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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi there, does anyone else have the same issue with a couple contacting you, and when it all boils down only one half is really on offer so to say..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We only ever meet as a couple. However Chris does 99.9% of the chatting on here.
Vicky just looks at the pics and says yep or no and she will chat on the phone to prove it’s not just me lol. |
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We have also met couples and when it gets down to the nitty gritty the guy doesn't want to join in just watch his partner with me the female half. That proved a bit awkward as I'm straight  and they knew that before we agreed to go further . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have encountered this many times even worse for me are the my wife needs chatting up and when it comes down to it the man wants to see if his wife might have an affair.
How about after chatting only Male half playing. So why a couples profile?
Someone told me, but it could be bunkum, most couples profiles are made by controlling men!
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"I have encountered this many times even worse for me are the my wife needs chatting up and when it comes down to it the man wants to see if his wife might have an affair.
How about after chatting only Male half playing. So why a couples profile?
Someone told me, but it could be bunkum, most couples profiles are made by controlling men!
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Yeah it is bunkum. Some are its true but you can spot them a mile off. There are also the couple's profiles where there either is no woman or the woman is completely unaware. |
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"I get that a lot and funnily enough the “wife” wants “hubby” to meet me alone.
Don’t see why they have done that as I would have met the guy alone if I was attracted to him and we clicked "
we've had that the wife won't meet us until we've met and played with him to ensure we're suitable. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just ask them to chat o the phone - we ask that the women chat together. We get suspicious if for what ever reason they refuse to have a phone natter. "
Best way to eliminate all suspicion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We’ve done that quite a bit. Had one “couple” just wanted to text chat on Kik . That was a nine starter ..it only takes a two minute conversation to prove a couple is a couple |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm "him" on our profile and I've done most of the talking but frankly I'm getting so fed up with the fakes and one liners that I'm considering just jacking it in. My wife has offered to do it instead so I think I'll take her up on it. It's starting to feel like too much aggravation to be bothered with.
We've had single guys pretending to be couples, people that won't chat on the phone or kik or share a selfie, people pestering us with pics of their body parts, people who wanted to chat about sex after 19 seconds, people whose main objective was wanteing naked pics of the wife.. People whose wives were - on holiday, out with friends, away on business. Sigh. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You do know an mf couple is a man and a woman?
The guy is allowed to message as well.
I don't know of any couples on the site that are conjoined twins.
It's quite quickly apparent if the guy is just trying to get his rocks off,once that nonsense starts close the conversation,he can only continue that crap for as far as you allow him. |
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I get winks and occasional messages from couples but do find it’s the Male (straight) half who has permission to play or meet on their own. If this was true don’t message as a couple create a new single Male Profile, so I’ll ignore them the minute they suggest I’m gullible enough to believe them.
I have been lucky to have played with some couples as that’s one of my fantasies, so if I’m being messaged prefer honesty |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always assume it is the guy replying when I message anyway. You can almost always tell by the style of the message and if it's a single male pretending to be a couple, again you can usually tell by the message content.
I've never yet been conned or indeed stood up by a single or couple and that's with 20 years experience. |
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By *ll 4 herCouple
over a year ago
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"Just ask them to chat o the phone - we ask that the women chat together. We get suspicious if for what ever reason they refuse to have a phone natter. "
It's not foolproof.
Male here and you will rarely find her on the site unless I'm showing her a message or profile.
She flatly refuses to chat on the phone, we have done and she found it awkward and won't do it anymore. Her response "we meet at clubs if they don't believe the veris others wrote then it's tough but their loss"
I see both sides but we would be deemed suspicious by this rule alone surely? |
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"Just ask them to chat o the phone - we ask that the women chat together. We get suspicious if for what ever reason they refuse to have a phone natter.
It's not foolproof.
Male here and you will rarely find her on the site unless I'm showing her a message or profile.
She flatly refuses to chat on the phone, we have done and she found it awkward and won't do it anymore. Her response "we meet at clubs if they don't believe the veris others wrote then it's tough but their loss"
I see both sides but we would be deemed suspicious by this rule alone surely?"
I'm the female of this couple and do almost all the messaging and all the forum interaction by mutual agreement although Mr N always reads and comments. I won't talk on the phone either. Its as I always say if someone asks for something and you're not prepared to do it then you aren't compatible and vice versa.
