If a guy has secrets, then he is not loyal. I don’t want a part of that. And that text message I got from that poor girl is exactly why." I congratulate you for doing that. I have been cheated on. It's not nice. Cheating is wrong. There is NO excuse for it. | |||
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"It all depends on what you're after: plain fucking ethical fucking or fucking haven't a clue" | |||
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"We don't take things further. Affair to me implies emotional involvement that to me is more of a betrayal than physical involvement." Very true | |||
"I must admit I see no reason not to meet married women if they are open about it. Men shouldn't neglect their partners, they're usually the ones fucking around. "Not always the case, just because a woman is looking for an affair doesn't mean her partner isn't doing something. He could be the world's best partner / husband. She could just want to betray him, to experience the thrill, be rebellious, have one over on him, feel she needs external validation. Could be lots of things. | |||
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"Having sex with someone else without your partner's agreement is cheating, romance does n't have to come into it." So true. | |||
"You click with someone on FAB. They seem decent but you find out they have a partner who doesn't know. Personally I wouldn't take things further. What are your thoughts?" Ok ye each person here is here for whatever reason. But I don't play with Attached Men unless I generally know that the wife/gf is aware. But then when I was on here years ago with my ex,the amount of couples that we meet that were just fuck buddies,and both would be married to others,or one be married and the other single. Some were great meets and others you could clearly tell that one wasn't as keen on doing it,but doing it for the sake of not losing the person. Jealousy was a big issue is some cases. So in all honesty if I avoid it. | |||