We always ask for a social first, then if a guy turns up alone because his wife is ill, gone shopping, got called in to work, ran away with the circus or whatever we can all have a nice drink and go home older and wiser  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get that a lot and funnily enough the “wife” wants “hubby” to meet me alone.
Don’t see why they have done that as I would have met the guy alone if I was attracted to him and we clicked "
Aren't these guy lucky to have a wife who allows them to fuck other women lol. Nay encourages them lol.
Guys pretending to be a couple must think poeple are very stupid. I don't understand how they think they will get away with saying something like my wife is lll can't make the meet but I can, my wifes mother is ill and she is visiting her but I can still meet, etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I get that a lot and funnily enough the “wife” wants “hubby” to meet me alone.
Don’t see why they have done that as I would have met the guy alone if I was attracted to him and we clicked
we've had that the wife won't meet us until we've met and played with him to ensure we're suitable."
Lol classic. They guy obviously thought you were very stupid. How wrong he was. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just ask them to chat o the phone - we ask that the women chat together. We get suspicious if for what ever reason they refuse to have a phone natter. "
This. The minute you suspect a couple is a single guy or a guy who has made a couples profile without the wife/girlfriend knowing insist on speaking to the female. The guy will soon go away. |
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Can't say we've had it tbh. If we've arranged to meet a couple then it's a couple who have turned up.
What does grind our gears is the single woman profile who is looking for fun with their fb/bf/hubby included or the couple profile when the man can play separate but not the woman. Never have we seen it the other way around surprisingly enough. Surely can't be that difficult to have a specific profile and keep within it's boundaries and create a separate account for whatever else you want to do outwith it. |
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"Just ask them to chat o the phone - we ask that the women chat together. We get suspicious if for what ever reason they refuse to have a phone natter.
It's not foolproof.
Male here and you will rarely find her on the site unless I'm showing her a message or profile.
She flatly refuses to chat on the phone, we have done and she found it awkward and won't do it anymore. Her response "we meet at clubs if they don't believe the veris others wrote then it's tough but their loss"
I see both sides but we would be deemed suspicious by this rule alone surely?"
Same as us we don’t like giving out our phone numbers. Why we stick to clubs.
People will always try to get the upperhand by faking it with couple profiles as if you block men that’s how they get passed it.
But we find they always slip up.
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With the exception of one couple, who are a real couple, we prefer to meet at a club for exactly the reason brought up. At least you can see and talk to both and even in a club you often can tell that one half of the couple is much more keen to be there than the other. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Me (male half) spends more time on here but we also have our own singles accounts. We’ve never had just a male turn up from a couples profile but have had no shows. So now we stick to clubs 90% of the time. We would never do a phone call to prove the wife is real as we don’t give out or phone numbers to strangers and if the verifications on our profiles isn’t enough to prove we are who we say then that’s not our problem. Also after a couple times you start to recognise fake profiles. |
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No but we have had 2 social meets where the male half was as keen as anything and the female just towing the line.
We just figured that they’ve still got some talking left to do and continued on our merry journey  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi there, does anyone else have the same issue with a couple contacting you, and when it all boils down only one half is really on offer so to say..... "
Too often yes, just block them on first cock up now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have encountered this many times even worse for me are the my wife needs chatting up and when it comes down to it the man wants to see if his wife might have an affair.
How about after chatting only Male half playing. So why a couples profile?
Someone told me, but it could be bunkum, most couples profiles are made by controlling men!
Yeah it is bunkum. Some are its true but you can spot them a mile off. There are also the couple's profiles where there either is no woman or the woman is completely unaware. "
Agreed utter nonsense, most of our couples contact, that isn't inane or obvious fake, is from women who do a lot of the socialising on the site. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yep - true. In fact we say early on in our messagjng that the ph call must take place than and then the messages dry up. For us it’s not whether we wonder if it’s a couple - we want to know early on - Hense tbe ph call. |
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Happens all too often. We like to see a green flag or some verifications up front. Failing that a photo with the couple holding an object or a piece of paper with a word of our choosing on it. We always want a social first too. Yeah, we’re choosy and patient. I find those that are in a desperate rush to get their kicks a little unnerving and normally fake too. We’re already enjoying lots of hot sex, so we’re in no rush whatsoever.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We only ever meet as a couple. However Chris does 99.9% of the chatting on here.
Vicky just looks at the pics and says yep or no and she will chat on the phone to prove it’s not just me lol. "
This sounds like us too....I (kc) get stuck with the admin  |
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We both text on fab what baffles me is when i text the (female) they text back then hubby can text them when there next online and they dont text back. We have verifications to prove were not a fake couple, but yet they think were still going to meet them we just block them and move on thats why we only meet in clubs now. |
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By *dquestCouple
over a year ago
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"We only ever meet as a couple. However Chris does 99.9% of the chatting on here.
Vicky just looks at the pics and says yep or no and she will chat on the phone to prove it’s not just me lol. "
That’s us too! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We had a meet organised with a lovely couple on Saturday gone both of us all dressed up for an anticipated fun evening and bang our car broke down we were mortified...... we didn’t care about the car but how we felt about the couple waiting for us at the hotel we contacted them immediately and explained the situation, we felt more gutted because they drove a distance too.
So we actually took photos of 5he car broken down and the recovery truck but it didn’t make us feel much better. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We had a meet organised with a lovely couple on Saturday gone both of us all dressed up for an anticipated fun evening and bang our car broke down we were mortified...... we didn’t care about the car but how we felt about the couple waiting for us at the hotel we contacted them immediately and explained the situation, we felt more gutted because they drove a distance too.
So we actually took photos of 5he car broken down and the recovery truck but it didn’t make us feel much better."
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It’s generally hubby who messages and chats on our profile. Mrs Absolutebeginner will go through the messages on an evening and give directions regarding appropriate next steps. She has been known to get involved in messaging now and again but is normally too busy doing things around the house that I should be helping her with ( so I am told )! Our verifications however should be enough to prove that both of us exist and that we both turn up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We tend only to meet as acouple and only in clubs. We do at times go to clubs with friends seperately if the other is busy with work but never alone. It's usually with another swinger or couples we are already friends with. Not to play with the ones we go with, just to have a good night out and if ether of us play in clubs we play and let the other know the next day.
I tend to respond to most messages on here but trim does respond every so often. Both of us read all messages so we are both fully aware.
The way we see it is that we are only ever going to meet or play at clubs and as both of us have gone out to clubs without the other several times over the years there isn't an issue with playing.
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Only me (female of the couple) is available to meet via fab but coz i wanna go to events with my partner i have a couples account. He can also come to socials as well if he wants, i'm only here for socials or to meet guys i met as a single anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m relatively new to this. Ive also been deluged by couples with no pictures of the man, messages obviously penned entirely by a man, a meet where the lady was ‘stuck at work’, relentless and one sided requests for pictures, and strangely - women procuring for a male. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mr here.
I'm Mrs PA on our joint profile account as she has her own singles account as well. As soon as a couple or single catches my eye I show H and if she's interested she will take over or invite them on to her singles profile if they are only interested in her.
We have fakes contact us all the time but they are normally easy to spot so block/delete.
I would like to believe that out veri's speak for themselves when it comes to are we genuine so we always look for veri's as an indicator. |
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What does grind our gears is the single woman profile who is looking for fun with their fb/bf/hubby included "
This!! Seems to be a new phenomenon - had 5 or 6 "single" women who introduce a male a fair way into the conversation. Recently arranged to meet a well verified lady, who suddenly changed from me to we the day before the meet. She was most put out that we asked about him and wouldn't even describe him. We cancelled- it's not blind date!
We find it particularly strange as we do meet couples.
On the msging front, we both tend to do it - more dependent on time and availability. Hence our replies can be slow - we both read and discuss before replying |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Must say we don’t really get many fake couples (or real couples for that matter) contact us.
However if a couple doesn’t have good veris and been on the site for say 6 months then we’re pretty skeptical so fakes or hesitant couples get filtered out early. |
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"We only ever meet as a couple. However Chris does 99.9% of the chatting on here.
Vicky just looks at the pics and says yep or no and she will chat on the phone to prove it’s not just me lol.
That’s us too!"
That’s the way we do it too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mrs here,
I'm the only one who messages people or post on the forum as he's not very 'chatty' online. I've just deleted my pussbook account too so reading the forum has turned into my new phone- scroll addiction lol
We mostly look through profiles together, add people we like the look & sound of to our hot list then once we both agree, I attempt to make first contact. He sometimes has a look on his own then shows me who he's intetested in.
We're both happy to verify ourselves to any potential meets however they require.
We want to meet a single female, but understand how risky or daunting it might be for them so we're willing to do anything really to put them at ease.
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
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Yes I would say roughly once a week we get a message from a couple who want to meet but go very quiet when we say that we will meet for a social to start with and that if they both don't turn up we will leave. |
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There are lots of single guys who set up a couples profile so they can chat to others.
They are more likely to get a reply to a message but then it backfires when you say you will meet.
The fact that they use other fems pics is seriously out of order. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"There are lots of single guys who set up a couples profile so they can chat to others.
They are more likely to get a reply to a message but then it backfires when you say you will meet.
The fact that they use other fems pics is seriously out of order."
Actually it backfires from the off as I'm currently looking for single guys lol |
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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago
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Far to often, thing is though we do meet single guys occasionally if the numptys could be bothered to read the profile. I think some of the single guys pretending to be couples are just picture collectors anyway, not looking to meet as one of the first things they do is friends request. |
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"There are lots of single guys who set up a couples profile so they can chat to others.
They are more likely to get a reply to a message but then it backfires when you say you will meet.
The fact that they use other fems pics is seriously out of order.
Actually it backfires from the off as I'm currently looking for single guys lol"
We arranged to meet with a guy who we have chatted to on here for over 6 months yesterday as we were going into Stratford.
Strangely he went into panic mode and after messaging all morning suddenly never answered then made excuses that he was out of the area?
The are lots of fantasists on here, reality is a whole different dimension.
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By *eah BabyCouple
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"There are lots of single guys who set up a couples profile so they can chat to others.
They are more likely to get a reply to a message but then it backfires when you say you will meet.
The fact that they use other fems pics is seriously out of order.
Actually it backfires from the off as I'm currently looking for single guys lol
We arranged to meet with a guy who we have chatted to on here for over 6 months yesterday as we were going into Stratford.
Strangely he went into panic mode and after messaging all morning suddenly never answered then made excuses that he was out of the area?
The are lots of fantasists on here, reality is a whole different dimension.
Another added to the block list. "
Also had that too where a guy goes into panic, he didn’t disappear off he was very apologetic for losing his nerve on the day as we had chatted for months, the next day he wanted another chance but we decided it wasn’t worth the hassle of him doing it again. Your right reality is a whole different dimension another reason why we stick with people with a few verifications, shows they genuinely can meet. |
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"There are lots of single guys who set up a couples profile so they can chat to others.
They are more likely to get a reply to a message but then it backfires when you say you will meet.
The fact that they use other fems pics is seriously out of order.
Actually it backfires from the off as I'm currently looking for single guys lol
We arranged to meet with a guy who we have chatted to on here for over 6 months yesterday as we were going into Stratford.
Strangely he went into panic mode and after messaging all morning suddenly never answered then made excuses that he was out of the area?
The are lots of fantasists on here, reality is a whole different dimension.
Another added to the block list.
Also had that too where a guy goes into panic, he didn’t disappear off he was very apologetic for losing his nerve on the day as we had chatted for months, the next day he wanted another chance but we decided it wasn’t worth the hassle of him doing it again. Your right reality is a whole different dimension another reason why we stick with people with a few verifications, shows they genuinely can meet."
He has veris but then he is outside of our age range (young).
Think he liked chatting but then when we said we are coming to Stratford it was too much for him. |
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What does grind our gears is the single woman profile who is looking for fun with their fb/bf/hubby included
This!! Seems to be a new phenomenon - had 5 or 6 "single" women who introduce a male a fair way into the conversation. Recently arranged to meet a well verified lady, who suddenly changed from me to we the day before the meet. She was most put out that we asked about him and wouldn't even describe him. We cancelled- it's not blind date!
We find it particularly strange as we do meet couples.
On the msging front, we both tend to do it - more dependent on time and availability. Hence our replies can be slow - we both read and discuss before replying "
I could have wrote that!
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We had this early on when joining the site. Now, before engaging in conversation we always look at veris. If someone has been on the site 3+months with no veris we will give it a miss unless they can prove to be geniune via cam.
A lot of the time with us it's me (the male) typing as Mrs doesn't like to do the typing but still logs in and reads messages etc.
There's a couple of profiles we would pass by in this thread because of the verification thing!
Generally if someone's constantly making excuses about veris and not able to cam, they're fake. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi there, does anyone else have the same issue with a couple contacting you, and when it all boils down only one half is really on offer so to say..... "
Yes, had a few like this. Also had a few singles when after a few messages they announce they only meet with their fb. One insisted on us meeting her fb before her so she'd know we're real 
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